Because when it comes to attraction, things are usually kept pretty subtle.

這是因為戀愛是個很奇妙的東西。

You have to look pretty close, if you want to see the signs that someone likes you.

如果你想要看出對方是否喜歡你的傾向，你必須非常仔細地觀察。

Here's what to keep an eye out for.

這裡是需要注意的地方。

1. They respond to the sound of your voice.

1. 他們回應你的聲音。

The sound of your voice can seriously attract other people.

你的聲音會吸引其他人，

Many studies have found that women are attracted to deeper voices in men.

許多研究發現女人會被男人較低沉的聲音吸引，

Whereas men like higher voices in women.

但是男人卻會被女人較高昂的聲音吸引。

Fast talkers are seen as more educated.

說話很快的人會被認為受過較高等的教育。

And if you can change up your inflection,

如果你可以改變你的語調，

you are seen as more interesting.

別人會認為你很有趣。

Your crush might be in love with the sound of your voice,

你暗戀的對象也許會喜歡你說話的聲音，

so keep an eye out to see if they are responding to your voice with a smile or a laugh.

所以仔細觀察他們是否笑著回應你的聲音。

If this is the case, there might be a spark of attraction.

如果是這樣的情況下，就是一種戀愛。

2. They play hard to get.

2. 他們會故作矜持。

The rumours are true, playing hard to get is a big sign of attraction.

這個說法是真的，故作矜持是吸引人的重要指標。

When we're with someone who's playing hard to get, we usually work that much harder to get their attention

當有人對我們故作冷淡時，我們通常會更努力吸引他們的注意。

and that makes the seduction process much more intense.

這會強化誘惑的過程。

This all comes down to one thing, availability.

總歸於一件事「可得性」，

Appearing to be less available can make people want you even more.

越難得到的東西會讓人們更想要。

3. Uncrossed legs.

3. 未交叉的腿。

Body language also reveals a lot about availability.

肢體語言也可顯示「可得性」。

For example, when someone uncrosses their legs and arms,

舉例來說，當有人打開腿或手臂時，

they are basically saying; I'm available.

基本上就在暗示：「我可以。」

This is a basic body language in both men and women

這是異性之間基本的肢體語言。

So this rule also applies to same sex couples.

這個規則也可適用於同性伴侶。

There are plenty of other signs of open body language

人們還有許多開放式的肢體語言，

such as unturned palms, maintaining eye contact, and many more.

例如：未轉動的手掌、保持眼神交流 ... 等等。

4. They talk about being single.

4. 他們會談論單身。

Let's stick on the topic of availability

我們繼續探討「可得性」的主題，

because its such a huge factor in attraction.

因為它是吸引人的重要原因。

When someone suddenly drops a hint of being single, its a great sign.

當有人突然暗示你他們單身時，這是好跡象。

So if someone suddenly mentions that they're single, maybe its the right time to make a move.

所以如果有人突然提到他們是單身，這也許是你進一步追求的最佳時機。

Because who knows, they might be sending out signals of availability, as a sign of attraction.

誰知道呢，他們也許是喜歡你，所以發出「可得性」的訊號。

5. Leaning in.

5. 靠向你。

A 2014 study, identified 5 seperate flirting styles

2014 年有個研究指出五種不同的調情風格，

and leaning in was a huge sign of attraction that was mentioned.

而靠向對方就是其中喜歡的重大徵兆。

They specified that leaning in on an angle from the hip is a big sign of flirting.

他們表示從臀部傾斜一個角度就是調情的重要標誌。

So if your crush is leaning into you after you make them laugh,

所以當你逗得他們笑時，如果你暗戀的對象接近且觸碰你，

it could be a major sign of attraction,

就可能是對你有好感。

so keep an eye out for that.

因此請你注意觀察這點。

6. Revealing personal info.

6. 透漏自己的私事。

As a general rule, the more personal info a person reveals,

一般來說，一個人透露越多個人私事，

the more interested they are in you.

代表他們對你越有興趣。

That's what a recent study found , when they studies flirting techniques

最近的研究顯示，他們發現這些調情技巧

this can still be done in a subtle way,

都可以用微妙的方式完成。

for example, someone might reveal that they are dealing with a hardbreaking loss or a major setback

舉例來說，他們可能用輕鬆不拘的方式，

but in a slightly casual way.

告訴你他們正面臨著重大挫折或損失。

7. Teasing.

7. 捉弄。

In that same study, the researchers also studied the signs of flirting that might arise during a conversation

在同樣的研究裡發現談話過程中可能出現的調情跡象，

and teasing was a big part of that.

捉弄是其中重要的一種。

They specified that teasing consisted of making fun of another person in a light-hearted way.

他們所謂的捉弄包含以輕鬆的方式去取笑他人。

We're guessing that a lot of our viewers have probably experienced teasing in their own flirting experiences.

我們猜想很多人可能都經歷過因為調情而惡作劇的經驗。

but remember: Keep teasing light-hearted and fun.

但記住：請輕鬆愉快地捉弄。

Never make fun of someone for things they are insecure about.

不要捉弄他人在意或隱私的事情。

No matter how much you're crushing on them.

不管你有多喜歡他們。

8. Eye pupils and dilation are linked with arousal.

8. 眼睛瞳孔擴張與喚醒理論有關。

We all know that eyes are windows to the soul,

眼睛是靈魂之窗，

but if you stare deep enough into your crush's eyes,

如果你凝視著你暗戀對象的眼睛，

you might just get a clue as to whether they are into you.

你可能會知道他們是否喜歡你。

Studies have shown, that when people become aroused,

研究發現當人們被喚醒時，

their pupils actually DILATE

他們的瞳孔確實會放大。

This is actually a pretty good sign of sexual orientation as well

這其實也是性取向的好信號。

Your eyes will dilate when you look at the gender you are most attracted to.

當你看著吸引你的異性時，你的眼睛瞳孔會放大。

9. Playing with nearby objects.

9. 玩弄身邊的小東西。

When some people get nervous, they fidget.

有些人緊張或煩躁時，

They might play with their hair, their bracelets, or their nails.

他們會玩弄頭髮、項鍊或是指甲，

But according to a recent study,

但根據最近的研究，

those same behaviors might be linked with attraction.

同樣的行為也跟戀愛有關，

Researchers found, that people that are flirting often found themselves playing

研究者發現當在調情時，

with buttons on their shirts, zippers, strings and many other nearby objects.

他們會玩衣服上的鈕扣、拉鍊、線或其他身邊的小東西。

10. Mirroring.

10. 鏡像 (模仿)

Another big sign of attraction, is mirroring.

另一個喜歡的徵兆就是鏡像反應。

If you look closely, you might find that your crush seems to be copying your movements & behaviors in a subtle way,

如果你仔細觀察，你會發現你暗戀的對象好像會巧妙地模仿你的動作和行為，

it might be tilting their head to the side in the same way as you

他們可能會跟你一樣將頭傾斜到同一側，

or adopting a similar posture

或是有著類似的姿勢。

Mirroring has been studied quite intensively in psychological research.

在心理學研究中對鏡像研究非常深入。

Which of these signs do you find interesting and believable?

你認為哪個徵兆最可信且有趣呢？

Let us know your own experiences in the comments below!

你可以在下方留言分享你自身的經驗。

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此外，請去看看我們朋友的影片。

Go check it out guys, understanding will help us bond better! Its very interesting!

去看看並且理解，這將會幫助我們有更好的連結，很有趣的。

Have a great day ahead!!

祝你有個美好的一天！

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