字幕列表 影片播放 列印英文字幕 - Hi we're Joel and Lia. - And today is another episode of Ask yourself, which is our series where Joel and Lia go deep. - Yeah. - So, (laughing) It feels weird saying that. - I've got itchy nose. - Itchy mitchy. - Itchy mitchy. And yes, if you've noticed my voice is weird, it's caused I've got acute briconters, broconters, - Bronchitis! What is broconters? - Briconters (laughing) I've got broconters. I've got bronchitis. - You're such a prince. Joel in his Disney prince cottage in the Cotsworld, being like, I've got acute bicohonters. - Bicohonters. I've got acute pocahontas. - That's so sweet. - Anyway, I've got acute bronchitis so that's that. - Yeah, when you go to the doctors next week, please say it wrong, - Yeah, I will. - That will be amazing. - I've diagnosed myself with pocahontas. - Then just do a little cough. For anyone who saw the last episode of this, we finish every episode with the first question from this episode. So, - Which was, - Do you prefer being around men or women? Do your closest friends tend to be men or women so is that all in one go? - Interesting. - Well, what do you think? - I prefer being around men, I think. - Really? - I have a few female friends and I treasure them like when I find a female that gets on , we get on with each other really well, finding each other really funny, it's just like winner winner, chicken dinner. But, I just don't really have many. - No? - No. I've got, I got female cousins, and family members that I love being around but in general, I'd say most of my friends are men. - Yeah, yeah? It's interesting I think it might, it could be our generation as well because most of my close friends are girls. And again, when you meet a guy, someone of the same sex as you that you get along with so well is like amazing and you can't replace those relationships, but there's something being around women, I just find it more relaxing, like if you've put me in a room with loads of women, I'll be like, they're all gonna love me within like 5 minutes, like they're gonna love me. Whereas if you've put me in a room full of men for 5 minutes, I'm like, they're all gonna hate me. They're literally all gonna hate me. - And I think that because that is an ingrained thing in your mind, you now believe that that is what's true moving forward. And I kind of have left my, in the same for me, as well, I'm like, me and women, like I just don't have many female friends and that's why I don't have any many more female friends cause I've said it to myself so many times. - Exactly, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy all the time. I think also for me being bullied at school, it was always by the boys and a few girls, but mainly boys so then I'm just always like, yeah, they're just gonna hate me and they're just gonna bully me so. - It makes so much sense like, of course that, that because that has happened, you're like, you know, closer with girls. - But you know what? It used to really bother me, I was like, why do I have so many friends are girls and not guys, but actually now, I'm just like, I don't care like, I don't care if they're boy, girl, whatever you're identified with, I'm like, as long as I like you and you're a nice person and you make me laugh, that's fine. - That is so true, love that. Okay, I think I wanna skip the next one, - Okay, shall I read the next one? - Yeah you go on - So we'll skip that one. Oh, okay, this is a long one so buckle up. - Okay. - Right, while on a trip to another city your spouse or lover whether you put a ring on it or not. - In brackets, or lover. - Meets and spends the night with an exciting stranger. Given that they will never meet again and that you will not otherwise learn of the incident, would you want your partner to tell you about it, and it roles were reversed, would you reveal what you have done? - Oh my gosh. - I wanna know it all, I think I'd wanna know. Wouldn't you? - I wouldn't wanna know. - You wouldn't? - Not want to know, no, I don't wanna know. - So yeah your partner might never see those people again, - Yeah. - But it says something about their personality and their character the fact that they cheated on you. - Yeah, and I think that, that's their issue, that's their problem that they cheated on me. - Yeah, but do you still wanna be around them for doing that? You still wanna keep someone in your life that did that to you? - I think if, maybe this is really controversial, but I think if they were to deal with their own fears, anxieties and whatever they like have to deal with because they did that, then I'll be willing to stay with them if they were to willing to like learn from it, be a better person, - Yeah, but you don't know any of this. - I know, I think that's also me protecting myself from it, like if they were to do it, and then like, how would I know? Great, I think like ignorance is bliss. I'd rather not know. - I'd rather the bliss was ruined and that relationship ended and then move on with someone else, I just think it's unforgivable. I would never, ever forgive anyone that ever cheated on me. - That's good, yeah, I mean. I think I would, but, I don't think, I'm not saying I have like a partner that would, I really, really, really trust who I'm with but if it was to happen, I just wouldn't wanna know, I know it would bother me, I think it would damage me so, so much, but if I was to know, I would obviously end it. But I think if I wanted to stay in something and have it like a strong forever, I would rather not