I am a mom.

我是一個媽媽

(Cheers) (Applause)

(歡呼) (鼓掌)

Yes! Yes!

對 ! 對 !

I am a parent to three very busy little boys

我是一個有三個非常忙碌小男孩的母親

who magically think I'm a doctor,

分別天真地認為自己是一位醫生、

a baker, a coach, a chef, a therapist

麵包師、教練、主廚以及治療師

and have the patience of a saint 24/7.

對醫療 App saint 24/7 有耐心

I truly do my best

我真的盡我所能

and some days are definitely better than others,

而有一些時候我確實比其他人好

especially the part about having the patience of a saint.

尤其是擁有聖人般的耐心那一部份

I want what most parents want for my kids.

我希望大部分的父母希望他們的小孩一樣

I want them to have a happy childhood.

我希望他們能有個快樂的童年

I want them to be free to play, build friendships,

我希望他們能自由地玩耍、交朋友

grow to be kind, compassionate, happy adults.

長成和善、富含同情心及快樂的大人

But there seems to be one small challenge.

然而似乎遇到一個小挑戰

The World Happiness Report states

世界幸福報告指出

at any one time

在任何的一個時候

over 220 million children

有多於 2.2 億的小孩

and 1 billion adults

以及 1 百萬的成人

suffer from anxiety, depression, and conduct disorders.

患有焦慮、抑鬱和行為障礙

Not exactly a pretty picture of happy people on a happy planet.

並非所有人都幸福地生活在一個快樂的星球上

Unfortunately, as adults, whether you're a parent or not,

不幸地，身為一個成人，不論你是不是父母親

this is what our children are learning from us.

這是我們的孩子所學習到的

You see how busy we are every day.

你看看我們每一天多忙

They feel our stress,

他們感受得到我們的壓力

and they watch us struggle to find our own happiness.

他們看著我們為找尋幸福而掙扎著

How do we go from anxiety and depression to happy?

我們要如何遠離焦慮與抑鬱而邁向幸福 ?

Some good news.

有一些好消息

The World Happiness Report also states

世界幸福報告指出

the best predictor of whether a child becomes a satisfied adult

小孩是否會長成一位令人滿意的成人之最好指標

is through their emotional health in childhood.

就是他們在童年時之情緒健康

So if I have this right, it should be easy.

所以如果這理論是對的，那應該是很簡單

Happy children, happy adults, happy planet; yes.

快樂的小孩，快樂的大人以及快樂的星球，太棒了 !

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

This is the exact lesson I learned from my dad.

這正是我從我爸那邊學到的

When I was a little girl,

當我還是一個小女孩時

growing up in the big city of London, Ontario,

在加拿大安大略省的一個大城市倫敦長大

every Christmas morning

每個聖誕節的早晨

my dad would take my three sisters and I to his office.

我爸就會帶著我和我的三個姊妹一起到他的辦公室

You see my dad was a doctor and his office, a hospital.

我爸是一個醫生，而他的辦公室是在醫院

It was our job to stand around the beds of his patients

我們的工作就是站在病床旁邊

and sing Christmas carols.

然後對他的病人唱聖誕頌歌

We started with the same song every time,

我們每次都從同一首開始

and my dad, he'd lead the singing.

而我爸會帶頭開始唱

Now, this is probably a TEDx first, so join me if you know it.

陷在這說不定在 TEDx 是第一次，所以跟著我一起唱，如果你會的話

(Singing) We wish you a Merry Christmas; we wish you a Merry Christmas,

(唱歌) 我們祝你聖誕快樂;我們祝你聖誕快樂

we wish you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

我們祝你聖誕快樂以及新年快樂

(Stops singing)

(停止唱歌)

(Cheers) (Applause)

(歡呼) (鼓掌)

You guys are amazing,

你們真棒

I am signing you all up for this year.

今年我要和大家簽約了

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

And look at your smiles.

看看你們自己的笑容

We did this every Christmas morning for years.

我們每年聖誕節早上都這樣做，持續了多年

Those patients, they sing along with us,

那些病人會與我們一起唱

just like you did.

就像你們一樣

And their smiles, their smiles would light up their hospital rooms.

而他們的笑容會點亮他們的病房

This is what I learned from our singing.

這是我從唱歌中學習到的

Giving back to those patients,

對那些病人付出

it made them happy, and it made me happy.

