字幕列表 影片播放 列印英文字幕 Hey it's Stephan, how are you doing? A lot of guys tell me that the biggest problem when talking to women is that they don't know what to say next or that they just go blank their mind goes blank and they just don't know what to say next and if that you as was well then you know this will be helpful. What's the reason why the mind goes blank or why guys don't know what to say next with the number one reason for that after having talked with and coached many guys over the years. The number one reason for them not knowing what to say next and also for their mind going blank is that they haven't listened to what she said because they've been worrying about what to say next. You see if they have listened or if they were able to listen well they would get lots of information from what the girl has just said specially if the girl actually wants us to carry on talking and having the conversation developed she will give guys cues. Cues are bits of information that men can pick up on or can ignore as very often guys do because they're not really hearing what she's saying because they're nervous or they are worried about what to say next. So it's a self-fulfilling prophecy, if you're worried about what to say next you're likely to not be picking up the cues that the girl leaves therefore, you won't have anything to relate to anything that to pick up on and therefore, what you will say next will either be unrelated or you might just dry up and not know what to say. Because there is enough working in your own vacuum there instead of listening, hearing what she's saying, and picking up what you find interesting about what she saying or what she finds interesting about what she's saying and noticing that and asking her another question about it. So as an example, if you have a conversation that says Bob says, "Hey have you've been here before?" and the girl says, "No, it's my first time, actually I moved here recently." And then if Bob doesn't know what he's doing then he will say, "Yeah I've been here many times and it's really a good band that's why I come here." So it doesn't connect with what she's just given him as cues. She gave him cues and she said it's her first time and she said she only moved here recently. Now that is not real information that she has given which indicates that she wants him to keep talking to her otherwise, she could just have just said, "No." Alright so there we go, so if Bob is clever he had picked up on stuffed that she said because he's listening and then equal their conversation. I would advise you to do the same listen carefully, don't think ahead about what you've got to say that you just have to trust that she will say something that you will be able to connect with, comment on, and ask her another question about. It's really important not to think ahead and plan your next sentence that way lies, blank, starry-eyes, faces of men and women absolutely go mad when they see this happening and it happens a lot. So I hope that is useful so make sure in the moment that you keep listening and only when you've listened you will let whatever you've heard and informed what you are going to respond to. That's how a conversation is actually two-way street. Alright now, this is a very basic thing that I'm explaining which I'm sure you know but it's a very important thing. If you want to find out more about everything to do with conversation skills and everything to do with how to make sure that woman feel connected and attracted to you when you talk to them go to http://www.PimpYourLingo.com and that is where I share a lot of cool information and a lot more advanced than this and of course we'll also go with the basics.
A2 初級 如何和女人說話--知道接下來該說什麼? (How To Talk To Women - Knowing What To Say Next) 258 13 VoiceTube 發佈於 2021 年 01 月 14 日 更多分享 分享 收藏 回報 影片單字