My name is Emma, and in today's video we are going to talk about something very, very important

我的名字是艾瑪，在今天的視頻中，我們是。 要談的東西非常，非常重要

in English, and that is small talk.

在英語中，那是小打小鬧。

Okay?

好嗎？

So, I'm first going to talk about: What is small talk?

那麼，我先來談談。什麼是... 閒聊？

And then I'm going to talk about the good things to do in order to make good small talk,

然後，我要談談好的。 的事情，才能做好閒聊。

and the don'ts - the things we don't do when we're making small talk.

和不要 - 我們不做的事情，當 我們在閒聊

Okay, so first of all, what is "small talk"?

好吧，首先，什麼是 "閒話"？

Very good question.

非常好的問題。

So, I've written some question words up here: "What?", "Who?", "Where/When?", "Why?", and

所以，我在這裡寫了一些疑問詞。 "什麼？"，"誰？"，"在哪裡/什麼時候？"，"為什麼？"，還有... ...

"How?"

"怎麼說？"

So, what is "small talk"?

那麼，什麼是 "小題大做 "呢？

"Small talk" is a type of conversation.

"閒談 "是一種談話方式。

It's conversation we make with people we don't know that well.

這就是我們和不認識的人的對話。 這一點很清楚。

Okay?

好嗎？

So, it's conversation we make when we don't really know people that well.

所以，這是我們在沒有的情況下進行的對話。 真的那麼瞭解人家。

We use small talk not with our family, not with our friends; we use small talk with strangers

我們用小話不是和家人，不是 與朋友閒聊，與陌生人閒聊。

- with people we don't know.

- 與我們不認識的人。

We use it with acquaintances.

我們和熟人一起用。

And for those of you who don't know, "acquaintance" is somebody you know, but not really well.

對於那些不知道的人來說，"熟人"。 是你認識的人，但不是很好。

So, for example, your neighbour might be an acquaintance.

所以，舉例來說，你的鄰居可能是一個。 熟人。

Your friend's friend might be an acquaintance.

你朋友的朋友可能是熟人。

So, with strangers, with acquaintances, people you know their name but you don't really know

所以，對陌生人，對熟人，對人 名不見經傳

them well.

他們好。

With your co-workers, with your boss, with your neighbours, with the clerk at the store

與你的同事、與你的老闆、與 鄰居，與店員在一起

maybe - if you like to go to a cafe, you might use it with the person who works at the cafe.

也許--如果你喜歡去咖啡館，你可能會。 與在咖啡館工作的人一起使用。

So, small talk is for people you don't know that well.

所以，閒聊是給不認識的人的 那麼好。

So, where and when?

那麼，在哪裡，什麼時候？

We've already talked of a couple of examples.

我們已經談了幾個例子。

Have you ever been on an elevator, and everybody's look at their phone; nobody's making eye contact?

你有沒有坐過電梯，而每個人的 看自己的手機；沒有人進行眼神交流？

A lot of people will make small talk on elevators.

很多人都會在電梯上閒聊。

At parties.

在聚會上。

We use small talk at parties.

我們在聚會上用的是閒聊。

We use them when we're in line ups; sometimes we talk to people near us.

我們在排隊的時候就會用到它們；有時候 我們和附近的人交談。

We use them at conferences when we're in business or academics.

我們做生意的時候，在會議上都會用到這些東西 或學術界。

We use them in our classes.

我們在班級裡使用它們。

When you have a classmate, you don't know them that well, you would probably use small

當你有一個同學，你不知道。 你可能會用小的

talk.

說話。

And there are many, many other situations you use small talk.

還有很多很多其他情況 你用閒聊。

So, why do we use small talk?

那麼，我們為什麼要用小話呢？

Well, number one, we want to be friendly.

好吧，第一，我們要友好。

Okay?

好嗎？

When we meet somebody, we don't want to seem rude, we don't want to seem unfriendly; we

當我們遇到一個人，我們不希望看起來 粗魯，我們不想顯得不友好；我們

want to seem friendly, so we use small talk.

想要顯得友好，所以我們用閒聊。

We use small talk to meet new people.

