Name: 如何掌握你的情緒｜情商 (how to master your emotions | emotional intelligence)
Uploaded: 2021-01-14T08:17:28.000Z
Duration: 8 min 15 s

頻率副詞

It's sometimes referred to as the spirit or the breath of life.

有時被認為是生命的靈魂和氣息。

It prescribes our actions and colors our world.

它會決定我們的行為和彩繪我們的世界。

The one who can master the emotions can master actions,

可以控制情緒的人，能控制他們的行為；

and the one who masters actions, is the master of all future realities.

而可以控制行為的人，就能掌控現實和未來。

Today we look at the stories of 2 different men, 2 different world views, 2 different

今天我們要來看兩個不同人的故事，兩個不同世界的觀點、

2 different goals, and, ultimately, 2 different paths.

不同的目標，最終，帶出兩條不同的道路。

He belives that there are two kinds of people in the world: the conquerors and the conquered.

他認為世界上有兩種人：勝利者以及失敗者

If you want to be great, you have to become a conqueror.

如果你想要卓越，你必須成為勝利者。

It's a dog eat dog world, and only the fit survive.

這是個狗咬狗的世界，唯有適者生存。

You have to determine who will conquer with you and whom you must conquer.

你必須決定誰是你的夥伴，誰是你的敵人。

亞歷山大就像孩子一樣讀許多書。

He fell in love with Greek heroes who displayed the highest virtues: courage and bravery.

他迷上了希臘英雄們身上崇高的特質：大膽及英勇。

He didn't have much as a kid and had to work hard for everything he had.

他沒有孩子有的多，也必須很努力得到他有的一切。

This led him to believe that a persons life is the outcome of their actions and that they

這讓他相信一個人的生活如何取自於他們的行為，並且

must take complete responsibility for what happens to them.

對於發生在身上的事他們都必須負完全的責任。

Physically and intellectually, he held himself to incredibly high standards.

不論是身體還是意念上，他讓自己提升到非常高的標準。

There's no one he wanted to conquer more than himself, each and every day.

每一天，他唯一想要戰勝的就是他自己。

有一天，他遇到了一個流浪漢。

Alexander knew what he was seeing: a conquered man.

亞歷山大知道他看見了什麼：一個失敗的男人。

How could this man let himself be conquered so badly?

這個男人怎麼能讓自己這麼慘？

How many mistakes must he have made to end up in this position?

他做了多少的錯誤造成他現在這個結果？

Why doesn't he take steps to dig himself out of this hole?

為什麼他不想辦法讓自己脫離困境？

相反地，他卻選擇了一種怠惰的方式。

He's trying to take from those who worked hard for what they have.

他看見有些人辛苦工作得到他們要的一切。

Those who made good decisions should not be punished by those who made bad decisions.

而那些做正確決定的人不該被那些做錯事的人懲罰。

Alexander knew that if the man wanted to eat, he needed to learn how to get fish

亞歷山大覺得，如果那位流浪漢想要吃東西，他就得學習如何捕魚，

他對於這男人的軟弱感到憤怒。

“This man won't get a penny from me”, he thought to himself,

「這人不會從我身上得到任何一毛錢。」他心裡想著，

“that would only enable his destructive behaviors and poor attitude towards life.

「那只會讓他生命中繼續有不好的行為和態度。

By suffering he'll learn or he'll die; that's the way the world works.”

在痛苦中，他可以學習，也可以死去，世界就是這麼運作。」

He believes that there are two kinds of people in the world: those who can help and those

他認為世界上有兩種人：可以幫助人的，

His father taught him that the highest good is to serve those who have nothing,

他的父親教導他，最棒的一件事，就是幫助那些什麼也沒有的人，

Life is difficult, and those who have should serve those who have not.

人生很難，而富足的人應該要幫助缺乏的人。

約瑟夫像個孩子一樣看許多書。

He fell in love with various spiritual leaders who loved all and lived to serve.

他非常欣賞許多宗教領袖，他們愛人，並為了服務他人而活。

He grew up quite well off and always felt indebted to those who didn't.

他出生環境較富足，而他對於那些貧窮的人心裡有負擔。

He felt lucky to have everything that he did.

有一天，他遇到了一位流浪漢。

Joseph knew what he was seeing: a completely underserved man.