know. How funny that we're just, I just would rather not know, but I would want that person to go and deal with their, do you know what I mean, I look after my half, you look after your half. Together we're great but you've done something and you've messed up, - Yeah - I'd rather not know. - Wow, interesting. Would you tell if you'd done it? Would you tell or would you keep a secret? - Yeah, I would tell because I think if it was my beef, I'd have to end that relationship. - See I think, we're completely different, cause now I think I would probably keep it a secret, after what I've said like, I'll never forgive anyone, I'll be like, I'll just keep it a secret. If I'm never gonna see them ever again, and I'm like, I don't wanna ruin what I've got, I'd probably would just be like, I'm not gonna say anything, which is really hypocritical. - You know it's true though because I see where you're coming from because what good will it do to that person to know? Like what good would I do to my partner to inflict this information on them that's gonna probably ruin their life. - I know. - If they were that into me. - Yeah. - It's so tough, what do you guys think? Let us know. If I'm not sort of Joel's - And if you're enjoying this video, don't forget to subscribe. If you're new here, we post videos thrice weekly, and hit that Like button really helps us out. - Okay, are there people you envy enough to want to trade lives with them? Who are they? Are there people you envy enough to want to trade lives with them? - Definitely people I envy and like I'm jealous of what they've got in their life and but, yeah I'd never wanna trade lives because I'd wanna be me in their position, I wouldn't ever wanna just be them. - Yeah, I agree. There's only one Joel Wood, and that's you. There's only one, there's only one person with these fingerprints and that's me. - And that's me. - Yeah, and I also like, I think a lot of envy or jealousy comes from like, other people's achievements or other people stuff that they've like smashed it, but surely so much of that is from experiencing it yourself. Do you know what I mean? Like so much like that you gave from that. - That you've worked from it rather than just being given it. - Yeah. Imagine just swapping lives I mean like, Ah, this is amazing like I fly, I'm in a private jet. - Yeah, no exactly. - It's not gonna be fun is it? - Right next one, okay. Sorry, this is really funny. - What is it? - For an all-expense paid one week vacation anywhere in the world, would you be willing to kill a beautiful butterfly by pulling off its wings, what about stepping on a cockroach? Absolutely, of course. I'm sorry butterfly and cockroach but yeah, I would. - That is hilarious. - Isn't that funny? - I mean obviously like when you get the butterfly in your hand, you're gonna be like, oh it's so pretty, like you don't really wanna pull its wings off - But then I'd be, all-expenses holiday - All-expenses, bye. - I've already done that, I know I'm a horrible human being, loads of you are probably gonna unsubscribe because I'm admitting to this, but when I was a child, I used to love catching those flying daddy long legs, you know the ones that are flying spiders almost, I don't know if you call them the same thing, and I used to catch them, pull of their wings, pull off each leg and just leave them as a wriggling body. Awful, isn't that awful? - I can't believe you were one of those kids, only the bullies in my school did that and you aren't a bully. - I've never hurt any animals but insects, I was just like, you deserve to die. Apart from wood lice, I love wood lice. - That's so bizaare. - Isn't it weird? It's so horrible. - Don't like you, you're a spider, you deserve no legs. - Oh I hate spiders. - Okay would you be willing to murder an innocent person if it would end hunger in the world? The classic like - Which is never gonna happen, so why are we discussing it? I don't think I would, I'd feel really guilty. - You can't imagine - Imagine the guilt you'll live with, would ending all the hunger in the world, sort of like, wash away that guilt? - No. - Of killing that person. - No. I wouldn't do that for the greater good. - No. - I'll just be like, let's just leave it as it is. - We came through loads of questions today. - Okay, yeah, we're whizzing through some of them. - So the next question is what was your most enjoyable dream and what is your worst nightmare? So literally what you dream and nightmare about. What is the best and worst? - I struggle to remember my dreams but sometimes I do, but I remember there's a phase where you would literally have a dream almost every night and then the next day tell me what it was. You had so many good dreams that I almost lived my happiness through your dreams like me and Gemma Collins, - I'd wake up and be like Lia, I just dreamt - So we will be like, so we were out in awards ceremony last night and this happened then we met her and we kicked it off and now we're best friends, like, some of those dreams were amazing. - Do you know what I really want to get a book on lucid dreaming because I didn't really know what lucid dreaming was until someone explained it to me, and I was like, oh I do that all the time and they were like, what? That's really rare. - I'm not sure what it is. - So apparently it's where you can control your dreams so you know that you're dreaming, so you're like, oh cause I'm dreaming I can do anything, let's fly, and then you just start flying or you're like, and I do that all the