welcome back

這個禮拜的主題可能不是那麼受歡迎的意見

so I'm turning 27 this week and this may be an unpopular opinion

但是我真的覺得我有所成長

but I actually feel like growing up..

這是一件很高興的事，因為當我慢慢變老

it's such an exciting thing because

我越了解這個世界跟我自己

as I get older the more I learn about the world and myself

以及我想成為怎樣的人

the more I learn about the person I want to become

當我漸漸了解這些

the more I see myself realizing all those things

以及成為了我想成為的人，這就像是一段旅程

and becoming the person that I want to be

以及成為了我想成為的人，這就像是一段旅程

I don't know.. I just feel like that whole journey

然後它能使我成長

and this whole journey of being alive and healthy and breathing

我覺得...

and being able to grow up

很多人（包括我自己）很常視一切為理所當然

I think it's such a wonderful thing that..

所以今天， 我要分享我在二十六歲時學到的二十六件事情

I don't know..

我的生日在年末

a lot of us may take for granted (myself included) every once in a while

我小時候其實很討厭這件事 因為都會跟聖誕節一起合併慶祝

so today.. we're gonna talk about 26 things I learned at 26

這樣我都只能拿到一份禮物（或沒有禮物）

and having a birthday at the end of the year

所以... (*ﾟ∀ﾟ*)

I used to hate it when I was younger because it gets combined with Christmas

但現在我長大了，卻覺得這件事其實很不錯

so instead of getting two gifts I just get one gift or just no gift at all

因為通常在過生日的時候 你會開始自我反思

anddd... yeah..

而且這時候剛好是十二月（年底）

but now that I'm older I think it's such an awesome thing

所以就會自動做更多的反省跟反思

because you usually reflect on your birthdays so it's like..

所以總和起來就是一個～超大反思～

ok I'm gonna reflect in December

摩羯座寶寶們

and then it's the new year so you do more reflecting

so it's just this..

生～日～快～樂～

~ fusion haaa ~ of great reflection

好der...

so to all my Sagittarius babies out there

我們就進入第一件事吧

*virtual hug* here's a hug

這一年我學到的最重要的事情之一

happy birthday to you guys, happy birthday month

就是：你無法在每一次都呈現出最好的狀態

andddd... yeah..

但你卻可以嘗試做出最好的努力

so let's just get started with the first thing

有時你的最佳狀態在這兒，很ok

one of the most important things I learned this year

有時你的狀態在這兒，也很ok

is that you can't be your best all the time

只要我們在任何給予的狀態下， 努力呈現自己當下最好的一面

but you can try your best all the time

就很棒了

sometimes your best is here and that's totally fine

雖然我有感受到， 有在關注我頻道的你們，很多人

sometimes it's here and that's totally fine too

感覺對自己的自我期許都非常高

as long as we're trying our best

對自己很嚴格

given the circumstances of whatever situation were in

期望自己成為某種特定樣子

that's good enough

但若沒做到的話，就會對自己很失望

and I feel like most of us on this channel are all pretty..

但有時候，你最佳的狀態未必會跟你腦海中構想的一樣

I don't know like we..

而這又跟第二件事有關 那就是「完成比完美重要」

kind of have really high expectations for ourselves

開始真正著手去做一件事情

we're really hard on ourselves

原比空想理想中的結果重要許多

we want to be this thing that we have in our minds

我很常感受到

and it frustrates the heck out of us and we're not

追求事情、結果的完美

sometimes your best isn't gonna be the picture you painted in your head

常常成為了我們開始做一件事情的阻礙

and that's totally ok

有時甚至會妨礙事情的開端

this kind of ties in with the second thing which is done is better than perfect

因此，我今年開始正視這個事實

doing something and starting is so much better than

就是事情其實都不像我們想像中的糟

having the result be exactly what you imagined it to be

其實大多時候都是我們想太多

and I feel like more often than not

覺得還不夠、自己做得還不夠好

the chase for perfection and wanting something to be perfect

但其實完成比完美重要啦～～～～

is actually holding us back so much for even just starting

第三：

and sometimes it just prevents us from starting at all

「不存在最佳的解答」

so I really really started embracing the fact this year

今年我理解到，只要我全心地去做一件事情

that things aren't always as bad as we think it is in our head

今年我理解到，只要我全心地去做一件事情

it's almost always just in our head

中文叫「用心」

thinking it's not good enough, thinking we're not good enough

中文叫「用心」

so done is better than perfect

只要我把自己專心投注在眼前的事

and the third thing is

不管我走哪一條路

there's no best option for what you should do with your life

只要我全心投入

what I've realized this year is that as long as I use my heart fully

最後所有的努力都不會白費

it's a Chinese thing for "yong xin"

這也是你們很常問我的一個問題

"yong" is use, "xin" is heart

「我不知道該怎麼做才是正確的，幫幫我...」

if I fully apply myself to whatever it is that's right in front of me

我認為，只要把握好自己擁有的東西 然後全力去做

no matter which path I take..

