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  • So when I'm with you,

    當我跟你在一起的時候

  • I just feel like I can be my truest self.

    我只覺得可以做真實的自己

  • Oh Pedro, I love you. - I love you too.

    噢 Pedro,我愛你 - 我也愛妳

  • That's me, eating a sandwich alone in the bushes.

    這是我,一個人在草叢裡吃著三明治

  • My name is Selorm and for a while now,

    我是 Selorm,目前

  • being single has kind of been apart of my identity.

    單身是我最近的感情狀態

  • I know what you're thinking,

    我知道你在想什麼,

  • "How does a charming, radiant, bombshell of a woman

    「為什麼一個像我這樣迷人、陽光、驚奇

  • "like me have trouble finding a man?"

    的女人找不到男人?」

  • That's exactly what my mom says

    以下是我媽說的

  • literally every day via text.

    她幾乎每天都傳簡訊來

  • When it comes to dating in LA,

    說到在洛杉磯約會

  • meeting people gets kinda weird.

    見面好像有點奇怪

  • There's online dating apps but they're also very weird.

    有交友軟體但他們也很奇怪

  • In order to meet someone,

    為了要認識更多人

  • I have to learn to talk to people in the real world.

    我開始學習如何跟真實世界的人說話

  • So I did what any normal gal would do,

    所以我做了大家都會做的事

  • I hired a love coach.

    我雇用一個愛情教練

  • A distractingly hot love coach.

    一個帥到不行的愛情教練

  • You are going to be my love coach.

    你要當我的愛情教練

  • I'm honored that you chose me.

    很榮幸被你選中

  • You were the first person who popped up on Google.

    你是在 Google 第一個搜尋到的人

  • That's it, that's how you chose?

    是嗎,你是這樣選擇的?

  • That's really it.

    那是真的

  • No research.

    沒有其他研究

  • What exactly happens when one hires

    當一個人雇用人生愛情顧問時

  • a love life strategist?

    實際上會發生什麼事?

  • I've been making videos for years

    我製作影片已經有好多年了

  • about ways to help your love life

    關於如何幫助人們追愛

  • and your confidence at the same time.

    同時增加自信

  • There are too many people that are single

    有太多單身的人

  • and not happy with being single.

    單身而不快樂的人

  • So my whole philosophy is,

    因此我整體的哲學是

  • Okay, firstly let's figure out

    好,我們先搞清楚

  • how we can be happy no matter what happens.

    不論什麼事發生,我們要如何保持快樂

  • But also let's figure out how to create more choice.

    但同時我們也要了解如何創造更多選擇

  • When women say, "I'm old fashioned,

    當女人們說:「我太古板了,

  • I don't make the first move."

    我不想先有第一步。」

  • I say, "Well then you don't know what old fashioned is."

    我說:「那你不知道什麼才叫古板。」

  • Because old fashioned is 100 years ago,

    因為所謂的古板是一百年前,

  • a woman walking past a guy and dropping her handkerchief

    一個女人走過一個男人,丟下她的手帕

  • and the guy sees it and he says,

    然後男人看到了,說:

  • "This is an extraordinary opportunity to be a man."

    「這是個當紳士的大好機會。」

  • Picks up the handkerchief, he walks it over to her

    撿起手帕,他走向她

  • and he says, "Madam, you dropped this."

    然後說:「女士,妳掉了這個。」

  • And she says, "Did I?"

    然後她說:「噢,有嗎?」

  • And they have a conversation.

    然後他們有了對話

  • But he thought that was his idea.

    但他覺得這是他的主意

  • In this day and age, you have to figure out

    在這個世代,你必須搞清楚

  • how to drop the handkerchief.

    如何掉手帕

  • It's clever. I'll just carry

    這很聰明。我就帶著

  • some handkerchiefs on me and just throw them out.

    一些手帕然後丟出去

  • Always carry a handkerchief.

    記得隨身攜帶手帕

  • You mentioned that you're gonna be putting me through

    你提到你這週要讓我嘗試

  • some mini challenges this week.

    一些小挑戰

  • From what you told me,

    從妳告訴我的

  • being in a new environment would be good

    在一個陌生的環境會很好

  • and meeting some new people.

    然後認識一些新的人

  • But also learning how to do

    也學習一些

  • a few new things when you're there.

    新的事物,當妳在那裡的時候

  • A nice thing you can do in terms

    一件很棒的事你可以做

  • of dropping the handkerchief

    像是掉手帕的概念

  • is just ask someone a favor.

