it’s typically less than the male sex drive, because the principle driver of sexual libido

or lustful feelings is testosterone. Women just naturally have less testosterone than

men. That being said, if you’re in a new relationship, it’s called, like, the romantic

cocktail, that adrenaline, that dopamine will shoot up anybody's drive; where you don’t

even notice things like, not getting good sleep. So, just appreciate that for any given

woman, her drive may be less than yours, but there will certainly be times during her cycle

that she notices feeling more randy or horny, like around ovulation or some women, even

when they get their period. Just noticing when your partner is feeling more responsive

and turned on, helps you both think about how you can capitalize on those windows to

increase the frequency of sex that feels really enjoyable to both of you. I think it’s also

important to realize that, for women, there’s a range of their own appetite. We lean from,

some that may feel, quite comparable to what we see in men, and to others on the other

end of the distribution, where they barely think about sex. So, you have to realize that

for your partner, sex isn’t on the brain, it isn’t on the radar. It doesn’t mean

that it can’t get to that space, but it does mean that she does need some additional

stimulation to sort of coax her, to get her to that place, what I call, open and receptive,

because not all desire is born out of feeling it initially before a sexual experience starts.

For some, it’s more, I’m open to where this is going to go and it’s actually your

touch, and your caress that feels good, feels nice, and then lo and behold, she too is beginning

to feel the desire and arousal to move it toward a more sexual experience. The important

thing to realize is, even for any given woman, her love, love desire is likely to change

over even the course of a month, and certainly over the course of her lifetime. So just try

to get a sense of where her turn-ons are, and how do you both make the most opportunity

of those windows where she’s open and receptive