約瑟夫知道他看見了什麼：一個

“Imagine how much we have failed as a society to let someone get to this point,” he thought

「我們的社會是多麼地失敗，以至於他今天有這樣的結果。」他想著，

to himself, “life is so difficult and full of suffering and based on luck,

「人生這麼困難、充滿著痛苦，而基於運氣，

that anyone of us could end up in his position.”

任何一個人都可能有這樣的結果。」

He grabbed all the money he had in his pocket and handed it to the man.

他掏出口袋裡所有的錢，然後給了那位流浪漢。

Both men had unique worldviews shaped by their past experiences.

兩個人因過去的經驗，塑造出不同的世界觀。

They both percieved the same man in a different light.

他們都是看著同樣一位男子，但卻有不同的觀點。

Where one saw a weak man, the other saw a forsakened man.

一個看見的是懦弱的人，另一個看見的是被拋棄的人。

Their perceptions led them to feel different emotions.

他們的想法會帶出不同的情緒。

There emotions were heavily affected by what they thought they were seeing.

他們的情緒會被他們認為所看見的事情深深影響著。

In actuality, both men knew nothing about the homeless man,

事實上，兩個人對於流浪漢都是一無所知，

and they have no idea what led him to his position.

他們也都不知道是什麼原因導致他這樣。

From a young age, both men were surrounded by an invisible structure

從小，兩個人就被無形的架構包圍著，

The knowledge they grabbed from this structure allows them to navigate the world.

他們會用這架構中得到的知識駕馭這世界。

Alex grew up in a structure of personality responsibility, of strength & weakness.

亞歷山大在一個人格責任、強勢弱勢的結構中成長。

他只能用這樣的方式看待每一個人。

Joseph grew up in a structure of collective responsibility, of the needy & the fortunate.

約瑟夫則在一個共同責任、有幸運人及貧窮人的結構中長大。

對這兩個人來說，情緒是工具。

In Alex's world, anger is a useful tool that allows him to become strong

在亞歷山大的世界，生氣是有用的工具，這能幫助他變得更強壯，

In Joseph's world, compassion is a useful tool that allows you to become a giver

在約瑟夫的世界裡，憐憫是有用的工具，能讓他成為一個給予者，

One might wonder, if you could change the invisible structure that surrounds these men,

有人可能想知道，如果改變了他們所處那無形的結構，

if they reversed the books they read or the family that they had,

如果他們所讀的課本、他們的家庭改變了，

would they perceive the world differently?

If they percieve the world differently, would they feel differently?

當他們看世界的方式不同了，他們的感受也會不同嗎？

The master of emotions, then, is the one who can alter the invisible structure around them.

情緒大師，便是一個能改變這些無形結構的角色。

This allows them to gather a diverse set of concepts which allows them

這可以讓他們收集不同的理念，讓他們

to see the same scenario in different ways.

用不一樣的方法去看同樣的場景。

They would be neither Alexander or Joseph.

他們不會是亞歷山大也不是約瑟夫

They could become either one depending on the circumstances.

根據情況也可能只有其中一個。

You'd probably say a bunch of 3/4 circles and a square.

你可能看到了一些四分之三的圓還有一個正方形。

Technically, there's actually no square there.

但技術上來說，這裡沒有正方形。

It's simply a byproduct of how the 3/4 circles are arranged.

這單純是四分之三的圓型排列後呈現出的形狀。

But that doesn't change the fact that you'll always see it there

because you're familiar with the concept of a square.

因為你對正方形有熟悉的概念。

If you never learned what a square was, you'd never see it there in the image.

如果你沒有學過正方形長這樣，你永遠不會在這圖片裡看到它。

There's a layer of meaning hidden in the negative space.

在負空間中這隱藏了另一層涵義。

Emotional mastery is about perceiving multiple layers of meaning in the negative space of life.

情緒掌握是指在生活的負空間裡看見不同層面的意義。

It's about seeing all of the potential realities that could exist.

它是指看見有可能存在的事實。

It's about looking at a homeless man and seeing that his position could be a byproduct

當看見一個流浪漢，你可能看到的是

of his personal decisions or the byproduct of a cultural failure.

他所做的決定帶來的結果，又或是受文化的失敗影響。