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  • I'm going to hold the mic because I definitely cannot stand still. I have far too much passion.

  • [Laughter]

  • Matt mentioned that I studied physics. It's true. I'm really into solving problems. It's

  • my thing. It's what I like to do. I like to figure stuff out. People often ask me why

  • I don't use my physics degree. Actually, I use it every day as I'm doing what I love

  • to do. Because for me, physics is just about solving problems, and figuring things out,

  • and creating systems. And what I want to share with you tonight is a way to systematize having

  • a passionate life.

  • Early in my twenties I realized I had a passion for helping people. I'd find myself sitting

  • down with friend who had a problem, who wanted to figure something out. We would work through

  • a problem in their life. And when we sat down, I'd always take out a piece of paper. We'd

  • be sitting at a table somewhere, and I'd just start to ask them questions. I wasn't trained

  • to be a life coach. I just started asking questions. What's going on in your life? What

  • do you want to do? Let's come up with a system, a strategy to get you more of what you want.

  • My passion is still sitting down with a person with that blank piece of paper. I've done

  • this with my friends. Those of you here who are my friends know that. My clients will

  • confirm that whenever we meet, I show up with a notebook and a pen.

  • Tonight I want to take you on a journey. Obviously I can't interact with you one-on-one here,

  • but imagine yourself sitting somewhere with me, with that piece of paper. I want to talk

  • to you about a system for finding your passion.

  • This is a funny story. I had just arrived in London and I was sitting with one of the

  • first British guys I had met here. I told him what I enjoy doing, saying "Maybe I can

  • do this for a living. Maybe I could just talk to people and help them live their dreams.

  • There's people in America that do this. They get onstage and talk about how to live out

  • your dreams. They get everybody excited."

  • He said, "Oh, yeah. We have people like that here. We call them wankers." [Laughter] I

  • was an American. I had just arrived here. I didn't know what wanker meant. I was thinking

  • about where to put wanker on my business card. [Laughter] About introducing myself at a party.

  • "I'm John Morgan."

  • "What do you do?"

  • "I'm a wanker." [Laughter]

  • Afterwards this guy said, "Just tell them you're an American, and they won't call you

  • a wanker. You'll be fine." [Laughter]

  • Anyways, I ended up pursuing life coaching. It's what I'm doing now, and I love it. It's

  • very exciting to be able to teach people how to live their dreams. I help people connect

  • with each other, specifically in the area of dating. I work with both men and women.

  • For me, it's a doorway into their lives. Helping someone meet the right person is usually far

  • deeper than what a person looks like, or what they do for a living.

  • When Matt created a meetup called "How to Live a Passionate Life," he contacted me and

  • asked me to be a speaker. I figured twenty people would come. One email, and the presentation

  • sold out in three days. I advised him to get a bigger room. He did, and we had seventy

  • people signed up in two days. There's a hundred people in this room, right now, all of you

  • interested in the idea of living a more passionate life.

  • Being in front of a hundred people that are interested in living a more passionate life

  • is very exciting for me. Think about that for a second. There's a hundred people here

  • that want to live a more passionate life. That are interested in living a more passionate

  • life.

  • So, just what is a passionate life? I'd like to throw this question out there. I want to

  • see if somebody can answer this for me. In your own words, tell me what you consider

  • a passionate life? Please.

  • Doing what you love doing.

  • Doing what you love doing. Okay, cool. Anybody else? Did you all come to find out what a

  • passionate life is? [Laughter]

  • Living without fear.

  • Living without fear. That's good. I like that. What else? I heard some mumbling. What is

  • it?

  • Appreciating what you have.

  • Appreciating what you have. Cool.

  • Sharing what you have.

  • Sharing what you have.

  • Doing something that inspires you every day.

  • Doing something that inspires you every day. Cool.

  • Challenging yourself.

  • Challenging yourself. Yeah.

  • Making a difference.

  • Making a difference. Cool. This is all good stuff. Let me twist the question and become

  • a coach for a second. How will you know when you're living a passionate life? Please.

  • You don't come to talks like this one. [Laughter]

  • You don't come to talks like this anymore. [Laughter] Bunch of losers! How else?

  • You're feeling fulfilled.

  • You're feeling fulfilled.

  • With no regrets.

  • With no regrets. I like that. I'm going to hold onto that. You're feeling fulfilled.

  • I'm going to come back to that later. I think that's cool.

  • The next question I want to ask is an interesting thing for you to think about. Why do you want

  • to live a passionate life? I'm not going to ask you to share it with everyone, because

  • everybody's answer is going to be a little bit different. It's going to be unique to

  • each of you. And I believe feeling fulfilled is part of that.

  • When I was around twenty-two or twenty-three, I had just finished university. I was hanging

  • out with my friends, eating dinner at a TGI Friday's in America. There's like a million

  • of them. As I was sitting there, eating, I realized I couldn't see out of one eye. It

  • was kind of weird.

