is that we're both highly sensitive people.

就是我們都是高敏感者。

In this video I'm gonna talk about

在這支影片我會談

what that means, where it all comes from,

什麼是高敏感、高敏感的來源、

and some of the perks and challenges.

和一些好處跟挑戰。

So let's first get out of the way

首先先排除掉

what it doesn't mean to be a highly sensitive person.

跟高敏感族無關的東西。

Even though a lot of people throw around the phrase,

儘管很多人常會丟出一句話：

"You're being too sensitive,"

「你太敏感了啦」

as if sensitivity is a choice and it's a bad one,

好像敏不敏感可以選擇，而且是不好的，

that's not what it means to be a highly sensitive person.

但這並不是高敏感族的表徵

Being a highly sensitive person

會是高敏感族

has got to do with the nervous system

跟他們的神經系統有關，

that you're born with,

是天生的，

which comes from the genes you inherit from your parents.

遺傳自父母的基因。

Both of my parents are highly sensitive people,

我爸媽都是高敏感族，

and since Kim and I are as well,

我跟 Kim 也都是，

our future children will most likely

我們以後的小孩很可能

turn out to be highly sensitive too.

也會是高敏感的。

We all have a nervous system

我們都有個神經系統，

and it looks a little something like this.

長得像這個東西。

It's the thing that notices all the things

它會感知所有事情

happening both inside and outside of your body

不管發生在你體內或體外

and it sends that information to your brain.

然後回傳那個訊息到你的腦。

It's what helps you sense and feel.

它就是幫助你感知、感覺的東西。

So when you feel, "Brrr, it's kind of chilly,"

當你感覺「啊有點涼」

"Ouch! that's sharp!" "So loud!"

「噢！好尖銳！」「好吵！」

That's your nervous system at work.

正是你的神經系統在運作

And it does more than just break down your experiences

它也會做其他事，除了將你的經驗區分成

into two simple categories.

兩大程度類別。

Depending on how sensitive your nervous system is,

你的神經系統越敏感，

you may be able to break down your experiences

你應該就越能將經驗區分成

into quite a few categories.

不少程度類別。

So not just between "it's not cold" and it's cold,

所以就不只是「不冷」和「會冷」

but "it's cool", "it's chilly",

而是「涼爽」、「寒冷」、

"it's cold", "it's really cold", "it's freezing", and so on.

「很冷」、「超冷」、「冷爆」等等等。

Your nervous system also causes you

你的神經系統也會讓你

to think about everything you're sensing

去思考所有你在感知的事情

and feel all your ups and downs in your emotions.

感受你所有的情緒起伏

And when something doesn't feel so right to your nervous system,

當你的神經系統感覺不太對的時候，

you go about trying to correct it

你會試著修正它

like doing this if you're cold

像覺得冷就會雙手環抱、

or pulling away from something sharp

碰到尖銳物品會抽離、

or covering your ears if something is too loud,

覺得太吵就摀住耳朵，

and doing whatever you need to do

總之做你該做的

to make yourself feel better emotionally as well.

讓自己情緒上也好過一點。

All sounds pretty normal right?

聽起來都蠻正常的對吧？

But 15 to 20 percent of people

但15%到20%的人

have what's called a highly sensitive nervous system.

有所謂的高敏感神經系統。

They feel and sense more,

他們能感知、感覺更多，

they taste and smell in greater detail,

他們能嗅聞到更多細節，

see in more detail, they think more

看得更細、想得更多，

and they feel stronger emotions.

情緒反應也更強。

"You want Mommy to sing a song, honey?"

「寶貝你想要媽咪唱首歌嗎？」

"Let me know how you feel about the song, okay?"

「待會告訴我你覺得這首歌怎樣，好嗎？」

"I don't want you to come 'round here no more,

「我不再想要你在我身邊了，

I beg you for mercy.

還請你放過我。

You don't know how strong my weakness is

你不知道我多麼脆弱，

or how much it hurts me.

而它傷我多深，

So I let you in knowing tomorrow.

所以我接受你，明天開始。

I'm gonna wake up missing you."

我醒來就會想念你。」

Being born into this population comes with a lot of advantages,

生於高敏感一族有許多好處，

but it also comes with a lot of challenges as well.

但也帶來很多挑戰。

You're able to pick up on things

你能領會很多

that most people don't pick up on,

大多數人無法領會的。

but you can also pick up on too much

但也會領會太多，

that it can get overwhelming at times.

