And you're unconscious ego giving you a false sense of agency to divert you again and again from the rial work you need to do in order to make real change in your life.

而你無意識的自我給了你一個虛假的機構感，讓你一次又一次地從你需要做的rial工作中轉移，以便在你的生活中做出真正的改變。

This video addresses the latter one.

這個視頻解決了後一個問題。

Stop complaining about life circumstances you refused to work on in any capacity.

不要再抱怨你以任何身份拒絕工作的生活環境。

Like your job.

喜歡你的工作。

E Just hate working nights, man.

只是討厭晚上工作，男人。

Look, man, I know that work sucks sometimes, but if you hate this job that much, you should become a lawyer.

你看，夥計，我知道工作有時很糟糕， 但如果你討厭這份工作，你應該成為一名律師。

So you could have day hours and still fight crying.

所以你可以有一天的時間，還可以打哭。

Yeah, but that's, like four years of school, dude.

是啊，但那是，像四年的學校，夥計。

Yeah, but do you want, like, a life of misery or for mere years to have the life that you want?

是啊，但你是想，過著痛苦的生活，還是隻想過幾年就能過上你想要的生活？

Uh oh, fix up.

呃，哦，修復起來。

No.

不知道

Oh, if I survive this e, I'm not gonna really do anything differently, actually.

哦，如果我活下來了，我不會做任何不同的事情，其實。

Or your significant other.

或者你的另一半

Yeah, she is just, like, always listening, man.

是啊，她只是，喜歡，總是聽，男人。

It's so annoying.

真煩人。

Well, have you tried talking to her?

你試過和她說話嗎？

She's always asking me to upgrade her software.

她總是讓我升級她的軟件。

It never ends.

它永遠不會結束。

There's always a new update or installation.

總有新的更新或安裝。

Well, maybe you should tell Alexa her name.

好吧，也許你應該告訴Alexa她的名字。

I'm happily single great.

我很幸福的單身大。

I'm going to have to sleep on the night stand tonight to stop complaining consistently over time without effort about things that you have control over.

我今晚要睡在床頭櫃上，不要再對自己能控制的事情不勞而獲，長期持續抱怨。

I'm just, like, so busy I don't have time to do anything.

我只是，喜歡，這麼忙，我沒有時間做任何事情。

I mean, I know that I'm in control of my schedule and I could just, like, you know, plan a little bit so it would be so stressed out week to week.

我的意思是，我知道，我在控制我的日程安排，我可以只是一樣，你知道，計劃一點點，所以它會是如此緊張的一週到一週。

But I just can't.

但我就是不能。

You know these souls take up my whole after life shut up or I just can't seem to get into shape.

你知道這些靈魂佔據了我的整個後半生... ...閉嘴，或者我似乎就是無法進入狀態。

Even though my current decisions made me feel terrible, I know little daily decisions could lead to long term health.

儘管我現在的決定讓我感覺很糟糕，但我知道每天的小決定可能會帶來長期的健康。

Just like can't three stop complaining about injustice or wrongdoing in the world and refusing to be a part of the solution?

就像三能不能不要再抱怨世界上的不公平或錯誤，拒絕參與解決？

You know, we all have this habit of using social media as a substitute for activism and took me wrong.

你知道，我們都有這樣的習慣，用社交媒體來代替行動主義，把我當成了錯誤。

I mean, visibility and awareness or valuable in the morality of the Internet is incredibly useful to get, like national or global attention on a very pressing issue.

我的意思是，知名度和意識或有價值的在互聯網的道德是令人難以置信的有用的，以獲得，像國家或全球關注一個非常緊迫的問題。

But if you never donate volunteer vote or make meaningful little changes, in your own life to aiding causes that are important to you.

但是，如果你從來沒有捐贈志願者投票或做出有意義的小變化，在你自己的生活中，以協助對你很重要的事業。

Then it's time to step it up because words without action is not activism.

那就得加大力度了，因為沒有行動的語言不是行動主義。

Tweets are not votes, and a Facebook post does not substitute for an hour of volunteering.

推文不是投票，Facebook上的帖子也不能代替一個小時的志願服務。

If you're going to complain, you can also contribute something my therapist says, is that chronic complainers who don't do anything to change their life are often people who were subjected to some kind of trauma early on.