time. Apparently it's a thing to control your subconscious brain. - You did this, used to, I don't know if you still do, where you like, think about something before bed and you know you're gonna have a dream about it. Is that basically lucid dreaming? - I think you can train yourself to do things like that but I never have like, I remember so the nightmares that I used to have, always was someone like following me with like a chainsaw or something like that, and there came a stage where I would realize that I was in a dream. And I'd be like, oh he's following me with a chainsaw, this is just a nightmare, and then I'd find a way to like, I'd find a quiet place wherever it was, if it was in a palace, if I was in a palace or like on the street in London, wherever I was I'd find a quiet place, hug my knees in like that, and then I'd wake up in the night. And I could wake myself up from the nightmare. - That's insane. They should make that, that should be a film. Like about, that's so cool. - Isn't it weird? But then the same for nice dreams, if I want to fly or something, I'm like, oh it's a dream, I can do what I want and then do it. And apparently that's like a skill and I didn't know I had it. - So much control over the dream, no, mine is not like that at all. I've had, I don't know, I just don't remember dreams very well like I remember having one loads when I was a kid, where I would always go downstairs, open up the shoe cupboard and all of the shoes I've ever wanted were in the cupboard. - Balenciagas - Prada, Gucci, the ones that look like socks. And then I would wake up from the dream, run down into the kitchen, open the shoe cupboard, and it would just be the normal shoes that were there, and I'd always be devastated. And I'd open up and be like, Mom, like it's so annoying, like I really wanted all these shoes I just dreamt about. - Cause I remember the first time I had that as well where I dreamt that I had loads of sweets, and I woke up in the morning and they weren't there and I got really upset and that's when I realized that dreams weren't real. - I used to have this dream like before school, that I'd, it was really, really close to waking up, I'd woken up, done my teeth, got ready, got dressed and ready to go, and then I'd wake up. And I'd be like, I'm ready, oh no I'm not ready, I just dreamt that I got ready. - Yeah, that's weird isn't it? - It's so annoying and that has happened loads and I dose to sleep, and then to not to have no time. - Or the relief when you've dreamt something like that and you're really late or forgotten something, and then you wake up and you're like, oh it was, it's so good. But I think you can, it is a skill, I think if you want to dream, you should do some research on it because I think there are things that you can do before bed that can enable you to dream. - That's cool. Imagine if we went to like a Dreams Specialist and they're like put stickers on us and stickers and everything, stickers all over our heads and we're like, - I do believe dreams mean stuff though, so like, I will go, one of my friends is really good at knowing what dreams mean or like interpreting what they could mean. So I often go to her if I had a really weird dream, and I'm like, I dreamt this, what does it mean? And she's like, I think it means this. - Yeah, Dad does that. He's like, did you dream about ...that means death. If you dreamt about falling, that means a certain thing, like, so I would be like, Dad, I had a dream about falling, and he'd say, ah that means this, this and this. Don't know, it's interesting though, I'm interested in dreams. - I've got one more story about that as well, - Also got a really funny one, remember when you had a go at me, you were like, Oh Lia, last night we were talking about (whispers), and then I had a dream about him. - Did you and you're like why did you give me that dream? - Exactly. - Yeah, that's the worst. Now I had a dream once where, so before RADA, which is a Drama School, where me and Lia met, I woke up on the day of my results being released from College how I did my A-levels, and I was supposed to be going to University to study Drama, and I had a dream that I didn't get in. I remember sitting at the screen and it said like, you didn't get the results, you didn't get in. And I was like, and then suddenly my dream took me somewhere to a Drama School, but I think it was, in my head it was GSA, and as I was walking around the Drama School and it was like me attending Drama School. Anyway, woke up, it was a dire result so I was like, that was a weird dream, went downstairs, checked my results, failed, didn't get in and then fast forward a year later, I was at Drama School, not at GSA but at RADA, and I was like, that's weird that I dreamt the exact thing that happened. - I love saying it in a Geordie accent, that's weird, that is weird. I was bad but, that's weird. I'm nervous by that, that's weird. - We keep saying and if you've watched our Bambino Becky collab, like we started a video with her going, I'm nervous, it's that one when we're nervous, I'm nervous. So good. - Right, I think that's enough for this episode. Come back next time guys because we love doing this, and if you haven't seen the old ones, we would link them up in the cards so you check those out, go back and watch them. - They're often titled not with Ask Yourself or Going Deep with Joel and Lia, they're titled like the juiciest thing that came up in the talks. 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