We're going to go on a double date.

我們要去參加一個雙人約會。

I'm excited.

我很興奮。

We're going to get sushi first?

我們要先去吃壽司？

That's where we're meeting for lunch, We're gonna get eaten sushi and then we're going to go to the park.

我們要在那裡吃午飯，我們要去吃壽司，然後我們要去公園。

A lot of people in the beginning, I didn't believe in us.

很多人在開始時，我不相信我們。

And today they still don't.

而今天他們仍然沒有這樣做。

Less than one.

少於1。

Don't listen to other people.

不要聽別人的。

You'll be influenced by many.

你會受到很多人的影響。

Take this as a life lesson.

將此作為人生的一課。

The more you listen to other's opinions of yourself, the more you create resistance in your head, the more resistance you feed your mind, the more you hold yourself back from being happy.

你越是聽從別人對自己的意見，你就越是在腦子裡製造阻力，越是給你的頭腦提供阻力，你就越是阻礙自己獲得快樂。

So just don't listen.

所以就不要聽。

Unless whoever the person you're dating is hurting you physically or emotionally, just don't listen Right now and we're deciding what we want to eat.

除非你約會的人在身體上或情感上傷害了你，否則就不要聽 現在，我們正在決定我們想吃什麼。

It's such a beautiful day.

這是一個如此美麗的日子。

Today, we started out long distance, it was a test of emotions of ourselves.

今天，我們開始了長途旅行，這是對我們自己情感的考驗。

A challenge.

一個挑戰。

I like a good challenge.

我喜歡一個好的挑戰。

We didn't give up on each other and made every opportunity to connect on a daily basis.

我們沒有放棄對方，並利用一切機會，每天都在聯繫。

Lesson two, no communication equals no relationship catching up on each other, sending dumb memes of dogs and cats throughout the day to make each other smile and laugh was what kept that fire going.

第二課，沒有溝通就等於沒有關係，互相追問，整天發送狗和貓的愚蠢備忘錄，讓對方微笑和大笑，是保持這種火力的原因。

I didn't go a day without calling him.

我沒有一天不給他打電話。

We said good morning and we said goodnight, we Skyped weekly because we missed each other.

我們說過早安，也說過晚安，我們每週進行Skyped，因為我們想念對方。

What's love if you don't miss each other's face.

如果你不想念對方的臉，那還算什麼愛情。

So in Japan, they have these little knickknacks that you can buy restaurant family restaurants for kids or something like that?

所以在日本，他們有這些小玩意，你可以在餐館的家庭餐廳買到孩子的小玩意，或者類似的東西？

Well it doesn't have to be for kids.

嗯，它不一定是為孩子們準備的。

it could be for you.

它可能是為你準備的。

Is this a back scratcher?

這是在抓背嗎？

What the heck is this like a key chain back scratcher?

這到底是什麼東西，就像一個鑰匙鏈式的背刮器？

Anyway, we're going to go to the park, we just finished eating and now we're heading to, I can't even say it, kawa kawa kotaku and it's like the longest name ever.

總之，我們要去公園，我們剛吃完飯，現在我們要去，我都說不上來，卡瓦卡瓦卡塔庫，這好像是最長的名字了。

And we're with, I don't know if you can see them, it's so bright if you guys don't know that we should check out their channel because they have a lot of tips, n tricks on international relationships and long distance and all that stuff and they just came out with a book.

我們和，我不知道你是否能看到他們，如果你們不知道，我們應該看看他們的頻道，因為他們有很多提示，關於國際關係和長距離和所有這些東西的技巧，他們剛剛出了一本書。

Yeah, I can link it down below.

是的，我可以把它鏈接到下面。

No, I know a lot of people on my channel, like especially like message me about our relationship and like how we got through long distance and how we got through uh being or how we're still getting through being an international couple.

不，我知道很多人在我的頻道上，比如特別喜歡給我留言，談論我們的關係，比如我們是如何度過長途跋涉的，以及我們是如何度過呃是或我們仍然在度過成為一對國際夫婦。

So it's like good advice.

所以這就像一個好建議。

So I think that if you guys are interested, you guys can check that out.

所以我想，如果你們有興趣，你們可以去看看。

Congratulations to them, releasing that book.

