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  • To God be the glory!

  • Would you believe that the majority of all internet pornography use occurs

  • right here in the workplace?

  • Statistics say that 70% of all internet porn traffic occurs during

  • the 9-to-5 workday.

  • According to IDC, a source of global market intelligence,

  • 30-40% of internet use in the workplace is

  • unrelated to business.

  • The Nelson net-rating system has determined that

  • 21% of all adult sites are accessed

  • from work.

  • Meanwhile, 70% of employees surveyed by the NFO Worldwide,

  • admit to viewing or sending

  • adult oriented email

  • at work.

  • For the next several minutes, I want to talk to you about the subject of

  • internet pornography.

  • You know, this is one of those uncomfortable subjects that we don't

  • like to talk about, we don't like to preach about.

  • But, it's a very real issue

  • and it's doing tremendous destruction

  • both to people's lives and to their marriages.

  • You know, the Lord addressed this subject in the Bible in Matthew 5:28,

  • when he said:

  • "But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already

  • committed adultery with her

  • in his heart.

  • If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it

  • is more profitable for you that one of your members perish,

  • than for your whole body to be cast into hell."

  • The Lord warned us, but even still

  • it's an issue in the world

  • and it's even an issue in the church. I don't have statistics for the Lord's

  • church specifically,

  • but I want you to listen to these statistics involving religious people.

  • In December of 2000, the National Coalition to Protect Children and Families

  • surveyed five "Christian" campuses to

  • see how the next generation of believers was doing

  • with regard to sexual purity.

  • 48% of males admitted to current porn use

  • and 68% of males said that they intentionally viewed a

  • sexually explicit site

  • at the school.

  • A 1996 Promise Keeper survey at one of their stadium

  • events,

  • revealed that over 50% of the men in attendance were involved

  • with pornography

  • within one week

  • of attending the event.

  • A CNN article dated April 6, 2007, states that

  • "70% of Christians

  • admitted to struggling with porn

  • in their daily lives."

  • Now, what am I saying?

  • I'm simply saying that this is a real problem

  • for religious people.

  • Now, someone might say, "Well, it's different in the Lord's church."

  • And I wish I could say that that's true.

  • I could, but I never would do this because I would not want to betray people's

  • confidence, but

  • I could give you a list of Christians that I've known who've struggled with

  • this issue.

  • I've had Christian men come to me over the years and say,

  • "I'm really struggling with this. Will you help me?"

  • You see, this is a problem

  • even in the Lord's church.

  • And so, sometimes, there are Christians who will attend worship on Sunday morning,

  • and then they go home to their computers and

  • they engage in this secret sin.

  • You know, I guess pornography has always been around in some form, but

  • in recent years it's become a greater problem because of the internet.

  • You see, there used to be this sort of built-in deterrent,

  • because you had to go somewhere to get it. You had to go to a store to buy a

  • magazine or

  • to rent a video. And,

  • there was a possibility that someone might see you.

  • But now with the internet, people can view pornography in the privacy of their

  • home

  • totally anonymously.

  • In fact, someone has said that the three "A's" of the internet have caused the

  • porn industry to explode with growth.

  • Those three "A's" are: accessibility,

  • affordability,

  • and anonymity.

  • And, we might add the word "addiction" and make it four "A's". Those four things have

  • made the pornography industry reach record numbers in our country and in the

  • world.

  • I read that every second $3,075.64

  • is being spent on pornography.

  • Every second,

  • 28,258 internet users are viewing

  • pornography.

  • Every second,

  • 372 internet users are typing adult search terms

  • into search engines.

  • Every 39 minutes, a new pornographic video is created in the

  • United States.

  • In fact, the revenue for the pornography industry is larger than the revenues of the top

  • technology companies combined: Microsoft, Google, Amazon, ebay,

  • Yahoo, Apple, Netflix, and EarthLink.

  • According to InternetFilterReview.com, their 2003

  • statistics state that

  • the sex industry brings in $57 billion in revenue per year

  • worldwide.

