a business and a life that you love. Wanna give it a big hug every single day. And this

創造你所愛的工作和生活。而且每一天都會想給予一個大大的擁抱

is Q&A Tuesday, which means there’s questions and answers, Q’s and A’s, and today’s

今天是星期二的Q&A時間，所以將會有問題和回答，而今天的問題

comes from Tamara and she writes:

來自於Tamara，她問說...

“Hi Marie. Whenever I see a little progress in my business I wanna hide under a rock.

"嗨Marie! 每當我察覺在生意上有所進步時，我總會想躲起來

The moment I’m pushed outside of my comfort zone, I wanna run back in. What can I do to

當我被推出舒適圈的那一刻，我總是想跑回圈圈裡

continue moving forward without running and hiding? Thanks so much, Tamara.”

我該如何繼續往前進，而不是逃跑或躲起來？ 非常謝謝妳的回答，Tamara"

Oh my goodness Tamara, you are describing something that so many of us struggle with

喔我的天啊Tamara! 你描述的問題是我們很多人都曾經歷掙扎過的

but we just don't know it. It’s this idea called an upper limit problem and it was coined

但我們只是沒有察覺到。 這是個叫做"情緒上限症候群"的問題，而這個詞則是由

by my friend Gay Hendricks who wrote the fantastic book The Big Leap. So I first discovered this

我的朋友Gay Hendricks所創造的，同時他也是"大躍進"這本很棒的書的作者。 當我發現這個概念時

concept because I got really sick after having a huge spike in my business. Here’s what

是在我的事業上有極高成就的時候，而同時我感到非常的不舒服

happened.

以下是發生的經過

Second year that we launched B-School things took off. It reached a whole new level. So

第二年當我們開始進行商業事務時，一切都到達一個非常好的階段

more financial wealth, more impact than I could’ve ever imagined. It was the middle

越來越多的財務資源，以及越來越多我沒有預料到的成果

of summer, I find myself in this yoga class so excited and I’m in my downward dog and

那是在夏天時，我正非常雀躍地在瑜珈課程中，進行向下犬式這個動作

all of a sudden I start to feel really, really sick like I’m gonna puke. Now, you’ve

但一切就是那麼突然，我開始覺得非常不舒服，好像快吐了一樣

gotta get, I’m not the kind of person that gets sick very often, so this seemed weird.

這時你必須先知道，我不是一個常常生病的人，所以這件事非常奇怪

So I’m thinking, “Well, maybe it’s just a 24 hour bug.” I get home, I try to take

所以我想：這應該只是一些小毛病。 當我回到家

care of myself, and it just kept getting worse. For 6 days I had skull crushing headaches,

並試著休息一下，但事情卻變得更糟。 在接下來的六天中，我頭疼欲裂

I couldn’t keep any food down. I was a complete and utter mess. Finally I got myself to the

我沒辦法吃下任何食物，我根本就一團糟。 終於我決定去看醫生

doctor because I thought maybe I have salmonella, maybe I have a parasite, who knows? Got these

我覺得我可能感染了沙門氏菌，也或許是寄生蟲，誰知道

tests done, went home, chilled out. My friends came over that night to try and take care

做完所有的測試後，我回家並且讓自己放鬆。 我的朋友們當晚就來到我家試著照顧我

of me, I told them about what was happening, and they all said, “You know what, Marie?

我告訴他們發生了什麼事，而他們都說

I don't think you’re sick. I think those tests are gonna come back negative. This is

"Marie，我不覺得你生病了，而且那些測試都會沒事的

an upper limit problem. You have so much great stuff happening right now you probably just

這是情緒上限症候群。你正經歷許多很棒的事

don't even know how to handle it.” I thought that was a little wild, but whatever. I listened.

而你只是不知道該如何面對這一切。" 我覺得這個說法很奇怪，但管他的，我還是有聽進去。

Turns out the next day the doctor calls me. I’m waiting for my test results figuring

結果隔天醫生叫號輪到我時，我正在等檢查報告

I’ve got something bad. He said, “You know what? Nothing is wrong with you. No salmonella,

並且覺得身體狀況不太樂觀。 醫生說：檢查發現你並沒有任何的問題，沒有沙門氏菌

no parasites, no nothing.”

