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  • Hello.


  • My name is Emma, and in today's video we are going to talk about something very, very important

    我的名字是艾瑪,在今天的視頻中,我們是。 要談的東西非常,非常重要

  • in English, and that is small talk.


  • Okay?


  • So, I'm first going to talk about: What is small talk?

    那麼,我先來談談。什麼是... 閒聊?

  • And then I'm going to talk about the good things to do in order to make good small talk,

    然後,我要談談好的。 的事情,才能做好閒聊。

  • and the don'ts - the things we don't do when we're making small talk.

    和不要 - 我們不做的事情,當 我們在閒聊

  • Okay, so first of all, what is "small talk"?

    好吧,首先,什麼是 "閒話"?

  • Very good question.


  • So, I've written some question words up here: "What?", "Who?", "Where/When?", "Why?", and

    所以,我在這裡寫了一些疑問詞。 "什麼?","誰?","在哪裡/什麼時候?","為什麼?",還有... ...

  • "How?"


  • So, what is "small talk"?

    那麼,什麼是 "小題大做 "呢?

  • "Small talk" is a type of conversation.

    "閒談 "是一種談話方式。

  • It's conversation we make with people we don't know that well.

    這就是我們和不認識的人的對話。 這一點很清楚。

  • Okay?


  • So, it's conversation we make when we don't really know people that well.

    所以,這是我們在沒有的情況下進行的對話。 真的那麼瞭解人家。

  • We use small talk not with our family, not with our friends; we use small talk with strangers

    我們用小話不是和家人,不是 與朋友閒聊,與陌生人閒聊。

  • - with people we don't know.

    - 與我們不認識的人。

  • We use it with acquaintances.


  • And for those of you who don't know, "acquaintance" is somebody you know, but not really well.

    對於那些不知道的人來說,"熟人"。 是你認識的人,但不是很好。

  • So, for example, your neighbour might be an acquaintance.

    所以,舉例來說,你的鄰居可能是一個。 熟人。

  • Your friend's friend might be an acquaintance.


  • So, with strangers, with acquaintances, people you know their name but you don't really know

    所以,對陌生人,對熟人,對人 名不見經傳

  • them well.


  • With your co-workers, with your boss, with your neighbours, with the clerk at the store

    與你的同事、與你的老闆、與 鄰居,與店員在一起

  • maybe - if you like to go to a cafe, you might use it with the person who works at the cafe.

    也許--如果你喜歡去咖啡館,你可能會。 與在咖啡館工作的人一起使用。

  • So, small talk is for people you don't know that well.

    所以,閒聊是給不認識的人的 那麼好。

  • So, where and when?


  • We've already talked of a couple of examples.


  • Have you ever been on an elevator, and everybody's look at their phone; nobody's making eye contact?

    你有沒有坐過電梯,而每個人的 看自己的手機;沒有人進行眼神交流?

  • A lot of people will make small talk on elevators.


  • At parties.


  • We use small talk at parties.


  • We use them when we're in line ups; sometimes we talk to people near us.

    我們在排隊的時候就會用到它們;有時候 我們和附近的人交談。

  • We use them at conferences when we're in business or academics.

    我們做生意的時候,在會議上都會用到這些東西 或學術界。

  • We use them in our classes.


  • When you have a classmate, you don't know them that well, you would probably use small

    當你有一個同學,你不知道。 你可能會用小的

  • talk.


  • And there are many, many other situations you use small talk.

    還有很多很多其他情況 你用閒聊。

  • So, why do we use small talk?


  • Well, number one, we want to be friendly.


  • Okay?


  • When we meet somebody, we don't want to seem rude, we don't want to seem unfriendly; we

    當我們遇到一個人,我們不希望看起來 粗魯,我們不想顯得不友好;我們

  • want to seem friendly, so we use small talk.


  • We use small talk to meet new people.


  • A lot of students, when they come to other countries, they want to meet new people.

    很多學生,當他們來到其他的 國家,他們想認識新的人。

  • A good way to do that is by using small talk.


  • We want to not feel uncomfortable.


  • Okay?


  • We want to feel comfortable; not uncomfortable.


  • If, for example, you're in an elevator and nobody's talking, it makes everybody feel

    比如說,如果你在電梯裡,而... 沒人說話,這讓大家覺得

  • a little bit uncomfortable.


