Name: 不擅長社交的你，可以用這五種方式交朋友！(5 Ways to Make Friends When You're Socially Awkward)
Uploaded: 2023-07-25T21:01:30.000Z
Duration: 4 min 42 s

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Are you spending the night in watching this video, because you don't have any plan?

你是不是因為晚上沒有任何計畫，所以正在看著這部影片呢？

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I know what that's like, and I'm here to let you know that you aren't alone.

我知道那是怎麼回事，我現在就要讓你知道，你不孤單。

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Thousands of people watching this probably wish they were sitting next to someone like you.

成千上萬的人可能邊看著影片邊希望自己就坐在像你一樣的人旁邊。

Being socially awkward might seem like it's a big part of who you are, but here's a small secret.

不擅社交似乎在某種程度上代表著你這個人，但有個小秘密告訴你。

It's only big because it's what you focus on.

只有你在意的時候這才會顯得很重要。

In reality, there's more to you than what you give yourself credit for.

其實，相較於以不擅社交來認定自我，你還能做到更多。

Here are five ways to make friends when you're socially awkward.

現在要介紹 5 個當你不擅社交時，幫助交朋友的方法。

Why show up at a bar you never go to, when you can use your everyday settings?

當你可以利用日常生活的環境時，為什麼還要去從沒去過的酒吧？

If you study in school full-time and work on the weekends, you can make friends with your classmates and co-workers.

如果你日間是學生而週末有打工，你可以和同學及同事交朋友。

Cliques often prevent people from getting to know each other, but there are ways to overcome these social walls.

小圈子通常會妨礙人們互相認識，但還是有些方法可以克服這些社交高牆。

但你得先抱持著開放的心態才行。

Judge someone for the content of their character, not based on the music they listen to, nor what they wear.

要從人格內涵評斷一個人，而非根據他們聽的音樂跟穿著。

When you start with something familiar, you'll all feel comfortable, and maybe strike up a conversation about a common interest.

從熟悉的事物開始，你們就不會感到尷尬，或許也能開啟共同興趣相關話題。

If you're worried about being out of place, don't be.

如果你擔心自己格格不入，別這麼想。

People don't admit this a lot, but the truth is: life can be incredibly boring, seeing and hearing the same things every day.

人們不太會承認，但事實是，每天都看著、聽著相同的事，生活可能相當無趣。

Maybe you're exactly what someone needs to spice things up.

也許你就是那個增添某人生活趣味的人。

Different interests come in handy when others can learn a thing or two from you, and vice versa.

不同的興趣也會派上用場，能讓別人能從你身上學到一兩件事，反之亦然。

An erupts people of happiness and open doors.

做一個散發快樂的人，不要排除任何可能性。

相反的，要練習面對自己的脆弱感。

I know how hard it can be when rejection is feared.

我知道被拒絕的恐懼讓你難以行動。

But you never know until you try. In fact, you can never succeed if you don't try.

但你沒有試永遠不會知道結果。事實上，如果沒有嘗試，就永遠不會有成功的一天。

Telling yourself you're not good  enough to talk to someone will only prevent  you from building connections with others.

不斷告訴自己「你不夠格去跟人聊」，只會妨礙自己跟他人建立關係。

Make a list of all of your strengths and talents, and tape it to your mirror.

列出你所有的優點與才能，並且貼到鏡子上。

Each day before you leave for school or work, read it to remind yourself that you're special.

每天離家去學校或工作前唸一次，提醒自己是特別的存在。

Sounds like a no-brainer, right? But etiquette is timeless, classy, and makes you an approachable person.

聽起來是個用膝蓋想也知道的事，對吧？但禮節是永不過時的經典原則，讓你成為好親近的人。

People are usually turned off by selfish, self-absorbed individuals, who only talk about themselves.

人們通常會對自私、只熱衷於自己想法、只談論自己的人感到掃興。

If you're shy, you might be scared to lend a helping hand or comfort someone, when you see that they're having a bad day.

如果你很害羞，當看到有些人過著很糟的一天，你可能不敢伸出援手或安慰他人。

But compassion is a way to someone's heart.

但同情是個觸動他人內心的方法。

So the next time the person who sits next to you in chemistry fails a test you aced, take the leap and offer help.

所以下次化學課坐你隔壁的人考試不及格，而你拿了 A，就馬上提供協助吧。

It's hard for people to resist light, during dark times.

Overnight success is a myth, and so is the whole scenario of meeting someone who just gets it.

一步登天是個迷思，對認識新朋友的整個情境來說也是。

If it were always that easy, we wouldn't have room to grow.

如果總是這麼簡單，我們就沒有成長的空間。

Know that the best friendships take time.

要知道，最好的友誼需要時間培養。

It's okay to move slow, and don't compare the friendships you're forming with someone else's.

慢慢來完全沒關係，也不要把你正在經營的友誼拿來跟其他人比較。

每個人的故事都會以不同的方式展開。

Instead of stressing out about why you haven't made matching bracelets or had sleepovers yet, embrace the present for what it is, and practice vulnerability.

不樣因為你們還沒有成對的友情手鍊，或還沒被邀請參加過夜派對而感到壓力，接受目前的進展，並且練習面對自己的脆弱感吧。

Expect yourself to make mistakes, you're only human after all.

預期自己會犯錯，畢竟你也只是普通人。

They only need to feel understood and loved, in order to make connections.

他們只需要被了解和被愛，好讓彼此連結。

See the best in others, and be encouraging of their dreams.

看到他人最好的一面，並且鼓勵他們的夢想。

But have the guts to let someone see you fall down sometimes. Tell them about the fears that keep you up at night.

但也要有勇氣讓別人看到你偶爾跌倒的樣子，訴他們那些讓你無法入睡的恐懼。

They'll be relieved because, chances are, they have them too.

他們會很欣慰，因為，有很大的可能他們也有這樣的經歷。

Good friendships always add value for both parties.

Accept that the both of you have strengths and weaknesses, but when you come together, a special bond is formed.

接受雙方都有優點與弱點，但當你們相聚，兩人之間就形成了特殊的連結。