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  • Ajahn Brahm: So this my first talk here for about three months, but, of course,

  • it's not just, as they used to say, not all beer and skittles for monks. [laughs]

  • No beer, no skittles at all. It's at a monastery down at Serpentine, I'm

  • still teaching the other monks, and the novices, the anagarikas and also the

  • sisters from Dhammasara. I have been traveling a little bit

  • at the very beginning of the rains retreat to Sydney for a conference of psychologists.

  • And at the end for another conference in mental health in Singapore, and in the

  • middle doing something good for Australia with a big conference with all the

  • leaders of Australia, trying to give some good spiritual vibes to the people

  • who run our country. But in all of these things, one of the reasons they invite

  • say a monk to these things is actually because of the positive attitude and the

  • vibes which a monk gives.

  • I was contemplating at a talk which I gave recently that in psychology, in life

  • we're always asked to have a positive attitude towards things, towards

  • whatever happens in life, whether it's an economic crash or whether it's the

  • death of a loved one, or a separation in a relationship and all the ups and

  • downs of live. We all say that having a positive attitude helps enormously, and

  • of course there's plenty of evidence, just what that does to sickness and to

  • tragedy in life.

  • But what I want to focus on this evening is how to be positive, because sometimes

  • it gets really frustrating when people tell you to be positive, and you're not.

  • It makes you feel even worse when you're having a hard time they say "Come on,

  • be positive," and you can't even do that right. So, this evening's talk is "How

  • to have a positive mind," and the results of that attitude change in life.

  • Of course, you all know what's coming. The positive attitude all comes from

  • like training your mind, especially in slowing down, release the positive

  • energy. To understand that, there's a classic story and some of you may have

  • heard the story before but I usually tell it to milk it and squeeze different

  • understandings from the same story. One of those times of life which gave an

  • experience which changed much of the way you looked at things.

  • I noticed the experience of walking up the hill to Bodhinyana Monastery in

  • Serpentine. Now, many of you have been down there, hopefully some of you will

  • come down on Sunday for our Katina Ceremony. We bought that 25 years ago, 26,

  • I think now, and for about nine years, I'd gone up, and down, the road to the

  • monastery, always in a car, in some sort of vehicle. It was like one of those

  • days we had a couple of days ago, just warm spring morning.

  • I remember just coming back from some sort of appointment, and feeling just so

  • positive, so energized, and having plenty of time, I told the driver, "Drop me

  • off at the foot of the hill, I'm going to walk up today." Not for exercise so

  • much, just for enjoying the morning, I had plenty of time. So, I started

  • walking from the southwest highway, up Kingsbury Drive, to the gate of

  • Bodhinyana Monastery.

  • As I started walking I got very surprised. Actually, it was a shock. As I

  • looked around me, I could not recognize where I was. That hillside looked

  • totally different from what I remembered seeing looking through the window of a

  • car. It was totally different. I was seeing things which I never knew were

  • there. What I saw had more detail, had more depth of colour. It was just

  • basically more beautiful.

  • Of course that surprised me, and not being in any rush, not being in a hurry, I

  • just stood still. And as I stood still, the whole hillside changed again. It was like

  • evolving. As a monk you're not on any sort of psychotropic substances, you

  • don't take alcohol, although, during our rains retreat, somebody offered the

  • monks some chocolate cake, and, fortunately, before we ate it, one of the monks

  • looked at the little writing on the cover, saying it had alcohol in it!

  • Fortunately, we stopped in time, because sometimes you're not sure when you get

  • some chocolate cake sometimes they put the alcohol in there just for the

  • taste and then they cook it and all the alcohol goes, it doesn't matter. But we didn't

  • know whether it was put in before or afterwards, and so we decided not to take it.

  • We gave it to one of our visitors who was very happy to be a guinea pig [laughter],

  • Like a food taster. And when he came back the next week he said "That was a lot of alcohol."

  • [laughter]

  • It hadn't evaporated, it was a very good job we were very careful. Otherwise,

  • we may have gone to our monastery just after lunch in a rains retreat

  • and seeing all the monks singing and dancing and goodness knows what else.

  • [laughter] Which would not have done very much for our reputation, so you've got to be

  • very careful. So we don't take such things. We are sort of sober, mindful,

  • alert. So here I was having an experience, like sometimes you have in life,

  • when things become really weird and they start changing in front of your eyes.

  • But what had happened was, what I was seeing, it had more detail, more

  • information.

