Stay where you belong.

待在你該待的地方。

You, too.

你也是。

I don't wanna crap out of you guys.

我不想把你們的心情搞砸。

Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business and life you love.

嗨，我是 Marie‧Forleo，你正在收看 MarieTV，一個創造你喜愛的事物與生活的地方。

Now, if you’ve been thinking of making a major change in your life but the fear of

現在，如果你曾想過要在自己的人生做個巨大轉變，但恐懼的心

failure is holding you back, I really think you’re gonna love today’s show.

阻止了你，我想你會喜歡今天的節目。

This question is from Regani who writes:

今天的問題來自 Regani 她寫到：

“Hi, Marie.

「嗨，Marie。

I’m 32, recently divorced, and a mother of a wonderful 3 and a half year old boy.

我已經 32 歲，最近離婚了，是個 3歲半小男孩的媽媽。

I’ve been working in the health insurance field for over 5 years now.

我在健康保險領域工作超過 5 年了。

I work alongside nurses and hearing them talk about their cases and reviewing charts has

我在護理師身邊工作，聽著他們談論他們的個案、評估圖表

made me want to go into the field of nursing.

讓我想要加入護理師的工作。

The biggest thing that’s holding me back is fear of failure.

讓我退卻的最大問題是，失敗的恐懼。

I’m afraid I won’t have the motivation to keep up with studying and would fail at my classes.

我怕我沒有辦法保持學習的動機，並且會沒辦法完成課程。

I’m hoping that you can guide me in the right direction.

我希望妳能夠引導我一個好的方向。

Thank you for all you do.”

感謝妳所做的一切。」

Regani, this is a great question.

Regani，這是個好問題。

You know, fear of failure is one of the most common, if not the biggest dream killers of all time.

妳知道嗎，失敗的恐懼是最常見的現象之一，甚至一直以來是最大的夢想殺手。

So you are not alone, my friend.

所以妳並不孤單，我的朋友。

But if you’re serious about turning this beautiful dream into a reality, which I think

但如果妳真的想要把這樣的美夢成真，我想妳是有這想法

you are, there are 2 things that I want you to do.

有 2 件事我想要妳做到。

Number one, follow your fear.

第一，跟隨妳的恐懼。

Look, it’s totally ok to be afraid.

嘿，感到害怕是完全沒問題的。

All it means is you’re about to do something really brave and important to you.

這代表妳正在做一些對妳來說真的很勇敢也很重要的事。

It means that you’re about to do something that’s going to force you to grow as a human.

這代表妳正在做一些能夠成就妳、讓妳邁向完人的事。

So don't resist it.

所以不要抗拒。

I want you to embrace it.

我想要你擁抱它。

I want you to follow it.

我想要你順從它。

Because here’s the thing that most people don't realize, fear is often instructive and it is directive.

因為有件許多人都不明白的事，恐懼通常是有益的，而且它會給妳方向。

Really.

真的。

It’s like a GPS for our souls want us to go.

就像精神的導航系統一樣引導我們前進。

Now, if you haven't seen this episode right over here, my friend, I want you to watch

現在，如果妳還沒看過這邊這一集，我的朋友，我想要妳

it right after this one.

看完這集後去看看。

Now, let’s move on and talk about your fear of failure, which is honestly something that

現在，我們繼續談談失敗的恐懼，事實上這是

we can neutralize right now.

我們馬上就能克服的。

Because I guarantee this, you will have stumbles and missteps.

因為我向妳保證，妳將會有躊躇不前、有失策的時候。

I mean, all of us do.

我的意思是，腳步踏錯誰人無。

We all make mistakes.

我們都會犯錯。

It’s part of being human.

這是我們人類的一部份。

But here’s the truth, you can only truly fail if you stop trying, if you stop growing, if you stop learning.

但事實是，如果妳不去嘗試、如果妳停止成長、如果妳不再學習，妳才是真正的失敗。

So I want to invite you to use a little mantra to help free yourself from this fear of failure.

所以我想請妳一起用一句簡單的口頭禪，把妳自己從失敗的恐懼中釋放出來。

This is something I use in my life every single day and it goes like this:

這是我每天都會跟自己講的一句話，就像這樣：

I win or I learn, but I never lose.

獲得勝利或是從中學習，但我從未輸過。

In other words, no matter what happens, no matter what goes down, what mistakes you make,

換句話說，不管發生甚麼事、不管是否每況愈下、不管妳犯了甚麼錯

you can always choose to get back up, to learn something from it, to get stronger, to move

妳總是可以選擇東山再起、選擇從中汲取教訓、選擇越挫越勇

ahead, whatever that may look like.

選擇奮力向前，不論看起來如何。

Nothing has to take you down unless you let it.

沒什麼可以打敗妳，除非妳讓自己被打敗。

Number two is work your why.

第二，了解妳為何而做。

So if you really want to make this career change happen, and I know you can do this,

所以如果妳真的想要做出職涯上的改變，我知道妳做得到

Regani, you’ve got to get emotionally connected to why this dream is important to you.

Regani，妳必須從情感面瞭解為什麼這個夢想對妳如此重要。

You’ve got to keep it front and center every single day because, as you know, making this

妳每天都必須把它放在最重要的位置，因為，就像妳知道的

happen, it’s just not going to be easy.

要讓這件事實現不是件簡單的事。

I mean, nothing that’s worth it ever is.

我的意思是，沒甚麼比這更值得的了。

But if you stay really present to the emotional heart based reasons why this change is so

但如果妳能讓自己保有「為什麼這個改變對妳如此重要」的情感面建立的基礎原由

important to you, you are going to find the strength to cross that finish line.

妳就會找到力量幫助妳跨過終點。

I guarantee it.

我保證。

So here’s what I want you to do.

