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  • Hi, I'm Ashley Weston.

    嗨,我是 Ashley Weston.

  • I'm a celebrity mentor stylist.

    我是名人造型導師

  • So today, I am joined by my fiance, Dorian.

    今天我的未婚夫 Dorian 會加入我們

  • - Hello.

    哈囉!

  • - The reason why I wanted Dorian, actually,

    其實我想要 Dorian

  • to be in today's video

    來參與我們今天的影片的原因

  • is because he's probably one of the best conversationalists

    是因為他很可能是我認識的人之中

  • that I know.

    最頂尖的談話高手之一

  • So, that's why I wanted him

    這就是為甚麼我希望他

  • to just come on the channel

    來我們頻道

  • and really help us all out with today's topic.

    真正地在今天的主題上幫助到我們

  • - Thank you, very high praise, I'll take it.

    謝謝,非常高的讚譽,我就收下了

  • (laughing)

    (笑聲)

  • I have definitely struggled with being able to get into conversations with people.

    我在跟人開啟話題這方面有很大的困難

  • I can always maintain them,

    我總是可以維持對談

  • but I've always had trouble just,

    但我就是無法...

  • and I think it's because I'm shy,

    我覺得是因為我比較害羞

  • but I've always had difficulty

    但我總是難以

  • getting into a conversation with someone--

    開啟與他人的談話-

  • - And getting out of them.

    還有,結束一場對話

  • Let's be honest. - Yes, and getting outta them.

    讓我們誠實點。 -是的,擺脫他們

  • - But Dorian has been really helpful

    但 Dorian 非常有效地幫助我

  • with getting me better

    讓我進步

  • at being a better conversationalist.

    成為一位更好的談話者

  • So, let's get into the best conversation starters.

    所以,讓我們進到「最佳開場白」

  • Number seven is,

    第七名是

  • do you know where the restroom, bar, food area is?

    你知道廁所、吧檯、食物區在哪裡嗎?

  • - The hardest thing in a conversation is to start it.

    聊天最難的地方是去開始這段對話

  • That it is, like that's the most difficult thing.

    它就是,就像...它是最難的事

  • Once you're in it, it's relatively simple.

    一旦你進到了談話當中,那就相對簡單許多了

  • So, you always want to ask someone a question

    所以你要問別人一個問題

  • that's kind of disarming that

    那是一種卸下心防的方法

  • they can easily answer for you,

    他們可以輕易地就回答你

  • or they can even say I don't know.

    或他們可以就說他們不知道

  • So, that is like the quickest, easiest thing,

    所以它是最快、最簡單的事情

  • and it doesn't matter on the venue,

    這不管是在會場,

  • whether it's a big event or a conference

    在大型活動還是會議

  • or even a house party.

    或只是轟趴

  • They won't even remember that you needed

    他們甚至不會記得你需要

  • to know where the restroom or bar is.

    知道廁所或吧檯在哪

  • They don't even know the reason anyway,

    反正他們也不知道為甚麼

  • so it's not like you have to immediately leave.

    不是講完它後你就馬上要離開

  • I think a lot of people would say,

    我想大多數的人會覺得

  • well, okay, they told me, but now I have to leave.

    嗯,好的,他們回答我了,現在我得離開了

  • No, no, no, you just keep the...

    不,不,不,你就留下

  • now you're in the conversation,

    你現在已經在一場對話當中了

  • that's the beauty of it. - Now go with it.

    這就是重點。-繼續下去吧!

  • - Yeah, go with it!

    沒錯!繼續談話吧!

  • - Number six going up to someone

    第六名:去找一個人

  • and saying, hey, so where are you from exactly?

    然後說:「嘿!你來自哪裡?」

  • Or, are you from around here?

    你是這附近的人嗎?

  • - That's like a good one,

    這個很好

  • because especially if someone doesn't look like

    因為尤其是當一個人看起來不像

  • they're a part of a crew, or they're kind of,

    一個群體的一員,或他們有點...