  • That hillside, you started to see little flowers, started to see rocks, and

  • just the shape of the rocks and the lichen on the rocks. And, just look at the

  • tree barks, and the whole tree bark was just amazing, beautiful. What was also

  • strange was that the colours, the colours of everything you saw, started to grow

  • more intense, more rich, more deep and more beautiful. The whole thing was

  • exquisite.

  • Of course, when a monk has experiences like that, we don't just enjoy, we sort-of

  • contemplate afterwards what the heck was going on. And I decided to analyze it

  • through science, and it became quite clear to me that, when you see things,

  • sight is a chemical reaction on the back of your eye, on the retina.

  • What happens with most people is that when they see something, they move on to

  • another image almost immediately. So, the image on the back of your eye doesn't

  • have time to properly form, and the colors don't come out. They're just maybe

  • 10 percent of what's there, and the detail is all smeared, because the image

  • does not have time.

  • When I walked, I was going slower. The images on the back of my eye, the light

  • had more time, so you could see a much more full picture with more detail, and

  • the colours were deeper because they had more time to manifest.

  • It was just a simple physiology of sight which was occurring.

  • And, of course, when I stood absolutely still, only then did my eyes have all

  • the time they needed to form a full picture. And for the colours, which were out

  • there all the time, to be fully represented in the image on the back of my eye.

  • And for my mind to have time to explore it fully, to appreciate it, and to

  • taste it 100 percent.

  • Of course, I realized a very good simile of why people don't have a positive

  • attitude in life, why they don't understand life. Because, too many people

  • live life as if they're in a fast car, looking through the window, always going

  • on to the next thing, and pretty quickly, too. So, what we're experiencing now

  • doesn't have a time, we can't feel it fully. We're about to feel it, we get

  • five percent or one percent of the sensation, and we have to move on to something else.

  • Sights, tastes, feelings, everything, we don't have time for it to fully form.

  • But when we do go slower, when we do move more gently through life, when we get

  • out of the fast cars of life and just go on bicycles -- but, bicycles can be

  • too damn fast. Get off the bikes and walk. Don't even walk, but walk slowly.

  • What happens is, you find that your senses, at last, have time, and the mind

  • has got the opportunity to explore whatever comes into your senses. You see

  • things more fully. You get more information, more detail.

  • The surprising thing, at first, for me -- but, now I understand that this is

  • part of this experience -- that what you see, what you feel, what you taste,

  • what you know, becomes more and more beautiful. Ordinary grass becomes this

  • green which is like alive, vibrant and rich. It's an intense green. But, when you're

  • going through the window of a car, it's pastel, simply because you haven't

  • given it time.

  • When I had experiences like that, of course I realised that that's basically

  • what happens when we slow down in meditation, when you go on a retreat or you

  • just take time out in life, or you learn to move more slowly through your day

  • whenever you can, and you do have many opportunities. What happens is, you feel

  • more, you get more information, and what you see becomes very rich.

  • It's the positive psychology, because sometimes that hillside might be just,

  • oh, not enough trees, not enough grass. It's just all... just Aussie bush. It

  • should be like some garden, like some Japanese garden or an English garden or

  • whatever - no. When you really slow down and stop, you can see the beauty there.

  • Now, imagine you could slow down and stop and see the beauty in some other

  • things in life, which were going too fast to truly appreciate.

  • For example, in my fortunate life as a monk, I don't just hang out with prime ministers like in

  • this place in Hayman Island. Sometimes I hang out with murderers and rapists

  • when you go to prisons. It's amazing as a monk. You see just such a range of

  • human beings.

  • When you go and see rapists, murderers, thieves, some people who have done some

  • terrible, terrible, terrible crimes, it's amazing what happens. Because you

  • know how to go slow, you can look at a person and just like that hillside, you

  • see the grass becomes so beautiful. See the rocks, you see features in there

  • which you've never noticed before. You see just the bark on the trees. The

  • tessellated texture becomes exquisite.

  • So, you look at someone who's murdered a child, and you see things there which

  • most people will never notice. You see their exquisite beauty.

  • That's a great test. It's easy to see the beauty in the hillside. But to see such beauty in

  • such people locked up in jail for many years is more of a tough ask.

  • What happens when you do that? When you have such a positive attitude towards

  • life, you can see beauty in the most unexpected places. What happens is, and

  • it's happened many times, so often that I notice this is really useful.

  • That prisoner, that murderer, that rapist, they feel that someone is respecting them.

  • And that's an amazing change for someone who's done such an act. The

  • person comes in to where they've been confined, to their place of

  • imprisonment, and it is a mental torture, and they respect it.

