You heard me.

你聽到我說的了

I become several detectives.

我成為幾個偵探。

The most transaction history indicates lives.

交易歷史最多，說明命。

Relationship is at least a year old, and they live together.

關係至少有一年了，他們住在一起。

Linked in profile shows no more than three months.

關聯資料顯示不超過三個月。

Gaps between jobs, upward mobility and consistency are evidence.

崗位之間的差距、上升空間和一致性是證據。

Bingo Bango found their old address really how the transaction history revealed ex Girlfriend's name, which led to her instagram when she posted several photos inside of an apartment that they shared, which had four consecutive window walls facing the West based on the timeline of his linked and he lived in Echo Park at the time.

Bingo Bango找到了他們的舊地址，真的怎麼交易記錄顯示了前女友的名字，這導致她在instagram上發佈了幾張他們合租的公寓裡面的照片，根據他鏈接的時間線，公寓有四個連續的窗戶牆壁朝向西方，他當時住在Echo Park。

So I looked up Zillow and Redfin listings for that area and search window walls looked at the interior photos of those listings and bam previous addresses.

所以我查了那個地區的Zillow和Redfin房源，並搜索窗牆看了這些房源的內部照片，咣噹一聲以前的地址。

123 Future Street.

未來街123號

Uh huh.

嗯哼。

Now I know this example seems like I'm exaggerating for the sake of comedy, but I'm not.

現在我知道這個例子看起來像是我為了喜劇而誇大其詞，但我沒有。

I am incredibly good at stalking to the point that several of my friends will come to me when they're dating someone new as a preliminary background check.

我非常擅長跟蹤，以至於我的幾個朋友在和新的人約會時，會來找我做初步的背景調查。

And I know I'm not the only one who is like this.

我知道我不是唯一一個這樣的人。

Several of my girlfriends could be moonlighting as private investigators.

我的幾個女朋友可能在兼職做私家偵探。

We all have this knack for finding things that are not readily available in a typical Google search.

我們都有這樣的本領，可以在一般的谷歌搜索中找到不容易找到的東西。

And recently I was wondering if this quality makes me a bad person.

而最近我在想，這種品質是不是讓我成為一個壞人。

So of course I did what I always do when I hate an aspect of myself.

所以當我討厭自己的某一方面時，我當然也做了我經常做的事。

I go to my therapist and for the record, my therapist is the queen of reframing.

我去找我的治療師，並記錄在案，我的治療師是重塑的女王。

If I say I'm too sensitive, she challenges you're compassionate.

如果我說我太敏感，她就會挑戰你的同情心。

If I'm use that have too many feelings, she proposes.

如果我用，有太多的感情，她提議。

You have emotional depth.

你有情感的深度。

Oh, yeah, well, I'm aggressive or assertive and overshare vulnerable Internet stock like a mother flat makes you hyper vigilant, actually, quite like a detective.

哦，是的，好吧，我咄咄逼人或自信不疑，超額分享脆弱的互聯網股票，像母親平坦的讓你超乎尋常的警惕，其實，很像一個偵探。

I've never felt more scene.

我從來沒有感覺到更多的場景。

Now I do want to clarify.

現在我想澄清一下。

She has explicitly stated that I will never do the disservice of just being a cheerleader.

她明確表示，我絕不會做只做拉拉隊的壞事。

It doesn't serve either of us for me to just blindly validate you when I see areas toe work on our blind spots that you may need to be aware of.

當我看到你可能需要注意的盲點時，我只是盲目地驗證你，這對我們都沒有好處。

We will consciously work on that, and any good therapist will have the same viewpoint.

我們會有意識地去努力，任何一個好的治療師都會有同樣的觀點。

They should not be there just cheer you on blindly while you engage in bad behavior.

他們不應該在那裡只是盲目地給你打氣，而你卻做出了不好的行為。

But she illuminated something about my stocking.

但她點亮了我的絲襪。

For me, hyper vigilance is a survival mechanism developed in Children in order to help them make friends and fit in.

