Hi. James from engVid.

Hi，我是 engVid 的 James

I was just thinking to myself, Well, I know it's very difficult to practice English because

我在想：我知道練習英文非常困難，因為

you don't get a lot of practice with English speakers, but if there were a way I could

你沒有很多機會與英文母語者練習，但如果我能夠教你一種方法

teach you how to get past "Hello" to make the conversation grow and perhaps have the

讓你不只能夠開口說「你好」，還可以延伸對話，甚至讓其他人

other person come back and talk to you, that would be a great value.

回頭和你聊天，那就值得了

So this lesson is about how to get past "Hello" and make a beautiful conversation flow.

因此，本課程是關於如何不只說「你好」，更使一段美好的對話得以延續

All right?

好嗎？

I'm going to use Angelina to help me later on when I do an example, but for now I will

我將在之後的舉例當中以安潔莉娜做為示範，不過現在先讓我

tell you more.

多說一些

See? He's like, "Tell me more. Hmm. I'm interested."

看，他在想：「說多點，我很感興趣」

And so am I.

而我也是

All right, so let's go to the board, shall we?

好的，讓我們來看白板

I'm going to give you five conversation openers.

我將告訴你 5 種對話開場白

You've said, "Hello", where do you go?

你已經說了「你好」，那接下來呢？

Personally I hate this because I teach and I hear people say,

我個人討厭這個，因為我教英文而當我聽到人們說：

"Hello. My name is James. I am from Japan, Tokyo."

「你好，我的名字是 James，我來自日本東京」

The conversation is essentially dead.

這個對話基本上已經結束了

Dunh-dunh-dunh-dunh.

登－登－登－登

Don't know if that's the wedding theme or the theme from Star Wars.

我不確定這是婚禮進行曲還是星際大戰的主題曲

Doesn't matter. You understand.

那不重要，你知道我的意思

It's killed.

對話被扼殺了

Nobody cares.

沒有人在乎

You've said everything that they need to know and then they're done.

你已經把所有別人需要知道的說完了，他們對你也沒有興趣了

So why don't we do something that actually gets them to open up and want to tell you information?

所以我們為何不說一些會讓他們感興趣的話題，而讓他們想告訴我們更多的訊息呢？

Okay?

懂嗎？

So the first one we're going to do is this one.

第一種方式我們要做的是

I like this one.

我喜歡這個方式

It's so easy, it's so true.

它很簡單，也真的有效

Look for something that someone is wearing or has that you actually like.

那就是找出某人身上穿的，或是擁有的，那個是你喜歡的東西

You're not going to steal it, so don't think about that.

你沒有要偷它，所以別想到哪裡去

But what I mean is you like.

我的意思是你欣賞的

You like the t-shirt, you like the jeans, the ear rings or something, you're like, "Cool",

你喜歡的T恤、牛仔褲、耳環或是其他的東西，你覺得：「酷」

because that would be sincere.

因為那是出於真誠

"Sincere" means that you really mean it and the person can feel that from you, so they'll

「真誠」意味著你真心那麼想，而對方可以感受到，所以他們會

want to share with you because you're being honest with them.

想要和你分享，因為你誠實以待

All right?

懂嗎？

So we look here, number one, walk up and say...

我們看這裡，第一，走過去說

So it's like, "Hello. Love your __________ (jacket, t-shirt). That is so cool."

像這樣：「哈囉，我喜歡你的__________ （夾克，T恤）它看起來很酷」

Yeah?

懂嗎？

"Where did you get them?" or "Where did you get it?"

「你從哪得到它們的？」或是 「你從哪弄到它的？」

Notice I didn't say, "Where did you buy it?" because some of the coolest things someone's

請注意我沒有說：「你從哪裡買的？」因為某人穿戴最酷的東西

going to be wearing won't be from this country.

不會來自這個國家

It might be, "Hey, I was in India and I picked up these beads.

可能是：「嘿，我在印度時買了這些串珠

Yeah, it was really cool.

對啊，真的很酷

I was outside this ashram and..."

我當時一個靜修院外，而且...」

And now you've got a conversation you didn't even know.

現在你有了一個意想不到的對話

Or it might be, "Oh, I was in the downtown in the hippie section, you know, and it was really cool, there was all this art."

或者也可能是：「哦，我在市中心的嬉皮區，你知道嗎，真的很酷，那裡充滿了這些藝術品」

You've started a conversation.

你開始一段對話

If you say, "...buy them?"

假使你說：「... 買到這些？」

"At the gap."

「在Gap。」

Finished.

結束

So, "Hey. Where did you get them?"

所以：「嘿，你在哪裡得到它們？」

Let them say "buy". Don't bring that up.

讓對方告訴你是「買」的，你別主動提起

Okay?