我們用閒聊來認識新朋友。

A lot of students, when they come to other countries, they want to meet new people.

很多學生，當他們來到其他的 國家，他們想認識新的人。

A good way to do that is by using small talk.

一個好的方法就是利用小話。

We want to not feel uncomfortable.

我們希望不感到不舒服。

Okay?

好嗎？

We want to feel comfortable; not uncomfortable.

我們要的是舒服，而不是不舒服。

If, for example, you're in an elevator and nobody's talking, it makes everybody feel

比如說，如果你在電梯裡，而... 沒人說話，這讓大家覺得

a little bit uncomfortable.

有點不舒服。

Small talk could make that situation feel more comfortable.

閒聊可以讓這種情況感覺 更舒適。

We also use small talk to make other people feel comfortable.

我們還用小話讓別人 感到舒服。

Okay?

好嗎？

We're trying to make a connection with other people and make them feel comfortable, too.

我們想和其他的人建立聯繫。 人，讓他們也感到舒服。

All right?

好嗎？

So, key point: Small talk we use for people we don't know that well; we use it for strangers,

所以，關鍵點。閒話我們用在人身上 我們並不瞭解，我們用它來對付陌生人。

acquaintances, neighbours.

熟人、鄰居。

Do we use it for family and friends?

我們是否用於親朋好友？

Not really.

不見得

We use it for many different types of situations, and we use it for multiple reasons.

我們將它用於許多不同類型的情況。 而我們使用它有多種原因。

So now I'm going to teach you some great ways to make small talk.

所以現在我就教你一些好方法 來閒聊。

Okay, so remember small talk is for everybody.

好吧，所以記住，閒聊是每個人都有的。

So, we want to keep the conversation easy, and things everybody can talk about.

所以，我們要保持對話的輕鬆。 和大家可以談論的事情。

Okay?

好嗎？

So, what are some things that would make great small talk?

那麼，有哪些東西可以成為偉大的。 閒聊？

Well, first of all, I want you to imagine you're at a party and you don't know anyone,

好吧，首先，我想讓你想象一下： 你在一個黨，你不知道任何人。

and you want to talk to somebody.

你想和別人說話。

Here are some great things you could say.

這裡有一些你可以說的好話。

So, to start, you can talk about the place you're in or the venue.

所以，首先，你可以談談這個地方。 你在或場地。

Okay?

好嗎？

So, for example, if music is playing, you can just say to someone: "Oh, I love this

所以，舉例來說，如果正在播放音樂，你就會 可以只是對別人說，"哦，我喜歡這個

song", and that can start a conversation.

歌"，就能引發話題。

Or maybe you can say: "What a great apartment this is" or "Isn't that such a beautiful painting?

或者你可以說，"這房子真不錯 這是 "或 "這幅畫太美了吧？

You know, it's such a nice painting."

你知道嗎，這幅畫真不錯。"

So, what you can do is you can start by talking about the place you're in; whatever is around

所以，你可以做的是，你可以先從談論 你所處的地方，不管是什麼地方。

you.

你。

"You know, this restaurant, it's so busy; it's packed" is another thing you could say.

"你知道，這家餐廳，它是如此的忙碌。 "人滿為患 "是另一種說法。

So, you can talk about the place you're in.

所以，你可以談談你所處的地方。

Another good thing to talk about, if you want to start a conversation, if you want to start

另一個好談的事情，如果你想。 開始對話，如果你想開始。

small talk, you can compliment somebody.

閒聊，你可以讚美某人。

So, for example: "Wow, I love your earrings.

所以，比如說，"哇，我喜歡你的耳環，

Where did you get them from?"

你從哪裡弄來的？"

Or: "What a beautiful shirt.", "I love your purse.", "That's such a nice scarf."

或者："好漂亮的襯衫。"、"我喜歡你的。 錢包。"，"這是一個如此漂亮的圍巾。"

Okay?

好嗎？

So, if you compliment someone, you can ask them where they bought it from, and that can

所以，如果你讚美一個人，你可以要求 他們從哪裡買來的，而這能

open up a conversation.