所以有件事我想要妳做。

I want you to take out a piece of paper and write down all of the reasons why this is

我想要妳拿張紙出來，寫下所有這件事對妳來說很重要的理由

important and what impact becoming a nurse is going to have on yourself, is going to

以及成為護理師後會對妳有甚麼影響、對妳的兒子有甚麼影響

have on your son, is going to have on the patients you take care of?

對妳在照顧的病人有甚麼影響？

I mean, think about this: what is this going to mean to your family?

我的意思是，試著想想：這對妳的家人來說意味著甚麼？

What’s it gonna mean emotionally and financially and spiritually?

在情感上、經濟上、精神上意味著甚麼？

Who are you going to become by making this a reality?

當這一切實現，妳想成為甚麼樣的人？

When I sat down and I was thinking about this for you, I actually imagined you might say

當我坐下來的時候，我就幫妳想到了，其實我想像過妳可能會說

things like “I’ll become more focused, I’ll become more resilient, I’ll become

「我會變得更專注，我會變得更有韌性

a better role model for my son, I’ll become a woman who’s even more confident and more

我會成為兒子更好的榜樣，我會成為一位更有自信、更有能力的女人

capable, I’ll become a woman who is using my heart and my gifts and my talents and skills

我會成為一位善用我的愛心、我的天賦、我的才能、我的技能

to make a difference to others.”

給別人帶來改變的人。」

And I bet one of your big why’s, Regani, is your son.

而且我敢說妳其中一個最大的原因是，Regani，是妳的兒子。

So I want you to use that leverage on yourself, get a beautiful picture of him, and put it

所以我想要妳利用妳自己，拍一張他的照片

right on your list of why’s, and I want you to look at that list and his picture every single day.

放在妳的原因清單旁邊，然後我想要妳每天都看看這張列表還有他的照片。

Look at it when you’re setting up your schedule to take your classes, look at it whenever

當妳安排好妳的課表時看看它，每當碰到難題時

things get really hard and difficult and you’re tired and you want to quit.

每當妳覺得辛苦、疲憊、想放棄時看看它。

Because I’ve gotta tell you, your son is learning so much from you right now.

因為我要告訴妳，妳的兒子正從妳身上學到很多東西。

He’s learning it energetically and emotionally, and you’re going to teach him either by

他正積極地、用心地學習，而妳要以身作則教他成為一個勇敢的人並追尋自己的夢想

example to be brave and go for your dreams or you’re going to teach him to let fear win.

或是妳要教他讓恐懼戰勝自己。

Now, I know this is a really big choice, Regani.

現在，我知道這是個重大的抉擇，Regani。

You can’t make this lightly.

妳無法輕易決定。

And if I could leave you with anything today it would be this quote from Nelson Mandela

如果要說我今天可以留下甚麼東西給妳，就是這句 Nelson‧Mandela 的名言

and, yes, it’s a tweetable.

沒錯，這是今天的轉貼名言。

May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.

願你的抉擇反映出你的盼望，而非恐懼。

That was my A to your Q, Regani, I really, really hope it helps.

那就是我的答覆，Regani，我真的真的希望這有幫助。

And now I would love to hear from you.

現在，我想要聽到你的故事。

I want you to tell me, is there some dream that you’ve been putting off because you’re afraid that you might lose motivation or somehow let yourself down?

我想要你告訴我，有沒有因為你害怕你可能會失去動力或不知怎麼讓你失望而被你擱置一旁的夢想？

I think all of us have that, right?

我想我們都有，對吧？

Well, here’s what I want you to do.

嗯哼，這就是我想要你做的。

I want you to tell me one big emotional heart centered why that could actually help you keep going.

我想要你告訴我一個以情感為核心，實際上幫助你持續前進的理由。

Leave a comment below and let all of us know.

在下方留言讓我們知道。

Now, as always, the best conversations happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com,

現在，一如往常，最棒的對話都發生在影片之後的 MarieForleo.com

so head on over there and leave your comment now.

所以現在就去網站看看並留言吧！

And once you’re there, if you’re not yet subscribed, be sure to join our email list

而且一旦你去過了，如果你還沒訂閱，務必留下 email

and become an MF insider.

成為 MF 成員。

You’re gonna get access to a powerful audio training I created called How to Get Anything You Want.

你可以獲得一個厲害的有聲訓練課程，是我創作的，叫做「如何獲得你想要的一切」。

It’s really, really good.

這真的很棒。

We’ll also send you some exclusive content and some giveaways and personal updates that

我們也會寄給你一些會員專屬內容、一些免費樣品還有私人更新內容

I do not put on social media or anywhere else.

是我不會放在社群媒體或其他地方的。

Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world needs that special

繼續你的人生遊戲，為你的夢想持續努力，因為這個世界需要

gift that only you have.

只有你擁有的特殊天賦。

Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time on MarieTV.

非常感謝你的收看，下次 MarieTV 再會。

B-School is coming up.

B-School 即將開設。

Want in?

想要加入嗎？

For more info and free training go to JoinBSchool.com.

了解更多資訊及免費訓練課程請前往 JoinBSchool.com。

Who doesn't like just a slight little on their bum?

誰不想要獲得一些？

Just a slight from someone you know and love and trust.

就只要從你認識且喜愛且相信的人那獲得一點點。

Well sometimes you’re in trouble, if you trust the person you have a safe word and

有時候你會陷入麻煩，如果你相信這個跟你有密語的人

it’s a whole thing.

然後就這樣了。

We’re going there today on MarieTV.

我們今天要在 MarieTV 提到。

Always dropping in with, like, a really quick wisdom bomb.

總是會拋下一個快速帶來影響力又有智慧的炸彈。

Because I’m a professional.

因為我是個專家。