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  • Hey it's Stephan, how are you doing? A lot of guys tell me that the biggest problem

  • when talking to women is that they don't know what to say next or that they just go blank

  • their mind goes blank and they just don't know what to say next and if that you as was

  • well then you know this will be helpful. What's the reason why the mind goes blank

  • or why guys don't know what to say next with the number one reason for that after having

  • talked with and coached many guys over the years. The number one reason for them not

  • knowing what to say next and also for their mind going blank is that they haven't listened

  • to what she said because they've been worrying about what to say next. You see if they have

  • listened or if they were able to listen well they would get lots of information from what

  • the girl has just said specially if the girl actually wants us to carry on talking and

  • having the conversation developed she will give guys cues. Cues are bits of information

  • that men can pick up on or can ignore as very often guys do because they're not really hearing

  • what she's saying because they're nervous or they are worried about what to say next.

  • So it's a self-fulfilling prophecy, if you're worried about what to say next you're likely

  • to not be picking up the cues that the girl leaves therefore, you won't have anything

  • to relate to anything that to pick up on and therefore, what you will say next will either

  • be unrelated or you might just dry up and not know what to say. Because there is enough

  • working in your own vacuum there instead of listening, hearing what she's saying, and

  • picking up what you find interesting about what she saying or what she finds interesting

  • about what she's saying and noticing that and asking her another question about it.

  • So as an example, if you have a conversation that says Bob says, "Hey have you've been

  • here before?" and the girl says, "No, it's my first time, actually I moved here recently."

  • And then if Bob doesn't know what he's doing then he will say, "Yeah I've been here many

  • times and it's really a good band that's why I come here." So it doesn't connect with what

  • she's just given him as cues. She gave him cues and she said it's her first time and

  • she said she only moved here recently. Now that is not real information that she has

  • given which indicates that she wants him to keep talking to her otherwise, she could just

  • have just said, "No." Alright so there we go, so if Bob is clever

  • he had picked up on stuffed that she said because he's listening and then equal their

  • conversation. I would advise you to do the same listen carefully,

  • don't think ahead about what you've got to say that you just have to trust that she will

  • say something that you will be able to connect with, comment on, and ask her another question

  • about. It's really important not to think ahead and

  • plan your next sentence that way lies, blank, starry-eyes, faces of men and women absolutely

  • go mad when they see this happening and it happens a lot.

  • So I hope that is useful so make sure in the moment that you keep listening and only when

  • you've listened you will let whatever you've heard and informed what you are going to respond

  • to. That's how a conversation is actually two-way street.

  • Alright now, this is a very basic thing that I'm explaining which I'm sure you know but

  • it's a very important thing. If you want to find out more about everything to do with

  • conversation skills and everything to do with how to make sure that woman feel connected

  • and attracted to you when you talk to them go to http://www.PimpYourLingo.com and that

  • is where I share a lot of cool information and a lot more advanced than this and of course

  • we'll also go with the basics.

Hey it's Stephan, how are you doing? A lot of guys tell me that the biggest problem

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