懂了嗎？

Follow that up with right away...

接著馬上說...

As soon as you say, "Where did you buy them...?"

當你問：「你在哪裡得到它們？」

It's true...

這是很真誠的...

It might not be true right now, but it could be true, you say,

現在聽起來或許不真實，但是當你說：

"Because I really have to get a cool present",

「因為我真的需要買一份很酷的禮物」，

or, "...an interesting gift for my nephew/my brother/my sister/my friend."

或者：「...是給我侄子／兄弟／姐妹／朋友一個有趣的禮物」

Right? Or girlfriend, whatever, or your wife.

好嗎？或是女朋友，無論是誰，或是你老婆

By saying that you're saying, well, one thing, you have other friends.

藉由這種說法，你表達了一件事，你有其他的朋友

But number two, you're giving them, "Cool".

再者，你誇獎他們很「酷」

You're saying whatever they're wearing is interesting, cool, different enough that it

你在說無論他們穿戴的是什麼都是有趣的、酷的、與眾不同到

stopped you to talk to them.

讓你不由得停下腳步和他們談話

By example or by extension, that means added on you're saying,

通過例子或是對話的延伸，代表你更進一步的說：

"You're kind of cool, too, because you're wearing it

「你蠻酷的，因為我覺得你穿的

and I think it's cool, so it's got to be cool and only a cool person would buy it."

很酷，也只有酷又有個性的人才會買這個」

Right?

對嗎？

This is why it works, you've given them two compliments.

這就是為什麼這個方法有效，因為你讚美他們兩次

Who doesn't want to be complimented?

誰不喜歡得到稱讚呢？

First you're saying I'm wearing something cool, then you're saying,

首先你說我穿戴的東西很酷，再來又說：

"I need to get something cool, and clearly what you have is cool."

「我需要買一些酷的東西，而很明顯的你有的東西就是我需要的。」

I'm probably going to talk to you and go, "Well, you know, thanks for saying that.

我或許會過去和你說：「呃，謝謝你的誇獎

I liked it because..."

我喜歡它是因為...」

And conversation started, and now you have an opportunity to maybe later on talk more,

接著對話就開始了，而你現在有機會接下去聊更多，

and that's how you get your practice.

這就是你如何得到練習英文的機會

Number two, how about this one?

第二種方式，這個如何？

"Wow, you are __________ (tall)"

「哇，你好 __________ (高)

or, "You have __________ (really bright eyes)",

或是：「你有 __________ (非常明亮的眼睛)，

or something that has to do with the physical body.

或是和身體有關的東西

The first one was about things. Physical.

第一種是關於外在物品方面

Now we want to talk about physical.

現在我們要談論的是身體

And you followed that up with, "What do you do?"

然後你接著問：「你是怎麼做到的？」

Huh?

什麼？

Example, you see someone, you go,

例如，你見到某人，你說：

"Wow, you have amazing skin. What do you do to make it so clear?"

「哇，你的膚質真棒，你是如何讓它看起來這麼晶瑩剔透？」

Okay?

懂嗎？

Hmm.

嗯

Or, "Wow, you're tall. What do you do?

或者：「哇，你好高哦，你是做什麼的」

Do you play sports or anything like that?"

「你是運動員還是之類的嗎？」

Okay?

懂嗎？

You follow it up.

你延續話題

This is the follow up, as I said, "What do you do?"

當我說：「你是如何辦到的」，就是延續話題

But why does this work?

但是這方法為什麼管用？

Now, notice this is green and I have green up here.

現在請注意綠色的部分，上面這邊也有綠色的字

You probably noticed it but didn't understand why I skipped it.

你或許有看到，但是不了解為什麼我跳過它

I live in North America and basically I could say this is true for a lot of Western society.

我居住在北美，但基本上這在西方社會都成立

We prefer you give compliments on positive things.

我們喜歡你正面的誇讚

Being tall is a positive thing in our society.

身材高挑在我們的社會上就是一件正面的事

Alex, if you've ever seen him, he's a giant, but I wouldn't call him a giant because that's

Alex，如果你曾見過他，他是一個巨人，不過我不會這樣叫他因為那

not necessarily positive.

不給人很正面的感覺

But saying he's very tall, he'll be,

不過說他很高挑，他會：

"Yes, I am. I'm very tall."

「是的，我是啊，我的確很高」

Saying, like, "You're this big huge thing", not good.

當你說：「你真是個巨大的東西。」，就不好

So don't talk about things that might be negative.

因此不要以負面的說法談論事情

If someone is very big in weight, but not muscle, fat, you can't say that.

假使某人的體重很重，但沒有肌肉，很肥，你不能夠直接說

They won't like it.

他們不會喜歡

Even if you think it's delicious, they won't like it.