  • Small talk could make that situation feel more comfortable.

    閒聊可以讓這種情況感覺 更舒適。

  • We also use small talk to make other people feel comfortable.

    我們還用小話讓別人 感到舒服。

  • Okay?


  • We're trying to make a connection with other people and make them feel comfortable, too.

    我們想和其他的人建立聯繫。 人,讓他們也感到舒服。

  • All right?


  • So, key point: Small talk we use for people we don't know that well; we use it for strangers,

    所以,關鍵點。閒話我們用在人身上 我們並不瞭解,我們用它來對付陌生人。

  • acquaintances, neighbours.


  • Do we use it for family and friends?


  • Not really.


  • We use it for many different types of situations, and we use it for multiple reasons.

    我們將它用於許多不同類型的情況。 而我們使用它有多種原因。

  • So now I'm going to teach you some great ways to make small talk.

    所以現在我就教你一些好方法 來閒聊。

  • Okay, so remember small talk is for everybody.


  • So, we want to keep the conversation easy, and things everybody can talk about.

    所以,我們要保持對話的輕鬆。 和大家可以談論的事情。

  • Okay?


  • So, what are some things that would make great small talk?

    那麼,有哪些東西可以成為偉大的。 閒聊?

  • Well, first of all, I want you to imagine you're at a party and you don't know anyone,

    好吧,首先,我想讓你想象一下: 你在一個黨,你不知道任何人。

  • and you want to talk to somebody.


  • Here are some great things you could say.


  • So, to start, you can talk about the place you're in or the venue.

    所以,首先,你可以談談這個地方。 你在或場地。

  • Okay?


  • So, for example, if music is playing, you can just say to someone: "Oh, I love this

    所以,舉例來說,如果正在播放音樂,你就會 可以只是對別人說,"哦,我喜歡這個

  • song", and that can start a conversation.


  • Or maybe you can say: "What a great apartment this is" or "Isn't that such a beautiful painting?

    或者你可以說,"這房子真不錯 這是 "或 "這幅畫太美了吧?

  • You know, it's such a nice painting."


  • So, what you can do is you can start by talking about the place you're in; whatever is around

    所以,你可以做的是,你可以先從談論 你所處的地方,不管是什麼地方。

  • you.


  • "You know, this restaurant, it's so busy; it's packed" is another thing you could say.

    "你知道,這家餐廳,它是如此的忙碌。 "人滿為患 "是另一種說法。

  • So, you can talk about the place you're in.


  • Another good thing to talk about, if you want to start a conversation, if you want to start

    另一個好談的事情,如果你想。 開始對話,如果你想開始。

  • small talk, you can compliment somebody.


  • So, for example: "Wow, I love your earrings.


  • Where did you get them from?"


  • Or: "What a beautiful shirt.", "I love your purse.", "That's such a nice scarf."

    或者:"好漂亮的襯衫。"、"我喜歡你的。 錢包。","這是一個如此漂亮的圍巾。"

  • Okay?


  • So, if you compliment someone, you can ask them where they bought it from, and that can

    所以,如果你讚美一個人,你可以要求 他們從哪裡買來的,而這能

  • open up a conversation.


  • Another good thing you can use for small talk is you can talk about your connections to

    另一個可以用來哈拉的好東西 是你可以談論你的關係到

  • people in the area.


  • So, for example, if you're at a party, you might want to know how the person knows the

    所以,舉例來說,如果你是在一個聚會上,你 可能想知道這個人是怎麼知道的

  • host of the party.


  • So, you might ask: "So, how do you know the host?", "How do you know Frank?", "How do

    那麼,你可能會問:"那麼,你怎麼知道的? 主人?"、"你怎麼認識弗蘭克?"、"你怎麼

  • you know Amy?", "How do you know my sister?"


  • Okay?


  • So, this just establishes how you...

    所以,這只是建立你如何... ...

  • How the person fits into your life.


  • So, it's a really good question to ask if you're at a party, if you're at any type of

    所以,這是一個非常好的問題,如果你問 你在一個黨,如果你在任何類型的。

  • event.


  • You can also ask: "Do you know many people here?"

    你也可以問:"你認識很多人嗎? 這裡?"