導致偶爾會崩潰。

And just like everybody else,

而你也和其他人一樣，

you won't be able to function optimally when you're overwhelmed.

當你崩潰時，你無法很妥善地表現自己。

But when this happens to you,

然而當你表現失態時，

most people may only partially get your struggle

大部分的人大概只了解你部分的掙扎，

and be quick to judge that you're just weak

很快就開始批評你就是軟弱，

or making the selfish choice to be a difficult human being.

或者是很自私地把自己弄得很難搞。

Consequently, a lot of highly sensitive people

因此，很多高敏感者

grow up feeling like something's wrong with who they are

在成長過程中覺得自己不對勁

and a lot of them go through life outwardly

他們很多都去發展較外向的生活

pretending to be like everybody else.

假裝他們跟其他人一樣。

But nothing's wrong with you.

但你沒有錯。

You've just got a different level of sensitivity.

只是有不同層次的敏感度罷了。

Now, within that 15 to 20 percent,

在那 15% 到 20% 的高敏感族群中，

there's an even smaller minority, 1% of the population,

其中 1% 是更少數的人口

that have an extremely sensitive nervous system.

擁有超級敏感的神經系統。

When you're a part of this group,

若你是這其中的一份子，

the advantages and challenges that I previously talked about,

我前面提到的好處和挑戰

get even more magnified.

都會再放大。

Yes, you might be extremely detail-oriented, smart,

你可能是超級注重細節、聰明、

creative, and empathetic, but you're also

有創意、有同理心，但你同時也

more likely to have a greater level of anxiety

可能有更多的焦慮

around your own intense thoughts, emotions,

圍繞著你本就豐沛的思緒、情感、

and the world around you.

你周遭的世界。

Even if you grew up with intuitive parents

即使你由直觀的父母帶大

who tried their best to steer you in the

盡力將你帶往

right direction, as a child, you probably

正確的方向，你小時候應該

opted for solutions that were immediately gratifying

會選擇馬上有甜頭的選項

and, perhaps, not always the best in the long run.

也或許不盡然是長期而言最好的選項。

And then in the long run, after you've

然後長遠來看，你已經

repeated your self-taught ways of control again and again,

一遍遍重複你自學的自我控制

you've developed strong patterns

你就發展出了一些頑強的

that are difficult to break.

很難改變的模式

And then it's usually in your adult years

等到你成人以後，

you realize that these patterns aren't

你才發現那些模式不再

working for you, so you seek professional

有效了，你就尋求專業

help to get your freedom back

協助來重拾自由，

and learn better ways to deal with your challenges.

去學更好的、面對挑戰的方式。

But throughout this entire journey,

但在這整個修煉中，

you constantly hear people saying,

你會不斷聽到人們說：

"You're crazy!" "You're too sensitive!"

「你瘋了！」「你太敏感了！」

"You're so overdramatic!" So it's really

「你太小題大作了！」所以真的

hard not to believe that something's wrong with you.

很難不去相信自己出了問題。

But again, nothing is wrong with you.

再次強調，你一點錯都沒有。

You've just got a

你只是被賦予了

different level of sensitivity that most people

不同層次的敏感度，而大部分的人

do not understand.

無法理解。

And then finally, within the family of highly sensitive people,

最後，生在一個高敏感者的家庭，

there's an even smaller group

會感覺有一個更小的團體

that shows up on this earth once in a lifetime

很難得出現在這世上的小團體

whose advantages and challenges are just out of this world.

它擁有的好處、面臨的挑戰都是無與倫比的

Because of all their challenges

但因為他們的挑戰，

many highly sensitive people

很多高敏感者

wish they weren't the way they are.

都希望他們不是高敏感。

Many wish they could have been born just like everybody else.

大多希望他們就像其他人一樣。

But we're not meant to be just like everybody else.

但我們生來並非要和其他人一樣，

We're meant to stand out and shine.

我們生來就是要大放異彩。

And I can't wait to teach you guys how to do that.

我等不及要教你們如何做到。

Thanks for watching you guys.

謝謝收看。

If you're interested in working on your mental health,

如果你有興趣提升你的心理健康，

make sure to subscribe to our channel.

麻煩確認有訂閱我們的頻道。

Both Kim and I have been through a lot

我和 Kim 都經歷了不少，

and we plan on sharing our experience here.

我們計畫在這裡分享我們的經驗。

And let us know in the comments if you've got any questions about

在下面留言告訴我們，如果你有任何關於

being a highly sensitive person.

高敏感者的問題

Alright, see you next time. Bye.

好了，下次見。掰掰。