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  • Love is our highest value, what we all crave and what we believe makes us fundamentally

    「愛」是我們的最高價值,是我們都渴望的,也是我們自認身為人類的基礎

  • human, but it is also the source of considerable anxiety. Chiefly, we worry whether we are

    但它也是諸多焦慮的來源

  • entirely normal because it frequently feels as if we are not experiencing love the way

    首先,我們擔心自己究竟正不正常? 因為我們好像沒有一直體驗到我們應有的愛

  • we should be. Society is subtly highly prescriptive in this regard. It suggests that to be a decent

    社會在此對我們給予了高度規範

  • person, we should all be within sexual relationships and furthermore, that within these, we should

    我們必須正常的有性關係才能被認為是個像樣的人

  • 'love' in a very particular way: we should be constantly thrilled by our partner's

    不僅如此,我們還必須以某種特定的方式去「愛」

  • presence, we should long to see them after every absence, we should crave to hold them

    我們必須隨時對伴侶的在場感到興奮 必須對重逢感到渴望

  • in our arms, to kiss and be kissed by them andmost of allwant to have sex with

    我們必須想要與他們擁抱、親吻, 更不用說,還必須時常想要和他們做愛

  • them every day or so. In other words, we should follow the script of Romantic ecstasy throughout

    也就是說,我們一生必須遵循著癡迷的羅曼蒂克劇本

  • our lives. This is beautiful in theory and hugely punitive in practice. If we're going

    這在理論上看來很美,實際上做起來則很嚴苛

  • to define love like this and peg the idea of normality accordingly, then most of us

    如果我們要那樣定義愛,並且以此定義正常。

  • will have to admit to ourselves (with considerable embarrassment) that we don't know much about

    那麼多數人都得羞愧地承認我們不太懂愛

  • loveand therefore don't qualify as decent, sane, or normal people. We've created

    而因此不能算是個像樣的、神智正常的、普通的正常人

  • a cult of love radically out of line with most of our real experiences of relationships.

    我們依照著親密關係的經驗塑造出了愛情的神祕儀式

  • This is where the Ancient Greeks can help. They realised early on that there are many

    這時候古希臘人就幫得上忙了 他們很早就明白愛有許多不同形式

  • kinds of love, each with their respective virtues and seasonsand that a good society

    每一種愛都有各自的美德和風味

  • requires us to append a correct vocabulary to these different states of the heart, lending

    而一個好的社會需要我們對這些不同的心理狀態給予不同詞彙

  • each one legitimacy in the process. The Greeks anointed the powerful physical feelings we

    讓每種愛都得到正統性

  • often experience at the start of a relationship with the word 'eros' (ἔρως) . But

    希臘人稱熱戀之初的強烈生理感受為eros (ἔρως) (慾望)

  • they knew that love is not necessarily over when this sexual intensity wanes, as it almost

    但他們知道,大約一年過去,感情中的強烈性慾淡化後 並不意味著愛一定就結束了

  • always does after a year or so in a relationship. Our feelings can then evolve into another

    這時候我們的感受可能發展成philia (φιλία)

  • sort of love they captured with the word 'philia' (φιλία) normally translated as 'friendship'

    時常翻譯成友誼

  • though the Greek word is far warmer, more loyal and more touching than its English counterpart;

    但是在希臘文中比在英文中更溫暖、忠誠和動人

  • one might be willing to die for 'philia'. Aristotle recommended that we outgrow eros

    一個人可能願意為philia而死 亞里斯多德建議我們在年輕時就結束eros

  • in youth, and then base our relationshipsespecially our marriageson a philosophy

    然後以philia的哲學來建立關係,特別是婚姻

  • of philia. The word adds an important nuance to our understanding of a viable union. It

    philia為我們對這種結合的理解增添了重要的差異

  • allows us to see that we may still love even when we are in a phase that our own, more

    它讓我們看見當另一個較狹隘的詞失效的時候 我們仍然可以繼續去愛

  • one-sided vocabulary fails to value. The Greeks had a third word for love: agape (ἀγάπη).

    希臘人還有第三個形容愛的詞: agape (ἀγάπη)

  • This can be best translated as a charitable love. It's what we might feel towards someone

    這可以翻譯成慈愛

  • who has behaved rather badly or come to grief through flaws of characterbut for whom

    這是對表現不好的人 或對性格缺陷者依然具有同情心的感受

  • we still feel compassion. It's what a God might feel for his or her people, or what

    那是上帝對祂的子民的感受

  • an audience might feel for a tragic character in a play. It's the kind of love that we

    或是觀眾對悲劇人物的感受

  • experience in relation to someone's weakness rather than their strength. It reminds us

    那是我們對一個人的弱點而不是其強處的感受

  • that love isn't just about admiration for virtues, it's also about sympathy and generosity

    它提醒我們愛不只是對美德的仰慕 也是對弱點和不完美的同情與寬容

  • towards what is fragile and imperfect in us. Having these three words to handeros,

    有了eros、philia、agape三個詞 強化了我們對愛的理解

  • philia and agapepowerfully extends our sense of what love really is. The Ancient

    希臘人睿智的將混淆了的愛的概念分解成了不同的要素

  • Greeks were wise in dividing the blinding monolith of love into its constituent parts.

    在他們的指引之下, 我們便能看見, 我們的生命中有比我們原來單一的詞彙所帶給我們的, 還要更多的愛

  • Under their tutelage, we can see that we probably have far more love in our lives than our current

    請點擊連結來更深入了解我們的頻道

  • vocabulary knows how to recognise.

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Love is our highest value, what we all crave and what we believe makes us fundamentally

「愛」是我們的最高價值,是我們都渴望的,也是我們自認身為人類的基礎

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