  • 12 billion of that is in the United States. Now, that is more than the

  • combined revenues

  • of all of the professional football,

  • baseball, and basketball franchises,

  • or the combined revenues of ABC, CBS,

  • and NBC.

  • 2.5 of the 12 billion is related to the internet porn industry.

  • Where are we

  • as a country?

  • Varner Research Group did a survey in 2003, that revealed that:

  • "38% of adults believed that it is 'morally acceptable'

  • to look at pictures of nudity

  • or explicit sexual behavior."

  • "59% of adults believe that it is 'morally acceptable' to have

  • sexual thoughts or fantasies. 38% of adults believe there is

  • nothing wrong

  • with pornography use."

  • Now, how does it happen? How do people get into the use of pornography?

  • How do people first get exposed to it, and hooked on pornography?

  • Well, we might say that the first part of this is natural.

  • Males are naturally stimulated by sight.

  • You know, this is just the way God made us. But of course, that doesn't make

  • pornography right. It doesn't make lusting right. There's a proper outlet

  • for this and it's the marriage relationship.

  • But it's a fact that men are naturally stimulated by sight.

  • And many times, women don't really get this.

  • In the book,

  • "Every Young Man's Battle," the authors write:

  • "Women seldom understand this because they aren't sexually stimulated

  • in the same way.

  • Their ignitions are tied to touch and relationship.

  • They view this aspect of our sexuality as shallow..."

  • One of the authors' wives even said, she said, "When I first heard how men are,

  • it seemed so wild and unlike anything I could imagine...

  • I had a hard time believing it

  • and occasionally even wondered if they were making it up."

  • They continue in in the book:

  • "Because women can't relate,

  • they have little mercy on us and rarely choose to dress

  • modestly."

  • Hopefully, that's not the case with Christian women.

  • Now, what does all of this have to do with pornography?

  • Well, some people have taken this built-in desire that God gave us

  • and they have perverted it.

  • They have twisted it into something that God never intended.

  • And it's what we call

  • pornography.

  • The word "pornography" comes from two Greek words.

  • One is the word for "prostitute"

  • and the other is the word for "I write" or "I record."

  • And so, it refers to a written or illustrated depiction

  • of prostitution.

  • Now, when are people first exposed to pornography?

  • Now some people have said that they were first exposed to pornography

  • in the form of magazines that they found under their dad's bed.

  • In the book that I mentioned "Every Young Man's Battle,"

  • one of the authors states that

  • he first saw pornography in the form of posters of nude women

  • in his grandfather's shop.

  • Now these days, many are first exposed to it on the internet.

  • In 2003, the average age at which children were first exposed to porn,

  • via the internet,

  • was 11 years old. I suspect it might be younger than that now.

  • Also, the largest consumer of internet pornography

  • is the 12- to 17-year age group.

  • Now, at first when a person

  • first sees pornography,

  • it's very shocking to them.

  • They're surprised, but over time

  • that dwindles.

  • On the show "Good Morning America," recently there was a segment about

  • babies that are still in the mother's womb.

  • And they exposed these babies to a loud noise. And they said that at first the

  • babies would jump because they were startled.

  • But, as they continued to expose the child to the noise,

  • the child became used to it and and the shock faded.

  • And a similar thing happens to us with regard to the issue that we're discussing.

  • At first there's shock,

  • but then it diminishes.

  • One porn user stated,

  • he said, "Once you become addicted to it...

  • you look for more potent,

  • more explicit, more graphic kinds of material..."

  • He said like an addiction, "... you keep craving something which is harder

  • and gives you a greater sense of excitement

  • until you reach the point where the pornography only goes so far--

  • that jumping off point

  • where you begin to think

  • maybe actually doing it

  • will give you that which is just beyond reading about it and looking at it."

  • You know, when you think about the sin involved in pornography

  • and it's addictive nature

  • and the fact that it's so easily accessible,

  • you realize that we really need to take precautions with regard to our children.

