It doesn't matter what we're looking at, it matters what we see.

我們看到什麼並不重要，重要的是我們如何看待它。

So a very simplistic example of this:

以下是這句話一個非常簡單的例子：

We could all be looking at a hundred dollars.

我們都看到了 100 美元。

Some of us think that's a lot of money.

有些人認為那是筆很大的錢。

Some of us think it's not.

有些人認為不是。

Some of us will see that in terms of how many hours we'd have to work to get it.

而有些人會用自己必須工作多少小時才能得到這些錢來衡量。

Some see it as the potential to pay off a bill.

有些人把它看作償還賬單的可能性。

Whereas others see it as an opportunity to splurge.

其他人則認為這是個揮霍的機會。

It doesn't matter that we're all looking at the same physical object.

重點不在我們看的同一件事物。

What matters is what we see from our perspective.

而是我們看的角度。

And this analogy goes for the spectrum of life's events.

這個比喻適用於生活中的各種事情。

So, psychologically, what happens to us is not as important as our reaction to it.

所以從心理學上講，我們的反應比發生在我們身上的事本身更重要。

Yes.

沒錯。

What happens to us is not as important as our reaction.

我們的反應比發生在我們身上的事本身更加重要。

You and I and a dozen other people could all go through the same awful, tragic, traumatic event, but our independent reactions will determine how much power it holds over us.

你和我，以及其他人都可能經歷同樣可怕、悲慘的創傷事件，但個人的反應將決定事件對我們有多大的影響。

So the most empowering mindset that we could ever embolden ourselves with is to take 100% responsibility for our reactions

我們能夠為自己準備的，最強壯的心態是對自己的反應承擔 100% 的責任。

Now, I'm not saying, like deny your feelings or only reframe things in a positive way because it is important to let yourself feel to process and to honor whatever emotional reactivity you have in the moment.

我不是說要你否認你的感受或只積極思考，因為讓自己去感覺、去處理，並尊重自己當下的情緒是很重要的。

But how these events shape our lives, shape our beliefs, our decisions, shape how we're going to integrate as we move forward, that is completely on us.

但這些事件如何塑造我們的生活、信念、決定，又或是塑造我們在前進的過程中如何融入社會，完全取決於我們自己。

We have a choice.

我們有得選擇。

We can be a person who blames other people for our unfavorable circumstances and bemoan, "why do these things always happen to me?" and stay in a victim mentality.

我們可以成為一個將自己的不利處境歸咎於他人，抱怨為什麼壞事總是發生在自己身上的人，並抱著受害者心態生活。

But I would argue that that is disempowering as fuck.

但那樣真的是懦弱到不行。

So why would we not choose to make the best out of a bad hand, to find the lesson in a negative event, or to see any failure as an opportunity to learn, grow, and as a necessary step on the way to success.

那我們何不選擇努力將一手爛牌打好，從負面事件中吸取教訓，或將失敗視為學習、成長的機會或是通往成功的必經之路。

So Charles Oral Swindle says life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react, and he is right.

Charles Oral Swindle 說過：「生活中 10% 取決於發生在你身上的事，而 90% 取決於你的反應。」而他說的沒錯。

The most liberating thing we can realize is that we're fully in control of what we see.

最自由的事就是，我們能完全控制自己所看到的東西。

There is so much freedom in that perspective, and if you have resistance to all of this, I would challenge you to ask yourself, "Why do you want to be a victim to circumstance?"

從這個角度來看就非常自由，如果你對這一切有所抵觸，請問問你自己「為什麼甘願成為那些事件的受害者？」

"Why do you not want to empower yourself?"

「為什麼不賦予自己權力呢？」

Now, cultivating this mindset shift obviously takes work, and for everyone it's a little different.

現在，培養這種心態轉變顯然需要付出努力，而且對每個人來說都有點不同。

But in terms of my life, some helpful practices have been meditation, a gratitude practice, affirmation work.

但就我的生活而言，一些有益的做法是冥想、感恩練習和肯定自己。

I personally find mirror work to be incredibly powerful when you do it consistently.

以我的經驗而言，持續對鏡練習可以幫助你強壯內心。

And look! You'll feel stupid and that, like, everything coming out of your mouth will sound like a lie at first.

聽著，我知道一開始你會覺得自己很蠢，從你嘴裡說出來的一切聽起來都像謊言。

But if you have fun with it and you stick with it, you'll really see your self-concept transformed.

但如果你從中獲得樂趣並堅持下去，你就會看到自己的自我概念發生轉變。

And we're only as good as what we practice consists, right?

而且我們也真的和練習中的說的一樣好。

So, if you've embedded a victim mentality into your life for as long as you can remember, shifting to an empowered one will take you a second.

所以，如果你從記事起就將受害者心態植入生活中，那麼想轉變成強壯的心態將會花點時間。

Unlearning previous behaviors, beliefs, and mindsets will take a lot of conscious and intentional reprogramming.

忘掉以前的行為、信念和心態需要大量、有意識且刻意的重新建構。

But that work is the difference between making the most of your life and living out your highest and truest potential or allowing things that happen to you to dictate who you are, how far you'll go and how fulfilled you'll be.

但這將決定你是活成最好的樣子、發揮自己最大、最真實的潛力，還是讓發生在你身上的事決定你是誰、走多遠、是否過上充實人生。

I'm Anna Akana.

我是 Anna Akana。