    是請求他人的幫助

  • You say to a guy,

    你告訴一個男的

  • "I could really use your help with something."

    「我真的需要你的幫忙。」

  • And it won't feel to him like you approached him.

    然後不會讓他覺得妳刻意接近他

  • Instead it will just feel like he's doing the polite thing.

    反而是讓他覺得他在做很有禮貌的事

  • Okay.

  • So I went off into the busy streets of Hollywood

    因此我進入好萊塢忙碌的街道

  • with a not so hidden camera

    帶著一個蠻顯眼的相機

  • to see if any of these gentlemen callers

    看看有那個自稱紳士的人

  • would answer my questions.

    可以回答我的問題

  • Excuse me? Could I use your help?

    不好意思,我可以請你幫忙嗎?

  • I'm looking for something, my phone just died.

    我正在找東西,但我手機當掉了

  • Unfortunately while I was out there, I realized

    不幸的是我發現

  • that once someone does you a favor,

    當一個人給予幫助時

  • they kind of feel the need to leave and walk away.

    他們感覺想要趕快離開

  • Which meant that I had to find some way

    意思是我必須找其他辦法

  • to keep the conversation going,

    讓對話繼續

  • which I was not very good at.

    是我所不擅長的

  • What else do I ask people?

    我還問了其他人什麼?

  • Which way do I go?

    我該往那裡走?

  • They're like, "That a way."

    他們像這樣「那個方向。」

  • Who bye.

    「那個誰掰掰。」

  • After getting rejected

    在被蠻多人在好萊塢

  • by pretty much everyone in Hollywood,

    拒絕後

  • I moved to a coffee shop,

    我移動到一間咖啡店,

  • where it was a little easier to start conversation.

    比較容易開啟話題

  • I decided I was going to talk to a man

    我決定要跟一個男人講話

  • who was reading newspapers in the corner.

    他在角落看報紙

  • And I proceeded to do the most awkward dance around the room

    我開始在那裏跳最尷尬的舞

  • to find a way to talk to him.

    試圖跟他說話

  • I found a way to start a conversation

    我找到一個開啟話題的好方法

  • by grabbing the newspaper he was reading

    拿著他正在閱讀的報紙

  • and asking him if it was any good.

    然後問他是否有任何好看的東西

  • And it actually started a long

    這真的在我們兩個之間開啟了一個

  • and interesting conversation between the two of us.

    又長又有趣的話題

  • Matthew was right, by asking a favor,

    Matthew 是對的,請求他人的幫助

  • I was able to break the wall and engage in conversation

    我可以跟一個陌生人

  • with a perfect stranger.

    破冰、對話

  • Success.

    成功

  • When you are talking to a guy,

    當你在跟男人講話時

  • touch is really important.

    觸碰是非常重要的

  • They don't even necessarily register it consciously,

    他們甚至會不太記得

  • but they'll register more of a connection with you

    但你會比他們最後一次對話的人

  • than the last person they spoke to.

    讓他覺得更有印象

  • People wonder why it's so hard to kiss someone

    人們好奇為何親一個人這麼困難

  • at the end of a first date

    在第一次約會的最後

  • because the whole date we didn't touch.

    因為整個約會過程我們沒有觸碰

  • And then all of a sudden I'm supposed to lean in

    然後突然有一刻我應該要彎下腰

  • and then bridge this mile long gap.

    然後銜接這麼遠的距離

  • If we've been doing that during the date,

    當約會做這樣的事

  • then it's much easier for us to feel closer together.

    我們就會更容易感覺更靠近對方

  • So my mission to you is touch someone

    所以我給妳的任務就是觸碰他人

  • in the first 60 seconds.

    在前六十秒內

  • That just sounds so weird.

    這聽起來超怪

  • Okay, so this one is a challenge for me.

    好,這對我來說是個挑戰

  • Anyone who knows me knows that I'm not exactly

    所有認識我的人都知道我不善於

  • a sensual toucher.

    碰觸他人

  • I notice that a lot of the times when I touch someone,

    我發現當我觸碰他人的時候

  • I give them this weird pat on the back,

    我會給他一個這樣超怪的輕拍

  • like they're a kid

    好像他們是一個剛打出全雷打

  • that just scored a home run in little league.

    的小孩一樣

  • Matthew was not a fan of this.

    馬修根本不吃這套

  • Okay, that was the worst thing

    好,這是可能是你做出

  • you could possibly do.

    最糟的事

  • You did that to me and I'm a guy you like,

    如果我是妳喜歡的人

  • I wouldn't think you liked me.

