Hey guys!

哈囉!

So this is a subject that we've talked a lot about in random videos,

這是個我們常不經意提到的主題

but we've never dedicated any video to it before, so...

但我們從來沒有真正做一個影片關於它

I feel like it's overdue

00:00:16,680 --> 00:00:19,020 這是關於在日本說"我愛你"

The subject of saying "I love you" in Japan

在日本跟愛人說這句話通常不是一個常見的現象

So it's kind of not a huge thing in Japan that a lot of people say to their loved ones.

首先，我覺得我們該先把"我愛你"翻譯成日文

But first I think we should start out by actually translating "I love you" into Japanese

因為其實有很多不同的翻譯和說法

Because there are a couple different ways to translate it

恩

Mkay

如果你是在看動漫或連續劇，

So if you watch a drama or anime

很多時候你會聽到裡面的人物說"suki desu"

A lot of the times you'll see a character saying "suki desu"

然後它會被翻成"我愛你"

and that gets translated to "I love you"

00:00:44,020 --> 00:00:45,800 我總是會被它混淆

Ahhhh~

對阿

I always get confused by that

他們甚至沒有在交往，或什麼的...

Right

是阿，然後突然就說

They're not even dating or anything, just...

我愛你!!!

Right, and then like, super suddenly

太誇張了

I LOVE YOU!!!

00:00:54,100 --> 00:00:56,980 但"suki desu"意思其實比較像是"我喜歡你"

They're so intense!

是阿

What?

00:00:59,480 --> 00:01:00,160 像是個...

But "suki desu" actually means "I like you" and

告白，是吧?

Yeah

沒錯

That's how you would directly translate it

00:01:02,860 --> 00:01:03,760

You say...

00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:04,260

Like, confession, right?

00:01:04,260 --> 00:01:06,660 "suki desu" 不只是可以跟人說，你可以套用在任何東西上

Right

像"neko ga suki"

I like you

"我喜歡貓"

Suki desu

是比單純"我喜歡貓"更強烈

Right

但實在是明顯沒比"我愛你"來的強烈

And you don't just use that to people, you say "suki desu" for anything

沒錯

like "neko ga suki"

我覺得之所以會被翻成"愛"

"I like cats" or whatever

是因為"愛"在英文中有很廣的意思

I mean it's stronger than "I like cats"

恩

but it's less, less, less than "I love you"

像，你可以說你很"love"一個人

Right

他對你來說很重要

And I think the confusion as to why that gets translated as love

或你也可以說"我love這雙鞋"或之類的

comes down to the fact that "love" in English has a very broad range of meanings to it

英文的love不見得是比喻很強烈

Mkay

所以我覺得...

Like, that you can say "love" about a person where you really really

00:01:38,700 --> 00:01:40,860 那在日本不是個常見的說法

love that person and that has a lot of meaning to you

你不會說"我愛這雙鞋"

But you can also say like, "I LOVE THESE SHOES!" or whatever

沒錯

and that's obviously not nearly as intense

所以這是我覺得為什麼

So I feel like...

當"suki desu"被翻譯成"love，我覺得

That's

英文中的"愛"

That's not a common usage in Japan

不見得是比喻非常非常強烈的感覺

You don't say really say "I love these shoes"

"suki desu"比較像是英文的"I really like you"(我很喜歡你)

Right

之類的

So that's why I feel like when they say

00:01:59,900 --> 00:02:05,980 當你要用日文比喻最強烈的"愛"的時候，

When they translate "suki desu" to love, I feel like it's

是說:"Aishiteru"

that level of love in English

00:02:09,620 --> 00:02:11,580 通常，是非常強烈的

It's not like, you know, 100 intense level love

傳統上來說

It's more like the English "I really like you"

比如，你會說"Aishiteru" 在一個

That kind of thing

婚禮?

Hmmm

是阿

So, the level 100 love in Japan, in Japanese

Jun開玩笑地說過，

that's "Aishiteru"

他說， 這像是瀕死前才會說的句子

You would say "Aishiteru" for that

像是個死前對你愛人的告白

Normally it's a really strong and

"我愛你"

Traditionally

00:02:28,060 --> 00:02:29,120 然後就過世了

Like, maybe you would say that in a

00:02:29,760 --> 00:02:30,860

wedding ceremony?

00:02:30,860 --> 00:02:32,540 像是如此的強烈

Yeah, wedding ceremony

這明顯地當然不是每個人的案例

Jun has joked about it a lot of times before where

有人會對他的愛人說"我愛你"

he said, to him it feels like something you would say on your death bed

00:02:39,740 --> 00:02:40,240 對吧?

Like a death bed confession to your loved one

用日文?

"I love you"

對阿

*dies*

說不定吧

and then like, pass away?