  • If yes: "Who do you know here?"


  • Okay?


  • Another good question you can ask is you can ask people where they're from.

    你可以問的另一個好問題是,你可以 問人家從哪裡來。

  • So, this I'm calling location.


  • You can ask them: "Oh, are you from Toronto?" if you're in Toronto.

    你可以問他們。"哦,你是多倫多人嗎?" 如果你是在多倫多。

  • If you're in Paris, you can ask them: "Are you from Paris?"

    如果你在巴黎,你可以問他們。"你是 你從巴黎來?"

  • If they say: "Yes", you can ask them: "What neighbourhood did they grow up in?"

    如果他們說:"是",你可以問他們:"是的",你可以問他們:"什麼? 他們是在什麼地方長大的?"

  • If they say: "No", you can say: "Where are you from?

    如果他們說:"不",你可以說:"不",你可以說:"你在哪? 你從

  • You know, how long have you lived here for?


  • You know, what do you think of this city?"


  • So these are types of questions you can ask about a city or a location you're in.

    所以,這些問題是你可以問的類型 關於你所在的城市或地點。

  • These all make for great small talk topics.


  • So, let's look at some more.


  • Another great thing you can talk about, another great topic for small talk is asking somebody

    你可以談的另一件大事,另一件 閒聊的好話題是問別人

  • for recommendations.


  • Okay?


  • So, for example, if you're at a party and, you know, you've already said hello, you can

    所以,舉例來說,如果你在一個聚會上,並且。 你知道,你已經打過招呼了,你可以。

  • ask them: "I'm new to this city.


  • Anything you would recommend to see?"


  • Or: "Anything you would recommend to do?"; "I'm new to this neighbourhood" - maybe you've

    或者:"你有什麼想推薦的事情嗎?"。 "我是新來的"--也許你已經...

  • just moved to a new neighbourhood.


  • So, it's always good to ask people for recommendations and suggestions on what to do.

    所以,請大家推薦總是好的。 並提出建議。

  • You might ask them: "What's a good restaurant in this city?", "Do you have a favourite restaurant?"

    你可以問他們,"有什麼好的餐廳 在這個城市?","你有喜歡的餐廳嗎?"

  • You know, and then...


  • The purpose of this is it can lead to other topics.

    目的是它可以導致其他的 題。

  • So, this is a way to open up conversation.


  • You might ask: "What's a good coffee shop?", "What's a good cafe?"

    你可能會問:"什麼是好的咖啡店?"。 "什麼是好的咖啡館?"

  • So this is a really good thing to do.


  • Sometimes we, in small talk-it's very simple-we just want to know what somebody does for work.

    有時候,我們在閒聊時--很簡單--我們。 只是想知道某人是怎麼工作的。

  • So, we might ask them: "So, what do you do for a living?", "Are you a student?", "Where

    所以,我們可以問他們,"那麼,你是做什麼的 謀生?","你是學生嗎?","在哪裡。

  • do you work?"


  • Okay?


  • Very common questions we ask in small talk.


  • We talk often about weather, especially for those elevator situations or if you're in

    我們經常談論天氣,特別是對於 這些電梯的情況下,或如果你在。

  • a line up and, you know, there's an older person in front of you, a lot of the times

    一行人,你知道,有一個老的。 面前的人,很多時候

  • we talk about weather.


  • So, you might ask...


  • Or you might even just say a comment: "What a beautiful day.", "What a horrible day.",

    或者你甚至可能只是說一句話。"什麼 一個美麗的一天。","多麼可怕的一天。"。

  • "What a snowy day.", "What a cold day.", "What a hot day."

    "好大的雪"、"好冷的天"、"好 大熱天的。"

  • Now, this is really good to talk about if you're in a country where the weather changes

    現在,這是很好的談論,如果。 你在一個天氣變化無常的國家。

  • a lot.


  • So, the US, this is great; Canada, England.


  • But if you're in a really hot country where the weather is always hot and always the same,

    但是,如果你在一個非常炎熱的國家,在那裡。 天氣總是很熱,總是一樣的。

  • then weather is not really the best subject.


  • It's good to choose weather if it actually does change a lot.

    選擇天氣是好的,如果它實際 確實變化很大。

  • Another example: "Can you believe the weather today?

