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There is a lot that holds us back from trying out psychotherapy.
There is the idea that you have to be a little mad
or harbor some huge and strange problem
to go and see a therapist.
It can be hard to see that therapy isn't in fact
for the select, disturbed few,
it's for everyone.
Because, actually it's entirely ordinary
to be rather confused,
a bit anxious,
and sometimes challenged by relationships,
family life,
and the direction of your career.
So really, the only qualification for going to therapy
is to be a normal human being.
There is also the worry about the strangeness of it all.
It will be you and someone you've never met,
to whom your expected to divulge nothing less than
your inner life.
Why not talk to a friend?
Well, firstly, because friends aren't properly trained
to listen.
As one would have noticed,
they interrupt, a lot.
And secondly, because it's sometimes easier
to tell someone who has no prior knowledge
or expectations of you
the big and important things about who you are.
Therapist are the last people ever to judge.
Their concept of a normal human being
is far more expansive than that held by society at large.
They know how unsual and surprising we are,
especially around sex and anxiety.
Their whole training
takes them into the recesses of their own and others minds.
They know how surprising we can all be.
It doesn't frighten them - it intrigues and motivates them.
That's why they became therapists in the first place.
They are in the end,
interested in mental health,
that means, in helping out.
Then there's the cost.
Isn't it all a fortune?
It might be the price of going out for dinner with friends,
which is both a lot, and not so much.
It really just depends on the value you place on it.
This is the crux of it:
Therapy is valuable,
because so many of our problems come down to
not having enough insight
into how our minds work:
What we want? What we fear?
Why we act the way we do?
and are overwhelmed by certain feelings?
The goal of therapy is
By talking a lot to someone who listens very carefully,
over many weeks
you come to deeper insights
into the mind you inhabit.
Patterns start to emerge,
a particular way of approaching relationships,
or dealing with defeat,
a recurrent, not very helpful, approach to jealousy,
an ongoing thing with your sister or father -
This is the stuff of therapy.
Knowing how to live isn't an instinct,
we are not born with it.
It's a skill.
And one of the places you learn it
is in the outworldly, slightly unusual
but in fact, deeply normal and productive setting
of a therapist's office.
It isn't a sign of disturbance to go to therapy
it's the first sign of sanity
and of a proper, grown-up commitment
to mental health.


【The School of Life】心裡治療 (Psychotherapy)

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