會使他們快樂，也會使自己快樂

And we've all heard

我們都聽說過

that giving makes you happy and it's better to give than receive.

付出讓你快樂，付出比接受來得更好

But have you actually thought of why?

但你有曾想過為什麼嗎 ?

Well, researchers from all over the world

世界各地的研究人員

have been studying the science and psychology of giving.

一直在研究付出的科學和心理學

They've discovered

他們發現

that our brains and our bodies are actually hardwired for giving.

事實上，我們的大腦和我們的身體是出於本能地付出的

When we give, our endorphins kick in,

當我們付出，我們的腦內啡開始分泌

giving us this natural high feeling.

讓我們自然有開心的感覺

They've actually called it the "helper's high."

他們稱之為「助人快感」

Our oxygen levels rise, this would be our love hormone.

氧氣濃度提高，而這將成為我們的愛的賀爾蒙

And for those of you

而對於你們

that have been looking for the Fountain of Youth,

一直在尋找青春之泉的人來說

it's our body's natural anti-aging remedy.

這是我們身體的天然抗衰老療法

And that feeling I got when I volunteer with my dad,

當我和我爸做志工時，我得到了那種感覺

that's serotonin, our body's happy transmitter.

那是血清素，我們身體的快樂傳遞者

But here's the icing on the cake.

但好事不只一件

Our cortisol levels drop.

我們的皮質醇水平下降

This is our stress hormone.

這是我們的壓力賀爾蒙

Giving reduces anxiety and stress and it makes us happy.

付出減少焦慮及壓力並帶給我們快樂

Now what if I told you,

現在，如果我告訴你

you could be happy every day, and it's simple.

你可以每天都快樂，而且很簡單

In fact, it's so simple a three-year-old can do it.

事實上，這簡單到連一個三歲小孩都可以做到

Well, on my first son Nick's third birthday,

在我第一個兒子 Nick 生日時

I decided I was going to teach him how he could be happy every day.

我決定我要教他要如何每天都快樂

I was going to teach Nick to give.

我教了 Nick 付出

I introduced the idea over a birthday cake and ice cream:

我在生日蛋糕及冰淇淋的存在下介紹了這個概念

"Nick, we are going to start this super-fun family project together.

「Nick 我們將要一起開始一個超級好玩的家庭計畫。」

We are going to give back to the world every day for one year."

「我們在一年的每一天都要回饋世界。」

Now I waited to see the excitement on his face -

然後我期待看到他臉上興奮的表情

that excitement that I was feeling -

我感到的那種興奮

and instead, he says, "Mommy, how many days are in a year?"

然而，他說，「媽媽，一年中有多少天呢 ? 」

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

Oh yeah, not exactly the response I was looking for,

對，不是我要的答案

but Nick was just three.

但 Nick 才三歲

I had to approach this daily giving idea a little differently.

我不得不提出一些不同的方式來教導付出的概念

Still, I got out some craft paper and a big box of crayons,

我拿出一些紙及一盒蠟筆

and I started again:

再試一次

"Nick, we're going to do one thing to be kind, helpful, giving

「Nick 我們要來做一些友善、幫助人的事

to a person, an animal, or the planet

對別人、動物或地球付出

every day for 365 days."

持續在 365 天的每一天。」

Now, when I shared this idea with friends and the family,

當我將這個概念與朋友和家人分享時

they thought I was being, shall we say, a little ambitious.

他們覺得我太有雄心壯志了

I was going to give back to the world every day for 365 days

我想要在 365 天的每一天都對世界付出

with a three-year-old.

與一個三歲男孩一起

I agreed, it seemed like a lot,

我同意，這真的有點難

but not when you start small, just one give, one day at a time.

但如果當你從小的付出開始，只有一次，一次一天，這將會變得還好

Nick and I started a list, just to get us going,

Nick 和我開始列出清單，讓我們跟著做

had to be easy and close to home.

那必須是要簡單且離家近的

Donate towels and blankets for a local animal shelter,

捐毛巾及毯子給附近的動物之家

pick up garbage, recycle,

撿垃圾，回收

give clothes to a favorite charity; and our list went on.

捐一些衣服給我們喜歡的慈善團體，我們的清單持續增加

Well, Nick quickly caught on,

Nick 很快地跟上了腳步

and now he was excited.

