自信开口 (How to speak English confidently even if you STILL make mistakes )

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hey guys what's up Stefanie the English coach here live on YouTube the very
first time so this is a new experience for me I am not sure what to expect I
hope this works just like Facebook live because I'm used to Facebook live I'm
comfortable with Facebook live this is like new territory you guys and anytime
you're in new territory it's so scary right? but that's good actually that's
okay because today in this video we are going to be talking about confidence
okay? and speaking English confidently even if you still make mistakes so let's
just make sure that this video is gonna work oh I have my first comment awesome
hi Mohammed this is great you guys I'm glad that the comments are showing up
unfortunately I'm having this thing flash at the top of my screen that says
very bad connection so I'm sorry do you guys hear me okay
hey Marcos what is up? good to see you here do you guys hear me okay? hi Sidra
oh my gosh look at you guys normally we're all on Facebook together now we're
on YouTube let's see if this works it still says very bad connection oh well
you know what I'm just gonna make this video we will make the most of it I
would love to see your commentary your comments and everything you know as I'm
making the video okay? and then please do me a favor and tell me in the comments
what kinds of videos you'd like me to make that are live videos because you
guys all know that I could talk for days about fluency and confidence and all
kinds of stuff right like the basics but there's so many other things we could
talk about I mean I could do like I hadn't thought of this before
I really hadn't thought of this you guys told me a year ago like Stefanie you
should get on you it took me so long to come here imagine
if I have been doing all of my you know live videos here I could have organized
them into classes and done all kinds of things and I think I can even share my
screen when I use my computer right now I'm just using my phone but normally I
can like share my screen on my computer so I can make slides I can make it like
actual classes I'm so excited so okay so I guess you guys can hear me well
because I have a mic on and you're interacting with me nobody said we can't
hear you so I'm assuming you can hear me okay good
because like I said this is the first video I'm making and I'm like nervous
that it's something's gonna go wrong but that's how life is right something
always goes wrong especially when it's the first time that
you're doing something cool so I see some people are in Brazil some people
are in Germany where else are you guys watching from this is so fun
okay so let me ask you guys a question when you're speaking English do you feel
confident? okay do you just open your mouth and speak you know even if your
sentences don't really come together well okay so to hear says I'm really
struggling in pronunciation and accent okay so that's something we could
definitely talk about Marcos says culture news and so on yeah hey we could talk
about that you know I'm thinking of you know really venturing out and talking
more about just life things because those discussions I think are fun and
they can really help you guys with you know learning new vocabulary and just
interacting in English so Marcos says I don't feel shy okay good so Marco what
about when you're in like a high stress situation like when you're giving you
know leading a meeting at work or when you are you know interviewing for a
position or something like that you know not just casual conversation but when
there's something at risk or at stake you know something you could lose so
Murph says I don't feel confident okay so the thing is oh and Kat says I don't
have issues with talking to someone in English but when it comes to specific
vocabulary then it gets scary well that's called jargon Kat and you
know what if you don't know specific jargon you know in English for something
specific then you don't know it like don't freak out for example if I go into
my dad's garage I don't know what half the things in there are called because
it has to do with like mechanics and stuff like that sorry guys I keep
looking there and there and there like there's comments flying around I
apologize so anyways yeah like I don't know all kinds of vocabulary about
everything either so if I don't know what something is called I just say that
thing or what's that or something like that so you know don't let that rob your
confidence okay cool so speaking confidently anytime that there you know
there's a few things that go on here right? some people it's just like they're
born with confidence you know you they just don't struggle with confidence they
can just speak say they're mind or whatever and then there's other people
who measure their words a lot more they really think before they speak and maybe
they think too much maybe they overthink things and they
don't you know say something even though they have a really good point to make
okay because they lack confidence now some people some of you even you're
probably maybe very confident when you speak your native language but then when
you speak in English all of a sudden you clam up and you're just like oh my gosh
like they're gonna hear my accent they're gonna hear my bad pronunciation
they're gonna hear me make a mistake yes Nishan over thinking totally kills
it so you guys have to understand that everybody struggles with a lack of
confidence in one way or another you know for you guys maybe it's with
English for other people it could be with you know public speaking in general
or who knows what maybe you know guy is like they lack confidence when they're
