of waiting to have sex until you're married?

是有好處的嗎？

- Can't think of one.

連一個都想不到。

- How did everyone meet their husbands?

大家是如何遇到他們老公的？

- I was 10 years old, and I've been married 58 years

我當時 10 歲，而我現在已經結婚 58 年

and told my mother at 10 he was the one.

我在 10 歲的時候就告訴我媽媽，這個男人就是我老公。

- And you were right.

而你是對的。

- Uh-huh. - What made you,

－是的。是什麼讓妳

what did you like about him when you were 10?

妳在 10 歲時看中了他什麼呢？

- Well, he was cute, and he was not nice.

他很可愛，但他並不友善。

He did not like me. - So how'd you get him?

他不喜歡我。那妳是如何擄獲他的？

- He was mean to me, I'm very persuasive.

他對我很壞，我是一個非常有說服力的人。

And we both went to summer camp together.

我們一起參加暑期露營。

And I was Blue Team captain,

我當時是藍隊隊長

and he was Blue Team captain of the guys,

而他是藍隊男生隊隊長

and we were together, and it just happened from there.

而我們就自然而然地在一起了。

- And so, how did you wrangle him into your sights,

那麼，當時他對妳沒有興趣的情況下

if he wasn't interested?

妳是如何透過拌嘴讓他注意到妳的？

How did you use your womanly, 10 year old ways?

妳是如何使用妳 10 歲的女性魅力呢？

- Well, it sure wasn't sex.

可以肯定的是不是透過性行為。

He lived in Pennsylvania, I lived in New Jersey,

他住在賓夕凡尼亞州，我住在新澤西

but it just worked out.

不過那並不礙事。

- So 58 years later, you still like him?

那麼 58 年以後，妳仍然喜歡他嗎？

- I love him. - You do?

－我愛他。－是嗎？

- I sure do. - That's pretty nice.

－我還是愛他。－那真是太好了。

- He's a pain in the butt a lot of times,

很多時候他是個很難搞的人

but most men are.

但是大多數的男人不都是這樣。

You know, he's good, good guy.

你知道，他是一個很好、很好的人。

- What about you, Barb?

Barb，那妳呢？

How did you meet Harry?

妳是怎麼遇見 Harry 的？

- Taking mamba lessons, 1950, I don't know, 55,

我們在 1950，還是 1955 年時

something like that.

一起上曼波舞課時認識的

- How old were you? - 14.

－當時你幾歲？－14 歲。

- Wow!

哇！

You were taking mamba lessons at 14 years old,

妳在 14 歲時就上曼波舞課

little spicy, and so, when you saw Harry,

小辣妹呢，那麼，當你看到 Harry

how did you, did you like him immediately?

妳怎麼，妳是立刻喜歡他嗎？

Did it take you a little while?

還是過一陣子才喜歡他的？

Tell me the story.

告訴我這個故事。

- It took me, I had my eye on another guy.

－我一開始喜歡的是另一個男生

- You did? - But, he, Harry liked me.

－是嗎？－不過 Harry 那時就喜歡我了。

And he was very persistent, you know?

而且妳知道，他很執著

And-- - So he wore you down?

然後呢--- 所以他消磨了妳的意志？

- Yeah, but not, it didn't take that long.

是啊，不過，他並沒有花很長的時間。

A few months.

幾個月吧。

- And you were 14 when you met him,

妳遇見他的時候是 14 歲

and how old were you when you married him?

那妳和他結婚的時候是幾歲？

- 18. - Wow.

－18。－哇。

- Yeah, that's how we got be married so long.

對啊，所以我們結婚的時間才會這麼長。

- Wow.

哇。

- 'Cause I'm very young, you know.

因為我還是那麼年輕，對嗎。

- [Rose] How 'bout you, Lola?

[Rose] 那麼 Lola 妳呢？

How did you meet your husband,

妳是如何遇到妳的老公

and how old were you?

那時妳幾歲？

- I've been married 67 years,

我已經結婚 67 年了

but we did meet a year before that,

我們是 68 年前遇見的

and I dated other guys, and he dated other women,

那時我和其他的男人約會，他和其他的女人約會

and finally, we got together.

但最終，我們在一起。

Finally?

最終？

How old were you? - Finally, finally.

妳那時候幾歲？－最終，最終。

I was 17 when we got together.

我們在一起的時候我是 17 歲。

- Yeah, finally, you guys got together.

最後你們終於在一起。

17, after all that time.

17，經過漫長的等待。

- And we lived in the same neighborhood.

