I'm sosorrythat I hurtyourfeelings. Thankyousomuchfortellingme. Itwasn't myintention, butimpactiswhatmatters.
我很抱歉,我傷害了你的感情。非常感謝你告訴我。這不是我的本意,但你受到的影響才是重要的。
Two, theabilitytoforgive.
第二、原諒的能力。
Hey, areyouokay?
嘿,你還好嗎?
I'm fine.
我很好。
Okay, well, itjustseemslikeyou'remad.
好吧,只是看起來你很生氣。
Whywould I bemad? Why?
我為什麼會生氣?為什麼?
Whatwould I evenbemadabout? Oh, thatfightwehad a yearagowhereyougenuinelyapologizedandneverrepeatedthathurtfulbehavior?
我要生氣什麼?生氣我們在一年前吵的那場架,當時你真誠地道歉,並且保重不再做出那種傷害人的行為?
Thatmakesnosense.
這沒有意義。
Andfinally, theabilitytolearn.
最後是學習的能力。
It's veryeasyforustogetdefensivewhenruptureshappentofeellikeit's anattackonwhoweareandnot a learningopportunityaboutthatuniqueindividualandhowtolovethem.
Andineverysinglefailedfriendshipandprobablyrelationshipthat I have, rupturesweremetwithaninabilitytocompleteoneofthesethreecomponents, eitherbytheotherpersonorbyme.