Name: 開學人際關係斷捨離！5 種跡象告訴你誰是假朋友！ (5 Signs Someone Is a Fake Friend)
Uploaded: 2020-02-29T21:01:10.000Z
Duration: 4 min 57 s

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Hey Psych2Go community, before we begin this video, we just want to give a warm thank you.

嘿 Psych2Go 社群的大家，在我們開始這支影片之前，我們想致上我們最溫暖的感恩之意。

We know we've given you many thanks already in the past, but thank yous are timeless, and we really do appreciate all the love and support you've given us

我們知道在過去已經感謝過你們很多次了，但感恩的心不會因為時間而有所改變，我們真的非常感激你們所給予的愛與支持。

We see each and every one of you and your well-being matters to us.

我們重視你們每一位，且在意你們的幸福與否。

We hope as the years continue to unfold, we can continue delivering quality content tailored just for you.

我們希望隨著時間的推進，我們可以持續提供為你量身打造的高品質內容。

With that being said, let's get right into today's video!

說了這麼多，我們直接開始今天的影片吧！

Have you ever been backstabbed, lied to, or betrayed by someone you thought you could trust?

你有曾經被你認為可以相信的人背後捅刀、被欺騙、或被背叛嗎？

Unfortunately, we can't stop people from taking such actions against us.

不幸的是，我們無法阻止他人對我們這樣做。

But we can decide who we keep in our lives.

但我們可以決定我們的人生中要留下哪些人。

Wondering if your BFF (Best Friend Forever) is reliable or not?

在思考你的好麻吉靠不靠譜嗎？

Here are five signs someone isn't really your friend!

5 種跡象告訴你哪些人不是你的真朋友！

One, they use you more than they enjoy your company.

第一，他們喜歡利用你勝過你的陪伴。

Maybe they approached you first with good conversations and that's how your friendship started.

或許他們一開始利用一段好的對話接近你然後你們的「友誼」開始了。

Do they often only go to you now when it's convenient?

Or you ask them to hang out and they immediately will follow up with "Anyone else going?" before they decide on coming or not?

或者你揪他們出去玩時，他們會在決定要不要去之前立刻先問「有其他人要去嗎」？

Or maybe they're simply constantly asking for favors.

或者他們就是一直尋求你的協助。

Maybe you work at a company they want to work at, do they only meet up with you to ask to borrow something.

或許你在一間他們想工作的公司上班，他們只在想跟你借東西的時候才見面嗎？

Relationships are give-and-take, and if you want to find out if they are a true friend, just ask them for a favor, too.

人際關係就是付出與接受，如果你想知道他們是不是真的朋友，你也尋求他們的幫助看看。

And if they reciprocate, then keep them around, otherwise, you know what to do.

如果他們有所回報，那此人可留，不然，你知道你應該做什麼。

Two, there is an imbalance in communication.

Unless they are an introvert, are you always the one making contact? Do they frequently ghost you?

除非他們是內向的人，你是那個負責維繫感情的人嗎？他們很常神隱嗎？

Sometimes life can be overwhelming with responsibilities piling up.

有時候人生中累積起來要負的責任相當驚人。

Or we get to a point where your work schedule isn't compatible with your friends.

或者有時候你的行程就是無法跟你的朋友配合上。

But if they constantly cancel plans with you, or stop communicating with you altogether, it might be assigned to start investing in other more worthwhile friendships.

但如果他們很常取消跟你的約會，或者完全斷絕跟你的聯繫，很有可能他去投資他認為更值得的人際關係了。

You deserve support, attention and respect, too.

你也應該得到支持，關注跟尊重。

Three, they are secretly competing with you.

This one can be tricky to detect, especially if they seem like the passive-aggressive type, but pay close attention to how they react to your progress and achievements.

這個比較難去感受，特別是他們看起來是不太好鬥型的人，但密切注意他們對於你的進步與成就的反應。

Do they say congrats with a smile but secretly want to beat you?

他們笑笑地恭喜你但私底下想把你幹掉嗎？

Are they known to be a naturally jealous person?

One other thing to note is - if they copy you.

另一件要注意的是...他們會模仿你嗎？

“Copying” is an attempt to steal your identity.

「模仿」就是企圖想竊取你的獨特性。

They might try to keep up with you by trying to become a replica of you.

他們或許會藉由成為你的複製品，試圖追上的腳步。

不是說這樣很怪啦，反正就是不好。

Before we begin our next topic, we actually want to give a small shout out to Domics.

在我們開始下一個主題之前，我們想小小提到 Domics 一下。

Domics is an amazing animation channel, featuring story-themed content including gifts, patience, rejection all in a light-hearted educational way.

Domics 是一個很棒的動畫網站，內容概括挑禮物守則、耐心、拒絕的藝術等等，都以非常輕鬆的方式教導。

He also runs a cool gaming cafe if you're around Mississauga in Toronto with an awesome group of people!

如果你在多倫多的密西沙加附近的話，他還有跟一群很厲害的人開了一家很酷的桌遊店！

Four, they bring you more drama than support.

第四，他們為你帶來的八點檔劇情比支持多。

If you have low tolerance for drama, it's probably best to evaluate if you can see yourself growing with someone who enjoys gossiping and stirring up trouble.

如果你對於八點檔的劇情忍受度很低的話，這應該是你最好的辦法，去檢視你是否身處在一群很愛碎嘴跟惹事的人之中。

A solid friendship is about having fun with someone and providing a safe space where both parties can confide in one another.

一段堅實的友誼應該是很開心，且提供雙方安心的避風港。

If they smack talk about your other friends and their friends, you can probably guess that they will talk smack about you, too.

如果他們講你的朋友或他們朋友的壞話，你應該可以猜到他們一樣會說你的壞話。

There's a difference between seeking validation and punishing you for wanting to establish boundaries.

尋求認同感跟懲罰你以確立自己的領域之間是有差別的。

Some people are clingier than others and that's okay.

有些人的確比較黏人，但這沒關係。

If you hear the phrase "if you were a real friend and you would do this for me!" blah blah blah... Then you know.

如果你聽到「如果你真的是我朋友的話，你一定會為我這樣做的！」之類的，那你就知道了。

Personally, I'm not really a fan of being guilt-tripped, so I would advise you not let others do that.

個人而言，我是不喜歡被這種內疚感綁架啦，所以我也建議你不要讓別人做這種事。

Want to see more authenticity in your life? Check out and subscribe to the featured channel.

想要知道更多人生的真實面嗎？去逛逛並訂閱這個介紹的頻道。

She has a unique way of interacting with strangers and helping them show the best parts of themselves.

她用很特別的方法與陌生人應對並幫助他們最棒的一面。

Whether it's just getting their authentic reactions or life stories, you'll discover we're all a lot more alike than different.

不論是他們真實的反應還是人生故事，你會發現其實我們比起不同相同的地方更多。

You can watch either one of these videos from her.

你可以看她這兩支影片的其中一支。

"What's the most painful thing you've been told?" or "What's the kindest thing you've been told among others?"

「你被告知過最痛苦的事是什麼？」或「其他人跟你說過最棒的事是什麼？」

Is there a topic you'd like us to cover next?

有什麼主題你想要我們在下支影片聊呢？