Are they healthy?

他們健康嗎？

Our social connections with other people are not only vital to our mental and emotional well being, but also our survival.

我們與其他人的社會聯繫不僅對我們的精神和情感健康至關重要，而且對我們的生存也至關重要。

However, sometimes relationships and friendships may end up becoming toxic and unhealthy, but what's worse is it can be hard to recognize the signs that it's all gone bad.

然而，有時關係和友誼可能最終變得有毒和不健康，但更糟糕的是很難認識到這一切已經變壞的跡象。

So to help you become more aware, here are seven behaviors you should never tolerate in a relationship.

是以，為了幫助你變得更有意識，以下是你在一段關係中永遠不應該容忍的七種行為。

Number one.

第一。

Physical verbal or emotional abuse, controlling behaviors including physical, emotional or verbal abuse is a big red flag.

身體語言或情感虐待，包括身體、情感或語言虐待在內的控制行為是一個很大的紅旗。

Perhaps you're just trying to explain how you feel and they respond to you by insulting you or your loved ones physically harming you by pushing or hitting you, making fun of you in front of others or gaslighting you.

也許你只是想解釋你的感受，而他們對你的迴應是侮辱你或你的親人，通過推你或打你來傷害你的身體，在別人面前取笑你，或對你進行氣話。

There are some things that are unacceptable for a relationship and these are some of them.

有一些事情對於一段關係來說是不可接受的，這些就是其中的一些。

Number two, they want to change you.

第二，他們想改變你。

Have they asked you to dress differently or to completely change the way you look act or feel?

他們是否要求你穿得不一樣，或者完全改變你的樣子、行為或感覺？

It's inappropriate if someone makes you give up your interests, certain personality traits or other crucial areas of your life for them.

如果有人讓你為他們放棄你的興趣、某些個性特徵或你生活的其他關鍵領域，這是不合適的。

If they make you feel like you have to give up on things that make you you, then there is a chance that they like you for who you could be and not who you are, ultimately Someone who truly loves, you will encourage you to pursue your interests and relationships and they will push you to do so because they want to see you happy.

如果他們讓你覺得你必須放棄讓你自己的東西，那麼有可能他們喜歡的是你可能成為的人，而不是你現在的人，最終真正愛你的人，會鼓勵你追求你的興趣和關係，他們會推動你這樣做，因為他們想看到你快樂。

# three overly critical.

#三是過度的責備。

Do you feel judged by them all the time?

你是否一直感到被他們評判？

If so it's a clear indicator that they aren't treating you with the respect and care that you deserve.

如果是這樣的話，這就清楚地表明他們沒有以你應得的尊重和關懷來對待你。

A healthy relationship or friendship can help you become the finest version of yourself.

一個健康的關係或友誼可以幫助你成為最好的自己。

So if a partner, family member or friend continuously tells you what's wrong with you, that's a huge red flag, they may regularly criticize aspects of your personality or blame you for your appearance, both of which are brutal, immature and deceitful tactics to exert control in a relationship.

是以，如果伴侶、家人或朋友不斷告訴你你有什麼問題，那就是一個巨大的紅旗，他們可能經常責備你個性的某些方面，或指責你的外表，這兩者都是在關係中施加控制的粗暴、不成熟和欺騙性的策略。

Number four, crossing boundaries do they joke about things that you Don't appreciate?

第四，越過邊界，他們是否對你不欣賞的事情開玩笑？

Maybe they talk about things that you don't want to talk about cross physical boundaries without your consent.

也許他們談論的是你不想談論的事情，未經你同意就越過身體界限。

Try to force you to let go of your boundaries or share things about your private life with others despite your protest.

試圖迫使你放開你的界限，或不顧你的抗議與他人分享你的私人生活的事情。

These are only a few examples of when someone crosses your boundaries and it's an indication that they don't care to prioritize your emotional well being over themselves or others.

這些只是有人越過你的界限的幾個例子，這表明他們不關心把你的情感健康放在自己或他人之上。

# five, gaslighting Manipulation in any form including gaslighting is on the list of things that should never be tolerated in a relationship.

# 第五，氣化操縱 任何形式的操縱，包括氣化操縱，都是在關係中不應該被容忍的事情列表。

Examples of gaslighting include denying doing anything wrong and distorting reality to the point where you begin to doubt your own thoughts and feelings.

煤氣燈的例子包括否認做錯了什麼，扭曲現實，以至於你開始懷疑自己的想法和感受。

# six, lack of communication.

# 第六，缺乏溝通。

Voicing your concerns is an important and vital aspect of maintaining a healthy relationship, Both active, listening and speaking are important as you may find that a lack of communication can quickly derail a relationship.

表達你的關切是維持健康關係的一個重要和關鍵的方面，積極地聽和說都很重要，因為你可能會發現，缺乏溝通會迅速破壞一段關係。

So if you notice that they become hesitant to tell you what bothers them or what they need and want from you, then it may be a sign that your relationship has become an unhealthy one.

是以，如果你注意到他們變得猶豫不決，不願意告訴你他們的煩惱或他們需要和想要你做什麼，那麼這可能是你們的關係已經變得不健康的一個跡象。

Ultimately, everyone requires an outlet.

歸根結底，每個人都需要一個出口。

Failing to communicate, may result in things being bottled up, which never ends well and number seven, manipulation and control.

如果不溝通，可能會導致事情被封存起來，這永遠不會有好結果，第七，操縱和控制。

Do they tell you what you should wear or whom you can and can't talk to?

他們是否告訴你應該穿什麼，或者你能和誰說話，不能和誰說話？

Do you feel like your life entirely revolves around them?

你是否覺得你的生活完全圍繞著他們轉？

Perhaps everything you do now is to please them because you don't ever want to risk upsetting them.

也許你現在所做的一切是為了取悅他們，因為你永遠不想冒險讓他們不高興。

This need to have all the power and control in the relationship is a big red flag and something you should never tolerate.

這種需要在關係中擁有所有權力和控制權的做法是一個很大的紅旗，是你永遠不應該容忍的事情。

Do you think your relationship has gone south?

你認為你們的關係已經變壞了嗎？

Let us know in the comments below.

請在下面的評論中告訴我們。

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像往常一樣，本視頻中使用的參考資料和研究報告在下面的描述中添加。