並相信自己，過程是值得的

if I use my heart in any one of these paths

我愛紐約...

eventually they're all gonna come together

雖然太陽快下山了

this is something that you guys actually ask me quite often too of like..

嗚我的人生..

I don't know what to do..

你永遠不知道每天會發生什麼事

I don't know what the right thing to do is.. please help..

但是不論你身處什麼狀況 你都可以全力以赴

I've learned it's just to do my best where I am with what I have

其實這有點像前三點的總結

and trusting myself in the process

第四：平衡

that eventually it'll lead me to where I need to be

這是我今年很困擾的一件事

I love New York..

督促自己很重要

there's so much noises everywhere

但不要忘記～

and then the sun's about to set

在把自己燃燒到精疲力盡之前

(≧◡≦)

這就要連結到下一點

my life.. okay..

五：如果你想當肥宅，那就肥宅一下

and I guess that could be..

傾聽你的身體、內心的聲音， 給他他所需要的

that could be the fourth thing just rolling with the punches

因為，下一點！

you know.. waking up..

六：一切都只是暫時的

you never know what you're gonna get every day

不論你現在感覺多麽棒

but you can try your best where you are and do you're best

多麽嗨伊～～～～～

actually that's just a summary of the first three points

不管你現在有什麼情緒

so the fourth thing is balance

這都是暫時的， 所以不要太受到這些情緒影響

which is something that I struggled with so much this year

剛好，第七點：不要太過依賴任何事情

it's important to push ourselves

我們不可能無時無刻都覺得自己表現地超棒

and it's important to push yourself hard

也不可能事情總是跟我們的想像一樣

but it's also important to remember that

我們很常覺得自己失敗了

there's only so much we can humanly do

那是因為結果常常跟我們預想的不一樣

before we push ourselves to a full-blown blowout

而我認為這又跟「接納」有關

and it brings us to the next point which is

要能接納自己，不論感覺好或壞

to give yourself permission to be a potato if you want to be a potato

並且要知道

listen to your body, listen to yourself, give yourself what it needs

我們每天的狀態都不一樣， 所以不論表現好壞都不要太過於在意

because.. next point..

嗯...我覺得就像

it's all temporary

要接受並認識自己

no matter how awesome you're feeling

並且知道我們不是超人

no matter how terrible you're feeling

所以有任何感受都是正常的

no matter how if you're on cloud nine

就是醬...

if you're at rock bottom

第八：面臨猶豫時，誠實為上策

wherever you are..

～ 啊我咬到舌頭 ～ 誠實為上策

it's all gonna be temporary so don't be too attached to it

我覺得這是一個可以幫助我

which is like the seventh thing of not to be too attached to anything

在年底達成我為自己設定的目標

because at the end of the day

像是一些為自己設立的宣言

we're not going to feel awesome all the time

或是一些心靈上的東西

we're not going to feel terrible all the time

有些目標是我很想去做 但是還沒能達到的

so to be attached to wanting to feel a certain way all the time

總而言之

we're just setting ourselves up for failure because..

這又跟下一點有關

we can't be one thing all the time as much as we want it to be

第九：回饋 （我將要把這部影片得到的回饋給我最愛的非營利組織，

so I think it goes back to acceptance

這個組織影響我非常多

and just accepting yourself for all the good and bad

每一年也給我很多啟發

and knowing that..

現在（做影片）當然也是一種回饋方式

sometimes best is here, sometimes best is here and it's okay..

但現在我想要開始回饋那些

yeah I think it all comes down to like..

曾經幫助我度過最黑暗時光

acceptance, awareness, knowing who you are

幫助我成為今天的自己的那些對象

and knowing that we're human

我知道這一些聽起來很 .（老掉牙）.. ㄜ

and it's okay to feel things

但是！如果你看過神韻的表演

and to not be okay all the time

你可能就會知道我在說什麼

yeah..