就算你覺得那樣挺好的，他們還是不喜歡

If you think they're too short, like, "Wow, are you ever small.

如果你覺得他們太矮小，你說：「哇，你好小巧玲瓏哦

you are so small I could..."

你好小一隻我可以...」

Not a compliment.

不是讚美

Okay? So tall is good, bright eyes, good skin, lovely teeth, great hair.

懂了嗎？所以高是好的，明亮的眼睛、好膚質、好看的牙齒、漂亮的頭髮

You know? All these things.

你知道的，所有這些東西

Now, this is physical.

這些都是有關身體的

Because this is a compliment about someone's style, number one; number two is a compliment

因為第一，這是對於一個人風格的讚美；第二，是對於他們

about them personally.

個人的讚美

Now, the reason we don't say negative is you can't do things...

我們不說負面的原因是你不能做...

If you've got a negative feature in your life, like you're not tall or you're fat, you maybe

假使你有一個負面的特徵，像是你並不高挑或是你很胖，你或許

can't do anything about it, so that's not nice to talk about.

無法改變它，所以這不是一個好的談論話題

But positive stuff-I know, your parents make you tall, but people don't think of that-it's

但正面的東西 - 我知道，你的父母讓你有高挑的身材，但人們不會想到這一點 - 這

always good.

總是好的話題

Or good skin, right?

或是好膚質，對嗎？

Or nice hair style.

或是漂亮的髮型

Okay?

懂了嗎？

Why it works, because you've complimented the person, which is good.

為什麼這行得通，因為你稱讚人，那是好的

You've said, "Look, physically, there's something beautiful about you."

你已經說：「看，你身體的某個部份是美麗的」

But you've also, by saying, "What do you do?" if you talk about their skin, you're saying,

同時你也說了：「你是怎麼做到的？」如果你談論的是他們的皮膚，你在說：

"You have a talent" or, "You have a skill".

「你有才能。」或 「你有技巧。」

Or if they're tall, you say, "You've got to be playing sports or something."

如果他們很高，你說：「你一定有在運動還是什麼的。」

So you're actually saying, "You have actually worked on something."

所以你實際上在說：「你一定有在做些什麼。」

So you're not just saying, "You're beautiful", you're saying,

因此你並不只是講：「你很美麗。」，你是說：

"You're beautiful and you've worked on something."

「你很美麗而你有所付出。」

That is good.

那是好的

Okay?

懂了嗎？

So let's go over here, number three.

讓我們來看第三種方式

So we got the compliment, we got, you know...

所以我們讚美了別人，我們...

We're suggesting you got a talent or a skill.

我們在說你有才能或技巧

Number three, "I'm loving the cold/the rain/the sun."

第三種方式：「我喜歡寒冷／下雨／晴天」

Duh, James that's the weather, everybody does that.

呃，James 那是天氣，大家都會談論

You're right.

沒錯

Everybody talks about the weather.

每個人都會討論天氣

I'm asking you to say something different, especially if you're waiting for a bus or

我請你說一些不同的話，特別當你在等待巴士或

in an elevator.

在電梯裡時

When you say the opposite...

當你說相反的話...

Huh? The opposite of what you would think.

什麼？與你想像的相反

It's a bright, sunny summer-okay?-but the last two days, three days it's been raining.

這是個陽光燦爛，明亮的夏天－好嗎？不過前兩、三天都在下雨

Nobody wants rain in the summer, but you say, "How you loving the rain? I'm loving it."

沒有人喜歡夏天時下雨，但是你說：「你喜歡下雨嗎？我喜歡」

They're going to go, "Ugh, I wish it was sunny."

他們會說：「呃，我希望是晴天」

You go, "Not me.

你回答：「我可不要

I'm a gardener.

我是一個園丁

I have a garden, and I need the rain.

我有個花園，所以我需要雨

My garden is beautiful."

我的花園很漂亮。」

They're like, "Gardener?"

他們說：「園丁？」

You're like, "Yeah, I've got roses..."

你回答：「是啊，我的花園裡有玫瑰...」

Conversation started.

對話就開始了

You've brought in the unexpected.

你帶來了意想不到的話題

In the winter, people don't like the cold.

在冬天，人們不喜歡寒冷

Right?

對嗎？

But you go, "Oh, I can't wait, so much snow."

可是你說：「哦，我等不及了，好多的雪。」

They go, "Snow, it's so bad to work in."

他們會說：「雪讓生活很不方便。」

You go, "I ski, man, I love to ski and I love going downhill.

你回答：「老兄，我滑雪，我愛滑雪，特別是下坡的部分」

It's amazing for me. I love skiing."

「對我來說太棒了，我愛滑雪。」

So by suggesting the opposite about the weather, how good bad weather is.

所以藉由對天氣提出相反的建議，提出壞天氣可以有多好。

Huh?