dating girls and they just are like I don't
know if I'm doing this right or saying the right thing or girls too if they're
dating guys maybe they're like oh my gosh what should I say what should I do
what is he expecting you know it can be really a frustrating thing but what we
have to realize about confidence is that usually it's all in our head
right? so if you don't speak English English confidently okay it's because
you probably have some kind of fear right? and your fear might be rational or
irrational you know like if you speak poorly at a job interview you might not
get the job that is a reality so you have that fear okay but if you're just
worried about you know strangers judging you 24/7 over your communication skills
and that's a little bit of an irrational fear because the truth is while you're
worried about what other people think of you other people are worried about what
you think of them right it's crazy how this works but you just have to remember
that so when you're sitting there you know talking to somebody in English and
you're just like is you know am i messing up what are they thinking of me
the person you're talking to is probably going oh my gosh do I look fat in these
clothes am I too tall am I too short so yeah Marcos says the only important
thing is that who listened to me would understand what I tell yes and that
should be our goal that is the goal of communication it should be about people
understanding you and you making your point clear I have seen people speak
English very badly with absolute confidence because they're just like I
don't care I'm learning I'm you know I just I don't care you know they don't
care that's the secret to speaking confidently you have to not care what
other people think about you or about your English you just have to speak it
when we when we lack confidence it's because we are overthinking everything
we're thinking too much about what other people think of us so yeah anyways I'm
just like rambling on and on about this idea it feels different doing a video on
YouTube then on Facebook I don't really know why
because maybe I'm just so much more comfortable with it on Facebook or maybe
because on my Facebook videos there's usually a lot more interaction so I just
jump in whenever I can with the comments but um another thing I wanted to say is
that improving your your confidence right like there's two parts there's the
practice part and then there is the just psychological component of confidence
right? sometimes you just have to tell yourself that everything is going to be
okay and I know that sounds like really generic advice but again you have to
analyze the thoughts that are going through your head are you having
rational fears or irrational fears what can you do about those fears and then
practice when you're good at something you feel confident like when you get
down to tie your shoes you're so confident when you tie your shoes that
you don't even think about tying your shoes because you're like yeah I tie my
shoes when you know you don't even think twice that's how you want it to be when
you speak English but in order to get to that level of course you have to make
sure that you're consistently practicing so let me ask you this what are you guys
doing to consistently practice your English with others okay active practice
active practice not oh hang on sorry I was trying to fix something there
active practice not passive okay so someone was asking for my Skype ID no
you guys come on there's so many of you there's one of me anyways so yeah what
are you guys doing to actively practice your English with other people now in
case you don't know or don't realize right here on this channel there's James
with the Deadpool accent awesome hi James
right here on this channel you know we have almost 3k people 3,000 people at
this point who are actively trying to improve their English you could easily
find a partner here just read the comments and then find somebody who
writes a decent comment you know and write something really nice and
thoughtful and then go hey you know that was really thoughtful comment and
then make a comment in return something equally as thoughtful and then say maybe
we could practice together what do you think okay because if you just go and
say hey want to practice with me you're not gonna find a good practice partner
mm-hmm Nishan says if I get to that level my
friends won't understand me and they'll treat me like an alien okay Nishan I'm
glad you brought that up okay because we're gonna talk about that
you guys if I miss your comments you can put it again it's hard to keep up with
all of them so I apologize but anyhow it's true friends put a lot of pressure
on you and I talked about this in another video - I'll have to link it up
here later but friends put a lot of pressure on you sometimes like you can't
win with them you know if you speak poorly in English they make fun of you
but if you sound just like a native speaker they go oh who do you think you
are who you're trying to sound like a native speaker you think you're better
than us right and honestly if those are the kinds of friends that you have maybe
you need to consider getting new friends I mean maybe that's kind of harsh but I
am kind of like an all-or-nothing kind of girl like I would not appreciate my
friends doing that now I know that I think that tends to happen more in
circles of men and guys but I haven't seen it happen too much with women and
girls but if I had friends that were putting me down and making fun of a goal
that I was trying to reach I wouldn't put up with that I'd be like I'd give
them the middle finger and I'd say peace out so ya know but you have to choose
your friends wisely you have to surround yourself with people that are like you