我們住在同一區。

Actually, probably a mile apart, but we had mutual friends.

其實有大約一英哩的距離，但是我們有共同朋友。

And we had one particular friend that thought

我們有一個特別的朋友認為

that we were gonna be an item,

我們適合談戀愛

and she introduced us, and that's how it all started.

於是她介紹我們認識，我們就是那樣開始的。

- And what did you think when you first met him?

當妳第一次和他見面時妳覺得如何？

What was the first thing you thought?

妳想的第一件事是什麼？

- God, he's good looking.

老天，他長得真帥。

God, he's good looking, that's a--

老天，他長得真帥，那是個--

- He was, he was really good looking,

他是啊，他真的長得很帥

and he was, my mother was so happy,

我媽媽非常地開心

'cause he was a nice Jewish boy.

因為他是一個很好的猶太籍男孩。

And-- - Is this a Jewish Mahj group?

這是一個猶太人的麻將團體嗎？

- It happens to be.

－沒錯。

- And then I was 20 when we got married, and he was 21,

－接著我在 20 歲時我們結婚了，當時他是 21 歲

and it's been a beautiful marriage,

這是一段美麗的婚姻

and we're very happy.

直到現在我們還是很快樂

- [Rose] That's great.

－[Rose] 那真是太棒了。

- I'm gonna start crying. - Yeah, I was, too.

－我要哭了。－是啊，我也想哭了。

- And Grandma, you wanna tell us the story

那麼奶奶，妳想和我們分享妳

of how you met Grandpa?

遇見爺爺的故事嗎？

- Well, he picked me up on the beach,

是這樣的，他在海灘上搭訕我

and never let me wear that bathing suit again.

從此以後再也不讓我穿泳裝了。

That was a winner.

他是一個勝利者啊。

- Tell us the story, Gram.

奶奶，告訴我們妳的故事吧。

- 18, just came out to California,

18 歲時我去到加州

to go to UCLA, I think I had been in town two days,

的加利福尼亞大學，我記得我待在城裡兩天的時間

you know, and he walked over,

然後他走過來

and asked me my phone number,

和我要了我的電話號碼

he didn't write it down, and I was so annoyed.

他並沒有把號碼寫下來，當時我覺得很生氣。

I thought, well why did he bother to ask?

我想，那他問幹嘛？

That's so rude, you know?

那是多麼失禮的事啊

So it was three months til I got a phone call.

我在 3 個月後接到了一通電話。

- Ooh. - Which I always remember,

－噢。－我會永遠記得

because if a guy doesn't call me

因為如果一個男人 2 個禮拜

for two weeks, I'm like, forget it, he's trash.

都不打電話給我，我會想，算了吧，他是個垃圾。

I'm like, oh, wait, Grandpa took three months with Grandma.

我心想，哦，等一下，爺爺花了 3 個月的時間才打給奶奶。

- [Barb] If he didn't write it down,

－[Barb] 如果他沒寫下來

did he remember the phone number?

他怎麼記得電話號碼？

- He memorized it. - Oh my gosh.

－他背下來的。－哦我的老天啊。

- By the next day, I would've forgotten it.

是我的話，隔天就忘了。

- [Barb] Me too.

-[Barb] 我也是。

- Well, you know, he was bright.

－妳知道，他是很聰明的。

- And Grandma, how long did it take you

那麼奶奶，妳花了多久的時間

to take a shine to Grandpa?

才喜歡上爺爺？

- You know, I told my mom, I said, you know,

妳知道嗎，我告訴我媽媽，我說，

I think I'm gonna date him until I get a smile.

我想我會持續和他約會直到我得到一個笑容。

He was so serious, I couldn't coax a smile.

他非常的嚴肅，我很難騙到一個笑容。

I said, I'll see, I'll get a smile,

我說，我看看，我得到一個笑容

and then I'm done.

就不用再約會了。

But by then, it was too late.

但是到了那個時候，一切都太遲了。

- And tell me about you, Connie.

Connie，告訴我妳的故事。

- I've been married 56 years the second time around.

我第二段婚姻維持了 56 年。

- Impressive! - The first time was 10 years,

－令人敬佩啊！－第一段維持了 10 年

and I got married at 17.

那時我是 17 歲。

- Oh, wow. - Which was too young.

－哦，哇。－太年輕了。

- And how did you meet your second husband?

那麼妳是怎麼遇見妳的第二任老公的呢？

- We were in a group of friends, and he got divorced,

我們和一群朋友一起，他離婚

and I got divorced.