  • And it's such a strange experience for them to have someone who looks at them

  • and sees something beautiful and good that they too start to change the way

  • they look at themselves. If I can see something in them, and they respect me

  • for being honest and truthful, then they think maybe that such beauty does

  • exist in them. And they start looking for it themselves.

  • The murderer starts to see an other part of their being. The beautiful part.

  • When that starts to grow and prosper, you find that when they do get released,

  • they are healed. The reason, the sickness, the cruelty, whatever it was, that

  • pain which allowed them to do such a thing, is now gone. And in this life and in

  • future lives, they will never do such a thing again. It's amazing what happens.

  • This whole attitude was reinforced when last weekend I was teaching at a

  • conference of the Institute for Mental Health in Singapore. Those from

  • Singapore, a few here, the old Woodbridge Hospital, which now they've moved and

  • renamed because maybe it had a bad association with mental sickness.

  • And I was so pleased that after I gave a presentation that was so well

  • received, that one of the fellows there who was quite a staunch Christian, he asked

  • me, "Can you come and bless my ward? Give a Buddhist blessing, please." Those

  • of you who know Singapore know that's quite something.

  • But when I was talking to him, and to many other staff there, the heads of

  • departments, they told me that the philosophy in that hospital was to focus on that

  • part of their patient which was sane, sociable, which was kind, which was

  • intelligent. They weren't focusing on the psychosis. They weren't ignoring the

  • schizophrenic fantasies. They were focused on something else.

  • I thought, "Wow! You guys have understood."

  • Because if you focus on somebody's faults -- you know the old two bad bricks --

  • the fact that sometimes they act in a dysfunctional way, or they speak in

  • hallucinatory ways or they behave in sort of a violent to themselves or other

  • ways. If you focus on that, then you make this person into someone.. or make this dysfunction

  • the whole of them,

  • rather than just a part of them.

  • And a positive psychology says let's put that aside. Let's focus on the other

  • half of them. Too often, we focus on the dysfunction. How about focusing on the

  • rest of the time when they're perfectly -- I won't say normal because being

  • normal is stigmatising the so-called abnormal -- when they are kind, sociable and

  • able to sort-of flow in society without any problems or reactions from other people.

  • When you focus on the other side, the healing happens. This is such an

  • important psychology to see. I was so pleased that at last, somebody is getting the message.

  • When you have a sickness... I don't know how many people when they have say, a

  • cancer, say, a breast cancer, forget that most of their body hasn't got

  • cancer. That there are still other parts of them.

  • Focusing on the other parts of them, you see incredible beauty, incredible

  • strength, incredible fitness and power. Which means you can harness that power,

  • the power of the positive side of a sickness.

  • The power of the positive side of someone's behavior.

  • And I know, and I think many other people can understand intuitively how that

  • is therapeutic. How that grows. I've mentioned before just to try and have

  • simple ways of talking about this so people can remember.

  • If you have a garden and you water the weeds, it's the weeds which grow and

  • take over your garden. If you water the flowers, the flowers grow and they take over.

  • It's what you water, what you focus on, is what grows in life.

  • And this is one of the great ways out of illness, out of tragedies, out of

  • dysfunctions, out of psychological problems in life. Just out of sorrow and grief.

  • If we focus on the grief, the cause of the grief, the problem, of course, it

  • will get worse and worse and worse. I've noticed this, I was talking to someone

  • recently that just this afternoon I remember this because I was coming to town

  • today we went past Observation City in Scarborough and it was there I gave

  • another lecture at a grief and loss conference.

  • And many of you noticed the positive attitude of Buddhism and how we learn to

  • let go and how we move through the pain of losing a loved one, how we let them

  • go, and how we let the pain go and how we move forward and how we change our perception.

  • You know the old story of the concert and looking at life as a concert and I

  • always enjoyed concerts so much so that I never cried when a concert was finished.

  • You know that story. But one of the women afterwards, after hearing my talk,

  • came up to complain bitterly. Her complaint was "Are you saying I shouldn't

  • grieve? Are you saying it's wrong to grieve? You're taking away my grief," she complained

  • For her, she had associated with grief and she became Mrs. Grief

  • whatever her name was. But that's her persona, that's who she was. And she would go to many

  • of those conferences and she'd get a lot of support from her friends. That's

  • who she was and she was not willing to give it up. A person who lives too long

  • in negativity becomes so associated, what in Buddhism we call "attached to it,"

  • they become it. They are it.