    另一個例子是:"你能相信天氣嗎?"你能相信天氣嗎? 今天?

  • It's so beautiful out."


  • Okay?


  • So, this is a great thing you can talk about, and this leads to other conversation topics.

    所以,這是你可以談論的好事情。 並由此引出其他話題。

  • Sports and movies, or hobbies are also great small talk topics.

    運動和電影,或者愛好也是很好的。 閒聊話題。

  • So, you might ask somebody: "What sports do you follow?"

    所以,你可能會問某人,"什麼運動 你跟嗎?"

  • Maybe there's a local team.


  • Maybe you live in a city where there's a local hockey team, or a soccer team, or a baseball

    也許你住在一個城市,那裡有一個當地的。 曲棍球隊、足球隊、棒球隊

  • team, and you can ask the person: "Oh, did you watch the hockey game last night?", "Did

    隊,你可以問那個人。"哦,有沒有 你昨晚看冰球比賽了嗎?"、"有沒有

  • you watch the soccer game last night?


  • What did you think?"


  • Or you can ask them about movies: "Have you seen any good movies lately?", "What kind

    或者你也可以問他們關於電影的問題:"你是否有 最近看了什麼好電影嗎?"、"什麼樣的?

  • of movies do you like?"


  • So, these are all great questions.


  • And remember, with all of these questions, these are just openings.

    記住,有了這些問題。 這些都只是開口。

  • So, the purpose of this is you want to make the conversation longer.

    所以,這樣做的目的是你想讓 談話時間更長。

  • The way to do this is to ask more questions.


  • Ask questions about the other person.


  • These are just ways to start small talk.


  • Now I'm going to tell you about some things you should not do when you're making small

    現在,我將告訴你一些事情。 你不應該做的,當你做的小

  • talk.


  • Okay?


  • The don'ts of small talk.


  • Okay, so the point of small talk is to have light, easy conversation.

    好了,所以閒聊的重點是有 輕鬆,輕鬆的交談。

  • I'm now going to tell you some things that are not good topics for small talk, and I'll

    我現在要告訴你一些事情,就是 都不是什麼好的閒聊話題,而且我也會

  • tell you why.


  • The first one is religion.


  • Okay?


  • An example is: "Have you accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour yet?"

    一個例子是:"你是否接受了耶穌基督?"你是否接受了耶穌基督 作為你的主和救世主呢?"

  • This is not good small talk.


  • Asking somebody about religion: "Have they converted to this?"

    問某人關於宗教的問題。"他們有沒有 改造成這樣?"

  • You know, telling them they should convert to somebody.

    你知道,告訴他們,他們應該改變 給某人。

  • It really...


  • It can really annoy people, maybe people already are that religion but they don't want to talk

    這真的會讓人很煩,也許人們已經。 是那個宗教,但他們不願意說。

  • about it, and you might even offend somebody; you might make somebody angry or upset, so

    關於它,你甚至可能會得罪人。 你可能會讓別人生氣或不高興,所以

  • we try to avoid religion.


  • Now, if you're at a church making small talk, religion might be fine; or if you're at a

    現在,如果你在教堂裡閒聊, 宗教可能是好的;或者如果你在一個。

  • mosque, or if you're at a synagogue, or a temple - it's fine to talk about religion

    清真寺,或如果你在一個猶太教堂,或一個 寺廟------談論宗教是可以的。

  • depending on the context.


  • So, if you're in a place of worship - yeah, religion's great; but if you're at a party,

    所以,如果你在一個崇拜的地方 - 是的。 宗教是偉大的;但如果你在聚會上。

  • at a conference, in the elevator - it's not usually good to talk about religion.

    在會議上,在電梯裡--這不是... 一般來說,談論宗教是好事。

  • Politics.


  • Now, politics is sometimes okay to talk about in small talk.

    現在,政治有時是可以談論的 在閒聊中。

  • If you ask somebody politely: "Oh, are you going to vote?", "Who do you think is going

    如果你禮貌地問某人,"哦,你是 嗎?"、"你認為誰會?

  • to win the election?"


  • "You know, which party do you like?"


  • That's okay.


  • But if you become aggressive, this is when politics is no good for small talk.

