Name: 場面乾掉怎麼辦？告訴你如何展現社交魅力！ (How To NEVER Be Boring)
Uploaded: 2019-10-15T21:01:20.000Z
Duration: 4 min 40 s

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Nobody wants to be boring, but unfortunately, no one teaches us how not to be, which is why in this video, we are going to cover five things that you can do to avoid boring everyone around you, and instead, attract people to you like a magnet while enjoying your life much more.

沒有人想做一個無聊的人，但不幸的是，沒有人教我們如何變得不無聊，因此，這部影片將會告訴你五個秘訣，教你如何成為一個磁鐵一樣的人，既不無聊，還能吸引到你欣賞的對象，同時又能享受人生。

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So the first thing that you're going to want to cultivate is high energy and that is first thing in the morning.

第一個秘訣是培養你的活力，而這得從一早開始。

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You probably know someone that always seems to be in a joking, fun positive mood, and maybe you admire it to think, "I could never do that he was just born that way."

你可能也認識過某個愛開玩笑、很正向、很有趣的人，而這個人可能會讓你不禁覺得：「他是生來如此，我不可能變得像他一樣。」

People with positive high-energy outlooks invariably have habits that prime them to feel excited and you can adopt those same habits to get the same results.

這些充滿正向能量的人通常都有某種讓他們充滿活力的習慣，所以如果你能找到這個習慣，你也可以變得和他們ㄧ樣。

The important thing is that you do it first thing in the morning.

關鍵的是，你必須在一早就做。

So play music you love, exercise, watch a YouTube video that always cracks you up, do affirmations or just listen to a motivational audio tape on your way to work.

你可以放你喜歡的音樂、運動、看能讓你大笑的 YouTube 影片、激勵自己、或是在通勤時間聽聽啟發性的廣播或錄音。

It might sound silly, but priming yourself early in the day to smile and feel good makes it so much easier to carry energy into all of your interactions.

這也許聽起來不可靠，但讓自己在一早就開開心心的效果會持續到整天的時間裡，在與他人的交流中，你也會自然而然地有更多的能量與活力。

Second, create a mental list of topics or activities that  you can fall back on to liven up any conversation.

第二個秘訣是，在心裡先想好一些在任何場合都能帶動氣氛的話題。

There are always going to be those times where we slip into boring conversations so it's nice to know exactly what to do to get out of that trap.

我們總會遇到場面乾掉的時候，而這些話題就能讓你脫離那些尷尬的情況。

People watching usually provide some interesting opportunities to break out a boring conversation, and if you're app-reliant or just on a long trip, I've found that people really enjoy playing the app Heads Up.

通常，不在話題中的旁觀者能提供一些有趣的話題來化解場面乾掉的情況，或者，如果你是習慣使用手機應用程式的人或是剛好在一段長途旅程中，我會推薦一款叫做動手不動口 (Heads Up) 的遊戲。

But, by far the most versatile topics are the ones that you are really enthusiastic about because when you talk about things that you love passionately, that energy is contagious.

但到目前為止，我認為最有效的話題是那些你熱衷的事，因為當你在說自己喜歡的事情時是很有感染力的。

And if you're worried that no one in the group is going to share that enthusiasm about that topic, that's okay, because the point isn't necessarily to connect over that  specific topic but to raise the energy of the whole group.

如果你會擔心聊天對象熱衷的事情和你不同，你也不用太擔心，因為它的重點不是引起共鳴，而是帶動氛圍。

And if your enthusiasm wakes other people up, makes them smile, and gets them talking about something that they love, now you're all out of the boring state.

如果你的熱情能夠感染到其他人，讓他們感到開心，甚至讓他們也開始分享自己喜愛的事物，那你就能成功地脫離尷尬場面了。

第三個秘訣是，學習做一個會說故事的人。

The most boring part of most interactions is when someone starts to tell a long-winded story in a way that no one cares about.

在多數社交場合中，最怕遇到的就是一個會講很長，而且沒人想聽的故事的人。

A true story is not just a chronological sequence of events.

一個真實的故事不只是流水帳而已。

A story has emotional stakes and tension.

一個好的故事會有利害關係和張力。

It has an element of mystery that is typically resolved at the end.

