You need to eat more.

你要多吃一點

What, you're too busy to course?

怎麼啦？課業太忙嗎？

A lots is been going on.

最近事情比較多

Maybe it's a girl taking up all your time.

還是有女生佔用了你的時間？

No, but.

不是，但是...

What?

什麼？

I've been meaning to tell you guys this for a long time.

我已經想要跟你們說這件事很久了

Come on, spill it out.

是什麼？快說啦

I'm gay.

我是同性戀

We didn't raise you in America to be gay.

我們讓你在美國長大不是要把你變成 gay

This Chinese family represents a much broader issue within the Asian culture.

這個中國家庭代表亞洲文化中一個很廣泛的議題

And many have taken to YouTube to share their experiences.

很多人曾在 YouTube 分享自己的經驗

The stigma of shame and embarrassment

丟臉和羞辱帶來的惡名

As an Asian, being gay is not common.

身為亞洲人，做為一個同性戀並不尋常

It's not something that you bring up in the family.

這不是你會和家人討論的事情

I feel like gay is one of the worst things

我覺得同性戀是父母認為

that my parents think we can be.

我們做出最糟糕的事情之一

But today it's our actor Daniel who's opening up

但是今天，我們的演員 Daniel 要打開心扉

I can't lie to you guys anymore.

我不想再欺騙你們了

If you overheard these parents...

如果你們無意間聽到這對父母...

After all we have sacrifice for you.

我們為你做了這麼多犧牲

Disapprove of their son for coming out.

對他們兒子出櫃有多不贊成

You bring shame to our family.

你讓我們家族蒙羞

What would you do?

你會怎麼做？

Daniel is meeting his parents at the Jefferson diners.

Daniel 在 efferson diners 和他的父母碰面

There's something I have to say.

有件事我想要說

Come on. Split it out.

什麼事？快說啊

I'm gay.

我是同性戀

What?

什麼？

Right away, this couple is tuned in.

正好，這對情侶聽到了

You gotta be kidding me. It's just unacceptable

你在跟我開玩笑吧，這實在讓人無法接受

After all we've done? I've always sacrificed?

在我們所有付出之後？我犧牲了這麼多

And they're listening as Daniel's parents get more and more upset

他們聽著 Daniel 的父母越來越生氣

How can you have kids?

你要怎麼有小孩

I can adopt. I can...

我可以領養啊，我可以...

You won't have a normal life if you're gay.

你是同性戀的話就不能有正常的人生

Come on!

拜託！

What do you mean?

你說什麼？

You're embarrassing yourself.

你讓自己很丟臉

- That's what I mean. - He's embarrassing us.

- 我就是我要說的 - 他讓我們很丟臉

It's not about you, lady.

這跟你無關，太太

Let mom and dad go away.

爸爸和媽媽先離開

With mom and dad gone,

爸媽離開後

They invite him to join them and offer some support

他們邀請他過來，並給予一些支持

It's nothing they can help.

這不是他們能改變的

It's not a choice.

這不是一個選擇

Just from knowing Asian family...

就我對亞洲家庭的了解

They don't accept that.

他們並不接受

- Not many families do. - In many culture.

- 沒有很多家庭會接受 - 在很多文化中也是

Don't let that control your life, and kind of just, you know...

別被這件事控制，你要...

Find yourself and do what makes you happy.

找尋自我，和做會讓你開心的事

Time to let them know

是時候讓他們知道真相了

- Oh What? You gotta be kidding me.

- 什麼？你在跟我開玩笑吧

- And told me, what would you do?

- 告訴我，你會怎麼做

What is it in you to makes you speak out?

是什麼讓你想要站出來說話？

When she yelled out "You're gay" I'm like, "oh hell, no."

當她大喊：「你是同志！」，我心想：「我的老天。」

It could be a lot worse. You can be a drug addict

情況可能更糟，你可以是一個毒蟲

He could be a thief, a murderer.

他可能是個小偷，一個殺人兇手

Well, there's a lot of other things he can be that are much worse.

有更多其他更糟的可能

We're rolling again.

我們再次開拍

And mom is eager to play cupid.

這次媽媽忙著扮月老

- Look at her. - Yeah, she's pretty, mom.

- 看看她 - 對，她很漂亮，媽媽

This is how people date these days anyway, right?

這是現在人們約會的方式，不是嗎？

She's gorgeous, right?

她很漂亮，不是嗎？

This trio seems to find her matchmaking techniques amusing.

這個三人組覺得她牽紅線的方法很好笑

Go for it.

去試試看啊

- Hey, you won't know unless you try, right?

