talk about how to make your ex miss you. Now, if you want to get back together with your

告訴你怎麼樣讓你的前任情人想念你。現在，如果你想要和你的前任情人複合，

ex, you're going to have to make your ex miss you. That's just a simple fact of life. If

你要先讓你的前任情人想念你。那就是生活的真實樣貌。

you want to get them back, your ex must miss you. So how do you make them miss you? That's

如果你想要他們回到你身邊，那你就要讓你的前任想念你。所以，要怎麼樣才能讓他們想念你？

what I'm going to talk about in this video. The first thing that you need to understand

這就是接下來我要在這部影片說的。第一，你要了解

is that you can't convince your ex to get back together with you. No amount of words

你不能說服你的前任情人跟你復合。不要說太多類似

-- begging, pleading, or trying to convince is going to make that happen. They need to

懇求或是試著去說服讓事情發生。他們需要

organically and naturally want to get back together with you. And if they miss you, that's

從本質上想要回到你身邊。如果他們想念你，

going to stimulate those feelings of wanting to get back together with you because they

那就要去刺激那些想要回到你身邊的感覺，因為他們想念你了。

miss you. And the way to stifle that pain of missing you is to get back together. So

而去抑制那些想念你的情感，最好的方法就是回到你身邊。所以，

how do you make them miss you? Well, the first thing that you need to understand is that

要怎麼樣讓他們想念你？第一件你要了解的事情是

your break up ended because the attraction faded between you and your ex. It was there

你們的分手原因是因為你和前任情人彼此之前的吸引力已經淡了。

initially when your relationship was going really well and then over a period of time

原本你們彼此之間的關係還不錯，但過了一段時間後

whether it was a month or a year, the attraction faded. And it faded to the point that your

不管是過一個月或是一年，這股吸引力就變小了。這個點

ex decided that they didn't want to be with you. So how do you rebuild that attraction

也就變成他們不想再和你交往的原因了。所以，要怎麼樣才能讓你變得更有

well again? Make them miss you! Now, let's just think about, more broadly, what makes

吸引力，讓他們想念你！現在，就讓我們來廣泛的想一想，到底是

you miss someone or something? Well it's when you're used to having someone or something

甚麼能讓你想起一些人或一些事？當你習慣有了某些人或某些事情出現在你的生活中

in your life, you become comfortable with them. It becomes part of your daily routine.

而你也覺得跟他們在一起很愉快。這變成你每天例行公事的一部分。

They become integrated in your life. Just like your ex was! You were there for them,

他們真正融入到你的生活裡。就像你前任一樣。你就在那兒，

you called them everyday. Maybe they woke up beside you everyday. Maybe you saw them

你每天打電話給他們。可能他們每天在你身邊睡醒。可能

every night after work. Whatever it was, they were a major part of your life and you were

你每天晚上下班之後都會看到他們。不管怎麼樣，他們都是你生活中很主要的部份

a major part of their life. So in order to make them miss you, what do you have to do?

你也是他們生活中的主角。所以為了讓他們想你，你應該要做些甚麼呢？

Well, you have to disappear! Completely vanish off their radar. That's the very best way

你必須要消失！完全在他們的雷達範圍內消失。這是個讓某人能

to make someone miss you. They were comfortable having you around. They were used to having

想念你最好的方法。他們覺得有你的時候很快樂。他們很習慣你在他們的生活裡了

you part of their life, and then all of a sudden, boom. Cold turkey. You're gone. And

你在他們的生活了，然而，在一瞬間所有的東西就突然不見了。說不見就不見。

that's really going to stimulate those feelings of missing you. And that's something you absolutely

這種情況真的會刺激想念你的感覺。這就是那些如果你

need if you want to get them back. It has to be natural and making them miss you is

想要找回的那種需要。要很自然的讓他們想念你

the most natural way of doing that. So how do you disappear completely in a very practical

要用最自然的方法去做。所以，你要如何真正百分之百的消失？

way? Of course you can't just magically, poof, be gone from their life. It's always more

當然你不可能很神奇的就直接消失，總有

complicated than that. But this is where the 30 day, No Contact rule comes into play. Maybe

更多複雜的方式。但在這30天內，請遵循不聯絡守則。或許

you've heard about this before on the internet, you've read about it. Essentially what the

你已經在網路上聽過或看過這些。

No Contact rule is is that is basically means, for the 30 days after your break, the first

不聯絡守則基本上是在講說，從你開始消失的這30天

30 days after your breakup, you don't talk to your ex at all. Of course there's a few

這30天你完全不跟你的前任講任何一句話。當然，有時候

complications with that, and the very rare case where it might not be appropriate, but

也有些複雜的情況。在極少見的情況下，這樣是非常不妥當的

generally speaking the 30 day No Contact rule is something you're going to want to do after

但通常來說30天不聯絡守則 是你要讓你的前任

the breakup in order to get your ex to start missing you. Now the science says (and there

想念你而必須做的手段。現在是科學的時代

is some science behind this, I'm not just making all this up) the science says that

(有些科學根據在這背後，我不只是讓這一切都取決於科學拉)，科學證明

generally speaking after a breakup, and of course it depends on the duration of your

在分手之後，一般而言，取決於你的戀情長度、

relationship and how bad the breakup was and how serious the relationship was, but generally

你分手時的情況有多糟、你對於這段感情有多認真。大致上來說，

speaking, the peak of those feelings of missing your ex occur 3 weeks after the initial breakup.