  • I use that one a lot on,

    我很常用這個

  • if people are off by themselves

    如果有落單的人

  • or a little small group.

    或一小群人

  • It's usually more of a one-on-one kind of thing.

    這比較適合一對一聊天時使用

  • It's hard to walk up to a group and then say that,

    比較難能夠走到一群人當中然後問這個

  • and the group was like, well who are you talking to?

    這樣的話,那群人會覺得:「你在跟誰講話?」

  • - Where are you all from?

    「你們都來自哪裡呀?」

  • - Yeah, that's a good one if it's an individual person

    是啊,如果對象只有一人的話這招滿好用

  • and you're just trying to make conversation,

    你只是試圖要去對話

  • and you kinda zoned in on them.

    然後你就稍微聚焦在他們身上

  • That's a great one to start out with.

    這是個很好開頭

  • It's really easy to answer, again,

    這非常好回答,再一次

  • you just looking to start a conversation.

    你只是要開啟一場對談

  • You don't wanna hit them with heavy question,

    你不是想要拋給他們沉重的問題

  • that's pretty weird.

    那樣很奇怪

  • Number five is actually something that Dorian has taught me,

    第五名是 Dorian 真的教過我的

  • and has worked very well, and that is

    而且非常有用,就是

  • if someone is holding a plate of food or a drink,

    如果有人正拿著一盤食物或飲料

  • you just go up to them like,

    你就走上前

  • oh hey, that looks really good, what is that?

    嘿!那看起來很棒,那是甚麼?

  • Where'd you get the from?

    你從哪裡拿的?

  • - Like a super easy one.

    一個超簡單的方法

  • It like, again, they can answer it very simply.

    同樣地,他們可以輕鬆應答

  • It's not offensive in any way,

    也不會很冒犯

  • and then you have the conversation

    然後你的對話

  • of oh, is it good?

    就可以繼續聊說:「喔!那好吃嗎?」

  • Like, oh, what do you like to drink normally

    或是說,「喔!你平常都喜歡喝什麼?」

  • or do you eat that kind of food normally,

    或「你平常會吃那種食物嗎?」

  • or even then you go into,

    或你可以繼續說

  • the beauty is, all of these conversation starters,

    最棒的地方就是,幾乎這邊講的所有開場白

  • you can use all the other ones

    你都可以拿來

  • to keep the conversation going.

    接下去

  • Oh, so where are you from, exactly?

    「喔!所以你來自哪裡?」

  • Oh, hey, actually, do you know where the restroom is

    「喔,嘿!說真的你知道廁所在哪嗎?」

  • or whatever.

    或不管什麼都可以

  • You know, you could use, you can combine them all together

    你知道,你可以用,你可以把所有東西結合在一起

  • and now you're in a pretty decent conversation.

    然後你就有了一場非常得體的對話了

  • So, again, that's just a great opening line,

    所以,一樣,那只是個開場白

  • 'cause someone's got something in their hands,

    因為有人手上有東西

  • it's easy to talk about.

    它很容易談論

  • - Number four on the list is very similar to number five,

    名單上的第四名跟第五名很像

  • and that is when you go up to someone and you say,

    那就是你上前跟某人談話,你說

  • Hey, I really like your shirt.

    「嘿!我真的很喜歡你的衣服」

  • Where'd you get that from?

    「你在哪裡買的」

  • - And my answer is, Ashley got it for me.

    而我的答案是「Ashley 買給我的」

  • - People love compliments.

    人們喜歡讚美

  • It instantly lets their guard down.

    你會直接卸除他們的防衛心

  • So, I always try to,

    所以我總會試著

  • especially if I just can't think of anything,

    尤其是我想不到任何話題

  • I'll just compliment them on something that they're wearing,

    我就會直接誇讚他們的穿著

  • and ask them where did they get it,

    並且問他們哪裡買的

  • or something like that.