know have the same ambition and stuff that you do anyhow guys I'm gonna like
turn this next part into a Q&A because I decided that it's too hard to stay on
topic you guys are bringing up some really great points and stuff so if you
guys have questions let me just turn this into a Q&A and we can just talk
about some random random stuff so Elver says I
realize that actors speak excellently fluently because they practice over and
over again the same lines yes but in their real life ah where's that comment
but in their real life they also struggle sometimes remembering
vocabulary and hesitate yes all over a great point so exactly you guys when
you're trying to learn with like a TV show or something those actors practice
those lines hundreds of times that's why they say it the way they do this video
if you watch it and compare it to my other youtube videos it's gonna be
really different I'm gonna say you know a lot more because that's a filler word
that I use I shouldn't but I do and my husband when he edits my videos
he always has to say oh my gosh she said you know like 50 times in this video and
he has to edit that and take it out so regular speech you guys is different I'm
speaking spontaneously right now I'm being repetitive I'm using fillers I'm
pausing to think about what I'm gonna say it's not you know the same thing as
giving a speech that you've prepared for or doing lines and acting and something
that you've prepared for so you have to know that and you have to know that you
know when you mess up with your English you have permission to do that Kat yes I
have a husband and I mentioned that in many times in other videos but maybe
you're new here so that's okay Merve says the difference between them
is easy it depends where you live for instance one of them is used in the USA
one of them is used in British I don't know if you're responding to someone
else there Murph because I wasn't talking about that and then at least the
most like I don't know I'm confused have you ever been to India?
Nishan no I haven't but it is on my list of places to go actually I mean I
want to go everywhere you guys but yeah I have so many places I want to go I
have here I'll tell you where I have been okay I have been what I was I'm
from California born and raised there my first international trip was to Mexico
and
it says like very bad connection again hopefully this is hopefully this is
working and all the comments went away anyways um hopefully hopefully this is
working so anyways my first international trip was to Mexico and
then I went to Argentina I lived there for four years and then I traveled
abroad to the UK Ireland Switzerland Denmark and Italy no I haven't been to
Turkey yet Merve I want to go there though I want to go there definitely
Marcos says I've been at home same I think you meant that you've only ever
been in your country right? Brazil so in English we would say I've never been out
of the country or out of my country do you speak French? no not at all Oh Marcos
they're speaking talking about the difference between cookies and biscuits
yeah you guys there's so many different words when I was in the UK and Ireland I
was like I don't understand what these people are saying so
Elver it says I don't like to lose completely my accent because I guess oh
hang on because I guess sounds exotic like when Gringos speak my language
Spanish but I want to speak excellent good yeah uh-huh I think that's really
great because you know some people they want to sound exactly like a native
speaker and I think that's a good goal to but a lot of times it's because
they're trying to hide their own accent and I say you know why are you trying to
hide your accent you should be proud of where you're from be proud that you
learned English don't try to cover your accent let it be let it exist you know
but at the same time you know you want to make sure you're speaking clearly
some people have such strong accents it's like you can't understand what
they're saying okay Yazdan have you been to Brazil? not yet
I really want to go to Brazil it's been on my like to do
for years and I was in Argentina for four years so I was so close I could
have gone but it just never worked out so okay I'm gonna reply to Ronnie
Ronnie's in North Korea it's kind of hard to find a practice here Ronnie
watched the video that I did on how to practice with native speakers okay I
made a video about that you can use the same strategies there to practice with
non-native speakers okay use the internet it does not matter where you
live as long as you have the internet you can practice and I will link a guide
in the description later I made a guide on how to find practice partners okay
it's on my website EnglishFullTime.com Erin says I saw your interview with
that person her name is Hadar and who was not a native speaker of English but
now she speaks like a native and is an accent coach yeah she's awesome you guys
should definitely subscribe to her Channel
okay my name is Stefanie Stefanie and here's something for you guys to keep in
mind you Spanish speakers it's not a Estefani that's like Spanish okay but
it's in English you have to take off the E at the beginning and just say
Stefanie okay Kat says people say my voice change when I speak English
Spanish or Portuguese it's because I really try to imitate the tone they say
the same thing about me Kat when I speak Spanish people go whoa you sound
different in Spanish Rashad says hi coach I don't care about how my accent I
just want to be sure that I am not repeating many silly mistakes in the
same talk or conversation yes and Rashad you will improve with practice my friend
lots and lots of practice are you practicing? have you been practicing?