  • What about at your house?

  • What about the internet in your home?

  • At my house, we use a program called "Safe Eyes" that filters internet pornography.

  • It blocks inappropriate sites and

  • it will also email me if someone tries to access an inappropriate site. And

  • sometimes the

  • kids complain about the program because it can be inconvenient in

  • certain ways.

  • But it's worth it!

  • And of course, we also have to be careful about the television.

  • The average teenager spends three to four hours per day watching television. And

  • statistics say that 83% of the programming most frequently

  • watched by adolescents

  • contains at least some sexual content.

  • 39 million homes receive the adult channels in scrambled form,

  • while the number of children with potential exposure to such images

  • is about 29 million.

  • Christian men,

  • don't let it ever be said that your son was exposed to pornography

  • because of you.

  • You know, it's a sin to have those adult channels, to purchase those things.

  • It's a sin, too,to buy those dirty magazines.

  • It's a sin to go to those websites. You

  • can't go to heaven like that.

  • And certainly,

  • you don't want to risk the souls of your children.

  • And if you have the the movie channels such as HBO or Showtime

  • beware. In fact, I say get rid of them. Don't put that temptation

  • in front of your kids.

  • Now, I want to talk for just a few minutes about the effects of internet

  • pornography.

  • Now in this discussion, we're going to examine four different categories of effects.

  • We're going to talk about physical effects,

  • marital effects,

  • financial effects,

  • and, most importantly,

  • the spiritual effects. Now first,

  • the physical.

  • You know, there are a number of different physical effects of pornography.

  • But one of them is that

  • it makes you want more. You see, people aren't satisfied with just one image

  • they want two. And the need is to see more and it grows more risque and more

  • daring and it takes more to satisfy you.

  • A second physical effect

  • is that it makes you want an outlet.

  • At some point, the viewer desires more than to just view pornography.

  • Which oftentimes leads him to other sins.

  • And it brings about a a secret life. You have the life that everyone sees, but

  • then you have a a secret, hidden life, that

  • you don't want anyone to know about.

  • And oftentimes, that secret life leads to lies and

  • cover-ups.

  • And it leads to the feelings of guilt and shame.

  • You know, many respected scientists and psychiatrists have concluded that

  • pornography is an addiction

  • just like alcohol or drug abuse.

  • Now an addiction is caused by a chemical dependency within the the body and the

  • neural pathways to the brain.

  • Now somebody might say,

  • "How can you say that about pornography?"

  • Let me describe for you the chemistry involved in this.

  • How does pornography affect the brain?

  • I want to tell you about three neurochemicals that are released during the

  • process of you and pornography.

  • There are more but I'm going to mention three. Number one is dopamine.

  • This particular chemical affects the brain so that it

  • very acutely focuses attention and energy.

  • It causes us to ignore negatives.

  • It triggers feelings of ecstasy and it creates a powerful dependency.

  • Now in a healthy relationship, this is great because it causes the couple to

  • focus completely on each other

  • and to ignore the negatives.

  • But you see, in the pornography process it's different. The person's attention is

  • focused on the images, on the pictures.

  • He's not thinking about

  • his spouse. He's not thinking about his family or his beliefs or even the

  • consequences. All of that gets blocked out.

  • And when this chemical is released,

  • it creates a chemical dependency

  • that is linked to these images. And it's so powerful

  • that it has been directly compared to cocaine addiction.

  • Now the images that produce these feelings

  • are so strong the person desires these. The brain desires to see these images

  • again

  • and again.

  • A second chemical that I want to tell you about

  • is norepinephrine.

  • With this particular chemical whatever is being experienced when the chemical

  • is released,

  • the smallest details of that experience, are seared in the brain as with

  • a branding iron.

  • Now, in a healthy relationship

  • that means that the wonderful details of the intimate experience are remembered

  • and they're recalled with fondness bringing the couple closer together.

