Most of my videos are aimed at helping you win back an ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend…

我的大部分視頻都是為了幫助你 挽回前女友或前男友... ...

but to be frank, the very most effective way to reverse a breakup is to avoid it in the

但坦率地說，最有效的方法是... 扭轉分手，就是避免在。

first place.

第一名。

So that’s what this video will be all about -- I’ll give you some tips on how to maintain

所以這就是這段視頻的全部內容 --我會給你一些小竅門，如何保持

a healthy relationship and avoid breakups.

健康的關係，避免分手。

So, let’s go through some of the things you can do when you’re in a relationship

那麼，讓我們來看看一些事情 你可以做的，當你在一個關係

to keep the attraction alive…

為了保持吸引力...

1.)

1.)

Quit being so needy, and keep a lid on the jealousy.

別再那麼需要了，給自己留點餘地吧。 妒忌。

One of the least attractive characteristics you can portray is insecurity.

最不吸引人的特點之一 你能描繪的是不安全感。

Jealousy and ‘neediness’ are both extreme examples of insecurity, so they can cause

嫉妒和 "需要 "都是極端的。 不安全的例子，所以會造成

some real damage to a relationship.

一些真正的損害關係。

Jealousy is a natural feeling that we all have to endure to a certain degree, but the

嫉妒是我們每個人都會有的自然感受 在一定程度上不得不忍受，但在一定程度上

key is to suppress these feelings of jealousy unless you have a very, very good reason to

關鍵是要壓制這些嫉妒的情緒 除非你有非常非常好的理由

feel jealous.

感到嫉妒。

Most of the time, you simply need to trust your partner and have faith that he or she

大多數情況下，你只需要相信 你的伴侶並相信他或她

is not being disloyal.

是不是不忠。

‘Neediness’ is a similar attraction-killing trait... in fact, it’s so common that I

'需求'也是一種類似的吸引力殺傷力。 事實上，它是如此的普遍，以至於我...

should probably make a video dedicated just to this topic.

也許應該做一個視頻專門只是 對這一主題。

For the purposes of this video, though, I’ll just leave it at this: no-one likes being

為了這個視頻的目的，雖然，我會 就這樣吧：沒有人喜歡被人

in a relationship where your partner is constantly seeking validation, so quit being ‘needy’

在關係中，你的伴侶經常 求同存異

or ‘clingy’.

或'粘人'。

2.)

2.)

Avoid falling into a boring routine.

避免陷入枯燥的日常工作。

The first few months of any new relationship are usually exciting and passionate, but things

任何新關係的前幾個月 通常是激動人心的，充滿激情的，但事情

can often quickly become stale if you and your partner don’t make an effort to keep

往往會很快變味，如果你和 你的伴侶不努力保持。

things interesting.

有趣的事情。

Avoiding boring routines doesn’t require anything extreme… you don’t have to go

避免枯燥的日常工作，不需要 任何極端的事情... 你不需要去。

skydiving on Tuesdays and skinny dipping on Thursdays, for example… you just have to

週二跳傘，週三裸泳。 比如說，星期四，你只要...

mix it up enough to avoid either one of you becoming bored.

混為一談，以免你們中的任何一人 變得無聊。

A romantic weekend getaway, for example, is a great way to break the routine… you could

例如，一個浪漫的週末旅行，是一個浪漫的週末旅行。 一個打破常規的好方法... 你可以...

take your partner to a cooking class, try out the newest restaurant in town, or spontaneously

帶你的伴侶去上烹飪課，嘗試 在鎮上最新的餐廳，或自發的

give your partner a small gift.

給你的伴侶一份小禮物。

Make an effort to spice things up in the bedroom, too -- your sex life is just as prone to becoming

努力為臥室增添色彩。 也--你的性生活也一樣容易變得。

‘stale’.

'變質'。

3.)

3.)

Don’t give up on all your social life.

不要放棄你所有的社交生活。

Some people have a tendency to quickly lose contact with friends and colleagues when they

有些人有迅速失去的傾向 逢年過節

jump into a new relationship.

跳入新的關係。

If you’re guilty of this, and you’ve started to grow apart from your friends and social

如果你犯了這個毛病，並且你已經開始。 逐漸脫離朋友和社會

circle since you entered into your current relationship, then now is the time to reconnect

圈，因為你進入了你現在的 關係，那麼現在是時候重新建立聯繫了。

with them.

