字幕列表 影片播放 列印英文字幕 everyone wants to be attractive whether you're getting back into the dating world or you want to move up in your career being attractive probably won't hurt your chances of success when people feel attractive they generally feel better about themselves and have a more positive outlook on life people go through great lengths to feel more attractive plastic surgeons and dietary supplements make millions of dollars other people who feel unattractive but the key to being an attractive person is not weight loss of smaller nose or bigger muscles attractive people come in all shapes and sizes the key to being more attractive is the energy that you carry within and share with the people around you if people are attracted to your energy they might overlook physical flaws use the tips in this video to become a more attractive person inside and out - number one accept your features and work with them an overweight person who knows how to dress for their figure will always look more attractive than a skinnier person who puts no effort into how they present themselves so don't worry so much about whether your physical features fit traditional beauty standards there are haircuts and outfits that fit every shape and size if big curly hair frames your face better than a bob let your frizz fly buy clothes that show off your shape no matter what your shape is you might need to consult with an expert about this though personalized tips and tricks can be found online in magazines and through the help of your hairdressers or personal shoppers when you start to make your appearance work for you you'll discover natural beauty and attractiveness that might have been hiding before it also helps increase your own confidence tip number two is to pay attention to details in the book the magic of thinking big one of the world's most famous self-help books the author pairs fears with simple actions that can put those fears to rest the first fear that he lists is the embarrassment because of your personal appearance which is known to a lot of people we have all experienced this type of embarrassment and sought out ways to improve our appearance so what actions does the author suggest taking you can go to the barber shop or a beauty salon you can shine your shoes you can get your clothes cleaned and pressed and you can practice better grooming now these are just simple actions that can make a big difference because the best way to cure fear is through action not only will your haircut look sharper or your clothes look neater but you'll also spend some of that time consciously improving your appearance in the half hour that you spend at the nail salon or an hour at the barber you will be present in a space where you know that you are becoming more attractive putting yourself in a positive and attractive mental state is just as important as physically making improvements to your appearance remember from the book atomic habits the more evidence you give yourself of believing that you're an attractive person the more you actually believe in tip number three is a little cheesy but it's to use attractive affirmations the more you tell yourself something the more you'll believe it the more you tell other people something the more they'll believe it when you tell yourself that you're attractive you'll start to believe it and communicate your own message to others but how can you actually do that without directly telling people that you think you're hot well I'll give you an example in the next section your actions shape your thoughts your thoughts shape your reality you can use affirmations to shape a reality where you feel confident and optimistic about your appearance and the energy that you share with others so when you catch yourself feeling unattractive turn your perspective around look in the mirror and tell yourself that you're an attractive person even if you don't believe it say it again keep telling yourself that you're attractive until you let go of the ego that's telling you that you're not the sooner you open yourself up to the idea that you are attractive the sooner you will start to believe it and the sooner that others will start to believe it too even better than an affirmation is to do something that you think an attractive person would do go get a haircut go to the gym put some action behind your affirmation tip number four is pretty simple but it might not be easy it's to project confidence the secret of being attractive doesn't lie in the size of your nose or the cut of your hair the mind contributes as much of a person's attractiveness as their face our body the confidence and presence that a person projects with their attitude can turn up 4 into a 10 just think about the classic rock stars and actors Iggy Pop for example isn't a classically attractive man but at the ripe age of 71 you can go to one of his concerts and women will still be following over him why because his stage presence and rock star status turns heads you don't have to be a rock star to project confidence or to boost your attractiveness and you certainly don't have to try to look more like Iggy Pop if you just feel like a rock star you're confident energy will be felt by everyone in the room this becomes more evident when you read Jordan Peterson's 12 rules for life chapter 1 about standing straight up with your shoulders back so are you projecting confidence when you walk into a room confidence is just a state of mind but it has an effect on the way that we carry ourselves take a look at yourself in the mirror or maybe in a photo even a quick glance will be able to show you whether or not you're moving with confidence or insecurity so to improve your body language number one ask how is your posture standing up straight with your shoulders back makes you a taller person that takes up more space when you have the confidence to take up this space and walk tall people will start to notice and conversely shrinking back into the corner with slumped shoulders gives off a very sheepish and negative vibe no one was ever attractive to someone because they were acting sheepishly well actually I have heard serial killers are because they might be searching for easy victims but all the more reason to stand up straight also ask yourself are you present when people feel insecure they may retreat inside their head it's not hard to recognize when someone is focused on other things rather than being present in the moment it might have that dole stare when you enter a room are you present and paying attention to what is actually happening within the room if you're in a conversation are you actively listening and engaged these qualities are seen as attractive not because they improve your physical appearance but because they show people that you value them and are genuinely interested in what is happening around you and another question you can ask yourself about body languages are you smiling confidence and optimistic people can't help but smile all the time smiling is contagious and your smile can boost another person's mood also people want to be around other people that make them feel happy and comfortable smiling is another quick improvement to your appearance that requires less than two minutes of your time even if you're feeling a little bit nervous a smile is one of those things you can truly fake it until you make it pop in the bathroom and smile in a mirror even if it's forced it won't take long before you crack a genuine smile after all smiling at yourself in the mirror is pretty silly let's move on to the psychology of Attraction how do we know that confidence makes you more attractive well it's simple psychology the reason that we're attracted to people with a larger posture or someone who puts effort into their appearance goes back to the beginning of our species even the features of our face that make us more or less attractive can be explained by psychology people with a so-called baby face are considered more attractive throughout many different cultures this phenomenon has been studied throughout the world body language has been studied for the benefit of salespeople matchmakers and life coaches even when you can't seem to find an explanation for why you think a certain person might be attractive science probably can one more thing if you're interested in learning more about what I have to teach about being attractive I've actually created a premium video course specifically for guys it's called the psychology of attraction and it's your animated guide to how a girl thinks what she finds irresistible attractive and how to use psychology to make her want you marketing headline aside it's basically an animated video course that I created by reading 8 psychology textbooks and summarizing everything I know about Attraction stuff like texting tips reading body language rejection training how to understand any girl basically put it into a 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B1 中級 美國腔 如何用簡單的心理學讓自己更有吸引力--《吸引力心理學》。 (How to be more attractive using simple psychology - The Psychology of Attraction) 238 13 Amy.Lin 發佈於 2021 年 01 月 14 日 更多分享 分享 收藏 回報 影片單字