naturally, without any antidepressants. I think you can too if you apply the same techniques

that I have learned.

Today we are going to talk about Valentines Day and depression in general around the holidays.

Do you know that 40% of people have negative feelings towards Valentines Day? Yeah, it

is true. It is off the net, so it must be true, right? Today you are going to learn

about three things that you can do to watch out for it so you can feel better and stop

being a victim, stop being a Valentines Day victim, stop being an expectations victim,

and stop being a Hallmark holiday victim. Stay tuned.

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media magnification mirror moment what exactly is that? It is like the media hypes and emphasizes

and concentrates everything that you are supposed to have to feel happy, how you are supposed

to feel and how you are supposed to behave in order to be happy. When you realize that

you do not necessarily have whatever it is that they are hyping, you feel hopeless. You

feel like a loser. You feel like you are not good enough. You feel depressed because of

all this hype.

This mirror that the media presents to you just reflects how you feel inside. But it

does not just reflect it to you. It actually magnifies it. It is like one of those arcade

mirrors. It makes everything bigger at every moment, because the moment actually does not

end. It is like this continuous moment because we are bombarded by marketing messages every

day, every moment.

I think it is like 5000 marketing messages a day. You have all of this media hype to

remind you of what you do not have, to remind you of your misery. You have these happy couples

getting cards and gifts except you. You have all these expectations around Valentines Day

when you have all these people lovey-dovey and you are not like that, or some other holidays

that have memories associated with it. It just reminds you of what you do not have.

Does this sound familiar?

Your inner reality is reflected back at you by this marketing media and the Hollywood

hype. How you feel inside that is your inner reality, your beliefs about yourself, your

fears, your insecurities, your frustrations, your uncertainties, your doubts. All of these

are these black holes that you can fall into.

It is like you cannot get out of this thing, because what happens is you start to focus

only on these negative things – your fears of being alone for the rest of your life just

because of this one moment right now, the fear that you are not good enough because

you do not have a Valentines Day date or a present or a card or flowers or whatever.

Or you do not even have the hopes of getting a date or flowers or chocolate or whatever.

We have these beliefs that; I will always be alone because somehow I am flawed. I am

not worthy. I am not beautiful or handsome enough. I am not rich enough. This belief

that I am a loser. You have these memories about; why did I not do x five or ten or 20

years ago? This just beats up on our minds. If only I had done x or y or something else.

This just shines the spotlight on your imperfections. All of this gets reflected back at you through

this holiday marketing because it is everywhere. All these messages are everywhere. You have

this feeling of pain and vulnerability and you want to escape it. What do you do? You

numb out. That is what I did. Numb out with chocolate, with drugs, alcohol, shopping.

At Valentines Day, all the chocolate is just a reminder of not fulfilling your New Years

resolutions. I have actually gained weight since New Years.

Whatever is being reflected back at you by the media is related to your childhood beliefs

and conditioning. A lot of this has to do with shame, the feeling that I or you are

flawed, that there is something wrong with you. On Valentines Day or any holiday, you

feel exposed. You feel raw. You feel like everybody around you knows that you are all

alone, sad and under this dark could of depression, comparing yourself with others, comparing

yourself with this so-called ideal standard that you see in magazines and movies. It is

just created by some Hollywood or advertising agency. It is just there to stir things up

for you and show you in your face how you are not in the ideal. If you are the ideal,

then you are probably not watching this video.

For example, for Valentines Day, what really bothers you about Valentines Day? What bothers

me is all the overt and covert subliminal messages, what we are supposed to be. It is

no different than any other holidays like Christmas. You are supposed to do this, this

and this. When you are not this, this and this, then you are flawed. The main message

is, if you do not measure up to the Hollywood or Madison Avenue standard or image of what

you are supposed to be and to have, then you are a loser.

We are always focusing on comparing ourselves with this standard, focusing on comparing

what you do not have with what they have. What do I have and what do they have? Oh,

I am not good enough. I need to get that. It highlights it. It just emphasizes it. It

reiterates everything that you do not have because they are constantly causing you to

compare yourself to these other people, the standard.

When you do not have it, you do not have the skills to have what they have, you feel hopeless.

You feel bad because, as I mentioned, what we feel inside is reflected back to us, magnified.

It is in your face. You cannot avoid it. On Valentines Day, what is really being reflected

back at you is your relationship issues. It is like; I am all alone and I am always going

to be alone. That is how you compare yourself.

What can you do? Do not be a victim. If you are depressed, you have low energy, these

negative thoughts, lots of sadness all around, you have this belief that you are worthless,

that the situation is hopeless because you do not have the skills to get out of it, nobody

has ever taught you these things, then you are not going to feel attractive to anybody

else, especially to yourself. This is what is going to be reflected outside.

Most people do not have natural dating skills. I did not. No amount of learning dating techniques

is going to help you. What you have to deal with is what is causing the depression. It

is all inside. You have to recognize when this victim behavior and belief and conversation

starts in your mind. It is not just your mind. It is your emotions and it is your body.

You have to become aware of these manipulative media magnification mirror moments that are

continuous. You have to become aware of your own beliefs about yourself, your own fears,

your own insecurities and doubts. You have to become aware of how you compare yourself

to others and why you compare yourself to others.

If you do not do these things, if you do not become aware, you are going to sink deeper

and deeper into the depression. Once you realize what you are dealing with, with this awareness,

then you can start to take control of the depression and your love life, especially

the love life with yourself because that is where it all starts with.

It is all about awareness. I realize that I was making the same mistakes over and over.

It is likely that you are making the same mistakes that I was making before I eventually

overcame the depression. These are mistakes that are making or keeping you depressed.

I created a depression self-help course to help you identify and overcome those mistakes

like I did, by giving you specific exercises that empower you and help you see a new aspect

of your depression so that you can get your power back and not be a victim anymore.

Do you want to keep making the same mistakes over and over that are making or keeping you

depressed? Of course not. Nobody wants to do that. The problem is nobody is showing

you how to do that. That is what I do. Once you know what they are and once you know how

to fight them, then you can change your patterns and get your life back and be happy again

and feel normal and have a relationship with your family and friends.

Get the course now by clicking on the link below. I look forward to seeing you on the

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video on Twitter and Facebook. Finally, I really hope this Valentines Day will be an

amazing new beginning for you.