與他們。

No couple, regardless of how incredibly compatible and deeply in love they may be, should be

沒有一對情侶，無論多麼相配 縱使他們情深意重，也應該是

spending 100% of their time together.

花100%的時間在一起。

It’s very important to keep other areas of your life intact, too… a well-balanced

保持其他方面的工作是非常重要的 你的生活也是如此... ...一個平衡的生活。

social life can really help keep your relationship healthy and assist in keeping your jealousy

社交生活可以真正幫助保持你們的關係 健康，並協助保持你的嫉妒心。

and neediness in check.

和需求性的控制。

Generally speaking, your romantic partner should be one important element of your life,

一般來說，你的戀愛對象 應該是你生活中的一個重要元素。

not the only element.

不是唯一的要素。

4.)

4.)

Swallow your pride and accept responsibility.

吞下你的驕傲，接受責任。

Arguments are normal in romantic relationships, but you need to learn how to have mature disputes

在戀愛關係中，爭吵是正常的。 但你要學會如何進行成熟的爭論。

that lead to productive solutions.

導致富有成效的解決方案。

Yelling and screaming, hurling insults, trying to get ‘revenge’... these are all things

大喊大叫 辱罵 試圖... 報'仇'......這些都是......。

that can be toxic to a relationship, so both you and your partner need to learn how to

會對一段關係產生毒害，所以兩 你和你的伴侶需要學會如何

settle arguments in a mature way.

以成熟的方式解決爭論；

Sometimes, you may need to swallow your pride and apologize to your partner even if you

有時，你可能需要吞下你的驕傲。 並向你的伴侶道歉，即使你

feel like you were ‘right’ and he or she was ‘wrong’ in a given argument… accept

覺得自己是對的，而他或她 錯了

responsibility for fights that get out of hand, and be willing to step up and be the

鬥毆責任 手，並願意站出來，做一個

bigger person if it will help settle the issue and avoid further conflict.

大塊頭 並避免進一步衝突。

5.)

5.)

Remember that mutual attraction is what holds relationships together.

請記住，相互的吸引力是保持 關係在一起。

It’s incredibly easy to get wrapped up in your day-to-day life and forget that attraction

令人難以置信的是，人們很容易被捲入到 日子裡，忘卻了那份吸引。

is the glue that holds relationships together.

是維繫關係的粘合劑。

This is something that’s very important to remember, though, because it will help

這是非常重要的事情 但要記住，因為這將有助於

you identify problems that cause a loss of attraction and stop them before they lead

您發現的問題，導致損失的 牽一髮而動全身

to more serious issues or a breakup.

到更嚴重的問題或分手。

Your partner fell in love with you for a reason… he or she found your personality and the traits

你的伴侶愛上你是有原因的... ... 他或她發現了你的個性和特質

you possess attractive, so don’t suddenly introduce new unattractive characteristics

你有吸引力，所以不要突然 畫蛇添足

that could reverse this attraction.

可以扭轉這種吸引力的。

Avoid being clingy, jealous, insecure, and possessive… these are all major attraction-killers.

避免粘人、嫉妒、缺乏安全感和 佔有性... 這些都是主要的吸引力殺手。

If your relationship is on the brink of collapse and you’re worried that a breakup might

如果你們的關係處於崩潰的邊緣。 而你又擔心分手可能會

be on the horizon, I’d be happy to help you turn things around and make sure that

臨門一腳，我樂意效勞 你要扭轉局面，確保

doesn’t happen… you can sign up for my personal coaching service at www.BreakupBrad.com/Coaching

不發生... ... 你可以報名參加我的 個人教練服務：www.BreakupBrad.com/Coaching

I work with my coaching clients on an ongoing basis, and I’ll help you identify the problems

我與我的教練客戶一起工作，持續地進行 的基礎上，我會幫你找出問題所在

that are plaguing your relationship and offer a series of solutions to re-build the attraction

困擾你們關係的問題，並提供 一系列的解決方案，重新打造吸引力。

and develop a healthier, more mature relationship.

並建立起更健康、更成熟的關係。

That’s all for now -- please feel free to leave your feedback in the comments section

目前就到此為止---------------------------------------------------請隨意 在評論區留下您的反饋

below, and please take a moment to click the ‘like’ button if you found any of the

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tips in this video helpful.

在這個視頻中的提示有用。

Thanks for watching!

謝謝你的觀看!