Marcos corruption the world is full of corruption oh my gosh don't get me
started
yeah Rashad you are working with a great coach and you need to schedule
some more sessions with me okay um hi Ronald from Venezuela but living
in Brazil Ronald so you speak Spanish and did you learn Portuguese to speak
Spanish with us okay I will but somebody has to volunteer by asking me a question
in Spanish and then I'll start speaking Spanish okay so asking me a question in
Spanish and then I'll reply it and you guys will see the Spanish speakers will
see that I still make some mistakes but it doesn't matter it's about confidence
it's about speaking confidently so Ron okay cool your second language is
Portuguese I think that should be "how many years, how many years have you
been married? It's been four years, I've been married for four years. Where are you from?
I'm from California" mm-hmm good keep the keep the questions coming this is it's a
lot funner than funner is such a bad... you're not supposed to say fun are you
guys I'm an English coach anyways it's a lot more fun let me see um
"how long have you been teaching English? uh many years, I started in 2014
I believe, but before that I was teaching Spanish
and I was also teaching math, so it's been like almost
ten years that I teach, that I'm a teacher. But now I'm not
calling myself a teacher, I say I'm a Coach, because a teacher teaches the basics and advanced. I help
people use English in their lives, improve their career, do many
things like that. No I don't have children. What do you think about Trump? No comments
about him, otherwise a war is going to start here in my channel and..." No, I'm not like
for him or against him I'm just like oh this isn't happening
but it is it's what? 2017 "Which one is difficult to you, English or Spanish?"
wow, we have a lot of Spanish speakers on this sorry to everybody who's not a Spanish
speaker hopefully you're enjoying me watching .. speaking another language
"Spanish definitely is more difficult for me because is not my mother tongue
I started studying English when I was 14" I know, sorry
Sidra she's like it's turning into Spanish class well I keep telling people
I owe you guys is a video in Spanish and I really do. "yes my Spanish is very
similar to the Argentine one because I lived four years there. Tu espanol es"
flawless Thank You Rafael "really, you even have an Argentine accent" yeah
"well, because my husband is Argentine and I lived there
and besides, for the record, my family, is Argentine, but they didn't teach me
Spanish, that's why I had to learn it. I'm 26, but
in my mind I'm 27, I don't know why but I'm my mind it's like if I already was 27"
mm-hmm sorry Nishan he's like yeah there's so many Spanish
speakers you guys what do you think about me starting a channel in Spanish
for I don't know what I'm just kidding I was thinking about that the other day I
was like that would be a really great way for me to practice my Spanish
because I'm lazy you guys my husband speaks English and Spanish I speak
English and Spanish but I get really lazy and we just end up speaking English
all the time so I was thinking if I make a youtube channel in Spanish that will
force me to keep making it better so that's a tip for you guys if you want to
really really really improve your English start a project in English I
don't care if it's an Instagram account uh I can't talk Instagram account or a
Facebook page or YouTube channel and don't make it Oh learn
English you know that's too easy do something about your passion in ...