如果你還沒看過他們的表演， 我非常鼓勵你們去觀賞

the next thing

神韻的目標是想保存 中華文化5000年的歷史

when in doubt, honesty is always the best..

藉由各種演唱、舞蹈、音樂表演呈現

~ ahh I just bit myself ~ honesty is always the best policy

這些表演都很美，也很精彩

for this video there are gonna be sponsors

我在這邊會放一些小短片給你們看

but I just want to let you guys know that it's to allow me

你們有些人問過我會不會開始用Patreon

to make what I want to make for the end of the year

或是成立一些募款的專頁

so that there can be the manifestos

我很感謝你們提出這一些想法

and the thing on my spirituality

想要幫助我落實這一件（回饋）的事

and all these awesome things

但目前我資源很足夠，謝謝你們的幫忙

that I've been itching to make but I haven't been able to

然而，如果你們願意捐一塊或五塊美元 我會覺得非常感激！

so with all that being said..

然而，如果你們願意捐一塊或五塊美元 我會覺得非常感激！

this is gonna bring us to the next point which is giving back

我會把神韻的連結放在下面資訊欄， 不管你願意捐款多少錢 都很謝謝你們

I'm going to be donating what I'm making from this video

這不是業配～

to my favorite nonprofit that moves me

是我自己真的很想跟你們分享這件事！

and inspires me so deeply every single year

第十：自我愛護＝皮膚保養 （皮膚保養＝自我愛護）

this is a form of giving back for sure

我今年花了頗多時間

but I want to start giving back to causes that

學習到內在、外在的事物會互相影響

have helped me so much during my darkest times

像是我們內在的心情狀態、壓力、任何情緒

and has helped uplifted me and my soul and my existence

都跟我們吃的東西有關

I think this all sounds like pretty like.. ~ ooooo!! ~

包括我們的膚況等等，都會被影響

but dude if you guys have seen Shen Yun

還有我們擦到臉上的產品

and you probably will know what I mean

也會間接（對內在、心情）有所影響

if you guys haven't, I highly highly encourage you guys to watch it

所以呀 這些保養清潔都很重要

so the mission of Shen Yun is to revitalize 5,000 years of Chinese culture

要對我們使用在自己身上的產品放更多心思

through like singing, dancing, musical performances and..

我很高興我這一年可以學到 很多跟清潔美容相關的東西

it's so beautiful, it's so wonderful

然後認識一些品牌，像Follain

I'm gonna like, you know.. throw some clips up for you guys to see

他們很重視他們產品的原料

some of you guys have asked if I will ever start a patreon

他們保養品的成分都是100%無毒的

some of you guys have asked if I'm ever gonna do some sort of donations page

如果你有你身邊有人 或是你自己

I'm so grateful and thankful that you guys are thinking about me

正在尋找這種比較單純、乾淨的 保養品的話

and want to help me in this way

我非常推薦Follain這個品牌！！

but I do have more than enough already

沒錯～這是置入廣告，但是我真的很喜歡這個牌子

so it'll mean the world to me if you guys could donate even $1 or $5

我很欣賞他們的品牌使命

however much to Shen Yun I'll leave the link down below

還有他們正在做的事情

and of course, this isn't the sponsored message just FYI..