  • In the pornography funnel, the release of norepinephrine causes the brain to

  • remember the smallest details of every pornographic image.

  • Many men can recall in great detail pictures that they saw many years ago

  • and it's as a result of this chemical.

  • You see, it is seared into his memory.

  • As one man said, he said "I am still plagued with what I saw in high school."

  • He remembers these images.

  • Now, the third chemical I want to tell you about is

  • oxytocin.

  • Now this is known as the "cuddle chemical."

  • It was first discovered in the brains of mothers while holding their newborn

  • child for the first time.

  • And it's a chemical that creates a powerful bond between the mother and the

  • child and causes the release of milk for nursing.

  • Now, oxytocin is a

  • bonding chemical. It's released when people hold hands, when they embrace,

  • when they kiss.

  • And during sexual intimacy, oxytocin is released in high quantities and

  • forges a powerful bond.

  • But what happens when oxytocin is released in the brain while viewing

  • pornography?

  • Imagine being bonded to those fantasy images

  • with the same kind of power that a newborn child is bonded to its mother.

  • You know, this chemical causes the husband, for example, to be

  • powerfully attracted to his wife and to certain features of his wife.

  • And, through

  • normal day-to-day living as he sees her, he's

  • reminded of his attraction to her and

  • his feelings of love and commitment grow.

  • He is bonded more and more and the relationship becomes stronger.

  • But what happens with pornography addiction?

  • The viewer is bonded to a certain body type and the features of of this

  • image

  • that he is viewing.

  • Now, let's talk for just a minute about the marital effects of pornography.

  • You know, sometimes people will try to justify pornography in their marriage

  • and even try to get their spouse to view pornography with them.

  • I want to tell you that the idea that pornography is good for a marriage

  • is a lie.

  • The marital consequences of pornography are severe. Don't ever believe that

  • pornography is good for your marriage. The effects of pornography

  • can have

  • a devastating effect on a marriage.

  • For one,

  • it desensitizes the viewer

  • to his or her own spouse.

  • Porn stars typically are young and slim and beautiful and have no wrinkles.

  • Very few spouses can compete with such a fantasy.

  • And viewing this

  • makes a person dissatisfied

  • with his spouse by comparison. And all of a sudden, they seem imperfect.

  • And the ultimate conclusion to this type of logic is to look

  • for someone else.

  • Secondly,

  • pornography hurts the self-esteem of the spouse.

  • In a marriage relationship

  • it's crushing to the wife

  • that she doesn't satisfy her husband.

  • And she wonders what's wrong with her

  • And it puts a wall in the marriage relationship

  • that should never be there.

  • It creates a dissatisfaction on the part of the husband

  • and a deep hurt and betrayal

  • on the part of the wife.

  • When somebody tries to tell you that pornography is good for a marriage,

  • you know that's the devil talking.

  • Now thirdly,

  • let's talk about the financial effects of pornography.

  • I think this is a good point for us to consider because

  • it speaks to the overall effect pornography has on society.

  • I mentioned earlier that

  • $12 billion are spent each year in the U.S. alone

  • on the sex industry.

  • Now where's that money coming from?

  • You know, all too often

  • it is coming from daddies

  • who are taking money that ought to be used to support their families and

  • they're spending it on the filth of pornography.

  • I want you to consider also the cost to businesses:

  • "It's estimated that

  • 5 billion work-hours are lost to cyberporn in the United States

  • each year."

  • "70% of all internet porn traffic occurs during

  • the 9-to-5 workday."

  • "Nearly 1 out of 3 companies

  • has terminated an employee for inappropriate web use."

  • Now, not all of that has necessarily been porn,

  • but a part of it has.

  • "Business Week" printed the results of a survey stating that:

  • "44% of U.S. workers with an internet connection admitted to

  • accessing an X-rated website at work

  • in the month of March 2004."

  • Now fourth,

  • and most importantly,

  • I want us to consider the spiritual effects of internet pornography.