想念前任情人的感覺達到最高峰時是在於分手後的三個禮拜。

That's assuming you're doing this No Contact method, of course. If you're not doing that,

這就是為什麼你要確保在前三個禮拜遵守不聯絡守則。如果你不遵守，

then you're not giving them the chance of developing those feelings of missing you.

你就沒辦法給他們想念你的機會。

But if you are employing the No Contact strategy for 30 days, then around 3 weeks is the peak

但你若執行不聯絡守則30天，在三個禮拜的這個想念高峰時點，

of those feelings. Your ex is going to be missing you like crazy. They haven't heard

你的前任情人一定想你想的要死。他們已經沒有

from you or talked to you in 3 weeks. And even if things were a little rocky at the

你的任何消息，也沒有跟你說話長達三個禮拜了。甚至，你在最後分手時

end of your relationship, trust me, they're still going to be missing you and missing

的情況有點緊張，相信我，他們還是會想念你，以及想念

having you around and in their life. Now there's another element to this whole making your

你在他們身邊的日子。現在是另外一個如何讓你前任情人想你的元素。

ex miss you and No Contact thing that you also need to understand. And that's that,

不聯絡原則你必須要了解。再來，

making your ex miss you, at the same time, it also helps to make your ex let go of some

要讓前任情人想念你，在這同時，你必須要讓你的前任情人

of the negative memories that they have of you and your relationship. Over time, as they

忘卻關於你們之間的一些負面回憶。隨著時間的推移，他們會

get to miss you more and more and as they approach that 3 week peak of missing you,

會在達到巔峰的這前三個禮拜逐漸的想念你，越來越想你。

they'll start to let go of the negative memories and they'll start to forget, even if it's

他們會逐漸忘卻所有不愉快的回憶，即使在淺意識裡，

on a subconscious level, why they decided to break up with you in the first place. And

他們也會開始忘記為什麼他們決定要跟你分手。

in addition to dropping some sort of the negative memories of forgetting some of the reasons

除了忘記負面的回憶、忘記一些想要分手的

why they wanted to breakup, they'll also hold on to the nostalgia and happy memories. They'll

原因，他們也會記得懷念充滿快樂的回憶。他們

hold on to them and they'll come back to the surface during that time when they're missing

會守住，當他們想你想得要死的時候，他們會回到記憶的那瞬間。

you like crazy. They'll be thinking and focusing on the positive aspects. And that's great

他們會思考，對於某件事有了正向的想法。

of course if you want to get them back because they're forgetting the bad parts of your relationship

這樣實在是太棒了，前提是你想要他們回到你身邊，他們正在忘卻你們的關係中負面的情緒，

and they're remembering the good parts. So that's another advantage of making your ex

他們只記得好的那部分。所以，那正是讓你的前任情人想念你的另外一個優點，

miss you is that those feelings will be even stronger and if you can make them miss you

這些感覺會越來越強烈，如果你可以讓他們想你想到不行，

so badly that it's killing them inside and really need to stifle that pain and that heartache,

這種感覺快要殺死他們了，他們真的很需要撫平這種傷痛和心痛

then maybe they'll get back together with you. And that certainly does happen sometimes

以至於他們會想回到你身邊。而這確實偶爾會發生

if you were so close and then you breakup and you apply the 30 day No Contact rule,

如果你跟前任是非常親近的，然後你在分手後30天實行這個不聯絡法則

they miss you so much that in order to just stifle that pain they decide, well, let's

他們很想你，為了抑制這個痛，他們就決定要

get back together and that will solve all my problems. I won't miss him anymore or her

回到你身邊，而這就會解決全部的問題。我不會再想念他或她了。

anymore. So that's pretty much how to make your ex miss you in a nutshell. Obviously

簡而言之，這就是讓前任情人想念你的方式。顯然還有很多方法可以做到讓前任想念你，

there's way more to it than that that I can't cover in this video, so please if you do need

但是我的影片沒辦法全部都包含在內，所以如果你需要幫助，

more help or if you want to learn more, head over to my website. It's BREAKUPBRAD.com and

或是想學到更多方法，請你到我的網站來 BREAKUPBRAD.com

over there, I got a FREE video up, you can watch that. And also you'll be able to get

這裡有免費的影片可供觀看。或者你可以email給我。

my email address and send me an email. And thanks very much for watching I would really

謝謝觀看！如果你喜歡我的影片，

appreciate it if you like this video or subscribe to my YouTube channel. Really appreciate it.

可以點"喜歡"，或訂閱我的 YouTube 頻道，我將會非常感激。

Thank you so much for watching. We'll talk to you next time.

謝謝觀賞，我們下次見。