  • "I am the victim. I am the abused. I am the person who suffered such a

  • tragedy," and because they get so attached to it, even though it's painful,

  • they will not want to leave. Those of you who don't appreciate that, there's a

  • great story, which is one of the last stories, I think it is the last story, in that book,

  • "Opening the Door of Your Heart." It's a story --

  • I actually haven't told it in public for a long time now,

  • about the worm in the pile of dung.

  • Once upon a time -- actually, let's go even further back than that. Once there

  • were two monks, two Buddhist monks. And I say this because I'm a monk myself,

  • not all monks behave well. There are many scallywag monks. Unfortunately, those

  • are the ones people like to read about in the newspapers. The good monks very

  • rarely get in the newspapers. It's not newsworthy to say "Ajahn Brahm

  • meditated for the last three months."

  • But if Ajahn Brahm did something stupid like went to the casino or whatever,

  • then of course -- or got drunk because somebody gave us a cake steeped in

  • alcohol -- then you might sort of put it in the newspaper. But...

  • one of the monks, of these two monks misbehaved. The other one was a good monk.

  • So when they died one of the monks got reborn in a beautiful heaven realm,

  • while the other naughty monk got reborn as a worm in a pile of shit.

  • And as monks, we have a lot of friendship and community and fellowship. Like even

  • here we try and look after each other. And so after a few, who knows, days

  • up in heaven this ex-monk who was born as a heavenly being started to think

  • "Where is my friend? My old mate? I haven't seen him for a couple of days." So

  • when you get reborn in a heaven realm, according to Buddhism, you have all

  • these powers and so he used some of his powers to search his heaven realm for his friend.

  • He couldn't find him anywhere there. So he went up a couple levels of heaven

  • trying to find him there. He wasn't there either. Lower heavenly

  • realms, couldn't find him there. He said, ah -- according to Buddhism the

  • rebirth as a human being is one of the best rebirths because it's not too much

  • happiness, not too much suffering, a great place to become enlightened -- he said "Ah,

  • my friend, he's been reborn as a human being again. I bet that's what's happened,

  • why I can't find him in heaven."

  • So he searched around the human realm. No trace there either. "My goodness," he

  • thought, "he didn't do some really bad karma and got reborn as a dog or a cat...?"

  • So he looked in the realm of the dogs and the cats. I know some people

  • here think being reborn as a dog is a wonderful rebirth because you don't have

  • to go to work on a Monday morning, but that's not the case. If you think that

  • being reborn as a dog is a good idea, please remember what they do to a dog

  • after one or two weeks when it's born.

  • They take it to the vet and you know what they do to it there. So if you want

  • that... [laughs] Anyway, he couldn't find his friend as a dog or a cat, so he

  • looked at all the other animals. Still couldn't find his friend. He wouldn't

  • give up. He started looking in the lower realms of the creepy crawlies, and

  • there, to his shock and surprise, he saw his best friend was born as a worm in

  • a pile of shit.

  • Now, what would you do if that was your friend? You go and help them out. So he

  • went up to that pile of stinky poo and actually called out and said "Hey worm, worm!

  • Do you remember me? We were monks in a past life. We were the best of

  • friends. Now, you've made some bad karma, but don't worry I can get you out of

  • this. Come with me up to heaven." And the worm in the pile of dung said "First of

  • all I'd like to ask some questions. Number one, is there any shit up in heaven?

  • Of course there's no shit in heaven! It's pure and fragrant and lovely stuff

  • there. He said "If there's no shit I'm not going." "Why not?" He said, "Well

  • look, it's fragrant. It smells so beautiful. It's so warm and cozy inside and

  • it's also my food." Imagine -- there's lots of sort of Asian people here --

  • imagine you got reborn sort of in a big pile of noodles. [laughter]

  • Or if there's any

  • westerners here like reborn in a big hamburger so you can eat it all your day.

  • I don't know what else you like.

  • But he said "No I'm not going to go." Because this was his home, this was his

  • food, this is where he belonged; he liked it. And so that heavenly being tried

  • to pull the worm out. And remember worms which live in piles of dung are

  • smeared with slimy shit and so it's very hard to take them out, especially

  • when they don't want to go.

  • So the worm would wriggle and writhe, and every time this heavenly being took

  • it out a little bit, it would escape and go right in the middle of the dung

  • again. Now this heavenly being, imagine like you were sort-of a high being,

  • you had to put your hand in this most stinky, smelliest stuff.