I can't talk do something about your passion but do it in English so if you
start a YouTube channel in English make it about diet and nutrition and exercise
if that's what you're into or who knows whatever okay
so that's just a quick idea for you guys
mm-hmm "It would be good if you made a video with the different accents
from the US" I mean yeah but you guys there are people that have already made
those videos like with different accents from the US and they're like actors so
their accents are gonna be better than mine life in English I stand up for the
rights of lazy people I'm a lazy a proud lazy dude no not really
you're funny dude have I traveled overseas to teach
English? I'm in Italy right now and I teach why don't teach English you guys
I'm a coach there's a difference and yeah I am I teach online
I run online programs so that I but it's not like going overseas to teach in the
traditional sense because I'm an entrepreneur and I wanted to start my
own business
yes Juan you can be a youtuber "which player do you like better, Neymar or Cavani?"
you know what I don't I don't follow any soccer the only reason I know those
dudes is cuz I've heard my husband say Neymar but I don't even know what his
face looks like so sorry to disappoint you guys
I just know "that I'm a Boca fan" cuz he is and so I have to be oh my goodness
okay English is very hard to learn for me so here's why it's hard for you
Ronald because right now you've probably been
learning in a traditional sense okay I should do
these videos more often this is fun right? okay wait you've probably been
learning English in a traditional sense and traditional classes are boring
very very very boring okay and so if you really want to improve your English you
have to do it in a different way uh-huh sorry there's so many comments
you guys I'm missing some of them I will go back and I can reply to some of these
later okay after the video but you need to start using English on a daily basis
to do things that you love and enjoy and talking with people that you love and
enjoy okay wait that sounds where you're talking
with people that you love and enjoyed that sounds a little strange
no talking with people that that you enjoy talking to how I'm getting
tongue-twisted anyways by doing that you're gonna have great experiences like if I
was in the U.S. studying Italian in a regular traditional class I would be
like huh this is so boring you just conjugate verbs if you're a beginner you
conjugate verbs if you're an intermediate student you conjugate verbs
if you're an advanced student you conjugate verbs and it's just like oh
when does it end? you know and that's why people you know are in these English
Institute's maybe many of you are for seven years ten years and you still
don't feel fluent okay we're confident now on the other hand if you would just
you know for example start using English with English speakers pretty much since
day one all of a sudden you'd be like oh my gosh I get to talk with real people
and it'd be so much more exciting okay so that's why like with the coaching
that I do my job is to surround you guys and especially my coaching clients and
my students surround them with English get them in touch with native speakers
etc so they can you know have a real reason for using English so an active
reason not just you know being passive and reading stuff but networking with
English speakers using English to move their careers forward etc let's see in
this moment I'm in Italy
yeah hey thank you someone's like press the like button help her grow her
channel yeah help her grow her channel thanks guys
I was actually just thinking that I might start um you know coming live on
here regularly throughout the week and I can schedule them in advance you guys
have always asked me schedule these things in advance um but now I just
might I really do want to grow this channel this is nice um okay Nishan says
where did you get the idea to be an English coach and then they uh and then
Ronald asks how I learned Spanish so those are great questions the I can talk
about all that okay so first I learned Spanish because my family they are
Spanish speakers but they didn't teach me Spanish so I felt like I was missing
a part of my identity that like lit a fire under my ass basically to really
learn Spanish I started studying in an immersion program when I was 14 I did
that for three years then I studied in college paid thousands of dollars to get
you know my degree as you know majored in Spanish but I dropped out of college
you guys I don't know if you know this but I hated the program it was bullshit it was
really bad I was like I don't want a degree from this university because I'm
not gonna be proud normally when you have a degree you're like oh yeah and I
worked really hard and I got this degree my classes were easy the teachers like
it was just really bad so I was like I don't want this I will make my own way
in life I will get fluent in Spanish some other way because all that
traditional education was not working for me and I was like I'll I'll either
go back to college later or I'll start my own business or do something I've
always kind of been like a little rebel like that but anyways I went to
Argentina I ended up meeting my husband I lived there for four years and that is
how I got fluent but don't think that you have to go to an english-speaking
country to get fluent okay that was just my personal limitation because I was not
mingling with like Spanish speakers online or
in my hometown or anything like that I was really shy not in English just in
Spanish I was really shy and that was holding me back so that's why now I help