開啟話題。

Another good thing you can use for small talk is you can talk about your connections to

另一個可以用來哈拉的好東西 是你可以談論你的關係到

people in the area.

該地區的人。

So, for example, if you're at a party, you might want to know how the person knows the

所以，舉例來說，如果你是在一個聚會上，你 可能想知道這個人是怎麼知道的

host of the party.

黨的主人。

So, you might ask: "So, how do you know the host?", "How do you know Frank?", "How do

那麼，你可能會問："那麼，你怎麼知道的？ 主人？"、"你怎麼認識弗蘭克？"、"你怎麼

you know Amy?", "How do you know my sister?"

你認識艾米嗎？"，"你怎麼認識我妹妹？"

Okay?

好嗎？

So, this just establishes how you...

所以，這只是建立你如何... ...

How the person fits into your life.

這個人如何融入你的生活。

So, it's a really good question to ask if you're at a party, if you're at any type of

所以，這是一個非常好的問題，如果你問 你在一個黨，如果你在任何類型的。

event.

事件。

You can also ask: "Do you know many people here?"

你也可以問："你認識很多人嗎？ 這裡？"

If yes: "Who do you know here?"

如果是："你在這裡認識誰？"

Okay?

好嗎？

Another good question you can ask is you can ask people where they're from.

你可以問的另一個好問題是，你可以 問人家從哪裡來。

So, this I'm calling location.

所以，這個我叫定位。

You can ask them: "Oh, are you from Toronto?" if you're in Toronto.

你可以問他們。"哦，你是多倫多人嗎？" 如果你是在多倫多。

If you're in Paris, you can ask them: "Are you from Paris?"

如果你在巴黎，你可以問他們。"你是 你從巴黎來？"

If they say: "Yes", you can ask them: "What neighbourhood did they grow up in?"

如果他們說："是"，你可以問他們："是的"，你可以問他們："什麼？ 他們是在什麼地方長大的？"

If they say: "No", you can say: "Where are you from?

如果他們說："不"，你可以說："不"，你可以說："你在哪？ 你從

You know, how long have you lived here for?

你知道，你在這裡住了多久？

You know, what do you think of this city?"

你知道，你覺得這個城市怎麼樣？"

So these are types of questions you can ask about a city or a location you're in.

所以，這些問題是你可以問的類型 關於你所在的城市或地點。

These all make for great small talk topics.

這些都是很好的閒聊話題。

So, let's look at some more.

那麼，我們再來看看一些。

Another great thing you can talk about, another great topic for small talk is asking somebody

你可以談的另一件大事，另一件 閒聊的好話題是問別人

for recommendations.

徵求建議。

Okay?

好嗎？

So, for example, if you're at a party and, you know, you've already said hello, you can

所以，舉例來說，如果你在一個聚會上，並且。 你知道，你已經打過招呼了，你可以。

ask them: "I'm new to this city.

問他們。"我是新到這個城市的，

Anything you would recommend to see?"

你有什麼想推薦給我看的嗎？"

Or: "Anything you would recommend to do?"; "I'm new to this neighbourhood" - maybe you've

或者："你有什麼想推薦的事情嗎？"。 "我是新來的"--也許你已經...

just moved to a new neighbourhood.

剛搬到一個新的社區。

So, it's always good to ask people for recommendations and suggestions on what to do.

所以，請大家推薦總是好的。 並提出建議。

You might ask them: "What's a good restaurant in this city?", "Do you have a favourite restaurant?"

你可以問他們，"有什麼好的餐廳 在這個城市？"，"你有喜歡的餐廳嗎？"

You know, and then...

你知道，然後...

The purpose of this is it can lead to other topics.

目的是它可以導致其他的 題。

So, this is a way to open up conversation.

所以，這是一種打開話題的方式。

You might ask: "What's a good coffee shop?", "What's a good cafe?"

你可能會問："什麼是好的咖啡店？"。 "什麼是好的咖啡館？"

So this is a really good thing to do.

所以這是一件非常好的事情。

Sometimes we, in small talk-it's very simple-we just want to know what somebody does for work.

