Name: 遠距離戀愛好苦？其實它有你不知道的好處！ (Long-Distance Relationships Might Be Better)
Uploaded: 2022-07-02T21:01:10.000Z
Duration: 3 min 39 s

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New science says dating long-distance might make a better relationship.

現今科學指出，遠距戀愛也許會讓我們擁有更好的戀情。

遠距戀愛的朋友們大家好，歡迎收看 DNews。

Trace here with the science lowdown on the dreaded long-distance relationship, or LDR.

鎖定這裡的科學真相，探討令人害怕的遠距離戀愛，又稱遠距戀。

Three million Americans are part of an LDR. 25% to 50% of college students are currently in one right now.

有三百萬的美國人在遠距戀愛，而有 25% 至 50% 的大學生正在遠距戀愛中。

Of the non-college group, reasons could be military deployment, work preferences or requirements, internet dating, and even immigration and visa delays.

對於不是學生的人來說，遠距戀愛的原因可能是因為服兵役、工作喜好或工作需求、網路約會認識，甚至是移民以及簽證延遲等原因。

The internet helps us feel closer, even when we're far apart.

網路讓我們覺得距離變近，就算我們之間的距離很遙遠。

So long-distance relationships are growing in popularity.

所以遠距戀愛的風氣越來越興盛了。

Technology like text messaging, instant messaging, video chat, they all help us feel the sense of inclusion and intimacy that we wouldn't have been able to get only 10 or 15 years ago.

新的科技，例如，文字簡訊、即時簡訊、影像通話等都讓我們覺得沉浸在彼此生活中而且很親密， 這些都是我們在 10 、15 年前不可能擁有的。

The research from 2010 says romance does kind of require face to face interaction. Newer research, that's saying the opposite.

2010 年的研究顯示要維持一段戀情需要一些面對面的互動，但新研究卻顯示相反的結果。

A study in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy says, those in long-distance relationships might actually be better at dating.

《性與婚姻治療期刊》有一篇研究指出，那些遠距戀愛中的人，事實上也許更懂得怎麼約會。

Researchers recruited people in close-by and long-distance relationships, who filled out a series of questionnaires tackling their intimacy, their commitment, their communication, psychological distress, and sexual satisfaction, or lack thereof.

這個研究找來了近距戀愛與遠距戀愛的人，請這些人填寫了一連串的問卷，詢問出他們與戀人間的親密度、承諾、他們的之間的聯繫、心理壓力以及性生活滿意度、或是否缺乏性生活。

Those in an LDR also indicated how often that they got to see each other.

在遠距戀愛中的人也會被問多常與戀人見面。

Though both groups were doing well, the LDR couples were better functioning couples, reporting higher levels of satisfaction, intimacy, and communication.

雖然不論是遠距或近距戀愛的人都過得不錯，但遠距戀情侶的相較之下更親密一些，數據顯示他們在滿意度、親密度及溝通方面的得分都較高。

The close-by couples win in the area of getting laid more.

近距情侶就贏在有較頻繁的性生活。

Basically, LDR couples have to replace their physical closeness with emotional closeness.

基本上，遠距情侶必須把身體上的親密轉化成情感上的親密。

While the close-by couples were overlooking some of their problems, the long-distance couples, they were forced to sort them out.

近距情侶選擇忽略某些問題，而遠距情侶他們被逼著解決問題。

A piece in Pacific Magazine puts it this way, "Long-distance couples are arguably better at discussing sex, and those who live nearby actually have more sex."

《太平洋雜誌》有一篇文章是這樣說的：「遠距情侶可以說是更會討論性愛，而那些住得很近的情侶就是——有更多性愛 。」

A separate study this year in the Journal of Communication tipped the scales even farther toward long-distance couples, indicating that they form even deeper bonds than their nearby neighbors because of all of that sharing.

今年另一項在《傳播學期刊》的研究更是決定性地證明遠距戀愛的好，研究指出，遠距情侶間的連結比近距離情侶間的連結更深，因為遠距情侶會分享生活。

Something those of us who are very familiar with the long-distance thing, as my friends call it, know very well because, you know, you're just always talking.

「分享」這件事對於了解遠距戀愛的人就非常了解，像我朋友就很懂，因為你就只是一直在聊天。

You're just talking and talking, and there's more talking and some talking and talking.

你就是講話啊、聊天啊，然後談天啊又講講話啊，然後聊天。

In the end, all this communication leads to a greater sense of mental intimacy, which is great, if lonely.

而最後這些聊天與溝通就會使心靈更加親密，這很好，如果你們很寂寞的話。

Psychotherapist and author, Rachel Sussman, points out the loneliness factor isn't really considered much in this research, but it can be really stressful for people, which is a good point.

一位心理治療師兼作者 Rachel Sussman 指出，在這項研究裡，寂寞的因素並沒有真正被考量到，但它對我們來說是個相當大的壓力，這是一個很好的論點 。

Also, they don't really consider the jealousy factor.

而且研究員也沒有考慮到吃醋的因素。

If you're a jealous person with a high level of FOMO, things could go sour, fast.

如果你是個愛吃醋的人，很害怕與戀人失聯的話你的戀情很快就會結束。

"Lifehacker" has a couple of helpful tips to make LDR last, like make date nights, where you video chat, eat dinner, watch a movie, text things like "wish you were here" to alleviate jealousy.

「生活駭客網」有幾個實用的小撇步讓遠距戀愛能延續，像是如何晚上約會、在哪視訊通話、吃飯、看電影，傳一些「我希望你在這」的情話以減輕忌妒感 。

沒有說出來的線索是很重要的。

If there is no end to the tunnel, then there's no light to look forward to. Right? Right?

如果約會的隧道沒有盡頭，那就再也看不到戀情的明日曙光了。

What if some of the most famous relationships were LDRs?

如果一些有名的人是遠距戀的話會怎樣呢？

I wonder how like, Mary Todd Lincoln would have tolerated Abe's brutal honesty?

我在想如果我是瑪麗．托德 (美國前總統林肯的夫人) 怎麼忍受小肯肯的殘忍誠實？

The word "independence" may have no A's in it.

「獨立」這個詞裡面可沒有ㄋ 這個注音。

But when you look at the people who signed it, there are a lot of a-holes.

但當你看到大家在簽署「獨立宣言」時那裏有很多，腦——洞。

Anyway, be sure to check out brutally honest Abe for more of his delightful truth bombs, and tell us your thoughts about the long-distance thing in the comments area below.

總之，記得要關注我們殘忍又誠實的亞伯來了解更多有關他的有趣真相，並在下面的留言區告訴我們你對於遠距戀愛的想法。

And as always, subscribe for more DNews every day.

不免俗地要請大家訂閱我們的頻道以能夠每天看更多 DNews 的影片。

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