  • I want to go through a list here because there are actually a number of things that

  • we could put into this category.

  • Number one,

  • I want you to consider with me that using internet pornography

  • puts a wall between you and God.

  • You know, as with any sin that you allow to linger in your life,

  • it puts a wall between you and God. It hinders your prayers.

  • It blocks your worship.

  • You know, 1 Peter, chapter 3, verse 12 says:

  • "For the eyes of the LORD are on the righteous, And His ears are open to

  • their prayers;

  • But the face of the LORD is against those who do evil."

  • It's like the psalmist wrote

  • in Psalm 66, in verse 18: "If I regard iniquity in my heart,

  • The Lord will not hear."

  • You see, when a person allows himself to indulge in the use of pornography,

  • he's actively building a wall

  • between himself

  • and the God of heaven.

  • Now secondly,

  • as we think about the implications of the use of pornography,

  • I want you to appreciate with me that there are some people who will not obey

  • the gospel, or if they're already Christians they are not faithful to the church,

  • because they think that they cannot quit pornography.

  • Some people have fallen for the lie that they just can't quit.

  • And they understand that there's no point in being a Christian if you're

  • going to live in sin,

  • and so they don't.

  • And as a result,

  • they actively risk their souls.

  • Thirdly, I want you to consider Proverbs 23, and verse 7.

  • It says: "For as a man thinketh in his heart,

  • so is he..."

  • Now consider that for a minute.

  • "As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he."

  • If I think corruptly,

  • then I am corrupt.

  • And if I'm constantly filling my mind with filth and smut,

  • so am I.

  • You see, the spiritual implications of this are not good.

  • A fourth spiritual effect or spiritual danger

  • is that, over time,

  • you may become numb to it.

  • You know, 1 Timothy, chapter 4, verse 2 speaks

  • about those who had their consciences seared.

  • That is, they have become numb to sin.

  • Ladies and gentlemen, there is an ever-present danger

  • that a person can engage in the use of pornography for so long that it no

  • longer bothers him anymore.

  • And when that happens,

  • he's entering into very dangerous territory. He may be going down a a road

  • of no return

  • spiritually speaking.

  • You know, Hebrews 6, and verse 4, discusses some who have reached

  • a point the Bible says that "...it is impossible...

  • ... to renew them again

  • to repentance..."

  • You don't want to be one of those people.

  • Now let's talk about why it's wrong.

  • But first, there's the obvious. Number one,

  • it's a direct violation of scripture.

  • You know, Ephesians 5, and verse 3 says:

  • "But fornication

  • and all uncleanness or covetousness,

  • let it not even be named among you,

  • as is fitting for saints." Now another version says it this way:

  • "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality,

  • or of any kind of impurity,

  • or of greed..." Now listen to this:

  • "... because these are improper for God's holy people."

  • You know, in Matthew 5:28, Jesus very plainly said, "But I say unto

  • you

  • that whosoever looks at a woman to lust for her

  • has already committed adultery with her

  • in his heart."

  • Pornography is a direct violation

  • of the scriptures.

  • Now, I do want to make a point of clarification about

  • Matthew 5:28.

  • Because sometimes when people hear this particular verse,

  • they begin to wonder if pornography is a valid reason for divorce. In other words,

  • a woman might reason this way. She might say, "Well, I caught my husband viewing

  • pornography and

  • in Matthew 5:28, Jesus equated this to adultery.

  • And since adultery is a scriptural reason for divorce,

  • then can I

  • divorce my husband for viewing pornography?"

  • You know, I understand the reasoning involved here.

  • But the conclusion is not a correct one. It's not correct that you can divorce your

  • spouse for viewing pornography.

  • You know, in Matthew 19:9,

  • the Bible gives only one scriptural reason for divorce

  • and that is fornication.

  • Now, that word "fornication" means: "unlawful sexual intercourse."

  • You see viewing pornography

  • doesn't fit that definition.

  • When a person views pornography,

  • Jesus said that he commits adultery in his heart, in his mind.