什麼？

How good bad weather can be, you will find that it makes people go, "What?"

壞天氣是如何的好，你會發現那讓人有：「什麼？」的反應

They're curious, and then you get to tell them.

他們感到好奇，而你就可以告訴他們原因

Now, why it works here is you're sharing something.

為什麼這行得通，因為你在分享事情

When we share with each other, we open up to each other.

當我們彼此分享，我們彼此敞開心胸

You're telling me something about yourself that isn't:

你在告訴我一些有關於你的事情，而不只是：

"Hi. My name's James. I'm from Japan."

「你好，我叫 James，我來自日本」

It's like: "Hi.

那就像是：「你好

I ski."

我滑雪。」

Woo, that's cool.

哇，那很酷

But if you just said to me: "Hi. I ski."

但是如果你只是告訴我：「你好，我滑雪。」

I'd go: "Get away from me, weirdo.

我會說：「離我遠一點，怪咖

Don't talk to me."

不要和我說話。」

But by saying something about the weird, I'm like...

不過藉由說些奇怪的事

The weather, which is just weird, I'm like: -"Why would you say this is good weather?"

天氣，就很奇怪，我會說：「你怎麼會認為這是好的天氣呢？」

-"Well, I'm a skier."

「因為我是滑雪的人啊。」

-"Oh, you ski."

「哦，你滑雪。」

-"Yeah, I love to ski and this is the perfect weather."

「對啊，我愛滑雪，而這是最適合不過的天氣了。」

Now I've told you I've got a good personality, I'm positive, and I do things.

現在，我已經告訴你我的個性很好，我積極正面，以及我做的事情

I've shared information and I can ask you to do the same.

我分享訊息而我也要求你這樣做

Cool?

好嗎？

Well, if that's all you think...

如果這是你所想的...

If you're like impressed by this, we've got two more.

如果你對這留下了很深的印象，我們還有兩種方法

Are you ready?

準備好了嗎？

[Snaps]

[彈手聲]

Well, so we were at three.

所以我們剛才在看第三種

Let's do four and five.

現在我們來看第四和第五種

Are you ready?

準備好了沒有？

Oh, but before I do I just want to add a little aside.

哦，在開始前我想先補充一些題外話

An aside is a comment that's not directly related to the topic, but in this case it

所謂的題外話就是和話題沒有直接關係，不過在這個狀況當中

has something to do with it.

則是有某些關聯

There are two parts of conversation, speaking and listening.

一段對話中有兩個部分，分別是說和聽

I was giving you...

我剛才給你...

Or I am giving you some hints or tips on how to be better at conversation.

或我正給你一些提示和訣竅讓你能做更好的交談

But if you're really good at the talking and not the listening, it will die quickly.

但是如果你十分擅於說話卻不懂聆聽，對話很快就會停止了

So what we really want to do is emphasize: You're learning English, so you want to learn

因此我們真正想做的是強調：你在學習英文，所以你要學習

how to listen.

如何傾聽

And here's a couple reasons why.

這裡告訴你幾個原因

You start the conversation, but you should listen more to get a better understanding of English.

你開始一個話題，不過你應該多聽，才能夠更理解英文

Because we may not...

因為我們可能不會...

Well, we don't.

我們不會

We don't speak like the grammar or the vocabulary books that are out there.

我們不會像一本文法書或辭典一樣的說話

So for you to listen to English speakers, you start getting on how we're thinking and

所以當你在聽英文母語者說話時，你會開始了解我們如何思考和

how you should present the information to people.

你應該如何傳達訊息給對方

Okay?

懂了嗎？

So you'll get a better understanding of English.

這樣一來你能夠更加的理解英文

So when it's coming in because you're hearing, you go: "Oh, they don't say that.

所以當你聽到的時候，你會說：「哦，原來他們不這麼說

They say other things, like: 'Whatda ya'", and there's a video I got on that

他們說其他的，像是：「Whatda ya」，我有一部影片在介紹這個

so check that out.

你們可以去看

"Whatda ya mean? Whatda ya say?" Okay?

「你是什麼意思？你說什麼？」好嗎？

The other thing is to catch the other person's interest and

另一個原因是去瞭解別人的興趣

have the other person be able to have another conversation.

讓對方能開啟另一個話題

If you do all the talking, I'm going to think I've heard all I need to hear and I don't

假使你一直說，我會認為我已經聽到我所需要知道的，而不

need to talk to you anymore.

需要再繼續聊下去了

You told me everything.

你已經告訴我所有的事情

But if you're actively listening to me and asking questions because you're listening

不過如果你正在聽我說話，並且因此能提出

that have to do with the information I'm giving you, I'll probably say:

有關於我給你的訊息的問題，我可能會說：

"Hey. This was really cool.