    我不會覺得妳喜歡我

  • A light touch on the arm.

    輕輕碰觸手臂

  • Like, "Oh my God, you have to hear about this."

    像是「天啊,你一定聽聽這個。」

  • Just that touch there

    就這樣碰一下

  • will serve you a thousand times better

    會好上幾千倍

  • than the old arm slap.

    跟你剛剛老派的輕拍比

  • I managed to stop slapping people on the back,

    我試圖克制自己不要輕拍別人的背

  • but instead I do this thing where I'd rest

    而是讓自己把手

  • the back of my hand on their shoulder,

    放在別人的肩膀上

  • kind of like a, "Okay, I touched you, that works."

    感覺是「好,我觸碰了你,成功。」

  • This was definitely not a successful challenge for me.

    這對我來說不是一個成功的挑戰

  • One of the things that makes me scared,

    其中讓我害怕的是,

  • is if I think I'm gonna have to walk up to someone,

    我要走向一個陌生人

  • start a whole conversation, and then stay there.

    開啟全部的話題,還要留在那裡

  • Instead, here's something you can try.

    事實上,這裡有幾件事你可以試試

  • I call it, "Two Hit Theory."

    我叫它「二次出擊理論」

  • Let's say I go to the bar and order a drink.

    假設我要酒吧點酒

  • You could be standing next to me

    你站在我旁邊

  • and I go, "Hey, how are you?"

    我說:「嘿,你好嗎?」

  • And you are, "I'm fine."

    你說:「很好」

  • And I go, "Great. I hope you're having a great night."

    然後我說:「太棒了,我希望你有個美好的夜晚。」

  • Maybe I cheers you, and then I walk off.

    或許我跟你乾杯後然後離去

  • But the great thing about that is when you leave,

    但最棒的是,當你離開時,

  • you now seem much more approachable to that person,

    你對那個來說是更可接近的

  • because you already approached them.

    因為你已經觸碰他們了

  • Okay, so this was probably my favorite challenge

    好,所以這大概是愛情教練給我的挑戰中

  • that the love coach gave me.

    我最喜歡的

  • All I had to do was say hi to a guy,

    我要做的只有跟一個人說嗨、

  • walk away and then go party, and they come to me.

    離開,然後去派對,他們就會來找我

  • We're at an Irish bar.

    我們在一個愛爾蘭酒吧

  • There are no cute boys.

    沒有小鮮肉

  • Over the weekend, I went to a bar

    整個週末,我去了酒吧

  • and a rooftop party at my friend's house.

    還有我朋友家的頂樓派對

  • Both great places for me to try the Two Hit Theory.

    兩個都是讓我嘗試「二次出擊理論」很好的場合

  • Thank you, I asked him what drink he was getting,

    謝謝你,我問他拿了什麼酒

  • it was genius.

    太聰明了

  • It was a great approach.

    很棒的出擊

  • He's gay. Yeah, only problem was.

    他是同志,對,唯一的問題

  • Look, everyone is gay.

    看,大家都是同志

  • A few hours went by and the men just simply weren't coming.

    幾個小時過後,沒有半個男人找上我

  • But it was fine, I was having a great time

    但沒差,我很享受

  • and I wasn't really worried about that.

    我不是很擔心

  • (gong rings)

    (鏘)

  • Oh my God.

    我的天

  • Okay, I'm not gonna lie, I thought a lot of the stuff

    好,我沒有在說謊,我想了很多有關

  • that the love coach was saying

    愛情教練說的話

  • was just kind of like not really relevant to my life,

    都跟我的人生沒什麼關係

  • but there was this guy leaning against the bar

    但有一個背對吧台的男的

  • that I thought was really cute.

    我覺得他很可愛

  • So I decided to try that whole thing

    所以我決定嘗試所有的事

  • where I go up, say hello, and then just walk away.

    我上前打招呼,然後就走了

  • And so I did it but I didn't really expect

    所以我不是很期待

  • anything to happen.

    會有任何事發生

  • By the time I'm walking to the car with my friends,

    當我要跟朋友一起去牽車時

  • he kind of chases me down to my friend's car

    他追過來我朋友的車

  • and he's like, "Hey, can I get your number?"

    然後說:「嘿,我可以要你的電話嗎?」

  • And I was like, "What?"

    然後我心想:「啥?」

  • I'm sorry, that doesn't always happen.

    我很抱歉,這種事真的不是每次都會發生

  • I don't know, I guess overall confidence works.