  • Now the spiritual consequences may be the same,

  • but the physical consequences are not. Now, let me illustrate this another way.

  • In 1 John 3:15, the Bible says, "Whoever hates his brother

  • is a murderer and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him/"

  • And so, if you hate your brother in your heart,

  • you are a murderer. But, they're not going to take you to jail.

  • They're not going to give you the death penalty.

  • Now the spiritual consequences will be the same because the text says, "... no murderer

  • has eternal life

  • in him."

  • In a similar sense,

  • looking at pornography is adultery of the heart

  • but it's not the actual physical act

  • of adultery. And so, viewing pornography is not grounds

  • for divorce. Now, it might lead to it.

  • It might cause a person to get his desires up to the point that he goes out

  • and has relations with someone else

  • and then he has committed adultery. But we need to understand the distinction.

  • Secondly,

  • why is pornography wrong? Number two, because

  • it's a form of stealing. Now, somebody might say,

  • "Well that's a stretch."

  • But, I want you to consider this.

  • The definition of the word "steal" is: "To take (the property of another) without

  • right or permission."

  • You know, when a man and woman get married,

  • the right to each other's bodies become that of the spouse. The wife's body

  • belongs to her husband. And any pleasure or

  • enjoyment of a sexual nature that might come from her body

  • belongs only to him.

  • You know, 1 Corinthians 7, verse 2 says:

  • "... let each man have his own wife,

  • and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife the

  • affection due her and likewise also the wife to her husband."

  • You see, the wife

  • doesn't have authority over her body but the husband does. It belongs to him.

  • And likewise, the husband doesn't have authority over his own body, but the

  • wife does. It belongs to her.

  • And so when a man views pornography,

  • he is using or taking something that is not his to take.

  • He, in essence, is taking without right or permission.

  • That's the definition of stealing. He is taking that which belongs only to

  • her husband.

  • Hebrews 13, verse 4 says:

  • "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled;

  • but forfornicators and adulterers

  • God will judge."

  • You see, outside of the marriage relationship,

  • a man is not permitted to view or to touch a woman in this way. The Bible

  • calls that sin.

  • It's taking that which is not mine to take.

  • Now, within the bonds of marriage,

  • all the pleasures of the sexual relationship

  • are mine to enjoy.

  • Proverbs 5:18 and 19 says

  • that a man is to be satisfied with his own wife,

  • and that her breasts should satisfy him at all times.

  • Now, the Bible only uses this type of language

  • with regard to the marriage relationship.

  • I would also like to suggest this.

  • Using pornography

  • steals time that ought to be used

  • for other things. You know, oftentimes, a man who uses pornography

  • will neglect doing good things. He will neglect things such as spending time

  • with his family.

  • Because instead of being with his family and building relationships,

  • instead he's withdrawing himself from people. And he's hiding in his basement

  • perusing porn sites.

  • And many porn addicts spend countless hours involved in this sin.

  • Now, thirdly.

  • Pornography is wrong because it is a corrupting of the heart.

  • Matthew 12:35 says:

  • "A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good things,

  • and an evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth

  • evil things."

  • Now, what if I'm filling my heart with filth?

  • Then according to the Bible, then that's what's going to come out in my life.

  • Fourthly,

  • pornography is wrong because it contributes to

  • many other sins.

  • The viewing of pornography will inevitably lead to other sins.

  • Some of them may be physical in nature.

  • It may lead to adultery.

  • It will most certainly lead to lying and

  • cover-ups, and and a long list of things that will follow.

  • Now you might ask yourself,

  • "How do I overcome it?" Maybe youv'e listened to these things and you say, "I do have a

  • problem with pornography. How do I overcome it?"

  • First,

  • you have to have a strong desire.

  • Now, why do I say that?

  • Because this is not easy to overcome.

  • You know, this particular sin has a power over,

  • especially men, that's very strong.