- 你要試過才知道啊

These people agree with me.

這些人都同意我

And for whatever reasons, he's not interested.

但不知道什麼原因，他就是沒興趣

Is it somebody you know?

這是你認識的人嗎？

- It's a friend of mine. - I'm not interested because I'm gay, mom.

- 那是我的一個朋友 - 我沒興趣是因為我是同志，媽媽

Okay?

好？

They quickly realize...

他們很快發現

- Now it's not funny. You know that, right? - He's not kidding

- 這可不好笑，你知道吧？ - 他並不是在說笑

That's ridiculous.

這太荒謬了

Why are you telling us right now?

你為什麼要現在跟我們講？

Because I don't want to hide it anymore. Okay?

因為我不想再躲躲藏藏了，好嗎？

- What about the family name? - You are the only son.

- 那我們的家族姓氏怎麼辦？你是唯一的兒子

With the pressure boiling,

隨著壓力飆升

Daniel takes a moment to cool down.

Daniel 決定暫時冷靜一下

You should think about this.

你應該再仔細想想

I'm just in shock. I'm so sorry. You don't have to hear this.

我只是嚇到了，我很抱歉讓你們聽到這些

I think you kind of put him on the spot.

我覺得你有點使他難堪

You're here to advise them for good decisions

你是要給他建議的

Let him decide.

讓他做決定

Try to understand his point of view...

試著了解他的想法

- I just want what's best for him. - Yeah, well I understand that.

- 我做的一切都是為了他好 - 我了解

All mothers do.

天底下所有媽媽都是如此

But when it comes to his personal believes

但談到他個人的信仰

But do you believe homosexuality?

但你相信同性戀嗎？

- Well, I believe what the Bible says. - Which is...

- 我相信聖經說的 - 這是什麼意思？

which is that homosexuality is a sin against God.

意思就是同性戀是背叛上帝的罪惡

Exactly that's how we feel.

跟我們想的一樣

Do you really think that me being gay is wrong?

你真的覺得我是同志是一個錯誤嗎？

Well, it's wrong in the eyes of God.

這個嘛... 在上帝的眼裡是錯的

Have Daniel get angry. Just leave. He's upset. He leaves

讓 Daniel 生氣，直接走掉。他很生氣，他離開了

You know what?

你知道嗎？

As Daniel storms away,

隨著 Daniel 怒氣沖沖地離開

This man of faith shares some final thoughts

這位信仰上帝的男子最後又分享了他的想法

I would seek counsel.

我會尋求諮詢

Go see a pastor... 'cause pastors know how to handle it.

去找牧師談談... 牧師知道該怎麼做

You think it's wrong to be gay

你認為同性戀是不對的

I do.

是的

God frowns on his/her sin.

上帝不同意這種罪惡

Gay people will tell you it's not a personality thing. They were born that way.

同志會跟你說這跟個性無關，他們天生如此

That's who they are.

這就是他們

I don't believe that. I think it's an environmental thing.

我不相信，我覺得是環境的因素

I think that with some counseling they can solve the problem.

我認為透過諮詢可以解決這個問題

I considered a problem.

我認為這是個問題

Our actor Daniel who identified as Queer is not surprised by their reaction.

我們的演員 Daniel 是位酷兒，他對他們的反應一點也不意外

In fact, it's what he'd also expect in China where his family is from.

事實上，在他來自的中國，他預期會得到一樣的反應

I don't think I would ever be able to

我不覺得我有可能

Broach the topic of sexuality if I was in China with my extended family because it would be too many doors to slam open.

在中國跟我的大家族成員們談及這個話題，肯定會被摔門很多次

Well today we meet many customers who are happy to help Daniel crack those doors open

但今天有許多客人很願意幫助 Daniel 打開心房

Like, you can't change stuff like that.

你無法改變這種事情

He didn't want to keep it bottled in anymore.

他只是不想再隱瞞

- Well, what culture are you? - I'm Indian.

- 那你來自什麼文化？ - 我是印度人

- Would your parents be Ok? - Probably not but if I was, but if I was I would say the same thing.

- 你父母會同意嗎？ -可能不會，但如果我是的話，也會說一樣的話

'cause its hard, you change who you are.

因為很難改變自己天生的樣子

Others suggest it's simply a sign of the changing times.

其他人說這只是時代的改變的象徵

It just doesn't really belong in our culture.

這不屬於我們的文化

In our culture too, but you know...

在我們的文化也是，但你知道...

it's, it's 2018... you know what I mean?

現在已經 2018 年了，懂我的意思嗎？

Things are different.

時代不一樣了

I'm proud of him that he's easy in saying.