恭喜他們，發佈了那本書。

That's awesome.

這真是太棒了。

They're amazing.

他們很了不起。

They're so cute.

他們是如此可愛。

It's my first day off in like a month.

這是我一個月來的第一個休息日。

I'm just like, I need to do something Kotomi thinks this looks like it does look like you Lesson three say I love you often.

我只是想，我需要做一些事情，Kotomi認為這看起來確實像你課三經常說我愛你。

Many times.

許多次。

We tend to hide from our true feelings keep from feeling vulnerable and avoid pain and the unknown, but what that does to our brains is feed us more resistance by holding back our true feelings and not expressing emotion.

我們傾向於躲避我們的真實感受，不讓自己感到脆弱，避免痛苦和未知，但這對我們的大腦的影響是通過抑制我們的真實感受和不表達情感來給我們提供更多的阻力。

We have a hard time committing, understanding and being honest with ourselves in order to live truly.

我們很難承諾、理解並對自己誠實，以便真正地生活。

We must feel I want you to make a very wonderful pose.

我們必須感到我希望你能做出一個非常美妙的姿勢。

Mhm Like like this will you tell me a good fact about Japan?

像這樣，你能告訴我一個關於日本的好消息嗎？

An interesting fact about Japan I had to use for a wow that is a good fight.

關於日本的一個有趣的事實，我不得不用哇，這是一場好的戰鬥。

Thank you lesson four.

謝謝你的第四課。

Having alone time keeps the relationship fresh with all the time you make for someone.

有獨處的時間可以讓你為某人騰出的所有時間保持關係的新鮮。

You must give each other space to recharge, be with oneself and think or create alone by giving each other space.

你必須給對方空間充電，和自己在一起，通過給對方空間來獨自思考或創作。

We allow opportunities to give more to each other and the relationship.

我們允許有機會為對方和關係付出更多。

Mm hmm They're like natural.

嗯，他們就像天生的。

He doesn't need to do anything.

他不需要做任何事情。

He's used to this.

他已經習慣於此。

He's taken so many couples photos.

他拍了那麼多的情侶照片。

Oftentimes people think of needing space as a negative thing.

很多時候，人們認為需要空間是一件負面的事情。

But alas it is not.

但可惜的是，事實並非如此。

It helps you maintain your individuality and immerse yourself spiritually.

它幫助你保持你的個性和沉浸在精神上。

How do you feel today baby?

你今天感覺如何，寶貝？

You're super good.

你是超級好的。

Do you feel like a ninja all the way through the stone?

你覺得自己像個忍者一樣一路走來的石頭嗎？

Was it hard?

這很難嗎？

Can you make a ninja pose?

你能做出忍者的姿勢嗎？

Please?

求你了？

Please please show me I need something better more far away.

請告訴我，我需要更好更遠的東西。

You're so you're so quick.

你是那麼你是那麼快。

Actually, I'm moving slowly back to super fast.

實際上，我正在緩慢地恢復到超快的狀態。

Oh he has an idea what is this place?

哦，他有一個想法，這是什麼地方？

It's kind of creepy.

這有點令人毛骨悚然。

Right?

對嗎？

I don't know what this place is?

我不知道這是個什麼地方？

What is this?

這是什麼？

This would be a good photo like right here, but like what is it?

這將是一張好的照片，就在這裡，但像什麼呢？

Is it a room or a I'm not sure.

它是一個房間還是一個我不確定。

Let's go.

我們走吧。

We're back in Tokyo Dome City.

我們回到了東京巨蛋市。

I haven't been here in so long.

我已經很久沒有來這裡了。

It's very refreshing.

這是非常令人振奮的。

We're thinking of going to the haunted house, so I think we're going to go check that out because it might be a little bit different this season.

我們正在考慮去鬼屋，所以我想我們要去看看，因為這一季可能有點不同。

Lesson five drop all expectations as an international couple.

第五課 作為一對國際夫婦，放棄所有的期望。

We realized that we have our differences and learn something new about each other and our habits every day, having patience with each other and becoming an open minded human being has killed a lot of stress and misunderstandings in the relationship.