  • And when you add the addiction factor and the brain chemistry, you're talking about

  • something that you will not be able to overcome unless you have a strong desire

  • to do so.

  • And I might add, that

  • the desire ought to be there

  • because you can't go to heaven while you continue indulging in pornography.

  • Secondly,

  • in addition to a strong desire, you have to have a strong determination.

  • You can't start this fight in a wishy-washy way.

  • This is not one of those things that you

  • wean yourself off of. You simply have to stop. You have to make a covenant with

  • yourself like Job did in Job 31 and verse 1

  • where he said, "I have made a covenant with my eyes;

  • Why then should I look upon a young woman?"

  • Job made an agreement with his eyes not to look on a woman lustfully.

  • Now, somebody says,

  • "How can I do that? You know immodesty is everywhere."

  • In the book I've referenced, "Every Young Man's Battle,"

  • they suggest the practice of "bouncing your eyes." And what they mean by that is

  • as soon as you see something that you shouldn't be seeing

  • you train your eyes to look the other way. Bounce them to something else.

  • Now the point that they're making is

  • avoid those things that stimulate these desires in you.

  • Now, one of the authors of the book,

  • he referred to the problem that he has when he's driving down the road and he

  • sees a woman jogging,

  • that it would start his mind in the wrong direction.

  • Now for someone else that might be something totally different, a different

  • scenario.

  • But whatever it is that's provocative for you, which is different for different

  • people,

  • you need to deal with that.

  • And though the this specific issue might be different, the remedy is the

  • same

  • for everyone.

  • It starts with controlling your heart.

  • Know what it is that's a stumbling block for you

  • and don't let your mind linger on it.

  • Now with regard to the internet. It may be something popping up on the screen

  • that may entice you.

  • But you see, you got to have that determination. You've made a covenant

  • with yourself:

  • "I'm not going to visit these sites.

  • I'm going to exit out. I'm going to close it."

  • That strong determination is absolutely necessary.

  • Now, thirdly I want to suggest

  • prayer

  • and Bible study.

  • You know, Philippians 4:13 says: "I can do all things through Christ who

  • strengthens me."

  • You see, there's power in the Lord

  • and we need to ask for it. Specifically when you face the temptation.

  • stop and pray about it.

  • Also, there's power in the Word. Psalm 119 and verse 11 says:

  • "Thy word have I hid in mine heart,

  • that I might not sin against thee."

  • Studying the Bible and hiding it deep within your heart

  • will help you to resist this temptation.

  • Now, fourthly

  • may I suggest that you get an "accountability partner."

  • Now why do I say that?

  • Because this is a very hard thing to do by yourself.

  • It is very good if you can have someone that you trust

  • to be an accountability partner. Someone who checks on you. Someone who asks how

  • the problem's going.

  • I've had more than one person over the years to request that I be their

  • accountability partner.

  • Now, someone might say,

  • "Where do you find that idea in the Bible?" Is the idea of an accountability

  • partner a Biblical suggestion?

  • Consider this. James 5:16 says: "Confess your trespasses to one another,

  • and pray for one another that you maybe be healed. The effective fervent prayer of a

  • righteous man avails much." Galatians 6:2: "Bear one another's burdens and

  • so fulfill the law of Christ."

  • You see, the idea is

  • if I have someone to help me,

  • it's easier. The burden is much lighter when a Christian brother can

  • help you through it/

  • There's even an online accountability program where you can have all of your

  • internet surfing recorded

  • and then have the list of sites automatically emailed to a friend of

  • your choosing.

  • Now, one such services called "CovenantEyes" and

  • is located at "covenanteyes.com." And what their software does is it blocks

  • objectionable sites and it sends reports of your internet surfing to someone that

  • you select. It's exactly what we're talking about here.

  • Now, number five.

  • To overcome internet pornography, I want to suggest that you eliminate the sources.

  • In 1 Corinthians 6 and verse 18, the Bible says: "Flee sexual immorality."

  • In other words,

  • get away from it or get it away from you.

