Name: 【生命教育】活出不留遺憾的人生 (Masculine Man: How To Live Without Regret)
Uploaded: 2019-01-11T21:01:20.000Z
Duration: 5 min 9 s

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The scariest thing in life is getting old and dying with regrets still inside of us.

人生最恐怖的事就是當你變老，即將面臨死亡時，心中仍有遺憾。

We all have heard stories about people, who wish they had done more with their lives.

我們都聽過其他人說，希望自己將人生過得更充實。

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And if they could go back into their 20s, they would do things completely differently.

如果能回到 20 幾歲，他們會做截然不同的事。

Regret is one of the worst emotions that any of us could ever experience.

後悔是每個人都可能體驗到的最糟糕情緒之一。

And I don't want any of you to experience it so in this video I'm gonna go over the three life questions that you need to ask yourself.

而我不希望我的觀眾體驗這種感覺，所以這部影片，我要提出人生中三個，你該問自己的人生課題。

If you want to avoid waking up at the age of 40, full of regret, the first question you need to ask yourself is, what experiences do I want to have in my life?

如果你不想要 44 歲時，才對人生感到遺憾的話，第一個你該問自己的問題是，我一生中想要怎樣的體驗？

This is important because, there are two types of goals in life.

這很重要，因為生命中有兩種目標。

分別是過程目標以及最終目標。

Examples of end goals can be, something like traveling around the world, learning a new skill or simply being happy with your life.

最終目標像是環遊世界、學習新技能、或只是快樂過每一天這類事情。

People tend to chase end goals not realizing that these are actually means goals.

人經常追求最終目標，而沒發覺自己其實在追求過程目標。

Here are some more examples of Means goals:

But if you ask these people, why do you want this?

但如果你問這些人，為什麼想要？

There is always a 'so' associated with the answer.

他們答案的句型都是「這樣一來...就...」

I want to do well on my math test so I can graduate from college.

我想考好數學考試，這樣一來，我就能從大學畢業。

I want to graduate from college so I can do this.

我想要從大學畢業，這樣一來，我就能做這些事情。

Maybe you want a good job so you can travel around the world.

或是你想要得到一份好工作，這樣一來你就可以環遊世界。

You can be madly in love with someone, it could be when you hold your first born baby.

可以是瘋狂愛上某人，也可以是抱著你的新生寶寶

The so's are what make life beautiful and they're the moments that you tell your friends and family about.

「這樣一來... 就...」讓人生變得美好，創造出那些值得和家人、朋友分享的時光。

They're the moments that you truly cherish at the end of your life.

有些時光是到生命盡頭時你真正會珍惜的時光。

These are end goals and these are what you should be chasing.

這些是最終目標，最終目標才是你該追求的。

Once you ask yourself what experiences, do I want to have in my life, you will identify what your end goals are.

當你問自己：「我一生中想要怎樣的體驗？」你就會知道自己的最終目標是什麼。

Ask yourself what countries do I want to travel to?

Once you ask yourself these questions, you will see they don't actually require that much money.

一旦問過自己這些問題後，你會發現要完成這些事，其實不需要那麼多錢。

Which is funny because we usually associate money with happiness.

這很有趣，因為人常常把錢跟快樂聯想在一起。

Do this exercise and you will see exactly what I mean.

做這項測驗，你就懂我的意思了。

The second question you need to ask yourself is: for to be this man or woman who has all these experiences, how do I have to grow in order to get them?

第二個你該問自己的問題是，要成為擁有這些經驗的男人或女人，該做哪些事情？

What skills do I need to learn in order to travel around the world?

學哪些技能可以讓我環遊世界？

What social skills do I need to learn in order to meet someone I can truly fall in love with?

我該學習哪些社交技巧才可以遇到真正理想的對象？

In my opinion, the reason why most of us associate learning with a negative or boring emotion is because of the traditional education system.

我認為，大部分人之所以會把學習和負面或是無聊的情緒聯想在一起是因為傳統教育系統

They exercise something called forced learning or they force concepts down our throats.

傳統教育為強迫學習強迫將知識灌入腦中。

而傳統教育所學的大多知識在日常生活中，沒有一點用處。

It's crazy to think that in today's society, it has become totally normal to dread learning.

想到現今社會，遍害怕學習是一件很正常的事就覺得很瘋狂。

And when we actually come across something, we actually really are interested in, it almost feels strange to indulge in it, because our brains are so accustomed to dislike learning.

而當我們遇到某些我們真正感興趣的東西時，通常會覺得自己可以那麼沉浸在其中，是一件很神奇的事，因為我們的大腦已經很習慣厭惡學習了。

So let's say you have learned all the skills you need and you are now the person you wanted to be.

假設你已經學完了所有你想學的技能，你現在成為了夢想中的自己。

The third question you must ask yourself is:

The Dalai Lama said, if you want to be happy, make other people happy.

達賴喇嘛說過，如果你想要快樂的話，先讓其他人感到快樂。

Tony Robbins who is worth over half a billion dollars and one of the most famous self-help speakers, in the entire world also says giving back is what will make you the happiest, and this is what he does to this day.

托尼．羅賓斯身價超過數十億美元，同時也是世界上最知名的自我激勵講師之一，也說過，回饋是讓他感到最快樂的事，這也是他持續在做的事。

The third question is what truly leads to fulfillment.

第三個問題是，什麼東西能讓你真正感到充實？

Take your experiences and your growth and contribute to the people around you.

將你的經驗與成長分享給身邊的人。

If you have learned how to make amazing wooden tables, mentor someone else who wants to learn how to make wooden tables.

如果你學到要怎麼製作一張好木桌，那就教導別人如何做木桌。

If you have figured out how to create your own successful business, mentor someone else who wants the same results that you have already achieved.

如果你知道怎樣建立成功的企業，那就教導別人如何才能達到你目前的成就。

When you do this exercise of writing down these three questions, you will cut through all the useless BS, and it will get you thinking in very unconventional ways.

當你做這個測驗時並寫下這個問題，你就可以擺脫所有沒用的屁話，並讓你用新穎的方法思考。

It takes your brain out of mainstream thinking and you will start seeing the world in a very different way.

這會讓你的大腦跳脫主流思考，從此你會用不同角度看世界。

A lot of this material that I just went over, is from someone who I really admire named Vischen Lakhiani.

上述這些概念來自於一位我非常欣賞的人：Vishen Lakhiani。

And I'm definitely saying that name wrong.

But I highly recommend you check him out.

So as you guys I read and respond to all of your comments, and I can see that a lot of you have been asking me to upgrade my microphone.

如各位所知，我會查看並回覆所有留言，我有看到很多人希望我可以升級一下麥克風。

I have not done that and if this sounds better please leave the video like and let me know in the comment section, if you can really hear the difference.

我還沒升級麥克風，如果這部影片的聲音比較悅耳的話，請幫我按個讚，或如果你聽得出聲音有什麼差異的話，請在下面留言。

And again thank you so much for watching this video and I'll see you in the next one.

再次，非常感謝觀看這部影片，下部影片再見。