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Heya playas, are you planning on going up to your crush and completely spilling your
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whole heart out in the hopes that they'll feel the exact same way? Don't do it, trust
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me. There's a very good reason why you shouldn't and I'll explain why after this. This is The
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Josh Speaks. You're watching The Josh Speaks. Imagine someone showed up to your door and
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told you that they loved you ever since the first moment that they saw you, what would
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your first reaction be? In a case like this, it might make you feel like you've been put
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on the spot. What if you don't know the person? What if you don't feel the same way? What
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if they get upset by your response? There's a lot of pressure in that moment to not just
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respond, but to respond in a way that eases the tension created. That's what you're putting
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your crush through every time you confess your feelings to them. When we have crushes,
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we tend to focus our thoughts inwardly. We think about ourselves, how we feel and what
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we want from the other person. But, how often do we stop and think about how they'll feel
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if we just unload these feelings on them out of nowhere? That's why a much better way to
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approach the situation is to ask the girl out. By asking a girl out, you're not delivering
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a single sided confession, you're creating an atmosphere where both of you have the ability
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to express your feelings openly. By asking a question instead of giving a statement,
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you're never explicitly tossing yourself out there, instead you're creating a much more
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mysterious gateway for them to learn about how much you actually like them. Plus any
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kind of confession usually happens where you feel like you've been hiding your feelings
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from them. So re-frame your way of thinking. Having feelings that you haven't expressed
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aren't you hiding them away, it's simply you not acting on them. So inviting her out on
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a date gives you a way to act on them rather than just saying them. "I just want you to
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know that I've always secretly liked you" isn't as powerful as "I don't know what is
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it but I find you really adorable right now. I found this really cool place that I want
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to take you out to sometime." The first response leaves her open to saying something like "Aww
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thanks" while the second actually pushes her to either give you a yes answer or a no answer.
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And the reason why the second situation is so much better, regardless if the answer is
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a yes or a no is that her answer is so much clearer. What do you guys think though, have
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you ever confessed your feelings to someone? Leave your comments below so we can talk about
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it. The next time you want to tell a girl how you feel, think about things from her
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perspective. If you want your feelings to manifest into something, you need to create
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a situation where you can act on it. Because simply talking about it, just ain't being
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about it. As always guys love and peace. Hey thanks for watching. If you're new to the
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channel make sure to hit the subscribe button below. I make new videos every week on a range
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of different topics including self help, dating, philosophy and more. Plus if you want exclusive
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stories and tips that I don't share in my videos, make sure to sign up for The Josh
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Speaks newsletter. The link will be in the description below. Ooh, I've made the fatal
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mistake of confessing my feelings to a girl and it did not work out for me so please,
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take my advice.
