we need to look at how we think there

are three different ways we react to

everything around us

the first is by wanting were brought up

in a culture where we're told that we

need to obtain something or reach a

certain goal in order to be happy

oh we need to get that new phone we need

to get a bigger TV we need to get that

promotion we need to take a picture of

this meal and put it onto Instagram but

if you think back to any major purchase

you made or achievement you reached your

picture you posted

sure you felt happier for a while but

soon after you are back on the hunt

every single time you end up finding

yourself back at your original level of

happiness only this time with less money

in your wallet and more wrinkles on your

face so it's safe to say happiness

doesn't lie in the wanting category

the second way we react is by rejecting

from the moment we wake up our mind

automatically starts to look for things

to reject around us

oh I feel so tired but I have to go to

work so cold I don't want to leave my

bed

we reject others oh he's so awkward

oh why can't this cashier do his job

properly we reject ourselves so out of

shape

why am I such a loser again it's safe to

say there isn't much happiness here

either

the third way we react is by zoning out

what were confronted with a task that's

quote-unquote boring like commuting to

work or waiting at the doctor's office

we tend to zone out everything become

sort of hazy it's almost as if you put

on a black and white filter over your

eyes your brain goes on to sleep mode

and your mind is either lost in the past

over past regrets or lost in the future

filled with anxiety about things that

might go wrong

doesn't sound like a fun place to be

these three ways of reacting makeup over

ninety-nine percent of the way the

average person goes about his day to day

life

no wonder they're unhappy so how do I

become happy

well there's actually a fourth way of

reacting something that we only

experience once in a blue moon

it's here where happiness really lies

it's the way you reacted when you

visited the Grand Canyon for the first

time it's the feeling astronauts

describe when they see the Earth from

outer space

it's the way you were when you were

younger able to spend hours just looking

at bugs and pictures

it's called mindfulness think of it as

the opposite of zoning out your zoning

in being hyper aware of everything in

front of you the way something feels the

way it moves it smell its taste all of

its features and nothing else

this means there's no room for wanting

no room for rejecting and you certainly

not zoned out all of your focus is just

on the exact thing or event happening

right in front of you there is no

judgment there's simply room for you to

take it all in and when you react to

things and events with mindfulness

happiness follows and it stays for good

by simply learning how to focus on

what's in front of you you make room for

happiness in your life and the only way

to become more mindful in your reactions

on a day-to-day basis is by practicing

meditation now I'm sure there's a lot of

you guys for watching this thinking oh

god this is some hocus-pocus nonsense

I've heard about meditation it makes no

sense i'm not going to sit down and do

nothing for 10-20 minutes but there are

literally hundreds of studies backing up

this claim which will be the topic of

our next video

the benefits of meditation and the

scientific evidence to back it up

so if you've been looking for the answer

to the life old question of how to be

happy

look no further stop looking for a

shortcut because I can just about a

hundred percent guarantee you the answer

lies in mindfulness and meditation in

the upcoming weeks we're going to dive

deeper into these concepts so please

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