我們意識到，我們有自己的差異，並且每天都能從對方和我們的習慣中瞭解到一些新的東西，對對方有耐心，成為一個思想開放的人，這在關係中殺死了很多壓力和誤解。

Alright, so we're going to go into a haunted house but I have to pee before because if I don't, I'm probably going to be my pants, I might scream really loud, let it all out.

好吧，我們要進入一個鬼屋，但我必須在之前撒尿，因為如果我不撒尿，我可能會尿褲子，我可能會大聲尖叫，讓它全部出來。

You feeling right now, Which one of you can handle haunted houses more.

你們現在的感覺是，你們中的哪一個更能夠處理鬼屋。

None of us, Not me.

我們都不是，我也不是。

Even though I've done this already, check out my video in the link below.

儘管我已經做了這個，但請看下面鏈接中我的視頻。

No spoilers, why we can do this.

沒有破壞者，為什麼我們能做到這一點。

I'll never know why.

我永遠不知道為什麼。

Lesson six know your worth.

第六課 瞭解你的價值。

If someone doesn't make you happy most of the time if you feel down on yourself unmotivated, never seeing any effort made to speak to you, be intimate with you get to know you even from a distance or in an international relationship.

如果一個人在大多數時候不能讓你快樂，如果你對自己感到失望，沒有動力，從來沒有看到任何努力與你說話，與你親密接觸，瞭解你，甚至從遠處或在國際關係中。

It's not worth the love you have for yourself.

這不值得你對自己的愛。

Right wait we're on the fifth floor.

對了，等等，我們在五樓。

Right?

對嗎？

Let's see if he's there waiting at the end of the night and we're heading home and I'm kind of drunk but it's like a comfortable like I know I know my limit now.

讓我們看看他是否在那裡等著晚上結束，我們要回家了，我有點醉了，但它就像一個舒適的像我知道我現在知道我的極限。

Like if I were to drink more than this I probably wouldn't make it.

就像如果我喝得比這更多，我可能就做不到了。

This is fun Drunk.

這很有趣 醉了。

What are we doing here at the grocery store at almost 11 pm?

我們在將近晚上11點的時候在雜貨店裡做什麼呢？

We need bananas.

我們需要香蕉。

This is drunk grocery shopping, this looks more green, this is what you want, you want the green bananas.

這是喝醉了的雜貨店，這個看起來更綠色，這是你想要的，你想要綠色的香蕉。

I want some Kimchi and some fruit.

我想要一些泡菜和一些水果。

Look at this fruit.

看看這個水果。

Dragon fruit is good.

火龍果是好東西。

I don't know we have some organic baby leave, you know what baby leave do I want this?

我不知道我們有一些有機的嬰兒假，你知道什麼嬰兒假我想要這個嗎？

I want spinach, I want spinach drunk to know it.

我想吃菠菜，我想吃菠菜醉了才知道。

And I am getting some salad salad, salad salad, there's a lot of salad on here at this hour.

我正在弄一些沙拉沙拉，沙拉沙拉，這個時候這裡有很多沙拉。

Wait, come with me, please don't leave me this way drunk grocery shopping is easier than grocery shopping, introduce yourself.

等等，跟我來，請不要這樣離開我醉酒買菜比買菜容易，介紹一下自己。

Beautiful girl, wait, wait this is all I know how to make any relationship can have its ups and downs but different types of relationships such as long distance or international can have a lot more obstacles and challenges.

美麗的女孩，等等，等等，這就是我所知道的，任何關係都會有起伏，但不同類型的關係，如長距離或國際關係，會有更多的障礙和挑戰。

So I'd like to introduce you to some experts on the topic.

是以，我想向你介紹一些關於這個主題的專家。

Hi everyone we are baby chan we are youtuber as well and we are focused mostly on international couple long distance relationship and a couple and we are married couple living in Japan and his french and Japanese.

大家好，我們是陳寶寶，我們也是Youtuber，我們主要關注的是國際夫婦的異地戀和一對夫婦，我們是生活在日本的已婚夫婦，他的法語和日語。

Yes, so we're going to make this video only in english, but we are quite nervous of course, we're mostly talking in english, but we always mix with french and Japanese and all the time.