有時候，我們在閒聊時--很簡單--我們。 只是想知道某人是怎麼工作的。

So, we might ask them: "So, what do you do for a living?", "Are you a student?", "Where

所以，我們可以問他們，"那麼，你是做什麼的 謀生？"，"你是學生嗎？"，"在哪裡。

do you work?"

你工作嗎？"

Okay?

好嗎？

Very common questions we ask in small talk.

很常見的問題，我們在閒聊中問。

We talk often about weather, especially for those elevator situations or if you're in

我們經常談論天氣，特別是對於 這些電梯的情況下，或如果你在。

a line up and, you know, there's an older person in front of you, a lot of the times

一行人，你知道，有一個老的。 面前的人，很多時候

we talk about weather.

我們談論的是天氣。

So, you might ask...

所以，你可能會問...

Or you might even just say a comment: "What a beautiful day.", "What a horrible day.",

或者你甚至可能只是說一句話。"什麼 一個美麗的一天。"，"多麼可怕的一天。"。

"What a snowy day.", "What a cold day.", "What a hot day."

"好大的雪"、"好冷的天"、"好 大熱天的。"

Now, this is really good to talk about if you're in a country where the weather changes

現在，這是很好的談論，如果。 你在一個天氣變化無常的國家。

a lot.

很多。

So, the US, this is great; Canada, England.

所以，美國，這個很好；加拿大，英國。

But if you're in a really hot country where the weather is always hot and always the same,

但是，如果你在一個非常炎熱的國家，在那裡。 天氣總是很熱，總是一樣的。

then weather is not really the best subject.

那麼天氣其實並不是最好的主題。

It's good to choose weather if it actually does change a lot.

選擇天氣是好的，如果它實際 確實變化很大。

Another example: "Can you believe the weather today?

另一個例子是："你能相信天氣嗎？"你能相信天氣嗎？ 今天？

It's so beautiful out."

外面真美啊。"

Okay?

好嗎？

So, this is a great thing you can talk about, and this leads to other conversation topics.

所以，這是你可以談論的好事情。 並由此引出其他話題。

Sports and movies, or hobbies are also great small talk topics.

運動和電影，或者愛好也是很好的。 閒聊話題。

So, you might ask somebody: "What sports do you follow?"

所以，你可能會問某人，"什麼運動 你跟嗎？"

Maybe there's a local team.

也許有一個當地的團隊。

Maybe you live in a city where there's a local hockey team, or a soccer team, or a baseball

也許你住在一個城市，那裡有一個當地的。 曲棍球隊、足球隊、棒球隊

team, and you can ask the person: "Oh, did you watch the hockey game last night?", "Did

隊，你可以問那個人。"哦，有沒有 你昨晚看冰球比賽了嗎？"、"有沒有

you watch the soccer game last night?

你看了昨晚的足球比賽嗎？

What did you think?"

你覺得怎麼樣？"

Or you can ask them about movies: "Have you seen any good movies lately?", "What kind

或者你也可以問他們關於電影的問題："你是否有 最近看了什麼好電影嗎？"、"什麼樣的？

of movies do you like?"

你喜歡什麼電影？"

So, these are all great questions.

所以，這些都是很好的問題。

And remember, with all of these questions, these are just openings.

記住，有了這些問題。 這些都只是開口。

So, the purpose of this is you want to make the conversation longer.

所以，這樣做的目的是你想讓 談話時間更長。

The way to do this is to ask more questions.

辦法就是多問。

Ask questions about the other person.

詢問有關對方的問題。

These are just ways to start small talk.

這些只是開始閒聊的方式。

Now I'm going to tell you about some things you should not do when you're making small

現在，我將告訴你一些事情。 你不應該做的，當你做的小

talk.

說話。

Okay?

好嗎？

The don'ts of small talk.

閒聊的不要。

Okay, so the point of small talk is to have light, easy conversation.

好了，所以閒聊的重點是有 輕鬆，輕鬆的交談。

I'm now going to tell you some things that are not good topics for small talk, and I'll

我現在要告訴你一些事情，就是 都不是什麼好的閒聊話題，而且我也會

tell you why.