而非常地興奮

He was actually so excited

他真的非常地興奮

he wanted to start that day, on his birthday.

他希望在他生日的那天開始

So, first stop,

所以，第一站

down at the local animal shelter to donate towels and blankets.

去當地的動物之家捐贈毛巾及毯子

When we walked into that shelter

當他走進動物之家時

you instantly got hit

你馬上被震撼到

by this smell of somewhere between wet dog and disinfectant.

因為不知道從哪飄過來的混雜著狗及清潔劑的味道

We could hear dogs barking.

我們可以聽到狗在叫

I knew they were locked in cages; they were behind a closed door.

我知道他們被鎖在籠子裡，在門的後面

Nick handed our towels and blankets over to the nice lady behind the desk.

Nick 將毛巾及毯子交給一位看起來很好坐在桌子後面的女士

She gave us a big smile and she thanked us for our donation.

她給了我們一個大大的微笑，並謝謝我們所做的捐贈

Well, as we turned to leave,

然而當我們要離開時

Nick noticed two big glass doors that led into a room filled with cats.

Nick 注意到兩扇巨大的玻璃門通向一個充滿貓的房間

He went up to that glass and he peered in,

他走向玻璃門並往內窺視

and then he turned to me and said,

而他轉向我並說

"Mommy, can you see those cats sleeping on that red blanket back there.

「媽媽，你可以看到睡在那個紅色毯子上的貓嗎 ?」

Will our blankets be for those cats?"

「我們送來的毯子也會給牠們嗎 ?」

He turned to the nice lady behind the desk and she said, "You bet."

他轉向那個坐在桌子後面看起來很好的女士，而她回答：「是的。」

You'd just see Nick's little brain going.

你看看 Nick 小腦袋裡發生的事

He was making the connection

他開始了連結

that his daily give was going to help those cats.

他的付出將會幫助那些貓

Nick learned that very first day,

Nick 就在第一天學到了這件事

as he turned to me and he smiled and he said,

因為他轉向我並笑著對我說

"Awesome, Mom,"

「太棒了，媽。」

that giving made him happy.

付出使他快樂

Day two, down at the beach for a little fun in the sun and a game:

第二天，在沙灘上享受陽光和遊戲的樂趣

how much garbage could we pick up in three minutes or less

我們可以在三分鐘或以內撿多少垃圾

because that was the attention span of my three-year-old.

因為那是我三歲兒子的能專注的時間

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

Day three, we took that garbage and we sorted it.

第三天，我們拿著垃圾並分類

At the ripe old age of three, Nick learned to recycle.

Nick 在三歲後期，學會了垃圾分類

Well, daily giving quickly became a routine for Nick,

每天都付出很快地成了 Nick 的日常

just like kind of brushing his teeth.

就像他刷他的牙一樣

Well, actually come to think of it,

實際上是覺得

it would be easier to teach a three-year-old to give every day

教一個三歲小孩每天付出

than it is to brush their teeth every day, for sure.

確實比起教他每天刷牙簡單多了

Nick asked if we could share our daily giving adventures

Nick 問我們可不可以分享我們每天付出的冒險

with our friends and family,

給我們的朋友與家人

so they could follow along.

好讓他們也加入我們

So that very first day

所以就在那一天

I started a blog and I called it 365give.

我開了一個部落格叫 「365 天的付出」

Now, just so you know,

現在，就如你們所知道的

I am not a writer or some social media guru,

我不是作家或社交媒體專家

so you can imagine how surprised I was

所以你可以想像我會有多麼驚訝

when people started reading the blog other than my friends and family.

當我知道除了我的朋友家人外還有其他人來逛我的部落格

They started reading and engaging from all over the world.

來自世界各地的人們開始閱讀並關注

They send me emails and leave comments with their daily giving stories

他們寄給我電子郵件並留言分享他們日常的付出故事

because they were inspired by Nick.

因為他們被 Nick 啟發了

Actually, I was so excited I'm going to share just a few with you today.

實際上，我很興奮，我今天要和你分享這一些

So, Henry from London, England, wrote:

來自英國倫敦的 Henry 寫到：

"I walk past the same homeless man every day on my way to work.

「在我上班的路上，我每天都會遇到同一個無家可歸的人