Name: TEDx】愛上任何人｜Mandy Len Catron｜TEDxChapmanU (【TEDx】To Fall in Love with Anyone | Mandy Len Catron | TEDxChapmanU)
Uploaded: 2021-01-14T05:44:38.000Z
Duration: 13 min 52 s

過去簡單式

in the New York Times Modern Love column in January of this year.

在今年一月的紐約時報的現代愛情觀專欄

to 不定詞

"想跟任何人談戀愛,這麼做就對了."

And the article is about a psychological study

designed to create romantic love in the laboratory,

在實驗室裡設計如何創造出浪漫的愛情.

and my own experience trying the study myself

two strangers take turns asking each other 36 increasingly personal questions

由兩個陌生人輪流互問36個漸趨隱私的問題,

and then they stare into each other's eyes

So here are a couple of sample questions.

Number 12: If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability,

第12題:如果你明天醒來就能擁有一種特質或是能力,

Number 28: When did you last cry in front of another person?

第28題:上次你在別人面前哭是什麼時候?

As you can see, they really do get more personal as they go along.

如你所見,這些問題的趨向愈來愈貼近個人私密.

Tell your partner what you like about them;

saying things you might not say to someone you just met.

說出你平常對剛認識的人不大會說的話.

So when I first came across this study a few years earlier,

話說當我早些年剛接觸這個研究時,

and that was the rumor that two of the participants

and they'd invited the entire lab to the ceremony.

他們也邀請了整個實驗團隊去參加婚禮,

about this process of just manufacturing romantic love,

因為這只不過是刻意製造浪漫愛情的手法.

And when I got the chance to try this study myself,

當我獲得親身參與這項研究的機會,

with someone I knew but not particularly well,

並且是跟一位認識但不熟的對象進行實驗,

And I thought it made a good story, so I sent it to the Modern Love column

而且我覺得是個很棒的故事,就把它寄給現代愛情觀專欄.

現在,這篇故事在一月被刊登出來,

so I'm guessing that some of you are probably wondering,

And the reason I think you might be wondering this

is because I have been asked this question

again and again and again for the past seven months.

在過去七個月當中,一再的被詢問,

And this question is really what I want to talk about today.

所以今天我要好好談談這個問題.

I had been working on a book about love stories

我過去一直在耕耘一本與愛相關的書,

so I had gotten used to writing about my own experiences

But a blog post might get a couple hundred views at the most,

文章登在部落格,頂多只有數百筆瀏覽率,

and those were usually just my Facebook friends,

那些瀏覽者也正是我臉書的朋友.

and I figured my article in the New York Times

然而,我發現倘若文章登在紐約時報上,

不過最後的發展卻令我不知所措.

and by Saturday, this had happened to the traffic on my blog.

到週六,我的部落格已經嚴重塞車,

And by Sunday, both the Today Show and Good Morning America had called.

到週日時,今日秀和早安美國兩個節目都打電話給我,

Within a month, the article would receive over 8 million views,

在一個月內,文章已被瀏覽超過八百萬次,

underprepared for this sort of attention.

也完全沒心理準備會被如此大肆關注.

It's one thing to work up the confidence to write honestly

that your love life has made international news --

and to realize that people across the world

are genuinely invested in the status of your new relationship.

都全心全意投入在你最新的愛情發展中,

And when people called or emailed, which they did every day for weeks,

連著幾週,無論打電話或用電郵,每天都有人這麼做,

they always asked the same question first:

事實上,當我在準備這場演講時,

我很快速地在電郵信箱裡搜尋一下,

and several messages popped up immediately.

I even gave a talk, and one woman shouted up to the stage,

甚至在演講時,一位女士對著講台大聲吼道:

I understand that this is part of the deal.

我明白這是無法分割的附加條件,

If you write about your relationship in an international newspaper,

如果你選擇在國際性報紙寫出自己的愛情生活,

you should expect people to feel comfortable asking about it.

你就得接受別人會自然而然的追問下去.

But I just wasn't prepared for the scope of the response.

但是我還沒準備好要怎麼面對群眾們這審視般的反應.

The 36 questions seem to have taken on a life of their own.

這36題似乎反映出人們自己的生活,

In fact, the New York Times published a follow-up article

事實上,紐約時報刊登了一篇後續的文章

which featured readers' experiences of trying the study themselves,

文章報導其他讀者親身嘗試此實驗,

So my first impulse in the face of all of this attention

因此當我承受萬眾矚目時的第一個衝動,

was to become very protective of my own relationship.

就是變得非常保護自己的這段戀情.

I said no to every request for the two of us

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