Q: Got some amazing questions that come in on the blog and today’s question is from Jennifer

在部落格上收到一些令人感到驚奇的問題而今天的問題是來自 Jennifer

and I’m going to read it for you. So Jennifer writes:

我現在把它唸給你們聽。Jennifer 是這樣寫的：

“Hi Marie, I need help bringing back the fun! I’m working full time and taking night

「嗨 Marie，我需要有人幫我找回樂趣！我現在是全職工作者以及晚上要上

classes to get my pre-requisites for chiropractic college. I’ve been working on my ‘being in the moment’ muscles

脊骨神經醫學學院的先修科目。我持續地進行「活在當下」的肌肉訓練

and it’s really helping with my enjoyment of my job and ability to study.

這真的對我工作時的愉悅感和唸書能力有所幫助

However, I’ve been so busy that I find that I’m not having any fun time.

然而，我實在太忙碌了以致於我發現我沒有任何娛樂的時間

I live on my own and am not in a relationship.” (In a relationship; on a relationship, she’d actually be having some fun time.)

我一個人生活而且單身 ( 如果在談戀愛的話，她就會有一些有娛樂的時間)

“I’ve been working and studying for a year now

我過去己經半工半讀一年了

and I find that I’m beginning to lose my drive because I’ve been sacrificing time with friends

然後我發現我開始失去我的動力因為我犧牲了和朋友相聚的時間

and potential opportunities to meet men because I have to study.

還有認識男生的潛在機會就因為我必須要專心讀書

My career goal is very important to me, but I know that the imbalance I’m having with other areas of my life

我的工作目標對我來說很重要，但我知道在生活裡其他方面的不平衡

is affecting my drive and possibly success.” (Ding, ding, ding, very smart!) “

正在侵蝕我的動力和可能的成功機會(叮叮叮，非常聰明)

Any suggestions that you have to bring back balance while doing what I need to do are very welcome.

任何你給的建議能讓我在做必要的事情時依然保持平衡都很歡迎

Best of luck with the new pooch!” That’s my little dog, Kuma.

和我的新小狗一起祝你好運！那是我的小狗 Kuma

“And, thank you so much for the work that you do!”

「還有，感謝你做了這麼多！」

A: Okay so here’s why I love this question. Most of the time when we women are driven,

回答：好的，以下是我很喜歡這個問題的原因。大部分時候當我們女人被激勵，

you know we can get so driven that it takes over our entire life and we get super-ambitious.

你知道我們是可以非常有動力，願意花我們全部的時間而且我們變得超級有企圖心

And then, all of a sudden before you know it, it’s like there’s no guys, there’s no fun, whatever.

然後，突然間，不知不覺中，似乎你身邊沒有人了，沒有任何樂趣，諸如此類的

So I think all of us can relate to that. I know I certainly can and here’s what I suggest for you, Jennifer.

我想我們都和這個有關。我知道我一定可以而以下是我給你的建議，Jennifer

When I find that the fun is out of my life, the first thing that I look to, it’s going to sound weird

當我發現生活中沒有樂趣，我第一個會檢視的是…這聽起來很怪

but like how much cool music am I listening to? I happen to be a huge fan of hip-hop

但就是一些像是我現在聽多少酷炫的音樂的事。我碰巧是嘻哈樂的大粉絲

so anytime I play me some Justin Timberlake or you know, a little bit of even like Lady Gaga or whatever, little Jazzy.

所以我隨時隨地會播放一些 Justin Timberlake 或是你知道，偶爾一點甚至是 Lady Gaga 或諸如此類的，像是小爵士樂

Instantly there’s like this surge of fun that starts to erupt inside my body

馬上那種娛樂的歡愉感就會開始注入到我的的身體中

and it sparks creativity for other fun things to do.

並且激發許多創造力來做一些有趣的事

It’s like, “Oh, let me call a girlfriend and go get a drink.”

這就像是：「噢，讓我約個姊妹來一起去喝一杯。」

You know, things like that. But the main point here is you just have to schedule fun

妳知道嗎，就類似這樣子。但這裡的重點是你只要安排好你的娛樂

because it sounds like you’re doing a really good job of scheduling your study and you make that happen.

畢竟聽起來你現在把你的讀書計畫安排得很好而且你確實地執行他們

So girlfriend, you just got to make it happen with your calendar just like

所以女性朋友們，你只需要讓它跟著你的日曆走就像

if you were going to go the doctor’s, and you had a doctor appointment

如果你要去看醫生，而且你和醫生約了看診時間

or you’re going to go to get your teeth cleaned. You’d put it in the calendar and you’d show up.

或者你要去洗牙。你會把這件事放進你的記事簿裡而且屆時準時出現

So for you, sounds simply but it’s going to make a huge difference!

所以針對你的情況，聽起來很簡單但它將造成巨大的影響！

Whether it’s Tuesday nights from 6-10pm, you do nothing but party time

如果是星期二晚上 6 點到 10 點，不做其他事就只去參加派對吧

it’s like make a date, make it happen, and just have some fun.

這就像訂定一個約會，確實實現它並單純地享受其中的快樂

So that’s all I got for you, girl! But I’m really excited to hear how it turns out

女孩，這些就是我想告訴你的。我很期待聽到事情如何轉變

and you know, it sounds like you’re kicking serious ass with your studies.

你知道嗎，聽起來你現在在課業上表現得很好

Now we just need to get that balance back. So put it in your schedule, play some fun music,

現在我們只要拿回那個平衡就好。所以把它們放進你的計劃表裡，播放一些有趣的音樂

do some booty moves which I like to do, and you should be good to go! So that’s all I got for ya!

做一些有小收穫的事情，這些都是我喜歡做的，而你應該也要這麼做！所以這就是所有我想和妳分享的

Talk to you soon, bye guys!

期待不久後再聽到你的消息，大家再會！