是的，所以我們將只用英語製作這段視頻，但我們當然相當緊張，我們主要用英語交談，但我們總是與法語和日語混合在一起，而且一直如此。

Our good friend kelly, ask us some advice how to be in a long distance relationship and some tips out to you know how to make it work actually, we are kind of focused on long distance relationship lately as a tips and advice.

我們的好朋友凱莉，問我們一些建議，如何在異地戀和一些提示出來，你知道如何使它工作實際上，我們是一種專注於異地戀最近作為一個提示和建議。

We even wrote a book about it, so saying all of it in five minutes will be quite hard, but we're gonna try to give you like the most important advice.

我們甚至為此寫了一本書，所以在五分鐘內說出所有的內容將是相當困難的，但我們會嘗試給你像最重要的建議。

So for me, the first tips that would give is quite easy, you need to make sure that you have the same idea of the relationship before going into exactly what are you searching for, Is it serious?

所以對我來說，第一個提示是很容易的，你需要確保你對這段關係有相同的想法，然後再進入你到底在尋找什麼，是否認真？

Is it casual?

它是休閒的嗎？

Are you going to be able to see other people while she's gone or is it like something extremely serious?

她不在的時候，你是否能見到其他人，還是像極其嚴重的事情？

What are you waiting for each other?

你在等待對方什麼？

And it's, I'm done, but a lot of people don't do that and then after the surprise that something collapsed one of them is really serious, but another one is not going to make a really huge problem.

而且是，我已經完成了，但是很多人沒有這樣做，然後在驚訝之餘，東西塌了其中一個真的很嚴重，但是另一個不會使一個真正巨大的問題。

Exactly, so that would be the first, the first things to do, make sure you're on the same page, then second for me would be communication, you need to be extremely good at communication, especially if you are with japanese girl and like japanese people don't communicate often of course we do, but like less than like Western culture, so we always put the priority to communicate the most exactly, communication is very important and you need to force yourself to tell as much as you can for each other, especially about your feelings.

沒錯，所以這將是第一件事，第一件要做的事，確保你們在同一起跑線上，然後對我來說第二件事是溝通，你需要非常善於溝通，特別是如果你和日本女孩在一起，像日本人不經常溝通，當然我們會溝通，但像比西方文化要少，所以我們總是把最確切的溝通放在首位，溝通非常重要，你需要強迫自己儘可能多地告訴對方，特別是關於你的感受。

If you feel sad, you can tell it to your partner, communication is very important because you're gonna be aware and actually it's going to be the only things that you have, we need to talk about each other, we need to talk to each other about your feeling about what you're feeling, what's good, what's not good when you feel sad when you feel happy Sure, yeah, if you're not honest to your partner like relationship will never work because you will never know what your partner is thinking exactly, know and this communication brings to like I know the point that is very important, which is the mindset and mindset for me is super important and the mindset is you are a team, it's never you against each other, it's you together as a team is that is that the team, you know, but it's very important, you both look to the same direction, so when you're fighting, remember you're the same team, you are together, you are here against the problem together, not against each other.

如果你感到悲傷，你可以告訴你的伴侶，溝通是非常重要的，因為你會意識到，實際上這將是你唯一擁有的東西，我們需要談論對方，我們需要與對方談論你的感覺，談論你的感受，什麼是好的，什麼是不好的，當你感到悲傷時，當你感到高興時，當然，是的，如果你不對你的伴侶誠實，比如關係將永遠不會工作，因為你永遠不會知道你的伴侶到底在想什麼。這種溝通帶來了像我知道的非常重要的一點，那就是心態，心態對我來說是超級重要的，心態就是你們是一個團隊，從來都不是你們互相對抗，而是你們作為一個團隊在一起，就是這個團隊，你知道，但這非常重要，你

So like when we fight of course both of you will be super emotional and you will have kind of misunderstanding in your mind that your partner is doing something really wrong and yourself is right, but this is not how you're gonna, you should think so you need to always think about what's the best for your couple because you're on the same page and you you want you want to make your relationship work.

