It doesn't matter whether you're someone wanting to have sex for the very first time or someone who's in a new relationship where sex hasn't happened yet.

無論是第一次進行性行為，還是在一段性關係還沒發生的新感情。

The thought process is pretty much the same.

思考模式幾乎是一樣的。

It's a big step, and something we should all think pretty carefully about.

這是很大的一步，這是我們都必須認真思考的事情。

So, how do you know if you're really ready for sex?

所以，我們要如何知道我們準備好了呢？

1. Assess The Risks

第一，衡量風險。

First, you need to think about the risks associated with sex.

第一，你必須知道與「性」相關連的風險。

And to be honest, there is a lot of them.

老實說，它們有很多。

We all know about the health and pregnancy risks of sex.

我們都知道健康和懷孕的風險。

And these are very important.

這些非常重要。

But, what about the emotional risks?

不過，精神上的風險呢？

What do you stand to lose?

有什麼東西是你會失去的呢？

Will your relationship with that person be changed in a way you're not comfortable with?

你跟那個人的感情會改變成你不舒服的模式嗎？

Sex can make us form a strong, compassionate connection with someone.

性可以讓我們對某人有強烈的、充滿同情的連結。

Are you ready for those kinds of emotions?

你準備好迎接這些情緒了嗎？

2. Are You Being Pressured?

第二，有人給你壓力嗎？

You might think that having sex is the right thing to do, but is it really you who wants sex, or is it the world around you, pressuring you into doing something you're not ready for?

你或許覺得發生性關係是正確的事。但是是真的如此，還是是你的周遭環境給你壓力，壓迫你做你還沒準備好的事情？

Peer pressure is a very real thing, especially when it comes to sex.

同儕壓力是真實的，尤其是在談論性關係的時候。

Young people are under enormous pressure to lose their virginities, and it kind of becomes a competitive thing.

年輕人對破處這件事感到巨大壓力，它似乎變成了一種比賽。

Alternatively, even if you're not a virgin, people might still be pressuring you into having sex with someone new.

或者你不是處男或處女，人們還是會給你壓力，要你跟新的人發生關係。

In both situations, we really need to take a step back and figure out what we want and whether we're actually ready for sex.

在這兩個情況中，我們都必須退一步。

3. Do You Know Where You Stand In The Relationship?

第三，你知道你們的感情處於什麼樣的狀態嗎？

This one is huge.

這是很大的關鍵。

Sex can change your relationship in pretty drastic ways, so it's important to know where you stand.

性愛會大幅改變你的感情。所以了解你們的狀況很重要。

Is it a serious relationship?

這是一段認真的感情嗎？

Or are you two more friends than lovers?

還是你們比較像朋友而不是愛人？

You need to make sure that both you, and your partner, are on the same page.

你必須確認你和你的夥伴在同一條船上。

If one person ends up falling in love, and the other isn't feeling it, it can lead to serious emotional and psychological distress.

如果其中一方愛上了彼此，但另一方沒有感覺，會導致情緒上和心理上的壓力。

And if you two are friends with benefits, ask yourself if you're willing to lose that person as a friend because, believe us, it can happen.

如果你們是炮友的話，問自己你願不願意失去這個朋友。因為，相信我們，它可能會發生。

4. Your Genes Might Actually Determine When You Lose Your Virginity

第四，你的基因有可能決定你破處的時間。

Let's take a break from all the deep, heavy emotional stuff for some science coolness!

談論這些感情問題很沈重，我們先休息一下，來討論一些很酷的自然與科學！

Yes, we're talking about figuring out when you're ready for sex.

是的，我們是在說審視自己是準備好要發生性關係了。

But, what if it's determined by your genes?

但，如果這取決於你的基因呢？

That's right.

沒錯。

Researchers at Cambridge University found that genetics might determine about 25% of the differences between when people lose their virginity.

劍橋大學的研究者發現，基因掌控著百分之二十五的變因，決定人們何時會破處。

So what this means is that losing our virginity is something we can't rush, even if we want to.

這就代表，我們就算急著破處，也不能趕著讓它發生。

We have to wait for our bodies to be biologically prepared, and for some, hormones don't start firing until later in life, simply because of the genetics we were born with.

我們必須等待我們的身體做好準備，對某些人來說，因為基因的關係，荷爾蒙要晚一點才會開始增進。

5. Think About Your Past Experiences

第五，回想你過去的經驗。

Sometimes, the best way to come to a decision is to look into the past.

有時候，做決定最好的方式是回憶過去。

What do your past experiences tell you?

你之前的經驗是怎麼告訴你的？

Learning from past relationships is a natural part of developing and maturing as an individual, and the mistakes we make in the past can help us improve our future romances.

從上一段感情中學習，是個人發展和成長自然的過程。我們過去所犯的錯誤可以幫助我們未來的感情進步。

Did you have sex too early in past relationships?

以前的感情中，你是否太早發生性關係？

Maybe you felt like you could've had sex sooner in your last relationship.

或是你覺得你上一段感情應該早一點發生性關係。

Perhaps you felt like you should've had a discussion with your partner before taking that next step.

或許你覺得在更近一步前你應該跟另一半討論。

Obviously, this doesn't really apply to virgins.

很明顯地，處男和處女們不適用這個方法。

But if it's still your first time, you can still learn from the past.

但如果這是你的第一次，你還是可以從過去學習。

We can all look back on times where we rushed things too quickly.

你可以想想以前我們對於某些事情太過於著急的時候。

In conclusion, the most important thing to remember is that you should definitely think long and hard about having sex before going through with it.

總之，最重要的事情是要記得，在更進一步前一定要經過長時間的認真思考。

If you really ponder everything we just talked about, we know you'll do the right thing.

如果你真的有想過我們所說的這些，我們相信你會做出對的選擇。

No pressure.

不要有壓力。

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感謝收看！

Now go do something fun.

現在去做些好玩的事吧！