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10 Reasons To Ignore What Other People Think Of You

It is human nature to want to be liked and accepted by others.

人的天性就是希望被別人喜歡和接受。

We accept the status quo for what it is because everyone around us does.

我們接受現狀，是因為我們周圍的人都接受現狀。

We tip-toe our way through life by doing things in order to please others.

我們躡手躡腳地在生活中做事，是為了取悅別人。

Eventually, our actions, appearances, and lives become molded by how we think other

最終，我們的行為、外表和生活都會被我們對他人的看法所塑造。

But the truth is, what others think about us can often adversely impact the choices

但事實上，別人對我們的看法往往會對我們的選擇產生不利影響。

我們所做的和我們所做的事情。

This desire to conform to the wishes of others can seriously conflict with our ability to

這種順應他人意願的願望會與我們的能力嚴重衝突。

In this video, we give you some pretty solid reasons to ignore what other people think

在這個視頻中，我們給了你一些非常堅實的理由來忽略別人的想法。

第一條--你的生活就是你的事業

How many times have you pondered over questions like:

你有多少次思考過這樣的問題。

How are these clothes going to make me look?

What will my colleagues think if I speak out?

如果我說出來，我的同事會怎麼想？

Are those people talking shit behind my back?

那些人是不是在我背後胡說八道？

If I take this job, what will my friends and family think of me?

如果我接受這份工作，我的朋友和家人會怎麼看我？

People are entitled to think whatever they want.

人們有權利去想任何他們想做的事情。

Just as you are entitled to think what you want!

就像你有權利去想你想要的東西一樣!

What people think of you cannot change who you are or what you are worth - unless you

人們對你的看法不能改變你是誰或你的價值--除非你

At the end of the day, you are the only person who needs to approve of your own choices.

到最後，你是唯一需要認可自己選擇的人。

Well, unless of course if you're married…

Number 2 - They Don't Know What's Best For You

第二條--他們不知道什麼是對你最好的。

It's important to recognize that another person's opinion is often based on what

重要的是要認識到，他人的意見往往是基於

What is best for somebody else, may not be the best for you.

對別人來說最好的東西，未必是對你最好的。

Nobody will ever be as invested in your life as you.

沒有人會像你一樣投入到你的生活中。

So only you know what is best for you, and that entails learning from your own choices.

所以，只有你自己知道什麼是最適合你的，這就需要從自己的選擇中學習。

The only way you will ever truly learn is through making your own decisions and taking

唯一能讓你真正學到東西的方法，就是通過自己的決定和接受

This way, if you do fail, at least you can learn from it wholeheartedly, as opposed to

這樣，如果你真的失敗了，至少你可以全心全意地從中吸取教訓，而不是像

We all have an internal story that influences how we treat other people and what we think

我們每個人都有一個內心的故事，它影響著我們如何對待別人和我們的想法。

But, our thoughts, ideas and views change on a regular basis!

但是，我們的思想、觀念和觀點是經常變化的!

This means, even if somebody does think badly of you at the moment, there is a good chance

這就意味著，即使當下有人確實對你有不好的看法，也有很大的機會

they will think differently in the near future.

他們在不久的將來會有不同的想法。

So basically, people's thoughts don't mean shit!

所以，基本上，人們的想法並不代表什麼!

And that's a pretty darn good reason to stop caring about what other people think!

這就是一個很好的理由，不要再在乎別人的想法了!

You'll find that when you start focusing on your own needs, you'll be spending more

你會發現，當你開始關注自己的需求時，你會花費更多的

This self-awareness will make you a more rounded individual.

這種自我意識會讓你成為一個更全面的人。

It will allow you to better manage your time and give you space to have fun.

它可以讓你更好地管理自己的時間，給你空間去享受樂趣。

As a result, you will actually improve the way that people perceive you – and this

是以，你實際上將改善人們對你的看法--這一點

Number 5 - Your Relationships Will Improve

第五條--你的人際關係將得到改善

Try putting yourself first, in more situations.

試著在更多的情況下，把自己放在第一位。

This way, in relationships, you will have a much stronger base to explain what you will

這樣一來，在人際關係中，你將有更堅實的基礎來解釋你將

The ability to set boundaries effectively will give you the ability to say “NO”

有效設定界限的能力會讓你有能力說 "不"

Instead of taking on every request, you'll only do the things that make you happy and

而不是一味地接受每一個要求，你只會做讓你開心的事情，並且是你的目標。

that will give you more energy and a better reputation for being reliable.

會給你帶來更多的能量和更好的可靠聲譽。

These things will make your relationships with other people much healthier in the long

長此以往，這些事情會讓你和別人的關係更加健康。

Who are the people who climb the management and leadership ladders at work?

工作中爬上管理和上司梯隊的人是誰？

It's usually those who are more self-serving.

When someone puts their own needs first, they are more likely to set goals and to strive

當一個人把自己的需求放在第一位的時候，他就更有可能制定目標，並努力

They're also less likely to be apologetic about their drive, and as a result, they are

他們也不太會對自己的駕駛行為表示歉意，是以，他們是

much more likely to seek a promotion and ask for a raise.

更有可能尋求晉升和要求加薪。

While leaders and managers have to take care of the people around them, they also have

領導者和管理者雖然要照顧身邊的人，但也要

And if you can't take care of yourself – it's unlikely you'll be very good at taking care

如果你不能照顧好自己--你就不可能很好地照顧好自己。

Number 7 - Others Don't Care As Much As You Think

7號--別人並不像你想象的那樣關心你。

We go through our days thinking about how other people might be judging us.

我們每天都在思考別人會如何評價我們。

But the truth is—those people are thinking the exact same thing.

但事實是--這些人的想法是完全一樣的。

In fact, people generally don't think outside themselves a great deal of time.

其實，人們一般不會在很大程度上跳出自己的思維。

The average person filters their world through their ego.

一般人通過自我來過濾自己的世界。

We simply think about most things in terms of “me” or “my.”

我們只是從 "我 "或 "我的 "的角度來思考大多數事情。

This means that, unless 'who you are' or what you have done directly affects another

這意味著，除非 "你是誰 "或你所做的事情直接影響到另一個人。

person or their life, they are unlikely to spend much time thinking about you at all.

人或他們的生活，他們根本不可能花太多時間去想你。

You cannot please all of the people, all of the time.

你不可能讓所有的人都滿意，所有的時間。

It is impossible to live up to everyone's expectations, so there's really no point

不可能達到每個人的期望，所以真的沒有意義。

It's better to be loved by a few people that you care about, than to be liked by everyone.

被幾個自己在乎的人愛著，總比被所有人喜歡要好。

These people include, family, friends and your spouse— basically, the people who love

這些人包括，家人，朋友和你的配偶--基本上，愛你的人。

you for who you are, and the people who will be there for you during your worst times.

你是誰，以及在你最糟糕的時候會在你身邊的人。

Focus on these people, because they're the people that matter the most.

關注這些人，因為他們才是最重要的人。

Worrying too much about what other people think can become a self-fulfilling prophecy,

太過擔心別人的看法，會成為一種自我實現的預言。

because the way we think starts to become the way we behave.

因為我們的思維方式開始成為我們的行為方式。

And the behavior we use in an attempt to please others, can actually cause the opposing effect!

而我們為了取悅他人而使用的行為，其實會造成相反的效果!

This means that if you're a push-over, then you're going to be attracting others in your

這意味著，如果你是一個推手，那麼你將會吸引其他人在你的

Being a people-pleaser is not going to stop you from being judged.

做一個討人喜歡的人，並不能阻止你被評價。

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