you guys overcome your issues with confidence because not having confidence
is going to rob you of so many opportunities it's crazy
okay so anyhow that's that and then I came up with this idea to coach people
with their English because I understood the journey of going from not speaking a
language to then speaking it fluently and confidently and using the language
to you know work make money I worked in a sales position for a national US
company and I would speak with spanish-speaking clients and you know I
did a whole bunch of you know work and sales and Spanish and it was difficult
because it wasn't my native language so then I was like whoa you know English is
a global language there are so many people struggling not just to master
this language but to really use it to advance their life and their career to
immigrate to another country etc and I was like I could really help these
people I've done a lot of traveling I've learned a language myself you know I'm I
know about building business and stuff like this and getting jobs and marketing
yourself to whatever beat the competition I mean there's lots of ways
we could say it so then I was just like you know what I'm gonna be an English
coach and I basically created this role for myself the programs that I run the
things that I do it's not like they've been done before I don't do
cookie-cutter English programs where it's like oh now we're gonna work on
your pronunciation you kind of have to work on your pronunciation with other
YouTube channels and English teachers I don't focus on that because I have
something that I feel is more valuable and that's what I try to focus on so
thank you for asking those lovely questions okay make videos BBA says
please make videos having minimum 30 minutes duration I will try that way you
guys can shadow these videos so yeah I'm going to make this a Q&A like I'll call
it a Q&A video when I end it and then maybe I'll make
like a series of these Haruna says I live in Turkey and I am fluent in
English when I speak people think I am NOT Turkish and they asked me where I
come from that's awesome the same thing happens when I speak
Spanish people go where are you from are you from Costa Rica are you from
Argentina are you from Spain it depends and this is funny I have to tell you
guys this when I am in Argentina people think I'm from Costa Rica or Spain
because they know I don't sound exactly like someone from Argentina but very
close but when I'm talking with like a Mexican in California they go oh you're
from Argentina and I'm like no I'm not so it's just really funny
hey Rene what's up man okay cool so I caught up with all your questions oh
wait hang on life in English says there's something about the way English
sounds that made me fall in love with the language and now that I've heard you
speaking Spanish I think I just found the next my next thing in life awesome
yeah you guys um I talked with one of my new students um two days ago her name is
Sarah and she's living in Dubai and this girl's English is so beautiful shout out
to Sarah and listen she learned English 100% online on line can you believe that
like she never did a traditional class she never had a teacher that is some
serious dedication I mean the Internet has so much information I know people
that have learned how to code online just by watching videos they never had a
teacher you know so just realize you guys you have so many amazing resources
won't you probably do realize this but there are so many amazing resources on
the internet Imano says how can I improve my writing skills in English I
just made a video on that and it was pretty generic because I
wanted to make like a video where I explain where you start and then
eventually make I don't know more detailed videos about improving writing
but that would be a good place for you to start out because if you literally
have no idea how to improve your writing then all that information is in that
video yeah oh cool Kat you should learn just online - nice well now she is one
of my students so now she is in actually investing money in her English but
that's also because like I said I'm not like actually teaching English right now
I'm doing a program it's not open you guys but I'll reopen it later this year
it's networking with native speakers so it's like personal and professional
development in English and connecting everyone to the world or connecting my
students to the world of native English speakers and getting them talking with
them so yeah I won't say too much about that so I don't want this to turn into
like a commercial oh there be an interview with Sarah do you want there
to be an interview with Sarah John maybe I could ask her if she would like to be
interviewed um I have an interview coming out soon with Rene who is also
one of my students and I think he was just on here when I was like hi Rene
and Rene is really awesome his English has really improved and you guys
are gonna get to see that in the video
do you have any Turkish friends yes I have as of right now one Turkish friend
Mike says in my opinion learning this language in a country where it is spoken
is the best option I don't know about the best option I think it's a good
option but really you just like we just talked about Sarah who and Kat who
learned English online a lot of it has to a lot of it depends I think on your
own motivation but yeah and wait oh sorry I missed what you said before that
you said I know that it is totally possible to learn a language being in a
country where it is not spoken although I don't think this is the best approach
usually the methods used in schools are really really boring yeah but you have
to know Mike even if you like I know people who