對我來說，超強的警惕性是孩子們為了幫助他們交朋友、融入社會而形成的一種生存機制。

Since you came from a military family and your environment change so frequently, you needed to be able to read a room to make friends quickly to fit into new cultures, to survive in your family honor that it helped you.

由於你來自軍人家庭，環境變化頻繁，你需要能夠讀懂一個房間，快速結交朋友，以適應新的文化，在你的家族榮譽中生存，它幫助你。

Okay, she just, like, blows my mind constantly because one of the biggest revelations she's given me is that every part of yourself that you may hate or that you think it's too much or that feels broken.

好吧，她只是一樣，不斷地打擊我的頭腦 因為其中一個最大的啟示 她給我的是，自己的每一個部分 你可能會恨 或者你認為它是太多 或者感覺壞了。

It exists because it was a survival mechanism you had as a kid.

它的存在是因為它是你小時候的一種生存機制。

And the great thing is, once we're aware of that, we can let it go or use it in a more healthy way.

而最棒的是，一旦我們意識到這一點，我們就可以放手，或者以更健康的方式使用它。

Soto, all of your fellow detectives out there now we know we are detectives because of childhood trauma or just regular trauma.

索托，你所有的同僚現在我們知道我們是偵探，因為童年的創傷或者只是普通的創傷。

We either needed to be detectives to survive, or we've been hurt before and are now trying to protect ourselves.

我們要麼是需要做偵探才能生存，要麼是我們曾經受過傷害，現在要保護自己。

But what about you.

但你呢

What qualities do you have that could use?

你有哪些特質可以利用？

Um, reframing?

嗯，重構？

Tell me all about your childhood trauma.

告訴我你童年的創傷

In the comments below, I'm Anaconda and thank you to privacy for sponsoring today's video.

在下面的評論中，我是蟒蛇，感謝隱私對今天視頻的贊助。

If you're introverted like myself, you may spend a lot of time shopping online.

如果你像我一樣內向，你可能會花很多時間在網上購物。

And if you do a lot of shopping online, you've probably had your identity stolen a few times literally.

如果你經常在網上購物，你可能已經被盜用了幾次身份。

Last month I found fraudulent charges and had to cancel my card.

上個月我發現有欺詐性收費，不得不註銷了我的卡。

Re enroll in all my auto payments, and I was like, This is enough is enough.

重新註冊我所有的汽車付款， 我當時想，這已經足夠了。

This happens to me so much, but that is where privacy comes in.

這種情況在我身上發生的太多了，但這也是隱私所在。

Privacy allows you to generate a brand new virtual card number for every single purchase that you make online.

私密性允許您為您的每一次網上購物生成一個全新的虛擬卡號。

Protecting your actual card number from hackers and identity thieves.

保護您的實際卡號不被黑客和身份竊賊盜取。

The service is easy to set up, has military grade encryption does not sell your information, and they make their money from merchants, making it completely free for you to use.

該服務設置簡單，有軍用級加密不出售你的資訊，他們的錢來自商家，讓你完全免費使用。

You could make a many cards as you want and set maximum spending limits for each of them.

你可以根據自己的需要製作很多張卡，併為每張卡設置最高消費限額。

It's super easy.

這是超級簡單的。

There are only two steps to getting the perks of privacy.

要想獲得隱私的好處，只有兩個步驟。

One create an account to, like a checking account or debit card.

一個創建一個賬戶，像支票賬戶或借記卡。

Bingo Bango, baby, you are done if you wanna make the process even faster when you're shopping, you can also install a browser extension.

Bingo Bango，寶貝，你已經完成了，如果你想讓你購物時的過程更快，你還可以安裝一個瀏覽器擴展。

Heo, go to privacy dot com slash anna Kana to sign up today and get $5 to spend on your first purchase.

Heo，今天去privacy dot com slash anna Kana註冊，第一次購物就可以獲得5美元的消費。

Maybe get that comfy Neco sweater from ghost and stars wherever you want to spend that free $5 go to privacy dot com such Anna Kana to sign up now.

也許得到那個舒適的Neco毛衣從鬼和星星，無論你想在哪裡消費，免費的5美元去隱私點com如安娜卡娜現在註冊。