[Here's what happens when you always date your "type"]

[總是跟你的理想型約會發生什麼事呢？]

Einstein, of course, said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results; I think the same is true in dating.

愛因斯坦說，精神錯亂指的就是你一直做同樣的事情，卻期待有不同的結果；在約會這件事上，我也這麼覺得。

If you keep dating the same type of person, or you keep repeating a pattern in dating that's not working for you, you have to examine that, and then you have to do and date differently.

如果你一直跟同樣類型的人約會，或一直重複相同的約會模式，這是沒有意義的，你應該仔細回想這些情節，然後做些真正不一樣的事。

Dating differently often involves getting outside your comfort zone, getting outside your type.

和不同型的人約會是指，讓你走出舒適圈，脫離你一般選擇的對象類型。

So, if you say, "I'm never attracted to introverts, I only like extroverts," try dating an introvert and see what happens.

所以，當你說出：「我對內向的人無感，我喜歡外向的人」時，試著和一個內向的人約會吧，然後看看會發生什麼事。

Because, let's put it this way, if you always date the extroverted, life of the party, you're probably shrinking down a little to let that person shine.

讓我們這樣說吧，如果你總是跟外向的人約會，你可能會縮小自己來讓對方發光發熱。

When you date an introvert, different parts of you may be expressed.

而當你和內向的人約會時，不同的你可能會顯現出來。

So, if you don't know what your dating pattern is, I have a simple exercise: consider if your dating life were a movie, what would it be called?

如果你不確定你的約會模式是怎麼樣的話，我這裡有個簡單的檢測方式。想像一下你的約會是部電影，片名會是什麼？

How would it begin and end? And what character do you always play?

它會怎麼開始跟結束？你會在其中扮演什麼樣的角色？

You'll start to find some themes, and that's when you can determine what your type is, what your pattern is.

你會開始找到一些主題，然後你就可以知道你是哪一型的人，還有你平常的約會模式是如何。

Let's say, your pattern is that you're a runaway bride, or that you never commit, you're a 40-year-old virgin, or something else has kept you back from opening up to love.

假設你的模式是，你是個落跑新娘、或是你從不給予承諾，你 40 歲了卻還小姑獨處，或是任何阻止你敞開心胸去談戀愛的事情。

I think it's really important to get out of your head, chances are you're overthinking it; love is a feeling, not a thought.

我認為「不要一直想」是很重要的，你可能多慮了——戀愛是一種感覺，而不是一種想法。