  • His friendship was so strong he would not give up. Because he thought "If I

  • could just take my friend the worm up to heaven so he could just see for

  • himself, of course he would give up his shit and come up to heavens, it's so

  • much nicer."

  • But of course because the worm never wanted to go, it wriggled and writhed, and

  • escaped every time and eventually the heavenly being had to give up and leave

  • the worm to his pile of shit.

  • And I often tell that story because I don't know how many years I've been

  • teaching here trying to pull you. [laughter]

  • Would you want to go? Sometimes I'll pull you out a little bit on a Friday

  • night, and by the time you go home, you're back in it again. [laughter]

  • That's what was happening with this lady who was into grief. She would not get

  • pulled out of the shit. She was attached to it. She liked it. And that's so sad

  • to see that. But how can we get out of this?

  • There is a whole bit about the positive psychology, is you can't just think it,

  • you can't explain it. You can't just have a lecture and to get people out. They

  • got to feel it. They got to know it's shit. And the only way to do that is

  • actually to get more information by going slower.

  • Because the slower we go, the deeper we see. And the deeper we see, we also

  • see this incredible positive side of life. I know that people in Singapore, the

  • psychologists over in Sydney, they say that one of the biggest epidemics, and

  • it's not AIDS or cancers, but depression.

  • I'm sure there's many people here who've come because of depression before or

  • going through it now or maybe sometime later on in your life being depressed.

  • And they look at me having to come to work again after three months of bliss in

  • my monastery. You think I should get depressed. But do I look depressed?

  • Incredible as a monk you've got this attitude no matter what you have to do,

  • you just enjoy everything. And some of the stuff I have to do is crazy. Again

  • just being in Singapore last Sunday -- there's couple of people here from

  • Singapore, you know this is true -- started off my Sunday morning at 6:15 in

  • the Canning Fort Park teaching meditation. It was only supposed to be a short meditation.

  • But you know what it's like afterwards, people start asking you questions and taking photographs.

  • I had to rush for the morning..so-called breakfast. It was not a breakfast, it

  • was morning banquet. People saying "Please eat this, please eat that, because I

  • made this specially for you Ajahn Brahm." [laughter]

  • And now you may always see I'm a fat monk. It is not my fault. [laughter]

  • I get pressured, forced, cajoled. And if you don't believe me, you just come and follow me for

  • one day and see what happens. So I had to eat this big breakfast and then talk to people.

  • And then as soon as that was finished, had to go off to this morning service at

  • the Buddhist Fellowship, which was only supposed to be a talk for an hour

  • but went on and on and on with questions and stuff. And then we were supposed

  • to have some lunch.

  • But on the lunch, people come up and ask you to sign a book and ask some

  • questions because they have some really big problems in life. So you give them free

  • counseling. You're trying to put a spoon of food in one mouth and counsel them

  • about their marital problems in the other. It is really working.

  • And after that was finished, then I had to sort of rush off to a seminar

  • they'd organized for four hours of giving talks and asking questions. And of

  • course it wasn't four hours, it lasted for five or six, finished about eight o'clock.

  • And after that, I had to go to this golf club where they were having a sort of a

  • launch of an education program which I had to give another talk; didn't get

  • back to bed till about quarter to midnight.

  • And if anyone looked at that schedule, you'd call that torture.

  • Amnesty International will probably take the Buddhist Fellowship in Singapore to court

  • for that.. [laughter] human rights abuse; war crimes.

  • But of course I enjoyed every minute of it.

  • And that's again, you do that, because you look at it and say, well you can

  • look at the sort of negative side of this: "Why me? Why do I have to do all

  • this?" Or you can look at the positive side of it and the reason why I can do

  • it it's the positive side of it. And see the beauty in anything. See the beauty

  • in prisoners, to see the beauty in the cancer ward. It's being able to go so slow

  • that beauty just stands out at you.

  • It's just so easy to see it, it's just right there in front of you. I realised that

  • in life, it's not what's out there that's a problem, it's not what's inside you is the

  • problem. It's always this, what we see, what's between us and whatever we have to

  • experience in life.

  • And by going slow, and not rushing too fast, life becomes so beautiful and

  • meaningful. Not only that, you don't only see just the beauty in any type of

  • food, or the beauty in any type of experience, no matter what you have to do in life.

  • Even the beauty in waiting at airports for aircraft, sitting in planes.