have gone to the U.S. paid thousands of dollars to study in like a a study
abroad International English school and they use the same methods they use
worksheets and textbooks and this and that and you're studying with a bunch of
other students who are from other countries it's not like you're with
native speakers all of a sudden you talk with native speakers if you go to the
park and you mingle with them but that's on you you know and some people don't
have the confidence for that just because you're in a country with native
English speakers a lot of people isolate themselves so honestly I think the best
option I don't know I think that it's different for each person
and I'm glad that the internet exists I don't know about you guys but I'm so
glad we have this option because you know several years ago I would have if I
wanted to teach English I would have had to choose one place and teach it now I
can teach it to people all over the world and I'm just sitting here at my
Airbnb in Italy Rene says do you think there's a maximum age for starting to
learn a new language I don't because I've seen people you know learning
languages in their 50s and 60s and 70s I think it keeps your mind sharp so no
matter how old you get you can do it but really you have to have the right
motivation and the right learning structure because motivation with
motivation you can learn things twice as fast ten times as fast without
motivation you can you know be trying to learn English for ten years and never
achieve it so motivation is huge and that's why if you're kind of feeling
like learning English is boring and like frustrated it's probably because you
don't know your why you don't really understand why you're learning English
and you don't understand your motivation you don't know what it is and maybe you
don't have a motivation but here's the thing if you want to immigrate to an
english-speaking country if you want to get a job at a multinational
you know company that's based in an english-speaking country if you want to
work with english-speaking clients right there you should recognize that that
should be your motivation and so you should tie your results with English
directly to your future you know and hopefully that wanting a better future
will be enough motivation I mean that's my motivation for the work that I do I
want a better future just like you guys study English because you want a better
future so since I'm I have my I have a clear
understanding of why I do the work that I do that's what helps me get up every
day work hard you know and put my work before entertainment sometimes even
before my social life mostly it's like that so anyways yes
Rene your why is the most important stuff in any goal if you don't
understand your why if you don't have a why you don't have motivation and
without motivation you can't achieve things Isaac yes I will be adding
subtitles to this video it's a live video I can't add subtitles right now
cuz I'm live but if you'll notice all of my videos have subtitles Merve says I
have a newborn cousin is it suitable to teach him any language sure why not it
might be fun do you have master are you asking if I have a master's degree no I
talked about this earlier I don't even have a college degree
uh-huh I was this close to getting it I was six months away and I didn't want it
I didn't like it I didn't like the program so I said screw this I'm gonna
do something else and I built the business so I was the rebel and this
doesn't work for everybody but I really wanted to prove I think to myself and to
other people that there there are many ways to achieve the things that you want
to achieve sometimes you can go the traditional route and sometimes you
don't have to you know my teaching style my coaching style is not true
but everything I've done is pretty untraditional to I met my husband and I
married him five months later that's not very traditional I got
married in like a black and white wedding short a short wedding dress
that's not traditional I just like breaking the norm you guys because if
not we all get stuck in traditions and then we all try to force other people to
you know meet certain standards just because we had to you know like oh I had
to go to school for you know four years to get my degree so everyone else has to
do that too and I don't like that way of thinking so now we're getting into
philosophy Kat says this is funny I decided to learn English because I got
fed up with waiting for people to translate my favorite TV shows and when
I realized I was in love with the English language yes that's a great,
that's funny Ronnie says how can you talk that long without drinking water I am getting
thirsty and I am gonna shut this off in a second but you guys I like I said I've
been working in education for a long time I've had to do like seven classes
back-to-back talking for an hour in each class that's it's hard I don't I'm glad
I don't have to do that now but I drink a lot of water already so John says what
if I understand you 100% but have some speaking problems so what about it yeah
you're I know what you're asking you're asking like what should i do or what
does that mean but it helps to be more specific with your questions it's just
lack of practice Mike says I've been learning English for over seven years I
can understand well but I can't speak in the same level I can understand and that
is a common problem and that's also lack of interaction lack of practice it's
funny when you guys tell me in detail your symptoms of what you're
experiencing I pretty much know why that's going on you know and I can you
know I can like diagnose it even though you haven't really told me why it's
