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benighted
US /bɪˈnaɪtɪd/
・UK /bɪˈnaɪtɪd/
C2 高級多益
adj.形容詞愚昧的，無知的
It's unfortunate that these benighted people still think the convicted senator is innocent.
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為什麼我們要花很長時間才能瞭解自己有多糟糕？ (Why It Can Take Us So Long to Understand How Unwell We Are)
- Notice any new human in a terrible circumstance, let's say in a home with a violent or alcoholic parent or an abusive or depressed one, and it won't, as one might imagine it could, be able to focus clearly on what's gone wrong or mourn its condition. It will simply, as we've ascertained it must, keep going. In order to do this, it will call upon a range of innate survival techniques. It may start to think surprisingly well of its parents, declaring them justified in their beatings, selfishness or humiliations. It might assiduously blame itself rather than sparing any pity for its own deprivations. Let's remember that a sense of self-compassion can be a very dangerous thing indeed when one is five years old and no one would listen even if one yelled. Or else it will ward off despair through activity, it will overachieve at school or break windows or become obsessed with drugs or sport or politics – anything not to have to listen to the buzz inside. The benighted child can't look back, it can't glance down, it must simply stare ahead at the main goal – survival.
注意到任何一個處於可怕環境中的新人類，比方說，在一個父母暴力、酗酒、虐待或抑鬱的家庭中，它不會像人們想象的那樣，能夠清楚地關注出了什麼問題或哀悼自己的狀況。它只會像我們已經確定的那樣，繼續生活下去。為了做到這一點，它將調用一系列與生俱來的生存技巧。它可能會開始對父母有驚人的好感，認為他們的毆打、自私或羞辱是理所應當的。它可能會不遺餘力地責怪自己，而不是對自己的匱乏表示同情。讓我們記住，當一個人只有五歲，即使大喊大叫也沒人聽的時候，自我同情的意識確實是一件非常危險的事情。否則，他就會通過活動來抵禦絕望，他就
- The benighted child can't look back, it can't glance down, it must simply stare ahead at the main goal: survival.
人際關係中的討好者 (People Pleasers in Relationships)
- We might, in irritation, be tempted to label our lover a liar or deceitful. But something far more poignant is at play. What we have on our hands is that most benighted of psychological types – the people-pleaser, a harried soul morbidly fearful of expressing their true opinions lest these clash with those of others and prone to initiating a variety of secret agendas in the hope of continuing to be liked. People-pleasers are hard enough at the office or in ordinary friendships. But they're especially tricky in love, for their behaviour so carefully tickles the area of our most profound hope – that someone, at last, agrees with us. It isn't that the people-pleaser is deep down entirely at odds with us. That would be too neat and, in a sense, simple enough to deal with. It's just we can't easily tell when natural alignment ends and manic subservient agreement begins. What should we make of this musical enthusiasm? Do they really think exactly as we do about money? The questions get ever larger and more consequential.
我們可能會因為惱怒而給夫妻貼上金光黨或欺騙的標籤。但是，有一些更為深刻的東西在起作用。我們所面對的是一種最愚昧的心理類型--討好者，這種人病態地害怕表達自己的真實觀點，以免與他人的觀點發生衝突，而且容易發起各種祕密計劃，希望繼續得到別人的喜歡。在辦公室或普通朋友關係中，討人喜歡的人已經夠難纏了。但在愛情中，他們尤其棘手，因為他們的行為小心翼翼地觸動了我們最深切的希望--終於有人同意我們了。這並不是說 "討好者 "在內心深處與我們完全對立。那樣就太乾脆了，而且從某種意義上說，處理起來也很簡單。只是我們不容易
你累了嗎？快讓生活簡單點！ (How To Simplify Your Life)
- Every minute of every day presents us with untold options for filling our minds with the mania, exploits, disasters, furies, reversals, triumphs, insanity and cataclysms of complete strangers around our benighted planet.
每天的每分每秒都提供我們以愚昧地球各處陌生人的狂熱、奇事、災難、狂暴、逆境、勝利、瘋狂和大變動塞滿腦袋的無數選項。
