scientific evidence behind

affective flirting and doctor Monica Moore doctor Monica more from Webster

University in Saint Louis

hashed it all out in a Times piece where she explains exactly what you can do

to get the attention a man or woman now interestingly enough

your walks have very little to do with whether or not you get approached

if you're at a party or if you're in any type of environment in fact

according to a doctor Monica more she says it's not the most physically

appealing people who get approach

but the one to signal their availability and confidence their basic flirting

techniques

like I contact and smiles know I love this right because

I I remember you know years ago I was constantly in the situation and I was in

a relationship ends wouldn't matter anyway

I was constantly in a situation where I go out with the girlfriend of mine

and guys were all over her and everyone avoided me

like no one came up to me know and I felt so bad about myself because I would

look at home

but what I'm not pretty like everyone wants my friend I'm the only one this is

terrible

I'm the one that people like want to get rid of you know the only friend

your the anchor right bigger that's what they call by a

while why we call being cursed last grenade all

to okay okay but then I realized after

I investigating a little bit and watching her about you know non-verbal

communication

she made a very clear that she was available so she had a lot of eye

contact with a man she do

she would do this about

how's that for subtle happens here gee I wonder why I ask you what your I can

quite pale

me that lingered I just did something that seem like it was lingering she

would do it for that long

and apparently that's the most effective way of doing it so you can adjust

say the most obvious thing I don't fit all of her maybe

by Kumar you ought to Ikea hot girl in it seems like I can get

where the one here career bigos products eventually maybe now you know what I

could gather more maybe with the people's eyebrow

according to look at what is it on visit other genera

alright so smiley I contact to appear to be universal methods

amused by men and women to convey a romantic interest so it seems obvious

right but that element in that that is surprising is it doesn't matter how

attractive you are if you are more attractive than

then your friend if your friend is the one smiling in doing the eye contact

that's the person is gonna get approached you're gonna be ignored I

love how someone took this story a little personally

you well I just you know even if I was more trying to work a few

people's eyebrow I didn't add to CEC

yours but I did not say that I was more attractive hi I'm plan on platelet

so in the only part of this is that I'm a little fishy about personal I think

that there's got to be some boundaries trade like you gonna miss

meet some threshold didn't so I if you're especially if you're

dude man you walk in your 485 powers you can you give people when God I brought

you like

okay you're on a roll over me like 20 year woohoo

9j okay now it's my turn 0

do all we have is so yeah I mean so this whole thing I'm like no I'm gonna smile

and other than the memory getaway

man

museum bring you down you have to appear

inviting and confident we're gonna get to the conference in just a second but

before we get to that

there are guidelines to touching and there's affective tone yeah I don't know

the guidelines that

touch OK so there's the friendly touch right

and that includes the shoulder push the shoulder tap

and the handshake so that means like I'm not really interested in you you're

already friends out

sorry then there's one deniability

and thats touch around the shoulder waist touch on a4a

that's my favorite I think that's probably the best and then there's the

nuclear option which is but based touch

I can't get enough for this story okay so personal with the house a shoulder

push

yeah I really what would you like also

manages butcher shoulder great sure push can be

affective flirting I think that their news try again boundaries

but yeah I'd like if you do is watch like if I like 0

oh I see ok you a look that way rather okay

missing a wall who produce someone's babys

in the middle of a party but hey how you doing mary K

I once had a piece stroker in the in the middle overs

shenanigans okay like as a mom like your be struggling visibly we will hold on

as you know the strength which as you know is we're sleeping together

yes McKay choose the pay structure it was crazy she only romantic type

she likes the affection are sister Kate is give me a minute matthew Miller with

the bass tricky

but in a party that's the only time that it's stranger you can walk up to

somebody

instructor Britain that's why it's called the nuclear option okay alright

but

on the on nasa 7 dome touching totally works

when I was single are attacks like crazy home

but OK for I regret it up

sorry I I their it hot there

side had no seriously like if if it was like starting to get

he did in New something i order to learn is little flirty flirty actually going

on

her are touch that for months so quick well you know I'm in the house

and I'm rearranging for are you are okay also I'm so research has shown that

even a light touch on our makes a man more successful in getting a girls

number

thank you alright so now let's talk about what's

most affective for men specifically and I think that this is actually pretty

obvious what do women respond to

usually social dominance well yeah you

but you're usually don't know that insulator I'm do it so I when it comes

to social dominance

up you know you have to display it as a man as I found so interesting is

what guys do to display that their dominant so for instance they don't they

don't sit like this or like this

they'll sit down with like both their arms out on both side chairs next to

them

here they never stay in one part of the room they like to move around a bit like

to move around

right so that's how they show that they're so later

here here's some more details on what successful for many

but Omega I

successful men are directed and they have more brief

%uh glances at their intended person woman

they're engaged in greater number of space maximization movement that's what

I said right now

so we agree but they change their location at the bar more frequently

they displayed greater amounts of non reciprocated touching

to surrounding Matt Kemp oh that's interesting I miss you

so our okay yeah fine so

it basically what this is saying is you're showing confidence by

owning the area that you're an you move around a lot

so that you don't seem like a dork against the wall I am who am I gonna

come up reno of course at the coop you believe me I've been there

I I've supported many a wall in my life raid

so know you walk around like hey how you doing then nevermind I'll find out later

gone

ok NP so that it seems that why what is he not interested in me I would follow

his ass for a

yeah I know it's amazing and another thing to take into consideration is the

study that we talked about a few weeks ago and that was the study about

effective dance moves right he's oh yeah

there's bad dancing that a guy can do which is just like kinda to stepping not

doing anything interesting and then there's like the erotic dancing

yeah it's resonates really well with the women and it goes back to what we're

talking about now

the more animated you are the more dominant you are the more confident you

are women are gonna respond to that

the more space you occupy that's actually been my main tool for sale sign

up by a lot aspect.co.uk

okay no seriously like you're saying this is my domain

okay so don't fuck with me or slash fuck with me

but many because I'm an alpha male and I i

and I own this place