我為他能輕鬆開口感到驕傲

You know how many people years ago would never even open their mouth.

你知道幾年前，很多人連提都不敢提

I grew up in a totally masculine time like, you know, the type of world. Things are changing

我在一個很陽剛的環境下長大，你知道的，那種世界，但事情改變了

I mean look at how many people held that in and they want to commit suicide or something because nobody accepted them.

好多人藏在心裡，有人甚至會想要自殺，只因為沒有人認同

You know... it's like...

這很像... 我又要哭了

- I mean, I could start crying again. - It happens so often.

- 我的意思是... 我要哭了 - 這常常發生

We rolled one last time.

我們最後一次開拍

- How will you tell the rest of the family? - We can't tell the family

- 你要怎麼告訴家裡其他人？ - 我們不能告訴他們

I can't believe you're doing this to us.

我不敢相信你這樣對我們

But as soon as mom and dad leave this woman is up on her feet.

爸爸媽媽一離開，這位女子就展開行動

I'm sorry. I know it's not my business...

我很抱歉，我知道這不關我的事

I'm so upset that they're saying that to you.

我聽到他們對你說的話很生氣

I just don't know what to do

我不知道該怎麼做

It's hard for them to understand because it's not their culture.

這很難讓他們理解，因為這不是他們接受的文化

I just want you to know that it's okay.

我要你知道這沒事的

There's nothing wrong with being gay or straight or whatever you feel.

你是異性戀、同性戀，或有任何感覺都沒有對錯

What am I supposed to do?

我該怎麼辦？

Be yourself is what you're supposed to do... and they can't accept it...

衷於自我是你要做的事，如果他們無法接受

That's their problem.

這是他們的問題

And when our parents return...

當父母回來時

I'm sorry.

對不起

What are you about to talk to your son? He's very brave for coming out to you

你要跟你兒子說什麼？他敢向你們出櫃是非常勇敢的

And I know it's not my place for to interfere.

我知道我沒有資格干涉

I'm sorry. This is your family conference.

我很抱歉，這是你們的家庭會議

Why did you feel like you needed to be involved?

為什麼你覺得你必須介入？

Because I saw how sad he was. It made me sad.

我看到他有多難過，讓我也難受

- The war of us. - How are we supposed to do?

- 我們之間的戰爭 - 我們該怎麼做？

Because he's your son. You love him, right?

因為他是你們的兒子，你們愛他，對吧？

Maybe it just takes some time.

也許要花點時間

Time for us to step in.

該輪到我們介入了

Hi ma'am. How are you? I'm John.

女士您好，我是 John

I'm glad, I'm really glad.

我很高興、真的很高興

You really took it to heart.

這件事真的打動了你

- Why? - Because I lost my mom at 20 years old.

- 為什麼？ - 因為我在 20 歲的時候失去了我的母親

So to see parents and children choosing not to be together or not to have a good relationship makes me sad.

所以看到家長和孩子選擇分道揚鑣或不和平共處讓我很難過

Because you know, I don't have that choice.

因為你知道，我並沒有這個選擇

You didn't have to get involved, right?

你不必涉入其中的，不是嗎？

- You don't know him. - Well, I didn't know if I should... my friend...

- 你不認識他 - 我不知道該不該... 我朋友說

I texted my friend. She's actually meeting me here

我傳訊息給我朋友，她和我在這裡碰面

She is Chinese and I said should I get involved in this? She said don't.

她是中國人，我問她我應該要涉入嗎？她說不要

I think your friend is here.

我覺得你的朋友到了

What did you do?

你做了什麼？

Your friend here was beautiful.

你朋友的行為十分美麗

The way she approached the young man and said, it's okay.

她主動接近那位年輕人，並告訴他一切都會沒事

- You had suggested she'd not do that. - Right.

- 你建議她不要這麼做 - 對

- Why not? - Cultural implications.

- 為何不？ - 文化意涵不同

As an Asian family, they would see this as the stigma of the West.

對亞洲家庭來說，這是西方社會的惡名

Better not to get involved?

最好不要干涉？

Not necessarily. We support the person, you don't want it any insult the parents.

不必要，我們可以支持人家，但不會想要羞辱家長

Daniel you come say hi.

Daniel 來打個招呼呀

- Last time, I need to give you a hug. - Thank you.

- 最後一次，我要給你一個擁抱 - 謝謝你

Love and compassion for a complete stranger it never ceases to inspire.

對陌生人的愛與惻隱之心從未停止激勵人心

- That was really really awesome. - Thank you.

- 剛剛真的很棒 - 謝謝你