所以像我們吵架的時候，當然你們兩個人都會超級情緒化，你會在心裡有種誤解，認為你的伴侶做的事情真的是錯的，而你自己是對的，但這不是你要的，你應該這樣想，所以你需要永遠考慮什麼是對你們夫妻最好的，因為你們是在同一條船上，你想你想讓你們的關係正常。

So like you need to have a priority all the time to think about your couple, not about yourself exactly which it actually brings another point which is a priority.

是以，像你需要有一個優先權，一直考慮你的夫婦，而不是關於你自己的確切，它實際上帶來了另一個點，這是一個優先權。

Yeah.

是的。

If you're in a long distance relationship and you want it to work, it needs to be one of your if not the priority of your life in general.

如果你處於異地戀，並且你想讓它發揮作用，它需要成為你的一個，如果不是你一般生活的優先事項。

So like when you were, when we were doing long distance relationship, like we always need to think about when to finish a long distance relationship, so when to meet each other next time.

所以，就像你，當我們在做異地戀的時候，就像我們總是需要考慮什麼時候結束異地戀，所以下次什麼時候見面。

So like we need to think about like really important, we need to think about the relationship as um as the most important thing of your life.

是以，像我們需要考慮像真的很重要，我們需要考慮到關係作為嗯是你生命中最重要的事情。

Otherwise like you're gonna put relationship aside, it will never work, you will never plan anything for the future and everything.

否則就像你要把關係放在一邊，它永遠不會工作，你永遠不會為未來和一切計劃。

Long distance always needs to be temporary.

異地戀總是需要暫時的。

That's why it's so important to choose a name date, which is another tips.

這就是為什麼選擇一個命名日期如此重要，這是另一個提示。

Like we are focused, like we wrote a book on long distance relationship.

好像我們很專注，好像我們寫了一本關於長距離關係的書。

So we got so many things to say and it's quite hard.

是以，我們有這麼多事情要講，這相當難。

But guys listen to kelly, she knows a lot as well.

但是夥計們聽凱利說，她也知道很多。

Another thing from me is like, you need to have confidence about your relationship, it doesn't mean about being confident about yourself, but like you always need to think that this relationship will work.

我的另一件事是，你需要對你的關係有信心，這並不意味著對你自己有信心，而是你需要一直認為這種關係會成功。

Your partner will love you.

你的伴侶會愛上你。

You love him so much.

你這麼愛他。

So, so like for example, it helps to have a mindset that if he's going out with other friends, maybe I will feel jealous, but it doesn't mean it will affect our relationship because I know this relationship will work.

所以，所以比如說，如果他和其他朋友出去玩，也許我會感到嫉妒，但這並不意味著會影響我們的關係，因為我知道這段關係會成功，這樣的心態是有幫助的。

I know he loves me.

我知道他愛我。

So this kind of confident about relationship itself is really necessary.

所以這種對關係本身的自信是非常必要的。

Yeah, I agree.

是的，我同意。

No, so I think you have it.

沒有，所以我認為你有。

You know what?

你知道嗎？

I'm gonna put this here, define the relationship, put it as a priority.

我要把這個放在這裡，定義這個關係，把它作為一個優先事項。

Um have an end date, Be good at communicating, be honest with each other.

嗯有一個結束日期，要善於溝通，對對方誠實。

Have a good mind set of always being a team and be confident about your relationship already.

要有一個良好的心態，永遠是一個團隊，對你們的關係已經充滿信心。

With all of this, you should be set up to have a good relationship and guys, you know joe and our youtube, we do a lot of video.

有了這一切，你應該建立起良好的關係，各位，你們知道喬和我們的YouTube，我們做了很多視頻。

Everything is in english or in english subtitles, you can watch anything you want.

一切都是英文或英文字幕，你可以看任何你想要的東西。

All right, thank you kelly for having us and see you guys very soon.

好的，感謝凱利邀請我們，很快就會見到你們。

Back to you kelly.

回到你的身邊，凱利。

Okay.

好的。

If you want to learn more about long distance and international relationships, check out Aurelian and Khatami's channel as well as their free guide and L.

如果你想了解更多關於長距離和國際關係的資訊，請查看奧雷利安和哈特米的頻道，以及他們的免費指南和L。

D.

D.

R.

R.

Book in the link below.

在下面的鏈接中預訂。

Yeah.

是的。