如果你要抱怨，你也可以貢獻一些我的心理醫生說的東西，就是長期抱怨的人，如果不做任何事情來改變自己的生活，往往是早期受到某種創傷的人。

That is unresolved, and it's inhibiting them in adulthood.

這是沒有解決的，這也是抑制他們成年後的問題。

And this could be a simple A When they were a kid, they had the reality denied.

而這可能是一個簡單的A當他們還是個孩子的時候，他們的現實被否定了。

Are you guys for real telling me you don't see this?

你們是真的告訴我你們沒看到這個嗎？

No, honey, you're crazy.

不，親愛的，你瘋了。

Or maybe they were shut down when they tried to take action.

或者當他們試圖採取行動時，他們被關閉了。

When I grow up, I wanna be a lawyer.

當我長大後，我想成為一名律師。

Objection.

反對：

You're gonna carry on the family business of vigilantism.

你要繼承警戒主義的家業。

The most important thing we can do is to make space for people to freely express themselves while also setting our own boundaries.

我們能做的最重要的事情，就是給人們留出自由表達的空間，同時也給自己設定界限。

For instance, one of my best friends wanted to break up with her boyfriend for like a solid four months, and I got to the point where I had to tell her lovingly but sternly, Look, you have one more month to complain about this to me.

例如，我的一個最好的朋友想和她的男朋友分手，就像一個堅實的四個月，我到了不得不愛而又嚴厲地告訴她，你看，你還有一個月的時間來向我抱怨這件事。

At this point, I feel like it's really unkind to continue having a relationship with this person without having a really conversation with him about how you feel.

在這一點上，我覺得如果不和他真正的談一談你的感受，繼續和這個人談戀愛真的很不厚道。

I love you, but I also need to set this boundary to keep on loving you.

我愛你，但我也需要設定這個界限，繼續愛你。

And look, I have definitely been a chronic complainer.

你看，我絕對是一個長期抱怨的人。

Who do you think was the inspiration for this video myself?

你覺得我自己這個視頻的靈感來源是誰？

But sooner or later, you have to become conscious of the ways your unresolved traumas are holding you back.

但遲早，你必須意識到你未解決的創傷是如何阻礙你的。

Heal them, take control and responsibility for your own life and be OK.

治好它們，對自己的生活負責，對自己的生活負責，就OK了。

I'm Anaconda and thank you so much to function of beauty for sponsoring.

我是蟒蛇，非常感謝美麗功能的贊助。

Today's video function of beauty creates customizable shampoo and conditioners for your unique hair.

今天的美妝視頻功能，為你的獨特髮質打造可定製的洗髮水和護髮素。

Super easy.

超級簡單。

All you do is fill out a two minute quiz outlining your hair type, hair goals and personalized preferences.

您所要做的就是填寫一份兩分鐘的測驗，概述您的頭髮類型、頭髮目標和個性化偏好。

Plus, you get to choose your colored fragrance.

另外，你可以選擇你的彩色香水。

I decided to call mine function Havana honestly, cause I couldn't think of any hair puns I spent like a pretty long time trying to think of something like looking up on the Internet.

我決定叫我的功能哈瓦那說實話，因為我想不出任何頭髮的雙關語，我花了像一個相當長的時間試圖想到的東西，如在互聯網上尋找。

But then my writing time got cut short.

但後來我的寫作時間被縮短了。

Okay, that's the only one of that.

好吧，這是唯一的一個。

A function of beauty has no parabens, sulfates, GMOs or toxins and is 100% vegan and cruelty free.

A function of beauty不含對羥基苯甲酸酯、硫酸鹽、轉基因生物或毒素，100%純素和不含殘忍成分。

Guess I love being able to work with brands whose values align with mine by functional beauty.

想必我很喜歡能和價值觀與我一致的品牌合作，通過功能美。

I also got the hair mask because my hair is constantly being curled or straightened when I'm an actress on set.

我還買了發膜，因為我在片場當演員時，頭髮經常被捲曲或拉直。

So she has been looking a little rough lately.

所以她最近看起來有點不順。

But after I did the hair mask in the shower, my one beauty shine.

但我在洗澡時做了發膜後，我的一個美眉閃亮登場了。

Look at this Leo hair.

看看這個獅子座的頭髮。

She is so thick you can follow the link in the description below to get 20% off your first order.

她很厚道，你可以按照下面描述中的鏈接，首次下單可享受8折優惠。