    我不知道,但我猜是自信發揮了功效

  • I'm gonna go to bed now.

    我現在要去睡覺了

  • (money clanking)

    (叮噹)

  • Now the last thing,

    現在最後一件事,

  • what I want you to do is create a happy hour.

    我要你設立一個「放鬆時間」

  • Someone you wouldn't normally invite for a drink.

    找那些你通常不會邀請他們喝一杯的人

  • You say to them, "Me and a couple of friends

    跟他們說:「我跟一群朋友

  • are having drinks, I'm inviting a couple of people,

    想要喝一杯,我正在找人,

  • you're welcome to join."

    我們很歡迎你。」

  • That doesn't even have to be a guy you like, by the way.

    另外,他們也不需要是你心儀的對象

  • It could be a woman.

    可以是女生

  • It could just be someone that is an acquaintance

    可以是認識的人

  • but you feel like they could actually become a friend.

    但妳覺得可以進一步當朋友

  • So the party was on.

    所以派對開始

  • I invited some friends

    我邀請了一些朋友

  • and asked them to invite their friends.

    然後請他們邀請自己的朋友

  • But I didn't tell anyone

    但我沒有告訴任何人

  • that I was going to be using love coach tactics on them.

    事實上我要在他們身上使用愛情教練的戰略

  • So the goal for the day

    所以任務當天

  • initiate conversation by using the two hit theory

    最初的對話用的是「二次出擊理論」

  • or asking a favor.

    或是請他們幫忙某事

  • And touch someone within the first 60 seconds.

    然後在前六十秒觸碰他們

  • Bye. Can I take a slub shot?

    掰。我可以試試嗎?

  • Oh yeah, sure.

    可以啊,當然

  • Cool, cool, cool, cool, cool, cool.

    酷酷酷酷酷酷

  • So you have to get this in the hole?

    所以要把這個丟進洞裡?

  • Yeah, she almost made it.

    耶,她快做到了

  • Is this pizza good.

    這披薩很讚

  • I haven't tried it yet.

    我還沒試過

  • Hey could I sit right here?

    嘿,我可以坐這裡嗎?

  • Of course.

    當然

  • Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.

    謝謝、謝謝、謝謝、謝謝

  • Oh. Never mind, I suck at this.

    噢,算了,我卡關

  • (laughing)

    (笑聲)

  • I don't mean to make you feel bad for eating.

    我不想讓你覺得吃得心情不好

  • Instead of taking pictures of the animals,

    與其拍動物的照片

  • they were like let me take a picture real quick.

    不如拍我比較快

  • Yeah, just put me in a cage.

    對,把我放在籠子裡

  • You're gonna be okay.

    你會很好的

  • You're gonna be okay, guys.

    你會很好的,大家

  • We're all gonna be okay.

    我們都會好好的

  • You look so confused.

    你看起來超困惑

  • Oh yeah, sorry. You're just like,

    對,抱歉,你就像

  • "I don't understand any of this."

    「我什麼都不懂。」

  • I've had this once before.

    我有過這種經驗

  • And I got food poisoning the next day.

    隔天我就食物中毒了

  • (laughing)

    (笑聲)

  • From this place? - Yeah.

    在這裡? 對

  • So if I get sick, you're gonna bring me Pepto Bismol

    所以如果我生病了,你就要給我必舒胃錠

  • and all that stuff?

    還有其他東西?

  • If you get sick don't blame me.

    如果你生病了,不要怪我

  • Just sue them.

    告他們

  • We should exchange numbers or something like that.

    我們應該要交換一下電話號碼之類的

  • Just in case - We should exchange numbers

    以防萬一 我們應該交換號碼

  • just in case, just in case.

    以防萬一、以防萬一

  • (money clanks)

    (叮噹)

  • I think all of these challenges are really useful.

    我認為這些挑戰都超有用的

  • But they're all just about getting out of your comfort zone

    但這些都只是讓你踏出舒適圈

  • and finding ways to talk to new people.

    然後找到認識他人的方法

  • I started to notice a lot of moments

    我開始注意到很多時候

  • when walking down the street where I meet new people

    我走在路上遇到人們

  • and I wanna talk to them.

    我會想要跟他們說話

  • What this helped me realize is

    這幫助我了解到

  • that everyone really wants to make conversation.

    每個人都希望有對話的機會

  • Everyone wants to meet new people,

    每個人都想認識新的人

  • but no one knows how to do it.

    但沒有人知道該怎麼做

  • (cheering)

    (歡呼)