    或類似的東西

  • Number three is, so what was the best part of your day?

    第三名是,「你今天發生最棒的事是什麼?」

  • - I included this one because I was asked this question

    我把這句加進來是因為我被問過這題

  • maybe like 10, 15 years ago,

    大概在 10、15 年以前

  • and it stuck with me ever since.

    然後我就再也忘不了它

  • It was like, such a nice change.

    就是說,真是個好變化

  • I was an entertainment executive for a long time.

    我過去當了很久的娛樂部執行長

  • So, I was at meetings, meeting new people all the time,

    所以我總是經常開會,並碰到很多人

  • and out of all the years I was doing all that,

    這些年我都在做這些事

  • interfacing with a lot of strangers and new people,

    接觸很多陌生人跟遇到新的人

  • one person asked me that question

    有個人問我那個問題

  • and it stuck with me ever since,

    然後我就再也忘不了

  • and it was such a great question.

    這真是個好問題

  • It would make me feel good

    這會讓我感覺很好

  • that someone would ask that question.

    如果有人對我問那個問題

  • I was like, oh, this one's amazing.

    我覺得,這真是太棒了

  • Bit of a gamble, depending on the group, obviously.

    但有點風險,明顯地,還是要取決於團體

  • But I would say that that is one

    但我會說這個是個

  • that will kind of put someone back

    可能會讓人感到有點

  • on their heels just a little bit.

    不自在的問題

  • So, if you're not really that comfortable

    所以,如果你真的對那種問題

  • with that kind of,

    感到不舒服

  • it's a bit of a bold question to start with,

    這問題拿來開頭是有點大膽的

  • but I will tell you I've remembered that question

    但我會跟你說我記住了這個問題

  • ever since that day,

    自從那天之後

  • and I felt like it was a really, really good one.

    而我覺得這是個很好的問題

  • I've used it on other people, and they said the same thing,

    我曾經用在別人身上,他們也跟我有一樣的想法

  • like, "That's like a great question".

    「這是個非常好的問題」

  • And then they--

    然後他們

  • - People will remember you by that.

    人們會因此記住你

  • - Definitely, definitely.

    沒錯,絕對是這樣

  • - Number two is something that I use a lot,

    第二名我用很多

  • and I know Dorian does as well, and that is,

    我知道 Dorian 也是,那就是

  • so, what brought you here tonight

    「你今晚怎麼會來?」

  • or today et cetera.

    或今天,等等

  • So, this is great if you're at a bar or some kind of event

    這很好用,如果你在酒吧或是

  • that's not hosted by someone specifically,

    一些不是由某人主辦的活動的話

  • but it's a really easy way to get into a conversation.

    這非常好幫你加入對話

  • - Yeah.

    沒錯

  • So, someone has a reason for going everywhere.

    每個人都有去一些地方的理由

  • So, they're not.

    所以他們不會...

  • Even if they don't have a reason,

    即使他們沒有理由

  • like, I don't know, I just came with my friend.

    「我不知道,我只是跟我朋友來。」

  • Oh, well, who's your friend? - Yeah.

    「喔!是嗎?那你朋友是誰?」-對

  • - Like, you're already immediately

    你瞬間就

  • into a conversation again.

    進入了一段對話

  • So, it's a really, really great one.

    所以那真的是個很好的選擇

  • That's my go-to for sure.

    那當然會是我的選擇

  • - Especially because it's not a yes or no,

    尤其它不是個回答是或否就好的問題

  • and it's not a quick answer, usually.

    也通常不是簡短的答案

  • So, their answer,

    所以,他們的答案...

  • they're probably giving a lot of good information

    他們可能會給你很多很好的訊息

  • that you can kinda hook onto,

    讓你很好接下去聊

  • and then form your next question.

    然後想出下一個問題

  • So, the number one conversation starter

    第一名的開場白

  • that you should use,

    你應該使用的

  • and it's kinda similar, actually, to number two,

    其實也跟第二個很像

  • and that is, going up to someone and saying,

    就是上前找到某人並說

  • hi, so how do you know so-and-so?