  • The beauty of just going through customs, waiting in line, the same sort of

  • questions: "Did you pack the bags yourself sir?" [laughter] I said "Look at them, there's

  • only one of them. What do you mean 'bags?' I travel light." [laughter]

  • So and you go through all this. But you enjoy every moment of it, you have this

  • positive attitude. And life becomes incredibly beautiful and nice no matter

  • what you have to do.

  • That positive attitude just comes from just moving a little bit more slowly in

  • life. So you can see it was there all the time. We go so fast doing so much

  • that we see none of it at all. So it's just a fraction of the beauty.

  • I don't know, when I was young, we used to, at school, develop our own

  • photographs. If any of you have had that experience of, know that you get a

  • photograph -- not this digital age, you miss so much with modern technology,

  • high tech and high stupidity, that's what I call it -- but when you had these

  • photographic films. You put it in the sort of a tray and put all these chemicals in it,

  • and the image would actually just appear slowly. And if you took it out too soon

  • then the image wouldn't fully form. It just emerged slowly. First of all

  • you can see silhouettes and then more detail, the colour became richer as the

  • chemical reaction progressed. That's almost exactly the same as what happens in your

  • eye. That's what your senses are.

  • When we go too fast, we miss so much. So just when you're eating, if you can

  • have, in fact one of the beautiful curry puffs which are out here. Why is it

  • that when people come here, to actually to eat the food even the curry

  • puffs, which people actually sell here, just to raise funds for something or

  • other, why do people like eating them? Why are they delicious?

  • A lot of times, it is because when you come here, you deliberately slow down.

  • When you're slowing down, you can actually get more taste out of the food.

  • When you slow down and get more taste out of the food, you digest it much better.

  • This is my trick. Anyone who has digestive problems, slow down, especially just

  • before and during your food, so you can get more taste. Because when you get

  • more taste, all these juices get secreted in your body.

  • The chemicals are out there to digest it when you taste more.

  • To prove that, just think of your favorite food right now. Think of it. Close

  • your eyes and imagine it, hot and steaming, right in front of you. Saliva comes

  • out. Not only that, stuff in your tummy comes out.

  • I remember learning this when one of my fellow monks, a long time ago, he had

  • some digestive problems and so he went to the local doctor. This was in

  • Thailand. And they decided to give him a barium meal. I don't know if they

  • still do that. They probably do ultrasound or MRIs these days but I'm not quite sure.

  • But what a barium meal was, he had to drink this radioactive guk. And it lay

  • in his stomach and they had some x-ray machine that can actually see how this

  • barium meal actually went through his system.

  • That way they could actually test if there was any blockages anywhere or any

  • difficulties in his digestive tracts. But the stupid doctors, they scheduled

  • his appointment for about two or three o'clock in the afternoon. And you know

  • monks, we'd only eat in the morning time. In the afternoon we don't eat. And he'd

  • been a monk for about four or five years.

  • So when he was lying down there, that barium meal was just sitting there,

  • wasn't going anywhere because the stomach wasn't used to doing anything in the

  • afternoon. It was half asleep, it was resting. That's what happens in monks.

  • And so he'd actually had this meal, all the nurses or doctors or technicians

  • were around him, and they couldn't proceed because the barium meal was just

  • sitting there. And so one of the nurses, a very smart girl, said "monk, think

  • of your favorite food."

  • And he was lying on his back. As soon as he started thinking of his favorite

  • food, then the barium meal started moving here and all over the place. Just the

  • thought was enough to actually get the whole system going.

  • If you're not thinking about your food, if you're thinking about the TV show

  • or you're thinking about what's on the screen, or you're too busy talking to

  • the person next to you, how on earth do you think that your stomach will work,

  • and your digestive juices will work.

  • It's one of the reasons why as monks we eat always in silence. We strive to be

  • mindful of our food. So that's why we usually have much better digestions.

  • Simply because we slow down, enjoy, make peace with things and allow the whole

  • body to do its job without us interfering.

  • Simple things like that work. Not only that, but you can enjoy your food more.

  • It's strange to think that a monk is telling you how to enjoy your food more, or

  • monk is telling you how to enjoy seeing more. Because sometimes people think oh

  • monks, you should tell people not to get so attached to things.

  • No, it doesn't work that way. The path of Buddhism is a path of ever

  • increasing happiness, but coming from stillness, coming from a natural

  • happiness, not a forced happiness. That's why I love being a monk, and a happy

  • monk. You are enjoying it. And monks in our monastery are happy. There's more

  • coming every year.

  • But, how that positive attitude, how that happiness comes - it comes from

  • stillness. You start seeing beauty in things.