我也離婚。

- And how'd you know you liked him?

那妳怎麼知道妳喜歡上他的？

- Oh, I knew right away.

哦，我立刻就知道了。

- What was it?

是為什麼呢？

Was it the eyes, the hair, what made you like him?

是他的眼睛、頭髮、是什麼讓你喜歡他的？

- Oh, I don't know, - You'll know.

哦，我也不知道是什麼，－妳會知道的。

- It was just everything.

我想是他的全部吧。

- You'll know? - It was just everything.

－妳會知道嗎？－就是全部吧。

- You'll know. - It was the whole package.

－妳會知道。－就是各方面都喜歡。

- The whole package, yeah.

沒錯，就是各方面都喜歡。

- My kids ask the same thing.

我的孩子問我一樣的問題。

They said, how did you know?

他們說，妳怎麼知道？

How did you know he was the one?

妳怎麼能確定就是他了？

I knew nothing, nothing.

我什麼都不知道，一點都不知道。

- None of us knew anything.

我們誰也不知道。

- At 18, what do you know?

在 18 歲的時候，妳能知道什麼？

You know nothing. - Oh, that's true.

妳什麼也不知道。－哦，那是真的。

- I said, blind luck.

我說，就是幸運吧。

I knew I wanted somebody that would be able

我知道我想要的是一個能夠

to support me, support a family,

支持我，養活一個家庭的人

send children to college.

能夠讓孩子上大學。

- You know, it's interesting.

妳知道嗎，這很有趣。

I never thought about that for some reason.

不知道為什麼，我從來就沒想過這個問題。

- Never thought about what?

沒想過什麼？

- Never thought that, worried about him supporting me

沒想過，擔心他是不是能支持我

or anything like that.

什麼的。

I fell in love with him and that was it.

我愛上他，就是這麼簡單。

- I felt the same way.

我也是這樣覺得。

- I felt the same way.

我也是。

I loved Eddie, and I didn't even know

我愛 Eddie，而我壓根不知道

what he was gonna be. - Well, sure,

他會變成一個什麼樣的人。－當然啊

you were 10 years old!

妳那時才 10 歲而已！

What the hell did you know?

妳能知道個什麼？

- But you did know what he was gonna be.

不過妳知道他會變成怎樣。

In our cases, they were all gonna be something--

在我們的情況下，他們終將會成為很重要的人--

- Right! - Even if we didn't know

－沒錯！－儘管當時我們還不知道

what they were gonna be,

他們會變成什麼樣的人

and they were compatible.

他們是合適的人選。

- I spent a lot of time at my husband's house,

我花了很多時間在我老公家

'cause of different states,

因為我們住在不同州

and I could see how he treated his parents,

我可以觀察他是如何和父母相處

especially his mother.

特別是他的母親。

If he treats his mother with respect and loving,

如果他尊重並愛護他的母親

he's gonna be a good husband.

他就會是一個好老公。

I'm not saying it's 100%, you know,

我不是說這就是百分百正確，但妳知道的

but the general, that's what I think,

一般來說就是這樣，這是我的想法

and you know. - I think she's right.

而妳知道。－我認為她是對的。

I agree. - Yeah.

我同意。－沒錯。

- Character of the person, even then was visible.

從那裡可以看出一個人的性格。

- Yeah, very. - What kind

－是的，沒錯。－他是不是

of respectable person he was.

一個品格高尚的人。

- I think they wait today to get married

我認為現代人在婚前都有性行為的情況下

because they're having sex anyways, so what's the rush?

他們並不急著結婚

- And they start much younger.

而且他們在很年輕時就發生關係。

- [Lola] I'm telling you.

[Lola] 一點也沒錯。

- Do you think there are benefits of waiting

妳們認為在婚後才有性行為

to have sex until you're married?

有什麼好處嗎？

- Can't think of one.

想不出任何一個。

- I have-- - I don't know.

－我有-- -我想不到。

We were in a hurry to get married so we could have sex.

我們急著結婚因為要發生性行為。

We didn't think about having it before.

我們沒想過要在婚前就這麼做。

Oh, we gotta play Mahjong.

哦，我們得來玩麻將了。

- Okay, go play Mahjong.

－好的，快去玩麻將吧。

This is great, good job.

這個分享真的太棒了。

- I gotta change seats. - Can we turn on the air?

－我要換位置。－可以把冷氣打開嗎？

- [Rose] Yeah, we'll turn on the air.

－[Rose] 好的，我們把冷氣打開。

You guys can cut.

大家可以收工了。