也會包含一種懸疑感，通常結局會在最後才會揭曉。

And the nice thing, is that good stories often make other people want to tell their stories which can instantly make a conversation much more engaging.

好故事的優點是，它能激發其他人去分享他們的故事，而引起整個談話過程的互動和參與感。

There's so many more detailed tips that I don't have time for in this video so I'm just gonna put a link to our best storytelling videos up in the description.

其中還有很多我來不及在這支影片中分享的細節，所以我會在影片下方附上另一個教你說故事的連結。

Moving along, the next super important thing to make yourself more interesting as a human being is to expand your circle of influence.

再來，下一個很重要的秘訣是，擴大你的交友圈和影響範圍，以讓你成為一個更有趣的人。

Sometimes it's all too easy to fall into a type.

有時候，我們很容易會被歸為某一類人。

In fact, when we're in school or college, many of us seek out a community of people just like us so that we can brand ourselves.

事實上，在中學或大學裡，很多人都會刻意去找一群和自己相似的人，以建立出個人形象。

The problem comes when you become so identified with that brand in that community that you're predictable and, quite frankly, boring.

問題是，當你被簡單的歸類為某種形象之後，你就變得不那麼新奇和有趣了。

So expand your circle of influences outside the norm of what your group normally accepts.

所以，擴大你的交友範圍至原先的預設標準之外。

Read books that contradict your opinion, mingle with people who think differently, do activities that aren't you...

閱讀一些也與和你觀點不同的書、認識一些和你有不同想法的人、參加一些你以前可能不會參加的活動...

For instance, if you only read self-improvement books, try reading fiction.

舉例來說，如果你只喜歡閱讀成長勵志類的書，你可以試試看去讀小說。

If you're a weightlifter who is constantly trying to add more bulk, go to an acro yoga class.

如果你喜歡舉重，而且一直以來的目標都是要變得更健壯，你可以試試看去參加雙人瑜伽課。

And if you think dancing just isn't something that you can do, well, take a dancing class.

如果你覺得你就是個不會跳舞的人，那就去試試看舞蹈課。

That's what I did ten years ago and I have to say it was one of the best decisions I've ever made.

這就是我十年前做的事，而且我覺得那是我人生中做過最好的決定之ㄧ。

You don't need to do anything dangerous or unsafe, but the more uncomfortable the activity, the better the chance that you're breaking out of your self-imposed limitations and becoming a more well-rounded person.

你不用去嘗試危險的活動，但那些越讓你感到不自在的活動，就越有機會讓你突破自己的框架而能成為一個更全能的人。

Lastly, spend part of every day pursuing a dream.

最後一個秘訣：每天都要為自己的夢想怒力。

Look, I know that this is clichéd advice but you've got one short life, and for a million reasons, you should try to fill it as much as possible with the things that make you feel alive.

我知道這個建議可能聽起來很老套，但在一個如此短暫的人生中，如果你能有一件讓你充滿生命力的事，你應該有一百萬個理由可以說服自己多把時間花在上面。

I know that when I was working a corporate job,  I found it really hard to be engaging.

我在大公司工作的時候，我實在很難找到參與的熱情。

But as soon as I started the side project that eventually became Charisma on Command, my energy and excitement levels spiked.

但當我開始自己的計劃，也就是建立這個頻道的時候，我的活力和興奮感都大量提升了。

Sure, I had to deal with a fear of sharing my most personal thoughts on the Internet where anyone could judge them but once I pushed through that fear, I felt so much more alive.

當然，在分享我的個人想法或是隱私時，我也會害怕他人的眼光和網路上的評論，但當我克服這份恐懼之後，我的生命變得更有活力也更有意義了。

People started coming out of the woodwork to connect with me.

我發現，想要更認識我的人開始出現了。

So, even if it's for just an hour a day, find a way to pursue a big project that you really love.

所以，即使你一天只花一小時也好，去做你真正熱愛的事吧。

Maybe you'll never become a big business, or maybe it'll be your future career, but either way, you'll be glad you did and no one will find it boring.

也許它不會成為一個大企業，又或許這能成為你未來的工作，但無論如何，你還是會為自己開心，而且我保證沒有人會覺得那是一件無聊的事。

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