  • But the most important thing about

  • this positive psychology and how it's generated from stillness.

  • You just start to see the positive side of yourself. You start to look at

  • yourself and see you're an incredibly beautiful person. People can say that. "I'm

  • a beautiful person, I'm a beautiful person... oh shit, I'm not." [laughter]

  • That's what most people really think. As a monk, you get all these people

  • coming to talk to you and giving their problems. It's very rare for a person

  • to come up to you and be at peace with themselves.

  • They always think there's something wrong with themselves, and usually

  • something big wrong with themselves. And it takes ages, years and years

  • and years of talking to people to try and convince them, number one, they're

  • all right. But I want to go much further than that. They're beautiful. There's

  • something inside of you which is incredibly nice.

  • And I've told this before, but just a couple of weeks ago, every year on --

  • what's it, October the sixth or seventh or something -- it's John Curtin day,

  • the day John Curtin died or got elected as prime minister or something.

  • Because four years ago on that day the John Curtin University gave me this

  • medal, the John Curtin medal, which is actually for community service, for

  • doing good things for other people.

  • And the first year after I got the medal I thought well, other people came to see

  • me get a medal. I should go and see them. So I rocked up thinking I was just

  • doing a duty, but I really was impressed with what I saw because there were

  • people who'd done good things for the world, especially just this part of the

  • world; and they were getting rewarded. I was just really impressed every year to see

  • how people were really giving and serving for others.

  • It was inspiring, so I've gone every year since. Just a couple weeks ago

  • there was one lady there who'd done a huge amount around the Kalamunda area for

  • the local community, but when she got her medal she came up to give a little

  • speech and she said "I don't know why you've given it to me. There are so many

  • other people who are much more deserving than me and even in my group, these

  • other people work much harder than I do in this group. I've founded it and led it but.."

  • And she was saying all this stuff and I remembered "oh here we go again - why can't

  • you see that actually you do deserve that," because when I was listening to

  • what she did -- she's an amazing woman -- how much she'd given and sacrificed

  • and served for no reward through 30 or 40 years of her life she'd given to

  • others. I thought wow you really deserve that medal. But could she say she

  • deserved it? No.

  • I did the same when I got my medal. "What the heck are you giving it to me

  • for? There are many other people who work harder than me." Me, too, I could not

  • see the beauty in myself. Really what I should've done was go up there and say

  • "Thank you very much, I do deserve this medal." [laughter]

  • But it was true, I did deserve it

  • And she deserved it. Why can't people accept praise?

  • Because we have this terrible feeling of ourselves of inadequacy. Some force

  • has been hammered into us to always admit your faults and to reject your finer

  • points. No wonder human beings get so sick. If you made a mistake remember it,

  • feel remorse, make amends. If you do something good "Oh, no, no, no, that's

  • usual. I'll just get big headed if I keep remembering my finer points."

  • You don't get big headed if you receive praise and acknowledge it and accept it

  • and embrace it. You get big-hearted. Not big headed, big-hearted.

  • So that's a symptom of what we call lack of self-esteem, the inability to see oneself as

  • others would see it and actually praise oneself and value oneself, and see the

  • beauty in oneself. And that's what happens when you get still.

  • You don't just see the beautiful grass on the hillside. When you go more slowly

  • you often see yourself, and you'll be absolutely stunned just how much beauty

  • you can see inside of yourself. You never thought that was there because you've

  • been going too fast to see it.

  • When you slow down, amazing, you blossom. You just unfold and some of the stuff

  • inside of you you've never seen before is just so clear in front of you.

  • Delightful, beautiful, wonderful. You look at yourself, "Wow, I am OK.

  • Actually, I'm more than OK. This is amazing. This is wonderful."

  • Why is that so hard to accept? Even the very idea of that. Some of you were

  • cringing against the idea of thinking yourself as beautiful, wonderful,

  • incredible. You can do that and this is what happens.

  • So a person when they start slowing down, meditating, living a more peaceful

  • life they have much more respect for themselves, even admiration for themselves

  • and what they admire, what they respect is like the flowers, they grow and grow

  • and grow and eventually they just take over the garden. They smother the weeds.

  • The beautiful part of yourself once it's appreciated, noticed, embraced,

  • accepted, recognized, that grows. And all that other little stuff, all your

  • faults, your negativity, the other stuff which causes too many problems in your

  • life, that vanishes. You know what this is called? The path to enlightenment,

  • the path to freedom, the path to joy, to happiness.