you tell me what's going on with your English and I can explain why
and obviously saying lack of practice that's very general but I could go
deeper into it but I can't right now because there's a lot of you guys
watching and you know so Ermet at says I remember you talking about having a hard
time letting yourself make mistakes and not beating yourself up for them you
know that really resonated with me we are so in the same boat for that yeah and
you know Ermat I just recently really made a breakthrough there actually
here in Italy I've been here for like five weeks but my Spanish you guys saw
earlier in the video it's pretty good right okay even having that high level I
would still freak out and be like oh my gosh like I'm gonna mess up or whatever
and that's why it's all in our head and we need to you know give ourselves
credit and just decide there literally has to be a decision where you decide to
not care about making mistakes trust me you're gonna feel so free after you
decide to do it don't apologize for your English ever again so I'm scrolling up
to see if there's yeah cool I'm all caught up
I like this I'm caught up with your guys's stuff okay how to pronounce
gotta like that Gotta Gotta do you see how my tongue flops
gotta Gotta hopefully that's helpful we can do more of those fabulous
pronunciation videos you guys if you want I can go live and I'll stick my
face right in the camera let's show you how everything moves Fernando that's a
great question and I love that expression what does the expression
blind leading the blind mean it means one idiot leading other idiots
right do you know what I mean like somebody who thinks they know about
something but they don't and then they're trying to teach other people how
to do something that they themselves don't even understand this goes on a lot
since you guys know I'm an entrepreneur and I built my own like online business
this goes on a lot in the entrepreneurial world people that have
not made any money online or have not been successful at all try and teach
other people how to do it that's like the blind leading the blind
you can't teach something unless you've achieved it first which is also kind of
interesting when you think in terms of language learning because how can you
help someone improve their fluency if you've never learned another language
yourself and improve your fluency and gone through that journey right kind of
makes you think let's see Elio says I want to be in your club oh I don't call
it a club but thank you are you talking about my online English program I'll let you
guys know when it's ready or when enrollment opens again but you probably
have to sign up at EnglishFullTime.com I email everybody that information
okay Red says many people want to talk to English speakers but they can't find
them because English speakers don't need other languages because they know
English Red I made a program that helps people do that you guys just don't know
where to look how did it interact with the English speakers you don't know
where to find us so I made an entire program and my students are doing the
program right now and they're having amazing success Nazarena from Italy
just posted in our private group the other day she was like oh my gosh it's
only day five and I already met this person who's coming to Italy to my town
you know in October and they want me to be their tour guide you know and show
them around and she's already making friends with people online and speaking
English with them so it's possible but the problem like I said is you guys
don't know where to find English speakers and even if you knew
you wouldn't you probably don't have a very good idea of how to interact with
us so that we'll talk with you because just like you said it's like we're not
trying to learn your language so anyhow the program is called networking with
native speakers and it reopens probably in October okay let's see let's see yeah
I'm trying not to turn this into a commercial you guys let me see
successful woman says as for me my obstacles are exactly with the lack of
expressing myself properly yes I can hold a conversation but if you choose
random topic to discuss about it I might find difficulties you might but think
about this if somebody wanted to talk to me about the mysteries of outer space
I would probably listen to most of what they have to say I don't really think
about that topic I don't discuss that topic with anybody else I don't know the
right vocabulary sometimes I confuse astronomy and astrology because I just
keep forgetting which ones which and I have to sit there and think oh no this
one's that one is something okay so that probably happens to you in your native
language you know you struggle to know what you know have discussions even in
your native language about topics you simply don't care about right so you
guys have to realize that a lot of these struggles that you have in English you
have them in your native language but you're just more aware of them in
English because you feel more guilty like Oh communication should be easier
but really someone's trying might be trying to talk to you about a topic you
have no interest in and you don't care about why would you want to talk about
that okay guys I'm gonna wrap up this video this has been such an awesome
session this was my first live video on YouTube thank you so much you guys for
watching for hanging out for asking questions feel free to yes share this
channel around or subscribe or whatever I would love to grow an awesome
community here so we can have more of these live sessions so that's it take
care and I'll see you guys in another video bye