我們之前遇過日本人

Pass away

也跟Jun有同樣對使用"我愛你"的看法

Like that

00:02:50,020 --> 00:02:51,380 那就是一個"你不會去說的東西"

Like it's that level intense

像是個"很難脫口的東西"

So obviously this isn't everyone in Japan

因為實在是過度強烈了

there are people who say, um, "I love you" to their partners

對，我們不會就這樣說

I'm sure

對阿 在日本不會就這樣脫口說

Right?

在美國也有案例是有人不會這樣脫口說我愛你

In Japanese?

00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:06,920 當然有家庭不太互相示愛

Yeah, in Japanese

但這不一樣

Maybe

我覺得這不一樣，因為在我的文化角度，

So we've seen Japanese commons before who

如果你不跟家人說"我愛你"

have agreed with Jun's like, usage of "I love you"

別人會覺得你太過度保守

where it's like

或

It's something "You don't say that!"

孤僻

that's like "That's really difficult to say!"

會你家人彼此不太大方

because it's like so intense

所以 有一些美國人不會說我愛你

Yeah, we don't just say it

但這行為會有個給人負面的感覺

Yeah, you don't just say it here

所以這實在不大一樣

I mean there are people in America who don't use it

00:03:26,820 --> 00:03:28,280 在日本不一樣

lightly either

不太說我愛你不會給人有負面的感覺，是吧?

There are definitely families that, you know, don't show a lot of open affection like that

像是說

But it's different

它是個存在的句子

But I feel like it's different because in my culture,

但我們不太會說到

if you don't say "I love you" to your family members

這樣懂吧

then people think you're closed off

沒錯

or they think that you're like

日本，我認為

emotionally distant,

不是個用口說表達感情的國家

or maybe your family isn't very open with each other

至少

So I mean there are people who don't say it

這是我的個人觀察

but there's a negative stigma to that

從這五年半跟Jun在一起的時間

It's just different

感覺上你就是不用說它

But it's not,

沒必要，因為

that's not the case here

他們知道

There's not a negative stigma to not saying it, right?

因為日本人從小不是這樣習慣長大的，所以會感到奇怪

It's

我記得在機場我試著抱我的家人，

It's something that's there

他們感覺非常羞澀

It's not something we say

對阿

if that makes sense to you

00:04:03,340 --> 00:04:06,060

Right

00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:08,940 他們是開心的，但也很不舒服

Japan I guess, isn't a very like

對

verbally affectionate country

因為我們就不是這樣被從小習慣的

At least

00:04:11,640 --> 00:04:14,380 我覺得

this is how my interpretation of it from what I've heard

我們的外國觀眾，可能會覺得

from Jun over these past 5 and a half years

"那只是你的個例嗎?沒有更對感情開放的日本家庭嗎?"

It feels like you don't have to say it in Japanese, like

00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:22,460 是有些家庭是對感情很開放的

there's no need to say it because

但是， 用日文說"我愛你"

people know

"Aishiteru"

We just didn't grow up like that so it's also strange

就真的不是個現象

so I can remember my family when I gave them a hug

說不定有，但

at the airport, they're like super shy, they're like

不會有太多的

Right

我能了解Jun的意思

Yeah

但對我來說，我很難理解

I did it to make fun of them and just joke around

不會想要或覺得要說"我愛你"

They were happy but they're uncomfortable too

因為這對我的文化很重要

Right

可能這只是我，

Because we didn't grow up like that

但我確定有人跟我是一樣的

Right

00:04:51,060 --> 00:04:54,460 我們會做一件好事或貼心的事，

And I think a lot of

00:04:55,300 --> 00:04:55,800 恩

foreign viewers who hear you say that are gonna say

與其說它

"Isn't that just your family? Are there families that are

00:04:58,000 --> 00:04:58,800 我們試著

a lot more open in Japan?"

也不是要證明什麼

There are some families that are open,

但我們會回覆在行動上

but just saying "I love you" in Japanese

不只是用話表達

"Aishiteru"

對

is just not a thing, really

00:05:05,560 --> 00:05:07,840 有個著名的英文書關於這

Maybe, but

叫"愛之語"

I assume there aren't very many

00:05:10,420 --> 00:05:12,760 它包括了5種示愛方式

I hear what Jun's saying and I understand it,

關於表達愛的習慣等等

but it's really difficult for me to comprehend

我感覺日本就是

not needing or wanting to say "I love you" because

用"行動示愛"

it's just like so deeply ingrained in my culture

00:05:20,900 --> 00:05:21,620

Maybe this is just me, but I'm sure there are

00:05:21,620 --> 00:05:22,960 有一項是行動

a lot of people like me too

00:05:23,460 --> 00:05:25,080 所以人會示愛以

Um

幫他們做事

We do something nice, something considerate

00:05:27,020 --> 00:05:29,520 像工作、家事

does it make sense to you?