  • And I've focused on it, the positive attitude towards yourself, to others, to

  • life in general, even to death. Whatever happens in life embrace it, see

  • its beauty. See it's just the circles of life going around. The winters and the

  • springs, the summers.

  • Of course, it's not so bad, I think, because I don't know

  • over here in Australia, but the global financial crisis. Somebody once,

  • on a completely different subject, gave this wonderful simile and I was sharing

  • this with so many people, in a place like Singapore, where they're very, very

  • worried about their finances.

  • I said it's like a financial winter because I was born in the Northern

  • Hemisphere and I remember the winters in England. In the winters, you go

  • outside the city and you wouldn't see a leaf on the trees. The flowers were all

  • dead. There was no life, even the animals were hiding underground, sleeping,

  • hibernating. In the deep winter time, outside of London, everything was gray,

  • dead. Trees were like skeletons in the forest. Nothing was alive. There was no

  • hope. It was cold and dead, a withered landscape, like an economic crisis.

  • But you know what? Underneath the soil -- you knew this because you've seen it

  • so many times -- underneath the soil there were seeds. The animals, there was

  • life, powerful life just waiting. It was waiting for the time, for the warmth,

  • for the tiny bit of rain to germinate. Then you get the spring months, March or

  • April, and suddenly the whole landscape will be bursting with life, with

  • greenery. All of these animals would jump out and start to mate and all sorts

  • of other hanky panky -- which I doubt a monk should... but, anyway, that's just life. [laughter]

  • This is what you would see. What was dead and hopeless and cold and withered

  • was now full of energy and life, and beauty, and vibrant. That's always

  • whatever happens in life. These are the cycles we go through. This economic

  • crisis is like a winter time and you know that winter time is always followed

  • by spring. It's the cycles of the world. You know that but we forget it.

  • It's too easy to get depressed in winter times but those of you who have more

  • experience can see in that winter this beautiful pause, a pause of our life

  • when many people are forced to see something more important than economic

  • activity. They're just reminder times. Like in winter time, you can stop and be

  • still and peaceful when not so many things are moving. When you see the beauty

  • in a dead tree, when you see the beauty in the lifeless landscape, the

  • stillness, the life inside, then you know that this is just one part of the wheel.

  • This is all this is right now in our economic times, in your life, cancers,

  • death, falling in love, getting married, getting divorced, having kids, all

  • that sort of stuff, the cycles of our life. So, when it is winter, always know

  • there's a spring coming soon. You know it happens, you've been there before,

  • but don't forget! This is the positive side of life and you see it more and

  • more the more still you get. So take time in life. Don't go always running

  • around. You have to run sometimes. But there are times when you just slow down

  • and stop to remind yourself, to center yourself.

  • That's what meditation is all about, learning how to stop. Sometimes people

  • don't meditate properly. They go meditate just to try and achieve

  • something else, trying to go for it. Sometimes people get more stressed out

  • when they meditate than before they started. You're trying too hard.

  • Some meditation objects we don't recommend. Like, someone told me this a couple

  • of days ago, in Buddhism we don't recommend meditating on a candle because it

  • burns your bottom. [laughter]

  • And that's today's joke. It doesn't improve with the years but it's one

  • I haven't told before. [laughs] Anyway, so, when you sit and meditate, meditate

  • for peace, for stillness because in stillness you see more deeply and you see

  • more beautifully and your positive attitude toward life grows and grows and grows.

  • That's why the National Institute for Clinical Excellence, which is the arm of

  • the British National Health Service, which does test therapies to find out

  • what's the best for the amount of money they have to spend, testing depression

  • or other therapies for depression compared three types of treatment:

  • medication, cognitive behavioral therapy, which is basically counseling, and

  • meditation. Which one worked the best? Of course, you know, meditation, by far the best.

  • So, the British National Health Service, the preferred therapy for depression

  • is meditation. If they only could find enough people to teach it. It works.

  • Hopefully today I've shown why it works. Stillness exposes beauty and power and

  • energy. With that power, energy and positivity and beauty -- wow, you're not just

  • going to heal depression, you're just going to go and create a beautiful world.

  • Respecting your beauty, being able to go into prisons and see prisoners just

  • changed like a catharsis. If you can do that with prisoners, with rapists, with

  • murderers, what can you do with others? What can you do with yourself to heal,

  • to grow, to get out of the shit pile once and for all and leave for heaven?

  • That's how we become positive, and thank you for listening.

  • Audience: Sadhu, Sadhu, Sadhu

Ajahn Brahm: So this my first talk here for about three months, but, of course,

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