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We lose friends for a variety of reasons.
我們會因為各種原因失去朋友。
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People move.
搬家。
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I don't want to move to New York.
我不想搬到紐約。
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But, they just have better pizza.
但紐約的披薩就是比較好吃。
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You get into fights.
你們會吵架。
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Dude! How many times do I have to tell you that Los Angeles has great pizza?!
老兄!要跟你講幾次?洛杉磯也有好吃的披薩!
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Life gets crazy.
生活忙碌到爆。
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We could probably get together on...Thursday of January.
我們可以約一月的某個星期四。
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2017.
2017 年。
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No matter what's the reason, we all know what it's like to lose a friend, and...it sucks.
無論什麼原因,我們都懂失去朋友的感覺,那感覺糟透了。
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It's kinda like a breakup where you have this period of being just sad.
就像分手,你有段時間會感到很難過。
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And you wanna call them.
想要打電話給對方。
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And you wanna know where it all went wrong.
想知道哪裡出錯了。
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And you're mourning, and you're moping.
會沮喪、自怨自艾。
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Until finally one day, you wish them well, and you move on with your life.
直到有天,你會祝福他們,然後繼續你的人生。
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The first step is to self-reflect.
第一步,自省。
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And to try to find something that you learned from the friendship.
找出你從這段友誼中學會的事。
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Because something about mentally learning something from an experience makes it feel whole and complete.
因為經驗給我們的領悟能讓我們感到完整。
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And, in essence, finished.
並從本質上,告一段落。
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Second, don't let this experience deter you from emotionally engaging from other people.
第二,不要因為這次經驗而不敢與其他人交流心靈。
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Don't let one experience with someone completely change how you interact with other people.
不要因和某人的單一相處經驗而改變跟其他人的互動方式。
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And finally, let yourself feel the feelings.
最後,讓自己去感受。
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There are so many times when our past comes up, and we just want to push it away.
太多時候,過往回憶襲來時,我們只想將它推開。
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Or our first instinct is to be like, "Oh don't think about that! FUCK THAT! FUCK. THAT."
第一反應總是像這樣:「不要去想那個!去他的!去!他!的!」
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But, it's important to give yourself permission.
但允許自己思念過去是很重要的。
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So if you miss someone, let yourself just miss them.
所以如果你想念某人,就想吧!
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And, be like, "You know what, that's fine. I really miss that person, in this moment, but it's over for a reason."
對自己說:「這沒什麼大不了,我現在很想念他,但我們分開是有原因的。」
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And let yourself sit with that for as long as you need to sit with that.
讓自己想念,給自己充分的時間。
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Ultimately, we're all gonna lose a lot of friends throughout our life.
人生中,我們最終都會失去很多朋友。
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But we're also gonna gain a lot of friends and a lot of experiences.
但我們也會結交許多新朋友、經歷許多事。
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So, it works out! Hey!
所以,別擔心!事情終有解答。
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Stay awesome, Gotham. Ha!
你是最棒的!再會!