煮飯...等等

Right

你就是這樣

Instead of saying it

真就像是我做的事

Right

Jun就是如此

And we tried

00:05:35,120 --> 00:05:37,120 完完全全的行動示愛派

We don't really try to prove it but

但你就只覺得因為我是個好人

we do it by action

00:05:39,940 --> 00:05:41,020 恩 對我來說嘛

Not just words

那是我的愛 好嗎?

Right

就是我不一樣的角度

And we have a word for that

那是我的愛

There's actually a really famous book in English

所以我覺得

called "The Five Love Languages"

日本文化傾向行動示愛派

Okay

有個字- "Omoiyari",

Where it breaks down 5 different ways that people

比較像是我們日本人

show their love and how they want to be shown love

的對愛的解析

And so I feel like Japan, like the entire country

對

is acts of service

就是像

So

它存在

*Pfftttt*

對

There's one that's called acts of service

可以被感覺到的

Okay

可以被感覺到的

So people show their love for other people by

恩

doing things for them

00:06:05,640 --> 00:06:08,300

Okay

00:06:08,300 --> 00:06:10,360

So like, working, or doing household chores,

00:06:10,360 --> 00:06:10,860

or cooking or something

00:06:10,860 --> 00:06:12,820 但你覺得，日本人會開心

AND THAT'S YOU

如果他的愛人說"我愛你"?

That's something like I do everyday, don't I?

如果用是英文，說不定

THAT IS JUN

會像我一樣覺得沒關係

like all the way

恩

He's like 100% acts of service

但如果你是突然回家然後對愛人說

But you just think I'm just a nice person

"Aishiteru"。通常他們都只會說

But

"Okay"

Well, yeah for me

那是大概的回覆

THAT'S FROM MY LOVE, okay?

那假如

That's how my love language

假如是在一個約會的結束呢?

That's from my love

或，當結束了一個很深奧切心的對話呢?

So I feel like there's

然後心情也很好

Japan as a culture leans toward acts of service

他們會很開心假如愛人說"Aishiteru"嗎?

I'd say there's a word called "Omoiyari",

我覺得可能

I think it's closer to what this

但當然要看狀況

our concept of love

是個好事

Right

但我們實在就不常說

Just

或隨便得說

It's there

只是跟你們分享

Right

我們總是會說我愛你

You feel it

Jun剛開始不是很習慣

You feel it

在我們的初期感情

Yup

即使是他先說的

And if you like,

恩

grab a Japanese person, you wouldn't even think

但他很快就習慣了

about wanting to say it

大概兩個月

But

我不記得是多久

But do you think they would be happy if their

00:07:04,480 --> 00:07:04,980 就

partner say "I love you"?

我在成長

If they say "I love you" in English, maybe

他現在

they're fine like me

我覺得他比我還常說

Right

我們會常說

But if you just suddenly come home and just say

蠻頻繁的

"Aishiteru" to your partner, normally they're

我們常會說

"Okay"

即使在我的文化中

That's the reaction you'll probably get

有人覺得太常說的話

What if it's like

它會失去意義

What if it's after a nice date or something?

那是我一開始的想法

Or you had like, a nice like, deep conversation with them?

那是他一開始的想法

And you're having like a really good mood,

Ryosuke是這麼說的

would they be happy if their partner said "Aishiteru"?

對

I think so

這是個常見的想法

Well it depends of course

即使在我的文化中

like it's a nice thing to say

所以那不是

It's just something you don't really say that often

太特別或另類

or lightly

你知道我的看法

So just to let you guys know

我們之前就說過了

we say it all the time in our relationship

好

Jun wasn't super comfortable with it at the

所以以上就是我們的全部看法

very beginning of our relationship

如果有任何回覆

Even though he said it first

可以在下面留言

Um

在那裏

But he got used to it really quickly after I guess,

在那裏

like maybe two months

在那裏

I don't remember how long it took me

00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:52,760 感覺得到的 對吧?

So

我愛你

Just

我也愛你

I'm growing up

掰~

And he says it

掰~

I think he says it more than I do now

哈囉

We say it very often

嗨

Very frequently

所以我們養了一隻新貓

We say it very frequently which

我們養了一隻新貓

even in my culture some people don't like

好

Some people feel like the more you say it

我們之後會做另一個影片關於我們的貓

the less meaning it has to it

你真是個漂亮的小貓

That's exactly how I felt about it at first

00:08:13,260 --> 00:08:14,560 你在做什麼?

That's how he felt about it at first

That's what Ryosuke said too

Right

And that's a very very common thing for people

to feel even in my culture

So that's not

That's not unique or strange at all

You know how I feel about it

We already have this conversation

Okay

So I guess that's all we really have to say about it now

but if you guys have any comments then

leave it down in the comments box below

It's there

It's there

It's there

You show it

You feel it, right?

I love you

I love you too

Byeeee

Byeee

Hi guys~

Hey guys~

So I got a cat here

So we got a cat, okay?

Okay

We'll do about another video our cat later

You're such a pretty kitty

What are you doing?

What are you doing?

*bites*