    「所以你是怎麼知道誰誰誰的?」

  • Which means the so-and-so is the host of the event.

    誰誰誰指的是這場活動的主辦

  • - You, for the longest time,

    你總是

  • couldn't wrap your head around this question,

    不能理解這個問題

  • but I'm like, if you're invited somewhere by the host,

    但我是說,如果你被主辦人邀請

  • the people at the same place are probably also invited

    在這裡的人也很可能是被

  • by the host, so now you have a common ground already.

    主辦人邀請來的,那你們就有共通點了

  • So, it's not like this person's like,

    所以它不會像是說這個人

  • well, what the hell, who are you,

    「喔搞甚麼東西,你是誰啊?」

  • like, why would you even ask me that question.

    「你為甚麼要問我這個問題?」

  • You always found it so weird,

    你總覺得很怪

  • and I'm like, just try it

    而我就會覺得你就試試看啊

  • when you're at a party. - Now, we use it all the time.

    你在派對中耶。-現在我們都很常用它了

  • - If we're at a party hosted by someone specific,

    如果我們在一個被某個特定人是舉辦的派對中

  • I'm always, I will go up to people now

    我總是,我現在會上前找人

  • and I have no qualms, and I'm like,

    而且不會感到不安,我會像

  • hey, so how do you know Charlie?

    「嘿!你怎麼認識 Charlie 的?」

  • It's great.

    這很棒

  • This is so easy now.

    現在對我來說很容易

  • And then, I get to learn a lot of cool information

    然後我就會得到有關那個人很多有趣的資訊

  • that maybe my host wouldn't have told me about that person.

    也許主辦人之前都沒告訴我的

  • - Yeah, you already have common ground

    沒錯,你已經有了共通點

  • to stand on and discuss, so use it.

    可以立足且討論,所以用它吧

  • - If you liked this video, remember to give it a thumbs up.

    如果你喜歡這部影片,記得按個讚

  • Subscribe to my channel for more videos like this,

    想看更多像這樣的影片記得訂閱我的頻道

  • and thank you so much, Dorian, for being here,

    謝謝 Dorian 的參與

  • - You're welcome, it's my pleasure.

    不客氣,這是我的榮幸

  • - and sharing your wisdom.

    並且分享你的知識

  • Like I said at the top, Dorian is incredible

    就像我一開始說的,Dorian 能夠不可思議

  • on getting into and then maintaining conversations.

    地開啟並持續一段對話

  • So, these are gonna be really helpful.

    所以這會非常實用

  • They've helped me.

    他們有幫助到我

  • So, I know if they've helped me,

    所以如果他們能幫助到我

  • they're definitely gonna help you.

    也絕對能幫助到你

  • Hope you all enjoy.

    希望你們喜歡

  • - And I was never a great conversationalist growing up.

    我從來都不是個健談的人

  • I had to learn the hard way

    我很辛苦地學習這些東西

  • when I was an entertainment executive.

    當我是娛樂部門執行長時

  • I just got thrown into these random situations.

    我就是被丟到這些隨機的場合當中

  • So, these are the things that I've learned over the years.

    這些事我在這些年學到的

  • I'm telling you, they work, and I am not--

    我告訴你,他們有效,而我不是...

  • - Tried and true.

    經得起考驗

  • - Yeah, I am not like an outgoing sorta guy.

    是啊,我不是那種很外向的人

  • I can do it if I need to, but that is not my default.

    如果我需要的話我會這麼做,但那不是我的本性

  • So, trust it, use them, love them.

    所以相信它們,用它們,愛它們

  • - Alright.

    好的

  • We need to get outta here.

    我們要離開這邊了

  • - Yeah, I'm done.

    好,我結束了

  • - This video's done.

    影片就到這邊

Hi, I'm Ashley Weston.

嗨,我是 Ashley Weston.

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