  • Over the next few days, I went blind in my left eye. Completely blind. I went to my family

  • doctor. He didn't know what it was. I went to an optometrist. She didn't know what it

  • was. She sent me to an ophthalmologist. He told me to see a neurologist. They gave me

  • an MRI, scanning my brain. They told me that my brain had lesions all over it, that I had

  • multiple sclerosis." I said, "What's that?"

  • They told me it was a disease which attacks the nervous system. Your immune system gets

  • confused, thinking your nervous system is bad for you, and it attacks it. And as it

  • does that, it damages the nerves, which can then no longer send signals.

  • Now, that freaked me out, and I asked them what my future held. Well, people live their

  • whole lives with just one episode, and it never bothers them again. It was possible

  • the blindness would go away and I would be fine. It was also possible that I would become

  • paralyzed and die. They couldn't tell me.

  • That was obviously a holy shit moment. It obviously it stressed me out. Over the next

  • week, I took steroids. The blindness went away. My vision returned, and is almost perfect

  • now. And over that week, I shifted from being really scared to really excited. I just flipped

  • it. I just flipped it.

  • My eye was fine again. I was healthy. I was strong. I was happy. I realized that this

  • disease is no different than the disease that every single one of you guys and girls have

  • right now—a disease called mortality. Mortality. And I believe this is connected to the concept

  • of fulfillment.

  • Mark Twain said that, "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things

  • that you didn't do than by the things you did do." My reason for living a passionate

  • life is because I want to make sure that when I die, I know that my life wasn't wasted.

  • And the way I will know that it wasn't wasted is by knowing that I really lived. I really

  • lived. How will I know if I really lived? I will feel fulfilled, because that's how

  • we know if we're alive. We feel.

  • That's my reason, and I'm sure all of you have your reasons. You might not be aware

  • of it, but you should take some time to think about it. Why should you want a passionate

  • life? Because from there comes the motivation to live that passionate life. In a few minutes,

  • we'll discuss how to make that happen.

  • If you and I sat down to have a one-on-one session, face-to-facethe first thing I

  • would tell you is that we are going to come up with a strategy for you to have a more

  • passionate life. The first thing I would ask you is to tell me about your life, and tell

  • me what you like to do.

  • You might say, "Well, I work. I work like fifty or sixty hours a week. Sometimes after

  • work I go out to the pub with my friends. Once in a while, I go out to eat. I try to

  • get to the gym at least once a week, maybe twice. Sometimes I go to a game."

  • "So, what else? What else do you like to do?"

  • "Well, there's this course I want to take, and this other thing…"

  • At that point I'll say, "Let me talk a little about my life and my passions, just to give

  • you an example of what I mean by passion."

  • When I was sixteen or so, I got my first guitar. At that point, it was just something I was

  • interested in. So, I took guitar lessons. The first thing I learned was how to pick

  • on one string. I started from this clunky picking until that, "Come as you are…" A

  • Nirvana song, right? I thought, Oh, wow! This is exciting!

  • From there it became strumming and learning chords. That was even more exciting. Then

  • the chords became riffs and songs. Then I started singing and writing lyrics. I started

  • a band, created an album and went on tour. Then I got passionate about playing the guitar.

  • And I consider the passion I had for playing the guitar a passion in depth. I went deeper

  • and deeper and deeper into playing the guitar, and grew more and more passionate about it.

  • Here's another example. I studied in Sydney. This was my first time leaving America, and

  • it opened my eyes in so many ways. I realized the world is not actually what it looks like

  • on American TV. That was amazing. Then I became interested in traveling. When I was at uni,

  • I went to Italy for a couple of weeks, and wrote a story about it. Then travel became

  • even more interesting to me.

  • As I got older, I made good money investing in property, and decided to start traveling

  • because I loved it. I bought a one-way ticket to Malaysia, not knowing how long it was going

  • to last. It lasted three years, because I was so passionate about it. My passion for

  • travel was not a deep passion, but a wider passion, wider in variety and breadth and

  • width. I was doing all sorts of different things.

  • Every time I had a new or different experience, I wanted even more new and different experiences,

  • whether it was seeing the Festival of the Hindus in Malaysia, or visiting concentration

  • camps. I visited all kinds of places, just to expand my mind and expand my experiences.

  • I became passionate about traveling, but in breadth, not in depth.

  • So, there's different kinds of passion. Everybody has their own balance and it's different for

  • everyone, but these are some examples. Are you starting to understand what I mean by

  • passion? Perhaps you're thinking, Now I get it. I see what you're talking about, but I

  • just don't know what my passion is. How do I find my passion? Have you ever asked yourself

  • what your passion is? Okay, cool.

  • How many of you believe in love at first sight? Raise your hand. Okay, cool. Well, I've got

  • some bad news for you guys. [Laughter] It's a fairy tale. If it ever happens, it's just

  • serendipity. It's just chance. I don't believe it's real. It's the same with finding your

  • passion. You're at the bookstore one day, flipping through a book. Someone walks up

  • to you and says, "Hey, what's up, man?"

  • You answer, "I'm just searching for my passion." And then, "Holy shit! There it is! I found