這是他們出的保濕組合袋

it's just.. I really want to share this with you guys okay

裡面有三個產品，很適合在冬天使用

#10 is self-care is skincare and skincare is self-care

我覺得這很適合當禮物送給別人

I spent a good amount of this year

因為他什麼年齡跟膚況都適用

learning so much about the outer inner inner outer

可以藉由贈送這個禮物 表現你對你愛的人的關懷

how our internal state, stress, being overwhelmed

因為這表示你在乎他們的健康呀

the foods we feed ourselves affects our outer world

還有他們的內心狀態

like our skin and you know.. everything out here

所以呢，如果你覺得這個組合袋很適合自己

and how also the products we apply to our face really affects

或是你想送給

everything that's going on inside as well

你親愛的家人、朋友、或任何對象

so the importance of clean beauty

歡迎點下面資訊欄裡的連結

the importance of being mindful

你可以得到55折優惠還有免運費的優待

of the different types of products we're putting on our faces

還有這個保濕組合

this year I was really happy to learn so much more about clean beauty

還有附這個小袋子喔！

and discovering brands like Follain

十一： 要捨得花時間在自己身上

who are so committed to sourcing like

即便那讓你必須先離開你愛的人

the best 100% non-toxic skincare and beauty products

因為我相信到最後

if you do have people in your life or maybe it might be yourself

那些愛你的人、瞭解你為何那麼做的人

who are looking into these cleaner types of skincare products

是會永遠在那邊支持、鼓勵你的

I would honestly highly recommend Follain

不管你的存在是藉由「實際」或「心理」上來呈現

yes, this is sponsored but I really do love this brand

即便兩者都不是，他們還是會這麼做

and I have so much respect for their mission

這也說明了

and everything it is that they're doing

感情這件事真的很重要

so there is this hydration kit that comes in a pouch

嗯..但我覺得

and there are 3 products which are perfect for winter

只要有開放的對話空間

these products make an awesome gift

只要雙方都有在嘗試..

because it's for all ages, it's for all skin types

或是...我們先把重點放在自己身上吧

it allows you to share your love for your loved ones

只要你已經盡了自己最大的力

because you are caring about their health

去維持對話、溝通的暢通

you're caring about their internal state

這很重要

so if this kit is something you feel like you can use in your life

連接到下一點 十二：我父母是我最好的朋友

or if this is something that you feel like you can gift someone

當我越長越大，我越覺得...

who is very near and dear to your heart

哇嗚！我爸媽好酷而且好好笑又好可愛

feel free to click the link down below

雖然目前

you can get over 45% off and free shipping from Follain

我還不是很擅長跟人維持感情

and you will be able to get this hydration kit

唯二我會不段保持聯絡的人

and this awesome little pouch

就是我爸媽了 我習慣跟他們通電話

so #11 is..

不論是我爸、我媽 還是兩個一起

time spent on yourself is never time wasted

只要能夠跟他們講10或15分鐘電話， 我都覺得很棒

even if that means taking some time away from your loved ones

因為.. 十三：你會甘願為你重視的事情挪出時間

because I really believe that at the end of the day

對我現在的生活來說

those who love you and those who understand what you're doing

我父母對我來說真的很重要

will be there supporting you and cheering for you

當然我的朋友、感情那些關係也很重要

regardless if you can be physically or mentally present

但是當你長越大，你會漸漸了解

or even if you're not physically mentally present for a while..

你擁有的時間會越來越少

that being said..

所以你可以發現，你花費最多時間做的事

relationships are also really important

就代表你越在乎那些人事物

um.. but I really do believe that

因此，知道哪些事對自己很重要 是很重要的

as long as there's open line of communications

你才能好好的善用時間 在那些你珍惜、重視的事物上

as long as both parties.. both sides are trying

希望你們聽得懂我的意思

or I think you know.. let's just focus on ourself

下一點是好奇心！ （十四：保持好奇心）

as long as you're trying your best

我認為，是「好奇心」幫助我能走到今天這一天

to keep that line of communication open

這些好奇心包括...

it's really important

我會思考我創造的影片 可能需要放入哪些內容

which brings me to #12 which is..

還有我會想像這世界會變成什麼樣子

my parents are my best friends

如果有更多人願意談論這些話題

the older I'm getting the more I'm just like ..

還有願意分享這些比較深、貼近自己的東西

wow! they're so cool and they're so funny and they're so cute

我不知道為什麼

as of right now in my life

但是我們的社會不習慣每個人分享這類的事

I'm not the best at keeping in touch with people

每當我們遭遇低潮、產生負面情緒時

the only people that I keechup.. keep up with..

我們會覺得這是不對的

keep in touch with.. keep touch with..

然而更奇怪的是，我們會避免談論這些事

umm..

我常在想如果大家更願意跟彼此談論這些事 世界或許會變得不一樣

are my parents like I call mom and dad

總而言之，我認為好奇心是一個很重要的性格

either mom or dad or both

而這是可以培養學習的

everyday on my commute home

好奇心不像IQ是與生俱來固定的

even if I get to talk to them for 10 minutes or 15 minutes

雖然有時你撥出一定程度的好奇心

and I just feel like you'll make time for what's most important

他達到某個程度就會消失

and as of right now in my life it's like yeah..

但你可以嘗試對世界產生更多好奇心

my parents are what's most important

更積極地想了解這個世界

and of course my friends, relationships, like everyone else that's important as well

了解身邊的人、事、物

but the older you get the more you also realize that

所以呢...保持你的好奇心吧