告訴你為什麼。

The first one is religion.

第一個是宗教。

Okay?

好嗎？

An example is: "Have you accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour yet?"

一個例子是："你是否接受了耶穌基督？"你是否接受了耶穌基督 作為你的主和救世主呢？"

This is not good small talk.

這可不是什麼好的閒話。

Asking somebody about religion: "Have they converted to this?"

問某人關於宗教的問題。"他們有沒有 改造成這樣？"

You know, telling them they should convert to somebody.

你知道，告訴他們，他們應該改變 給某人。

It really...

它真的...

It can really annoy people, maybe people already are that religion but they don't want to talk

這真的會讓人很煩，也許人們已經。 是那個宗教，但他們不願意說。

about it, and you might even offend somebody; you might make somebody angry or upset, so

關於它，你甚至可能會得罪人。 你可能會讓別人生氣或不高興，所以

we try to avoid religion.

我們儘量避免宗教。

Now, if you're at a church making small talk, religion might be fine; or if you're at a

現在，如果你在教堂裡閒聊， 宗教可能是好的；或者如果你在一個。

mosque, or if you're at a synagogue, or a temple - it's fine to talk about religion

清真寺，或如果你在一個猶太教堂，或一個 寺廟------談論宗教是可以的。

depending on the context.

根據上下文的不同。

So, if you're in a place of worship - yeah, religion's great; but if you're at a party,

所以，如果你在一個崇拜的地方 - 是的。 宗教是偉大的；但如果你在聚會上。

at a conference, in the elevator - it's not usually good to talk about religion.

在會議上，在電梯裡--這不是... 一般來說，談論宗教是好事。

Politics.

政治。

Now, politics is sometimes okay to talk about in small talk.

現在，政治有時是可以談論的 在閒聊中。

If you ask somebody politely: "Oh, are you going to vote?", "Who do you think is going

如果你禮貌地問某人，"哦，你是 嗎？"、"你認為誰會？

to win the election?"

來贏得選舉？"

"You know, which party do you like?"

"你知道，你喜歡哪個黨嗎？"

That's okay.

那就好

But if you become aggressive, this is when politics is no good for small talk.

但是，如果你變得咄咄逼人，這是當 政治是不好小題大做的。

So, for example, if you tell somebody: "Oh, you know, you're voting for this person?

所以，舉例來說，如果你告訴某人，"哦， 你知道嗎，你要投給這個人？

You're so stupid.

你真笨

You shouldn't vote for this person" - that's not good small talk.

你不應該投票給這個人" - 這是 不善於閒聊。

People don't like to be told what to do, so it's good to avoid politics for the most part.

人們不喜歡被人指手畫腳，所以... ... 在大多數情況下，避免政治是好事。

And if you do bring up politics, try to be friendly about it.

如果你真的提起政治，儘量是 友好地對待它。

Money.

錢。

We don't ask people how much money they make or what their salary is.

我們不問別人賺多少錢。 或他們的工資是多少。

So, if somebody tells you about their job, don't ask: "How much money do you make?"

所以，如果有人告訴你他們的工作。 不要問："你賺多少錢？"

Even if you really, really want to know, it's not acceptable small talk.

即使你真的，真的想知道，它是。 不能接受的閒話。

Appearance.

外觀：

Talking about somebody's weight or their looks - this is not good small talk.

談論一個人的體重或他們的外表。 - 這可不是什麼好的閒話。

So, for example: "You see that man over there?

所以，舉個例子"你看到那邊那個人了嗎？

He's so ugly."

他太醜了。"

Okay?

好嗎？

That's not a good small talk conversation, or you know, telling somebody: "Oh, you know,

這不是一個很好的閒聊對話。 或者你知道，告訴別人，"哦，你知道，

you'd be pretty if you lost some weight."

你會很漂亮，如果你失去了一些重量。"

These are not good topics for small talk.

這些都不是閒聊的好話題。

Heavy subjects.

沉重的課題。

"Heavy subjects" are subjects that make people feel very sad and depressed.