Name: 如何克服冒牌貨綜合症，不再覺得自己是金光黨？ (How to Overcome Impostor Syndrome and Stop Feeling Like a Fraud)
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It's Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV,
the place to be to create a business and life

Now if you sometimes feel like a fraud no
matter how much you accomplish or do, this

Today's question comes from Z, who writes,
"Hey Marie.

I'm really struggling with Impostor Syndrome.

No matter how many people tell me I'm amazing,
and I've really helped them, no matter how

much progress I make in my business and life,
I still feel like it's all a fluke and I actually

Lots of people have it, but hey, all the more
reason to ask for your help.

You know, according to the International Journal
of Behavioral Science, a whopping 70% of us

suffer from Impostor Syndrome, or that feeling
of being a total fraud.

And guess what, you're actually in very good
company.

In fact, here are just a few people you might've
heard of who can totally relate.

Jennifer Lopez said, "Even though I had sold
70 million albums, there I was feeling like

Jodie Foster said, "When I won the Oscar,
I thought it was a fluke.

I thought everybody would find out and they'd
take it back.

'Excuse me, we meant to give that to someone
else.

Even the legendary Maya Angelou said, "I've
written 11 books, but each time I think, 'uh

I've run a game on everybody and they're going
to find me out.'"

While this fraud feeling impacts everyone,
it tends to hit women the hardest.

Because as women and members of other traditionally
underrepresented groups, it's easy to look

around and feel out of place or like we don't
belong.

And socially, we've been conditioned to self-deprecate
and downplay our abilities.

When we internalize that message that we're
not the real deal, we suffer major consequences,

and not just emotionally or mentally, but
financially.

I'm talking smaller careers and smaller bank
accounts.

That's why it's so, so, so important that
we're talking about this.

Let's dive in with six strategies to help
you combat those negative effects of Impostor

Most people who are high achievers feel this
way, but never talk about it.

It's like this dirty little secret that everyone's
afraid to admit.

I will tell you right now, I still feel this
way.

And I've been doing what I'm doing for almost
two decades.

My friend, Brene Brown, says this, "As a shame
researcher, I know that the very best thing

to do in the midst of a shame attack is totally
counterintuitive.

And amen to you, Z, for sharing with this
question.

Because shame always shrivels when you share
it out loud.

Here's what to do to take this even further.

What I want you to do is put a few people
on speed dial for when that fraud festival

These folks are your new hashtag fraud squad,
people who you can jump on a call with and

just say something like, "You know, hey guys.

I'm feeling like I kind of suck right now.

Now naturally, you should be willing to return
the favor.

You want to be that person who's always lifting
others up and reminding them of how great

they are, especially when they can't see it
for themselves.

Strategy number two, shine your light out,
not in.

Now I did a whole episode about this idea
that you should watch right after this one.

But here's the flashlight method in a nutshell.

Z, I want you to think about your attention,
your mental and emotional and spiritual energy

And that flashlight can only shine in one
direction, so in any given moment that flashlight

is either shining in on you, and how insecure
you are and how much of a fraud you feel like.

Or it's shining out, where your attention
is on your customer, what they feel and what

they need and want, and most importantly,
how you can help them.

When your life is 100% focused on your customers
or helping people, you've got zero light shining

That means you have zero attention on your
fraud feelings, which means they practically

The next time you catch yourself feeling like
a fraud, I want you to remember that you're

probably shining your light on yourself, rather
than directing it to where it can be most

useful and most joyful, which is out on helping
other people.

Strategy number three is start a hype file.

Now you may have heard of a swipe file, and
I'm suggesting that you start a hype file.

This is a place where you can keep a running
list of compliments and thank yous and any

comments from people who've shared how you've
helped them.

The next time you're feeling like a fraud,
all I want you to do is open up that hype

If loving Marie is wrong, I don't want to
be right.

And let them remind you that, yes, you are
the real deal.

Strategy number four, track your successes
and your stumbles.

Two facets of Impostor Syndrome are that,
one, we don't internalize our success.

And two, we are terrified of making mistakes.

That's why it's really important that you
start to keep a list of both.

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