  • And so, if you've determined that having your computer in the basement is a stumbling

  • block for you, then move it. Move it to the kitchen where everyone can see what

  • you're doing.

  • Eliminate the temptation.

  • I know one man who's a single man,

  • and he refuses to get cable tv in his house because he says it's a

  • temptation for him.

  • That's exactly the idea we're talking about, eliminate the temptation.

  • One man said that

  • he got hooked on pornography through his job.

  • His job involved the monitoring of internet traffic

  • and in the process he was seeing what other people were looking at and he

  • himself got hooked.

  • What do you do in a situation like that? I would say quit the job.

  • Quit that job

  • or ask for a transfer to a different department.

  • I know that sounds radical.

  • But isn't that the point of Matthew 5:29? "If your right eye

  • causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more

  • profitable for you that one of your members perish, than

  • for your whole body to be cast into hell."

  • You know, at your home it may be that you need to buy some software that prevents

  • you from accessing pornographic sites.

  • Give the code to your wife, give it to a friend, so that

  • only that person can make changes.

  • Finally I want to suggest

  • that you change your habits.

  • You know for many people, viewing internet pornography is a habit that

  • they've gotten into and we're creatures of habit.

  • So find something else to occupy your time.

  • Re-arrange your day, rearrange your schedule, rearrange

  • the people that you're spending time with. Whatever it is that's leading you

  • down this path

  • change it.

  • Now primarily in this discussion, we've been talking about pornography as it

  • relates to the internet, internet pornography.

  • But you know, there are other forms of pornography out there.

  • Things such as

  • phone sex lines.

  • Things such as

  • romance novels and literature.

  • And as technology develops, there's constantly new emerging forms of

  • pornography.

  • One of the latest things is called "sexting."

  • This word "sexting" comes from two words, the words sex and texting.

  • And it has created a new word called "sexting." It's kind of the latest craze. And

  • what it is

  • is that most cellphones these days have the ability to take pictures and then to

  • send that picture as a picture or text message to other cell phones. And it's become

  • very popular for kids to take pictures of themselves, unclothed, and to text it to

  • other kids, maybe a boyfriend or girlfriend. And it's really a form of

  • homemade pornography.

  • A Christian man told me just recently about an incident that took place where

  • a friend of his was standing near his son's phone

  • and it received a text message. And his son wasn't there so the dad picked up

  • the phone and looked at it and he was shocked by the obscene image that the

  • boy's girlfriend

  • had sent to him.

  • You know, parents might be careful to check on internet use and

  • maybe even put blocks and filters and restrictions on the computer,

  • but have you thought about some of these other technologies? Have you thought

  • about the cell phone?

  • You know, sometimes parents might think, "I can't check on things like that. That

  • would be an invasion of their privacy. That's her phone or that's

  • her room or that's

  • his personal possession."

  • I want to tell you that that is a mistake to think that way.

  • God has entrusted the raising of our children into our hands.

  • And as long as we are raising them, it is our responsibility. Now you might think that

  • her privacy is important

  • but surely her soul is far more important than that.

  • As I was preparing material for this lesson,

  • I ran across many personal stories of disaster that came to people's lives as

  • a result of pornography.

  • One man explained that during one year he had spent over 1,000 hours viewing

  • internet pornography

  • and he was asked,

  • "How did it affect your family?" He said, "I lost my family." He was asked "What about your

  • job?" He said, "I've lost it, too. I've lost

  • everything."

  • Can you imagine losing your wife or your family or your job, or

  • most importantly,

  • your eternal soul to a devil's hell

  • all because of pornography?

  • You know, it doesn't have to be that way.

  • As Job said, he "made a covenant with his eyes" and you can do the same thing.

  • If you have this problem with pornography, you can stop. You can live a holy life.

  • You can be pleasing to the Lord.

  • And you can spend eternity heaven.

This is a production of World Video Bible School.

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    阿多賓 發佈於 2021 年 01 月 14 日
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