沒有寄生蟲，什麼都沒有。

So for me when I hit an upper limit I typically get sick. It sounds like for you you wanna

所以對我來說，當我到達情緒上限時我總是會覺得身體不適。 而對你來說你則是想要

run and hide. Some people get themselves in accidents or they pick a fight or they start

逃跑或是躲起來。有些人會發生意外或和別人起衝突

dropping the ball at work. Why? Well, the theory goes like this: when you hit your upper

或許開始在工作上表現不佳，為甚麼呢？ 這個情形的發生原因是這樣：當你達到生活情緒上限時

limit your upper limit is basically the limit that you allow yourself to feel happy and

通常指的就是你能容許自己開心以及成功順利的程度

successful. It’s almost like an internal thermostat, like your success comfort zone.

這種情形就像是你身體內部的自動恆溫器，也像是你因成功而營造出的舒適圈

And as Gay Hendricks says, each of us has a limited tolerance for feeling good.

誠如Gay Hendricks所說，我們每個人都會有容忍自己感覺良好的限度

Now, when things start to get amazing and we go beyond that upper limit, many of us

所以當事情變得很好而超過我們所能感覺的上限時，我們許多人

start to unconsciously start sabotaging ourselves so we can get back to our comfort zone. Now,

會開始不知不覺的自我糟蹋，使得自己能回到舒適圈中

this is a really universal problem, and thankfully we can actually do something about it. It

現今這是一個普遍的問題，感謝上天我們已經能有辦法解決它

has everything to do with turning up the volume on our awareness. So if anything good starts

這一切都跟我們對於事物的感受有關，當有好的事情發生

to happen in your life or you have a big breakthrough, you’ve gotta keep the lookout on for all

或者是我們對於自己有所突破時，你必須對於身邊發生的事有所警覺

the ways that you might self sabotage, and don't do it.

尤其是那些會讓自己自我糟蹋的舉動，然後告訴自己千萬別去進行這些會傷害自己的動作

So if you’re like me and you get physically sick, then you’ve gotta just chill out and

所以如果你像我一樣有生理上的不舒服，你所該做的就是放鬆、休息

rest and take it easy. If you’re someone who always drops the ball at work, pay extra

並且別把它當一回事。 而如果你是會在工作上有不好表現的人

attention to the details. And if you’re someone like you, Tamara, who really wants

請試著去多注意某些細節。 而如果你是像Tamara一樣，當事情變好時

to run and hide when things get good, don't retreat. Just stay and let yourself feel it.

想逃跑或是躲起來，請別逃避。 讓你自己冷靜下來並去感受這一切的發生

Here’s the thing about upper limits, you’re gonna keep facing this throughout your entire

關於情緒上限症候群，你將會在接下來的人生終不斷面對這種情況

life and the more awareness you bring, the more you reset that thermostat and re-calibrate

你越在乎生活中所發生的事，你越能重新調解身體中的情緒恆溫器

yourself to handle all kinds of good stuff.

並重新校正你自己去好好面對所有好的事情

Now, if you’re someone who’s into mantras you can use this one from Gay Hendricks. “I

如果你是有在記錄名言佳句的人，請參考Gay Hendricks所說的這句

expand in success, love, and creativity every day as I inspire others to do the same.”

"我每天都在成功、愛、和創造力之間擴張自己的體會，而我也鼓勵其他人去做這件事"

Or you can use this tweetable.

或是你也可以上網推特這句話

When it comes to joy and success, your built in upper limit is completely adjustable.

"當涉及快樂、成功等元素時，你的情緒上限是可以隨時調整的"

That was my A to your Q Tamara, I really hope it helps. And now I would love to hear from

Tamara，這是我對於你所提出的問題的回答，希望這有幫助到你。 現在我想聽聽你們的意見

you. How do you bust through your upper limits and do you have any fun stories to share on the topic?

你們如何打破自己的情緒上限？你們有任何相關的有趣故事可以分享嗎？

As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com, so go

照慣例的，請在本集結束後前往MarieForleo.com，那裡將會有很精彩的討論

there and leave a comment now.

現在就前往網站並留下你自己的意見吧！

Did you like this video? If so, subscribe to our channel and it would be awesome if

喜歡這部影片嗎？喜歡的話請訂閱我們的頻道

you shared this video with your friends. And if you want even more great resources to create

能將這部影片分享給朋友的話更棒！如果你想要更多資源

a business and life that you love, plus some personal insights from me that I only get

能夠使得你更加喜愛自己生活和工作的話，我會在定期的郵件中告訴你一些我的個人觀點

to talk about in email, come on over to MarieForleo.com and sign up for email updates.

請到MarieForleo.com註冊以取得郵件的訂閱更新

Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world needs that special

維持好自己的生活狀態並持續追逐自己的夢想，因為這個世界所需要的

gift that only you have. Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time on MarieTV.

正是每個人獨特的性格和天賦。 謝謝你今天的觀賞，我們下次再見囉！