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Nobody likes uncomfortable moments. It just feels
uncomfortable. So when you are
trying to start a conversation there
is presumably this gap that you're trying to fill.
so my advice is to have a few tricks in your back pocket
that you can automatically default to, to immediately
break that uncomfortable silence and
ignite a really interesting conversation. So let's take for example
you're in a new environment where a lot of strangers are coming together
and when you walk into the space maybe you're naturally gravitate towards an
individual
maybe because you like what they're wearing or you just somehow seem drawn
to them.
What are the techniques I love to do is really
genuinely acknowledge something that you find interesting about them.
It could be commenting on a button they're wearing or shoes that they
have on or
maybe the way they styled her hair who knows or or a jacket that the one who
knows
but it's something that is inspired on on them
that you can spark the conversation and you're having
a shared experience because they're they're wearing it or their
embodying it and your acknowledging it. Now the second thing that I like to do
is take the idea of a shared experience to the environment itself.
You both in the same place maybe there is a statement that you can
knowledge about what's happening in the room or the people or
how excited you are to hear such-and-such speaker. There's something
that you can connect to
that is a shared experience and thirdly
I'm always intrigued by the question of: so what brought you here today.
I want to know why. I love knowing why
people do the things that they do, even if it's why did they come to that event.
You would be amazed at the stories that you hear and the
opening that's created. So if you wanna start
an interesting conversation have a couple of sparks
of topics that you can bring to the table that
immediately sets people at ease. Now with all of these examples
one thing is for certain. Your energy is going to attract that energy to you.
So if you're showing up in an event and you're feeling confident. You're feeling
warm
and you have the ability to just open yourself up to the people around you
that also helps you start a conversation,
because you're basically wearing a billboard that says yes
I wanna meet you. Yes I wanna talk to you.
So with that energy in mind have three
things that you can have in your back pocket to bring up as conversation
starters
and believe me you will never want for anyone to talk to.