    但是,如果你變得咄咄逼人,這是當 政治是不好小題大做的。

  • So, for example, if you tell somebody: "Oh, you know, you're voting for this person?

    所以,舉例來說,如果你告訴某人,"哦, 你知道嗎,你要投給這個人?

  • You're so stupid.


  • You shouldn't vote for this person" - that's not good small talk.

    你不應該投票給這個人" - 這是 不善於閒聊。

  • People don't like to be told what to do, so it's good to avoid politics for the most part.

    人們不喜歡被人指手畫腳,所以... ... 在大多數情況下,避免政治是好事。

  • And if you do bring up politics, try to be friendly about it.

    如果你真的提起政治,儘量是 友好地對待它。

  • Money.


  • We don't ask people how much money they make or what their salary is.

    我們不問別人賺多少錢。 或他們的工資是多少。

  • So, if somebody tells you about their job, don't ask: "How much money do you make?"

    所以,如果有人告訴你他們的工作。 不要問:"你賺多少錢?"

  • Even if you really, really want to know, it's not acceptable small talk.

    即使你真的,真的想知道,它是。 不能接受的閒話。

  • Appearance.


  • Talking about somebody's weight or their looks - this is not good small talk.

    談論一個人的體重或他們的外表。 - 這可不是什麼好的閒話。

  • So, for example: "You see that man over there?


  • He's so ugly."


  • Okay?


  • That's not a good small talk conversation, or you know, telling somebody: "Oh, you know,

    這不是一個很好的閒聊對話。 或者你知道,告訴別人,"哦,你知道,

  • you'd be pretty if you lost some weight."


  • These are not good topics for small talk.


  • Heavy subjects.


  • "Heavy subjects" are subjects that make people feel very sad and depressed.

    "重題 "是指讓人 感到非常悲傷和沮喪。

  • Remember, you're trying to make people feel comfortable.

    記住,你要讓人們感覺到 舒適。

  • You want people to have a smile on their face during small talk.

    你希望人們臉上有笑容 閒聊時。

  • If you talk about death, disease, war, crime - this can really make people feel sad, and

    如果你說到死亡、疾病、戰爭、犯罪 - 這真的會讓人感到悲傷,而且

  • so because you don't know these people that well, it's not a good topic for small talk.

    所以,因為你不知道這些人, 好吧,這不是一個很好的話題 閒聊。

  • Gossip.


  • So, "gossip" is when we talk about somebody in a bad way when they're not there.

    所以,"八卦 "是指我們在談論某人的時候 當他們不在的時候,在一個糟糕的方式。

  • So, if you're at a party and you just meet somebody for the first time, it's not good

    所以,如果你在一個聚會上,你只是遇到了。 初次見面,不好辦

  • to start gossiping because you don't know them and it might look bad on you.

    因為不知道,所以才會說閒話。 他們,它可能看起來對你不好。

  • Okay?


  • So that's not appropriate for small talk.


  • Controversial subjects.


  • So, usually we try not to talk about abortion, you know, divorce, depending on who you're

    所以,平時我們儘量不談墮胎。 你知道,離婚,取決於你是誰。

  • talking to.


  • If you're in an elevator and you've just met somebody for the first time, you don't want

    如果你在電梯裡,而你剛認識了 第一次和別人見面,你不會想...

  • to start the conversation by talking about abortion or anything that's really controversial.

    談話的開始,談到 墮胎或任何真正有爭議的事情。

  • Also, your problems.


  • It's great to talk about your problems with your friends and your family, but when you're

    很高興能和你談談你的問題。 你的朋友和你的家人,但當你的。

  • meeting a stranger or an acquaintance for the first...

    會友 第一...

  • You know, you're meeting somebody you don't really know that well, they don't really want

    你知道,你要去見一個你不認識的人。 真的很清楚,他們並不希望

  • to know about your problems because they don't know you.

    知道你的問題,因為他們不知道 認識你。

  • So, if you start talking about your money problems, you know, you have a gambling addiction,

    所以,如果你開始談論你的錢 問題,你知道,你有一個賭博成癮。

  • you have no money left, your wife or your husband is cheating on you-okay?-you have

    你沒有錢了,你的妻子或你的。 丈夫對你不忠-好嗎-你有